Adama of Telos - Make Forgiveness a Habit - 2

​Me: LOL Adama, you're not getting off this lightly.
A: I'm here for you, as always.
Me: So, I put up the first video to this series and then you referred to the Course in Miracles (as channeled by Jesus) which I'm doing. Then I listened to lesson 46 today and Jesus' comment (through channeler Tina Spalding) talked about forgiveness and the first thing it said is that, “God does not forgive because God never condemns,” which I believe is what you were getting at.
Then Jesus said that we have to work on forgiving as a way of living, and he said that he forgives us for being overweight.. he loves us as we are. LOL I know a lot of people who worry about being less than because they're overweight. I got over that. I think it'd be healthier but in this world of hormone imbalanced people, who wouldn't be overweight? It's not our fault, I believe. This is part of the unhealthiness the Matrix likes to keep us in and overweight is just a sign.
A: Yes, earthlings are suffering and this goes back to my first point: when you forgive yourself for taking offense at others' behaviour, when you stop seeing their behaviour as offensive you'll have less reason to dislike living. Less reason to fear. And for those who are inclined, less reason to overeat or overimbibe to cope with your stress. Your stress is created by your thoughts, and your thoughts are largely of condemnation.
Many point fingers at others seeing them as the problem, where the finger should be pointed at the one doing the condemning and forgiveness taken immediately. Align with your soul, who sees through the eyes of love, not with the ego which sees through the eyes of separation, hate and fear.
Me: So in the case of someone who, say, has come to my apartment and not that I even have any, taken my jewellery. What do you do then? Do I condemn? Can I set a boundary?
A: In that case you would restrict that person's access to your apartment. You would have to forgive them their act and perhaps speak to them about retrieving the jewellery. Boundaries would be necessary but no rancor held.
But in the cases where no physical manifestation was required in order to complete the lesson, where nothing was stolen, hurt, raped, injured, taken in any way, then this is much simpler to practice. Those who accost you for your views, those who seek to argue with you, simply forgive yourself for not being able to love them as they are, because this is your shortsightedness. This is what you've learned, so now unlearn it.
Me: I get that. In theory, yes, but the next time I forget and get pissed off at someone....
A: Then you need to remember and work on forgiving yourself for forgetting and then for continuing to behave in the old unloving ways that are so painful to you and so many others upon our planet.
Many of you are seeking to live in ways of higher vibration and to love all as they are regardless of what they have said to you, and on a planet of such imbalance as your outer earth, forgiveness is necessary.
You learned as a child that others commit transgressions against you. You've seen on tv that certain behaviours merit punishment, that others should be judged as insufficient because of who they are and what they do, when in fact to allow oneself to be loving towards all despite what they do is the key to freedom. It truly is. You hold no malice or fear within your being towards others who are unaware of the love that surrounds them and who behave in less than loving ways. They're in pain. And when you condemn them, you are in pain.
So forgive yourself for not being as loving as would be optimal for your own happiness – because your focus on externals for your own happiness is seeing it the wrong way. When you allow others to affect your happiness then you balance on a scary precipice indeed! Your day is fine until Joe does something at the office that you find offensive, and then your day is ruined. When you don't take offense, your day is still fine and life goes well.
In your case, you started to ask the right questions in order to advance to this. You asked, “This is what I'm doing and it's still painful. Isn't there a better way? What can I do differently?” And there is. This is the better way. To love all including yourself, and refuse to see all around you as transgressions of your boundaries. See all around you in a way that is intended to allow you to learn to love, to heal yourself so that you too, can become completely loving towards others.
Me: I see that. That makes it so clear.
A: Yes, you need to set boundaries when physical transgressions are made, however when you live your life from a loving, forgiving stance, you don't attract those who transgress against you – you attract people of like mind as you have learned the lesson all the offenders were sent to teach you – stop condemning and learn to love all as they are.
Me: I see that.
A: When you defend yourself from the transgressor, you put up resistance. The energy stops with you because your seeing it as offensive slows down its frequency. It was being released and on its way to becoming part of the ethers when you caught it by slowing its frequency down. You trapped it within your light body because you charged this energy with a low frequency. Now it's yours to deal with. Rather than free flowing around the universe, it's now stuck in your light body and your problem to transmute and release it. This is alchemy and you're all alchemists.
When you see all as love, despite what you've been taught, the energy continues to flow around you. It's as if you're playing baseball and the ball comes to you. Do you catch the ball and throw it back or do you let it fly past you?
Me: I don't think you'd win the game doing that, LOL.
A: And this is how you've been taught. To win the game. Winning this game of love is different – your life becomes a lot easier when you let things flow through you rather than catching the energy and making blocks for yourself. And like I said, these blocks are made by your resisting them with fear-based responses.
When you say, “Oh! Hold on there!” you're catching the energy. You're holding onto the energy. You engage in alchemy all the time without realizing it.
Me: Yes, we do.
A: So, when you understand that all is one and all is love, you need to develop a different perspective on day to day transactions. Seeing everything as love is definitely a lot easier than seeing everything as fear.
Me: True.
A: You've all been taught to see through fear. Now change that. Make life easier for yourself. You asked the questions the other day. You've got them written on one of your sticky notes.
Me: Yes, I'm a sticky note fanatic.
A: The question says that you're sick of having negative interactions with others – you deal with the public who malign you, try to argue with you, bait you, try to manipulate you, and now you're tired of it. When you see all through loving eyes, none of this will bother you. When you see yourselves all as One who are helping each other on the road to wholeness, yes, like the “Holy” one you call God, it is actually Wholly with a W that you mean. Nonetheless, you're all taking the road back to wholeness and every one is helping the other. It might not appear to be that but it is. Your interpretation of what's happening prevents you from seeing the purpose behind all actions.
The key to this is understanding that it's your reaction that keeps the ball moving. When you throw the ball back to the pitcher in your baseball game, you're keeping the ball moving. Your lack of a negative reaction will release the doer to find another subject. You can be aware; you don't have to be oblivious. Just be loving, and if not, then forgiving of yourself for not being loving.
Me: Thank you Adama
A: I'm always here to be of assistance to you. You're all on an important journey of the self. Adieu.