Me: Hi Adama, I'm hearing what you're telling me while doing this meditation.... this is a new way of looking at forgiveness. I'm used to thinking of forgiveness as something you dispense towards others for your own sake, but now you have a different angle on it....
A: Yes, the angle you speak of is when you are in a situation where you are annoyed, angry, irritated, upset in any way by another person's comment or action, to forgive yourself.
Me: Interesting... so why should I forgive myself if I haven't done anything wrong?
A: But in effect you have done something wrong – you condemned the other person's behaviour as being unfit in some way. Whereas they are simply being themselves.
Me: I think this is a new way, a completely new way of looking at things.
A: It would be, yes.
Me: So when someone says something offensive, why do I have to forgive myself?
A: For labelling it as offensive. For taking offense. For not being loving towards that person. For reacting as if that person were at fault in some way.
Me: Wow. Mind blower.
A: Your ego is the one who takes offense. You are accustomed to certain social parameters you must work within and the expectation is that all must fit these parameters. What if you dropped all of these parameters and simply allowed each person to be themself? What if you saw the flaw within yourself for not allowing the person to be themself? Yes, all beings are divine beings, no matter how they should express that.
All interactions are interactions of love, no matter what they should be.
Forgive yourself for forgeting that and returning to your old standard of expectation. Your egotistical earth rules.
Your social parameters say that X will behave in a certain way in order to show me the respect I deserve. There are socially acceptable ways of showing respect and there are people who do not abide by them for one reason or another.
You so often say that the only thing you can change is yourself. So focus on that. See the fault as lying with yourself, not the other. See the fault, the shortsightedness as being your own, not the other.
Me: There are still people I wouldn't want around me because of their need to create chaos. So does that mean I'm unforgiving by your terms?
Me: I don't want them creating chaos and negativity.
A: So could you reach a compromise then?
Me: I'm not having toxic, chaotic people around me. If that were the case I would have to live with my parents again and I'm not doing that.
A: So you have not forgiven yourself for not accepting your parents as they were.
Me: Are you saying that forgiveness is a double edged sword? There are two sides to it?
A: You can forgive your parents for wronging you. But you have not forgiven yourself for not being able to love your parents. When you forgive yourself for not being able to love your parents, you will become loving towards them.
Me: So complete acceptance of them as they were.
Me: I'll have to think about this.
A: Begin by asking yourself, “What if I were to forgive myself for not accepting this person as they are?”
Me: I would become self-loving.
A: And what if you were to forgive that person for being that way?
Me: Mmmm. Doesn't make sense now.
A: There is nothing to forgive. People are simply the way that they are. It is that you react that needs to be forgiven. It is that you react without love that needs to be forgiven.
A: When you try to forgive others for what they have done when in fact they were simply being themselves. It is your label of offensive or obnoxious that needs to be forgiven.
Me: But they did compromise my life to a terrible standard. They created a lot of pain in me.
A: And what have you done with this pain then?
Me: I healed it. True. Without their having done this I wouldn't be where I am today......
A: So it was all for the greater good in the end. All of life is. When you don't see the greater good in suffering, then you don't understand life. You certainly don't understand the life of Jesus.
Me: No. Never studied that much.
A: There are also expectations. There is an expectation that all parents will do everything possible to ensure their child's happiness. When in fact this isn't true. So expectations must change as well. It is all for the learning.
Me: I can feel some fear because then I think that it'll be like the grave scene in Michael Jackson's thriller video. All the worst offenders will come out to get me.
A: You have dealt with many offenders in your lifetime. When you forgive yourself for seeing their action as offensive, all rancor is dropped. The lesson of loving all no matter what – unconditional love – is learned.
Me: Can I still set a boundary?
A: Based on what? There was no offense.
A: You are learning to become a fifth dimensional. That is what fifth dimensionals behave like – they love all.
Me: Okay. I'm pretty sure me and Ivo discussed forgiveness before and we talked about either forgiving them or forgiving both them and myself.
A: Forgiveness is necessary for you as you are in the public eye and you're very aware that people either deliberately or not deliberately offend you. When you take offense and forgive yourself for taking the offense then nothing is wrong. All is still love.
You are afraid because you think that with no boundaries that everyone will come out to offend you. But in not putting up boundaries you are stepping into a greater awareness of the being a whole consciousness with others. Boundaries are a way of learning who you are, how you prefer to be treated and as a defense mechanism. Not having boundaries means to stop taking offense or to forgive yourself when offense was taken. To continue to be part of the one.
Me: I'll have to think about it.
A: You said that 2019 was “your year,” the year you step even closer to your divinity. You have all the books you think you will need to study. You have the Law of One. You have books on every subject you feel you need to study to understand yourself as a consciousness, an energy being and you are also working on the Course in Miracles now.
Me: Which is a miracle because I've put it off for a long time!
A: You weren't ready. You now are. Wait till you hear of the surprises Sananda has in store for you.
Me: Okay. It's good he's broken it into 365 segments because it's not something you could do in a month even, I feel.
A: It's very important. But remember what I said in this video. There is no offense. There is only learning. There is only love.
Me: You always make me teary-eyed!
A: Love does that. The truth does that. For someone who has longed for the truth for so long, it is emotional when you finally hear it.
Me: Ivo tells me the truth and I'm forgiving myself right now for findinng offense at your words.
A: You said yesterday to stop personalizing people's statements. You are thinking that I am saying that Ivo does not tell you the truth. He does. He tells you the next truth you need to hear to build your process. There are levels of awareness and you are all opening to higher consciousness now. There is no offense. There is only learning. There is only love.
Forgive yourself for not understanding. It is you that is ignorant and I do not mean that in a slanderous way. You do not know. Forgive yourself for not knowing and take the time to learn. We will be with you to remind you.
Me: True. There is no offense. There is only learning. There is only love.
A: Ivo has told you that those you take offense at are your teachers and you have paid lip service to this. Now jump in to the lesson feet first. LOL
Me: Got it! Thank you Adama, my man of love.
A: You are very welcome. Adieu.
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