Me: Today's subject: The Karpman Drama Triangle.
The Karpman Drama Triangle is a life game played with 3 players. Each player has a role but these roles can be switched at any time depending on the dynamics of the relationship. This is a very common way of relating for dysfunctional people. It is not exclusive to families. It can be found in the workplace or any other place people relate to each other. The drama triangle enforces ego roles, not soul relating to soul.
The first player is the perpetrator who starts off the drama. He seeks the second player, who is the victim, and seeks to victimize that second player through some either aggressive, manipulative, controlling or other dysfunctional means of relating.
The third player is the rescuer, who rescues the victim from their circumstances.
Like I said, each player can swap roles at any time. I'll give you one example.
When I was 16, my father, the narcissist, who we all saw as being the perpetrator, decided to "play" with me one day by putting his arm around my throat and trying to strangle me. At the time, I had long nails so I dug them into his arm, making him yell in pain and releasing his stranglehold on my neck.
I moved away from him quickly and was very angry. My father was very upset that I didn't want to play and that I'd stuck him with my nails. Now switching to the victim role, acting as if he was hurt, my mother jumped in and rescued him, telling me I had to apologize to him for what I had done. I was made the perpetrator now because I had defended myself and the original offense, his trying to strangle me, was not addressed at all. Very cunningly, narcissists will manoeuver you into the role of being their perpetrator so they can vent their anger out at you. However, this is NOT limited to narcissists. It is done by any person with an ego all the time.
Narcissists like to play the victim. That's why they project all their negative self-loathing at people around them - because they want to be seen as a the victim or the rescuer, the two more desirable roles in the triangle. They don't want to be seen as the perpetrator because that would make them have to admit they really are as rotten as they feel they are, so they do anything to avoid it.
You can also see why the word “Drama” is in the name of this interaction: trying to strangle your kid certainly does create drama within the family. Drama refers to the unsettling, dysfunctional interaction between the players of the triangle.
You see this play out all the time on Facebook: someone says something, like puts up a post, another person attacks the post (who is the perpetrator, now making the poster the potential victim) and a bunch of rescuers come in in the comments to save the victim from the perpetrator by attacking the perpetrator. Trolls often are the perps. Watch, on many posts, the first commenter is the negative perpetrator and is the troll. Trolls often are the first commenters in lightworker group posts. They are trying to create the triangle so they can keep all the lightworkers in ego roles.
This post could remain like this, with the commenter made a victim of, and rescuers attacking the perpetrator, but watch. The perpetrator may fire back, thus putting some of the rescuers in the victim position as well, potentially. Or the rescuers start fighting and arguing back and forth, creating new positions of victim and perpetrator between themselves as well. Other new rescuers might jump in.
But what ends up happening on these posts is it becomes virtually impossible to say anything without being attacked or your comment misunderstood. It takes a solid individual to say something on a post like this while ignoring all the arguing going on around them. Some choose to ignore it all, but then you don't get to speak your piece, which in a sense also makes you a victim if you choose to see it that way. What you end up with is a little snowball that is rolling down a hill growing into a bigger snowball that turns into an avalanche at some point.
What one has to beware of, and I'm in this group as well – is that the roles of victim and rescuer are seen as more “virtuous” than the role of the perpetrator. I've taken the role of rescuer a couple times and it has put me right back on the triangle. To me, the way to deal with this is to speak to the original post and to ignore all the arguing going on otherwise. If someone comments on your comment, ignore it. Leave the interaction between yourself and the poster because two cannot make a triangle.
The dark will often manipulate lightworkers into attacking other lightworkers. Why? To set up the drama triangle. To make a victim of the poster. Don't fall for it. I get this all the time. They are trying to bring your vibration down by making you “the bad guy,” the perpetrator. Then the person who attacked me will go find a friend to help them feel better and this friend becomes their rescuer. Also if I refuse to see myself as the perpetrator, I can take on the role of victim as well. Or I can rise above it and simply see what's going on and refuse to get my ego hooked into it. I can just see that this is that person who is projecting their stuff onto me in order to enforce their self concept of victim.
Still playing the victim, this victim will hold on to that resentment in order to continue to stay in the role that they most likely played out at an earlier time in their life. That is why it's so hard for victims to let go of their grudges and anger towards others – because then they have to change their self concept, and like I saw in a meme the other day, many of us have self concepts that have been created in trauma. If they stop indulging in this role of victim, then they lose their sense of self. Believe me, I've been through this – there's a better you underneath your self concept of victim.
Thanks, Ivo, I heard you on that one.
Ivo: You are most welcome, my love.
Me: I've never thought of it that way – that it's hard for victims to let go of their grudges and to forgive because then they have to let go of their sense of self. But I'm an example of this myself. I still have resentments from years ago that I have to keep working on. To forgive someone is to release my shadow self, which created the role of victim for me when I was a kid.
Ivo: Yes. And you see how much work it is for you.
Me: I think by comparison my family life was a little extreme. Most people don't have two narcissistic parents like I did.
Ivo: That is true. Let us continue then.....
Anyone who says, "You made me do this! You made me get angry!" is projecting their stuff onto you and trying to turn you into their perpetrator. Many seek the coveted victim role because they can go about feeling better about themselves that day. Frankly, I hardly think that feeling like a victim is a way to enhance anyone's day but many do. Perhaps they see so little choice in life because they're stuck relating to others through triangulation.
It's there. Watch for it! You've probably done it! You may still be doing it! It is insidious especially when you're unaware.
Ivo: You are making great strides with this, my love.
Me: My energy is changing. I can feel it. I'm healing from this lifelong pattern.
Ivo: And of course, as in the 12 steps, you were taught to keep the focus on yourself. Do not lament what the perpetrator did, do not seek the rescuer, in your case your sister. Keep the focus on what you did and how you can heal from this. Otherwise you simply take another voyage through negativity, and remain in the grasp of the dark, which seeks to make victims of all of you. The dark understands the triangle and how you relate to each other through it.
As you pointed out, shills are hired on facebook to create the triangle on lightworker posts. This is because those who are unaware or not soul-oriented will take a position on the triangle and begin to enact roles. This is not authentic behavior. This is not soul-based living. This is not even a high vibrational way of relating to others – it is pure egotism on all counts, no matter what role. And as you pointed out, my love, these roles are interchangeable. The victim can be a perpetrator, the perpetrator a rescuer, the rescuer can become the victim. They are interchangeable because each role is of the same low vibrational frequency.
Watch for it. Go on facebook and read through the posts, as Sharon does, and learn to discern each role being played out by posters and commenters. Study this. It is very important in order to life from one's heart and soul to cease engaging in egotistical behaviors. And this is one easy way to learn how you are and to stop yourself.
What is more, understand that when one sees themself as a victim, as Sharon did for so long.
Me: Yeah, I used to ask, “Do I have a sign on my forehead that says, “'Use me'?!”
Ivo: That is how strong energy is, my love. People read energy whether you want to acknowledge that or not. People saw your energy as being that of a victim, and then your speech and behavior confirmed it to them.
Me: And I have to keep looking at all people who took advantage of me as not taking advantage of me, but of trying to help me to overcome this weakness. When I look at all the people who tried to help me stop being a victim, I see how we really are all One, helping each other to gain strength and re-connect with our souls. It just happens to be pretty extreme right now, that's all.
Ivo: Yes, your world is an extreme case. And yes, as you were wondering the other day, fighting the dark is part of what life entails. However because your people are unaware by and large that they are being victimized by the dark, we have been allowed to intervene to that extent – to remove the dark from your world. The rest is up to you.
Me: True. What were we saying? LOL
Ivo: I was about to discuss that when one sees oneself as a victim, or a perpetrator as a matter of self-concept, that they will always react in this way. They can do nothing else as they are engaging life through their belief system, and one belief is that they are a victim, for example.
Me: Yes. That's why I realized that the person I set the boundaries with the other day was going to blast me when she read my message. She sees herself as a victim. What else would a victim do but act like a victim?
Ivo: And you avoid these people like the plague. Their propensity for pulling you back on the triangle is severe. You seek out people who you wish to begin the new world with, not those who are still mired in the old world, on lower timelines.
Me: True. And there has to be an awareness of this, and awareness of the fact that we're here to forgive and to help raise the vibe on this planet, not to stay mired in victimhood or to stay on the triangle as well. Oh yes, and for those who identify with being a victim, I have a free e-course on our website called, “Stop being a victim!” so that you can get off the triangle and start relating to people in a more loving way.
I just want to say this to people listening out there: there are a few ways to heal your shadow – you can listen and learn from videos like this and do the work yourself, which is the easy way; you can end up in recovery programs like I did because your life is too painful to go on; or you can keep acting this out with others until finally one day the light snaps on and you realize you can't do this anymore and you need to get help. Take the easy route. Start examining your own behavior.
Ivo: Yes. So we will thank Mr. Karpman for bringing this awareness to the mental health community of your planet.
Me: Yes. Thank you as well, Ivo.
Ivo: My love, you are most welcome. You are learning and becoming so much stronger.
My Post Yesterday: People, seeing B.S. posts in Lightworker groups about how the Galactic Federation is capable of mind control, and how they are planning to take over this world. This is being spread by darkworkers. People, as a lightworker you ARE part of the Galactic Federation, specifically the Ashtar Command Ground Crew, and if you were trying to take over the world, you'd probably know about it already. Please understand that the dark is making frantic attempts to sway our loyalties, however they can't come out and announce their presence here on the earth. The only way they can do it is by attempting to convince you that the Light is the dark. Don't believe it. You know who you are and you know you're connected with the GFL. Seriously, do you want to take over the world and enslave everyone on it? I don't. You may wonder why you're ground crew if you never see these ETs or talk to them while you're awake, true. But when you're asleep, your light body is on board their ships, you're going to meetings, carrying out raids of the lower 4th dimension, battling the dark, getting help with your personal issues, seeing your galactic family and friends, and resting on their ships. You are very much a part of this positive operation.
This post was pulled from my timeline so it couldn't be shared. It was too late because it did get out and I encouraged my friends to share it around even more.
Ashtar: Hello Sharon, hello lightworkers and starseeds. It's indeed true that you are part of our operation. We do work with you in the astral/etheric in order to coach you in your next steps, to apprise you of our projects and you work along with us as light warriors against the dark.
We need you to understand that the dark is attempting to sway your minds with disinformation. They use social media platforms in order to accomplish this, Facebook being the most popular for lightworkers. But it is not limited to that.
The current bit of disinformation being spread is as Sharon has stated: That the Light is coming to take over the earth and to enslave you. This is one in a series of attempts by the dark to discredit the light: either by discrediting the Pleaidians and now the GFL. They will do anything but tell you the Truth. If they tell you the Truth – that they have been controlling your planet and your minds, they know you will not stand for it. They also know that you would accept the help of the GFL to free you more readily. You would ally with us, and they don't want this.
We have told you many many times that you are already enslaved and that your process of ascension is happening in order to free you of the bonds of this enslavement. When you do, in fact, free yourself of these bonds, you will become as powerful as any member of the Galactic Federation of Light - because you already ARE as powerful as any member of the Galactic Federation of Light. We are all one under God and are all powerful beings, you as well as the rest of those in the multidimension that you help to create. It is that the dark has you believing you're not powerful that they can continue their control over you.
The GFL members are beings of high vibration only. Should we decide to enslave any race or planet of peoples we, in fact, would become the fallen angels ourselves, as enslavement of a peoples is contrary to universal law and a violation of free will. It is because we live by the tenets of the Laws of Love, or Universal Laws as you call them, that we can hold the high vibration that we do.
If we were in fact to disregard universal law, we would become as you are upon earth: of two minds, the lower mind would dominate because we would lose our high love vibration. So we can only act in love. We cannot create evil or we would suffer from it ourselves. You call this karma. We call this universal balance.
Those fearmongerers upon your social media platforms who publish messages for the dark such as this one are trying to sway your loyalty away from the Galactic Federation of Light. As Sharon has pointed out in her post, you are a member of the GFL and you too are bound by universal law when you work with us. It is in your best interests to learn these laws and begin to live by them, because then you will be untouchable by the dark. You will no longer fear the dark as you will know through personal experience that the Light is much stronger.
The dark is inconsequential now. It is playing games with you to attempt to keep its reality alive. It needs you to do this. You need to understand this as well. Without your accepting its lies and its poison, it will die. Many on your planet are turning away from believing the lies and are turning towards the Truth at this time. This is killing the darkness. To have light shone upon it, like a shadow, will make it disappear.
I remain here for you always,
Today's meme: Have you ever felt a connection with someone? Not in lust or in their image, but in the richness of their soul and in the vibes they give off?
My comment was, as I reposted this: I've felt connections with many people. However their ability to sense this connection wasn't there, and my inclination to explore a relationship with them was turned into a meagre attempt to fulfill their lust, for example.
Suffice it to say, I don't try to connect with earth people anymore because the potential I see in a relationship is never fulfilled. They don't have the capacity to think of a relationship as anything higher than an ego game, cheap sex, getting me to caretake them, or an occasion to dump all their woes on me. Or worse, they approach me because they want something.
Yes, I realize you always attract your wounds until they're healed. However I'm still attracting these superficial people and I realize that as a blu ray empath, I will always attract negativity because I'm supposed to help heal it.
If anyone wants healing from being a victim, I have a free e-course on my website called, “Stop being a victim!” When you do this course, the day will come when you won't have any complaints to dump on people who may or may not want to hear them.
If you want me to caretake you now, the solution is easy. I say “no”. If you want cheap sex with me now the solution is easy. I say, “No.” If you're into ego games, I'm not and I will quickly excuse myself and you'll never see me again. That's how to deal with that. I've had every experience going, and I believe most of it was for me to understand myself through seeing who I wasn't. I couldn't find myself on earth. And I expect as a lightworker, I'm not alone in this.
I am a very frustrated person. My relationships, other than 2 friends I made in high school who I still connect with on Facebook, and my sister, have ended up a big goose egg every time. There were a couple guys I thought would make good partners but things didn't work out. One was an artist who restored stained glass in England's churches. He was into geometric designs too. But at the time he had someone he was living with, and his ex-wife was driving me to drink. So I threw that baby out with the bathwater and lost touch with all of them.
The other one I met in Toronto. He was working on his spirituality, was a vegan and just a nice guy. We spent a lot of time together and I friend listed him because he took too long. I took this as his disinterest in me and that I had made an incorrect assumption about how he felt about me. I also could see that everything we did was what he wanted to do and frankly I was well aware that I was, again, hanging out with someone who saw women as being part of his world only.
Relationships are difficult but they are extremely difficult when you're used to dealing with them at a higher level and all you get is people coming from their ego here. I realize now I brought with me and remembered a lot from my home planet and past lives lived at levels up to 12D. It was undeniable and created a lot of frustration for me here on earth when I had higher intentions but these were met with lower vibrational behaviors.
I still remember where I worked the guys used to flirt with the women in the office. We'd get invited to parties and drunk-ups at the bar and all these guys would suddenly start acting as if we were the world's most desirable women, and they were all vying for attention from us. I realized it was because they wanted us to pick our favorite so that the winner could rub it in his friends' faces. It had nothing to do with actually wanting a relationship with any of us, or wanting to be in love with us. I couldn't understand beforehand but I'm a quick study. I learned this was an ego game and the office women were the pawns. I wouldn't expect it to be any different now with these same men, or any other men, unless of course they have some spirituality and were in touch with their higher consciousness.
Women are just as bad in some ways, I know. There are gold diggers who go to bars to find rich men to spend money on them.
I'm not saying this to pick on men. I'm saying this because my experiences are of a heterosexual female.
I was constantly, and am still constantly accosted with reactions that clearly tell me the person doesn't understand my intention. I understand my intention. And I believe the reason I feel so alone in this is because lightworkers are here to change the world, not to live in it. We're the ugly duckling. We're the fish out of water. We're the ones who bring higher consciousness to this planet because it is sorely lacking and very much needed.
But to retrieve what we have repressed as well at times, we have to be exposed to these shocks. Waking up is not an easy process. Waking up to who you truly are. I see many lightworkers and starseeds who are having relationship problems. They need to know it's so you can learn who you are, so you can learn to be more loving, so you can learn to be more empowered, so you can learn to choose the higher road, so you can learn to be more forgiving and more patient.
Sometimes when you've been taught not to say no, it's so you can learn to say no again. I was told that at one point my throat chakra was bypassed by the energetic stream that goes up your spine. That's because I had learned not to say no to anyone. Once I learned and once I started to speak my truth, that bypass straightened out. I don't have trouble with either anymore as you can see.
My point is, as an empath I can sense your higher consciousness but unless you're coming from it, I won't relate to you. Most people on earth are stuck in their lower ego chakras and acting from them. That's why we have ascension – to fix that problem. To connect you with your higher chakras and to allow you to live life from that higher aspect, while balancing your ego aspect and aligning them with your higher consciousness. Right Ivo?
Ivo: You were doing fine, my love.
Me: I know. But your input is always so awesome.
Ivo: In fact, yes. Your physical chakras (the lower 3) when in alignment, align with your higher consciousness. They do have a role, but it is not to be the dominant aspect of your being. Many of you are going through this process now: where you eschew ego sex and instant gratification because you find it unfulfilling and not what your soul wants for you.
You have been in ego dominated relationships and have allowed yourself to be dominated or you dominate the other and now refuse to be in such a relationship because it is not what you want. The higher consciousness does not want this. You cannot behave from a place of lower consciousness anymore because you are seated in the higher consciousness. Now it is a question of re-aligning your lower chakras by ridding yourself of the blocks you have accumulated throughout your life and this is what many of you are doing now. This will, in effect, seat you in your higher consciousness and give expression to that higher aspect of your being, instead of your ego and lower consciousness. It is wondrous to behold those transitioning.
Just look at the things you used to do that you would not do anymore. That is how much you have grown.
Me: Yeah, and I always have these “remember when's” when you read about something or think about someone and how you related to them as an ego or in my case, as an ego and a soul because I was aware of both the whole time, which created a load of inner conflict and frustration within me. You think of that person and you just say, “Uh uh. Not a chance!” People you would have gladly hung out with are now “no way's!” Because you learned the lesson and your ego issue was resolved. Now you know better and you WANT better for yourself. You don't want the bad stuff anymore. You want the good stuff!
I've walked away from our Matrix ego lifestyle. I want nothing to do with it anymore.
Ivo: Yes. And I keep saying to you, my love, you were searching for me your entire time.
Me: I was. Now I just have to get you to land! One thing at a time, I guess.
Ivo: It will not be long.
Me: Define a long time, please.
Ivo: You will see.
Me: So the point of this video is to tell lightworkers that you are transitioning away from lower mind and ego consciousness, to higher mind and love/unity consciousness. And the people coming into your life are showing you what you don't want to be. Just say “no”. If you still want to hang with them, well, that's your choice but I prefer not to be around anyone who just looks like a phony to me. They look fake and they are fake because they're not coming from the only part of them that's authentic: the loving part because only love is real.
Ivo: I wish to point out that the lightworkers are transitioning away from lower mind to higher mind and love/unity consciousness.... although there may lack opportunity to behave in these new ways at this point in time, to bring what is in your minds into the physical and to create this as a physical reality. Remember you are in a transitional period and it is important to become aware of how you would prefer to live, but that opportunity may not be created for you yet. But hold on to the ideal you have as it will materialize for you.
Me: Thanks, Ivo. Yes, we have these idealized notions of what life should be about but we don't get the opportunity to put them into action because oftentimes we don't have anyone near us to cooperate in order to co-create this new reality. Well, I'm hearing that lightworkers are gathering together in the physical and friending each other that way, and then there will be new cities and towns that we're going to build so we can co-create our higher reality together. Based on what seems like idealism right now but we see it as realism. I know I do.
As for now, I'd rather be alone. Speak my language or else I won't talk to you. It's that simple. I'm tired of old 3D.
The other thing that came up for me last night is that we are swimming in a sea of lies. Even the package of baby spinach I cut open last night had loads of more mature pieces in them. Nothing is honest. There are lies everywhere. Personally being lied to makes me feel crazy and that's because a lie is of lower vibration.
Trying to find an honest business anymore is hard. Even spinach. But I guess I have to have faith because there are others like me on this planet who are fed up of the lies as well and want to create a world of honesty and truth, like I want.
People say to read the label on packages. I prefer not to because you know they're not the truth anyway. There's stuff in there you don't want to eat. I just don't buy stuff that lies to me.
I've been boiling the city water because it stinks like organics. Another lie. The water is clean and filtered. I did up the Ontario Water Minister's report one year for a client and I can tell you there were a lot of infractions. Not all water is filtered even to required standards. Then I read that they can't filter out cocaine and estrogen from women's birth control pills out of the water anymore. So there you go: you're drinking other people's urine.
I'm tired of lies. Businesses of this world need to start being accountable to who they are serving. Nobody sees it as a service anymore. They act like they're doing us a favour. Well, when the water is unclean, and worse, fluoridated, you're not doing anyone a favour.
Ivo: I see it is the full moon and you are feeling the energy, my love.
Me: I always do. I'm going to go out and howl tonight.
Ivo: Very well. Perhaps it will remain clear and you can look for ships tonight.
Me: Good idea, Ivo.
Me: Ivo, I'd like to discuss what stress is please.
Ivo: Very well, my love, however you have Lisa Renee's newsletter which you read this morning, on your mind. Speaking of stress. Lisa Renee says that the Galactic Federation is working with the dark in order to control the people of earth.
We are obliged to allow some activities as this is a planet in the free will zone, and that we are not allowed to interfere with the free will of those upon this planet. That is why it is so important that all upon planet Terra wake up to the reality you are creating. Yes, you are creating this and allowing the dark to continue without realizing it. It is up to you, primarily, to understand what is going on around you and to create better for yourselves within your minds first, and then this will filter down into the physical.
Also, we are regulating the energies coming in to your planet through the portals so that you are not too uncomfortable and that the positive benefit of these energies is maximized. The other job we have is to regulate the amount of information you receive because unless you are of a higher frequency, you will simply reject it anyway. We are doing many interventions in, on and around your planet which are classified so we cannot tell you what they are. They will eventually be revealed to you when your vibration is high enough. This is not so we can assume control over your planet at some point. The intent is to liberate you in order to have you assume control over yourselves.
So we are controlling your process to some extent. However, we are not conspiring with the dark against you. As it happens the fight that is carried on on planet Terra was fought on many planets and in many constellations before your planet. It is a fight that began with the Lyran wars a million years ago. The Light has been fighting the dark ever since. Our own lives and livelihoods are at stake here as well.
The dark has created a fake Galactic Federation which is channeling to many lightworkers and starseeds. This is the Galactic Federation Renee is speaking of, not us. There are few organic channelers who are channeling to the real Light. Sharon can because she has an implant which we use to relay messages to you through her. Her adherence to our messages being exactly as we speak them helps us in relaying our intent through to you purely. She has no ego involvement in her work so she simply relays these messages through. She hopes for the best, that is all.
Me: I do have ego involvement. It comes up when people hate on me. I'm only trying to help people and I get haters. Like the one who conmented on my video last night, Friday night. I get that sometimes: people get high or drunk on the weekend and surf youtube to see whose channel they can leave nasty comments on. Just know that I'll block you from the channel. They don't leave us video creators without our own set of resources to deal with people like this. I feel sorry for the person who has to get blasted out of their mind on Friday nights. I used to do that too. I no longer need to and I hope one day you'll find a way out of the mess you're in.
As far as her comments about the GFL go, or the recent negative comments about Pleiadians, I believe this is mind control being carried out on channelers and information givers in our community. The dark would love you to think that nobody is coming to help us, nobody is here fighting them off or that when we are liberated that we'll just be overtaken by a new race of controllers. I keep seeing, “It's hopeless,” in some of the messages those compromised by the dark are putting out. And they know that the more people they can get to turn against the GFL and the Pleaidians, the stronger they will be because it's our response that strengthens the dark and their efforts to retain control over this planet.
Speaking of which, let's get back to the subject of this video: What is stress?
Ivo: We will use the Friday night drunk as an example then.
Ivo: You work 5 days a week, subjugating your own needs, your own happiness at times, and your preference to do things differently, to do other things, and to live a life that other humans live in the galaxy: one of freedom, happiness and love, to go to work for money which often is not enough to keep one in abundance, and to get all your needs met, plus so many jobs are carried out at break-neck pace. No wonder you snap on Friday night and need to release part of yourself that has been caged in all week. A Friday night bender is a release of tension in a part of yourself that needs to be expressed. You realize when you drank, that you are more expressive than you normally would be, yes?
Me: I was. And very happy.
Ivo: You are letting the part of yourself that you have repressed throughout the week out for a night.
Your western system of working all week to try to earn enough money, of stifling your creativity to work at a job you are most likely overqualified to do, puts you into your ego and puts your chakras out of balance. We have pointed out before that an out of balance chakra is what the Matrix is attempting to create within you. They have many means of doing it, including mind control.
Stress, in effect, is out of balance chakras. When your root chakra is ungrounded and out of balance, then you create fear. You fear not having enough money, you fear losing your home, you fear anything that has to do with basic “rooting” upon your earth. Home. Work. Money. Life in general – the physical life. Sharon had multiple addictions related to this: one was an underearning addiction and the other an overspending addiction. Her overeating addiction could be found in that root as well. She ate to feel grounded as an empath. She ate to continue to suppress her higher energies, which were telling her constantly that what she was doing was wrong.
The second chakra is the emotional/sexual chakra. Sex is a reverent act, designed to balance energies and/or create new life. Many upon your world see it as anything but that. Sex is disconnected from love, which of course is sourced in the fourth dimensional heart chakra which many on your planet leave closed.
As far as the emotions go, many upon your planet are emotionally imbalanced, expressing the guilt, shame and fear from the lower chakras through your second chakra.
The third chakra is the ego chakra, the physical power chakra, the “me” chakra, and when that is imbalanced....
Me: Say no more! LOL
Ivo: I will. When the ego is out of balance, and is being fed imbalanced energies from the root and sacral chakras, you have an out of balance ego. You have one who is living in their shadow. You have one who is disempowered or one who attempts to behave as if empowered but is not.
Stress is caused by out of balance chakras. Particularly the lower chakras although the higher spiritual chakras can create stress in the system as well when out of balance.
When chakras are re-balanced the person is calm. Many do not realize that that is the human's normal state because few on your planet are balanced enough, and then they would only appear to be the exception, not the rule anyway.
Ivo: Seek balance. Seek calmness. If your life is stressful, eliminate the stress any way you can. It is that simple. Beware that your world creates a world of stress for you to live in as these lower energies feed the parasites that feed off of you. Stress is a favourite food for them.
When you look at how the ego works, how can you expect to have anything else but problems in your life? And too many problems creates stress.
Me: And I think the other thing that bears saying is that when you get to the point that I am, that you have physical maladies that keep your vibration lower.... such as my adrenal fatigue. Part of having adrenal fatigue is intolerance, a fast temper, moodiness and depression. Well, there you go!
Ivo: Ascension is healing this as well. When you all raise in vibration, you will find your maladies and ailments will disappear for many. Continue to try to understand the source of this malady, my love, as being the “blah block,” (a term coined by healer Barbara Brennan in “Hands of Light”) that surrounds your lower chakras and abdomen. For all those who wish to heal themselves, understand that anywhere there are fat deposits upon your body, you most likely have an emotional block. Refer to Brennan's book if you need to.
Understand that a slightly alkaline body is a balanced body. Look at the foods you are eating that are acidic – that would be most of the western diet. When the body is balanced, there can be no disease. When the body is balanced, then it will heal itself. That is a truth. When the mind is balanced, the body is balanced and when the body is balanced, the mind will balance as well. In Sharon's case of her adrenal fatigue causing depression and ill temperment, it is the blah block that is affecting her adrenals, not the adrenals causing this dysfunction. Remove the blah block and the adrenals will function better.
Me: Got it! So work on first, second and third chakra issues.
Ivo: Yes. My love, you are fatigued so I will leave you now.
Me: Thank you Ivo.
More on Acceptance/Rejection and Good/Bad
Me: Ivo, I want to talk about this because Jesus brought up a good point in A Course in Miracles. Well, he brought up a lot of good points, some of which I'm already familiar with, thankfully. But the one point he made really opened my eyes and I want to discuss this.
Ivo: And this point was what he said about acceptance of what is before you.
Me: Yes. I'll take myself for example. How many times there's something right in front of me, something's going on and my reaction is, “I can't believe it!” or “You've gotta be kidding!” or, “You're joking!” As a matter of fact, the latter is my standard response to many things I see on earth, coupled with a shaking of my head. I can't wrap my head around so much that I see, or so much that other people do. It doesn't make sense to me! So my first response is not to want to accept it.
And that was Jesus' (Sananda's) point: You helped to create it, so why are you rejecting it now? You are rejecting the reality you just created. You see it's right in front of you and yet your reaction is not to believe that just happened so you reject it. Wait a minute.... my new friend wants to get a word in. LOL
Jesus: I am happy, Sharon, that you have realized this very important point. When you continue to reject your reality because you may view it in a certain way, you are rejecting your life. You are creating these circumstances, as you are aware, in order to grow from so the rejection of these circumstances out of disbelief, which is common for you, leads to further problems. When you reject your reality, you stay in the ego and it is happy you have chosen yet again, to empower it. Your ego is the one whose basis is in unreality and when you refuse to accept what is before you, you again live in and create unreality. Do you see my point?
Me: I do, Jesus. I'm also getting goose flesh on my arms. LOL
Jesus: I want all my children to understand that accepting life as it is before them is the road to living a higher life. To living as I did. To living from your heart, from your soul. Sharon wishes to bring up more examples of reactions to life, and how she has, in the past denied, minimized, wished away, hid her head under a pillow and cried, how she did all these things because she did not want to deal with her reality. But when you accept it, it is easiest to deal with. As Ivo has said, any resistance to what is is resistance to love because you are all on a loving path, on a higher path. When you resist, you fall off of this path and back into the ethers of unreality. Do you understand?
Me: I do. I'm so glad you said that in ACIM. I was almost having flashbacks of all my reactions. And I will list them here and Ivo and I will go through them and we'll explain how this is all resistance. I will admit that some of the stuff I've been through has just been bloody crazy, y'know.
Jesus: Some of it was crazy because that is the fork you chose on the road. And you had to take the crazy path back to the road of love, the correct fork which you strayed from. Do you understand this?
Me: Yes. Like the time me and my family lost the footpath and had to climb the rock wall at Niagara Glen. We took the hard way back but we were pretty much in the habit of doing that all the time in life.
Jesus: Yes, you make your lives more difficult than they need be by not accepting. I will leave you now.
Me: Okay. I feel like begging you to stay but I'm proud, LOL. I know you're there.
Jesus: I am, my child. I am always watching you.
Me: He's saying, when you resist what is you'll get a worse reality with possibly even more pain, in order to wake you up, get you to accept it, and get you back on the correct path of your life, the path of love. Yes, nothing motivates like pain. Life wants to get your attention. When you keep falling off into the unreal, it will reach over to you and try to yank you back to the loving path. But this will be a harder path than it would have been had you accepted in the first place. Incredible! This does follow universal law, though.
As far as the list of exclamations goes, like I said, I had my favourites. Then there was the ones with the expletives and where I used divine names in vain, like his for example. I still wonder if he hears me when I swear using his name. He probably can.
Ivo: When you are using your long list of exclamations and expletives, you can use them as a signal that you are in fear. Yes?
Me: Yes! Good one, Ivo! See, I didn't say, well, y'know. Whatever.... Actually, whatever is one of them too. Uttered in a sarcastic tone.
Ivo: Yes, you use it a lot. Your people are used to being in the ego and assessing any situation as being bad or good. “Is this bad for me or good for me?” The response is automatic. This is not an actual dichotomy but an artificial construction. As all life is love in action, there is no bad. Yes, I realize when you look at a dented front bumper MATERIALLY you then can exclaim it is bad, however on a spiritual level, the material hardly matters at all. That is what you have insurance for.
Me: Yeah, except for the $1,000 deductible.
Ivo: But I will stress again. Perhaps make a list of your common reactions when you are shocked by something and understand these are fear reactions. Understand that because it is true. So for Sharon, it would be, “You're joking, right?” “WTF?” “Are you nuts?” “This is crazy!” “Jesus Christ!” “Oh my effing God!” “What the eff is going on here?!” These are all fear reactions. Perhaps log it electronically or write it on a note pad as Sharon would, but at the end of a day or a week look at what you have said, and what it was in response to. Understand that these are fear based reactions and that you are thinking this would be bad for you. You would not object if you felt it was good for you, would you? No. Most people would not.
But then you must do the work. The work is to understand that initially you have had a fear based reaction but in fact you helped to create this reality. So there is nothing to fear. No matter what it is, it is before you to help you learn to love more, to become a stronger person, or to learn to have compassion or to forgive. Sharon gets a lot of these. LOL
Me: I do. Yeah, just look at it like going to the gym every day or 4 times a week or whatever. Those muscles aren't going to get bigger and stronger by sitting in front of the boob tube, are they? They have to be worked out repeatedly and your spiritual muscles have to as well.
I might add, if you're with someone and shock is your only reaction to their behavior, you might want to reconsider the relationship, especially if you're in emotional or physical danger. Not all relationships are meant to stay in, BTW. Sometimes leaving someone IS the lesson and it's the only choice and most loving thing to do for yourself because you count too!
Ivo: So, you must understand that everything is good. No matter how your ego labels it, it is all good. Dark attacks and dark dirtywork included. It is there to empower the Light within you. You may scream in exclamation and admittedly some situations will take longer to come around to accepting. That is why there is the process of grieving. Some situations will require griefwork. Many not.
Me: Can we do an example, Ivo?
Ivo: Of course. My love we can take such a simple example for you as you are an exclaimer. You are a labeler of “this is bad,” or “this is good.” You are in Walmart and they do not have the cat toys that you like to give Merlin. What do you say?
Me: “Shit! They don't have them again! Dammit!”
Ivo: Did you ever think of ordering any on line, perhaps writing down the model number if it is on the label on the shelf or finding out the name of the manufacturer and ordering them directly?
Me: No. I didn't.
Ivo: If you really wish to have these toy mice, then you can do so. It is that simple. Yet month after month when you have your check you look and they are again, not there. They are not there because for some reason they are not being stocked or they have been sold out. As for you, because you are in fear of their not being there, they are not. This is all being done for your good, my love.
Me: Okay. What else?
Ivo: What else do you react to? Well, bad drivers, of course.
Me: Yeah, we talked about that already. People who make up their own rules on the road scare me.
Ivo: And you see your first reaction is an expletive because you have decided this is bad for you. How many car accidents have you been in, my love?
Me: The one where the dark tried to off me when I was 16.
Ivo: And now you are 58, so it has been 42 years and you have not been in another car accident.
Me: I just consider myself a good driver.
Ivo: Ah, I see, it is because of your ego's excellence that you have not been in another crash. I told you that your team including myself, work hard to keep you safe on the road. You see Merton flying his ship around you as you drive, do you not?
Me: Yes. I'm still a good driver.
Ivo: When you come from this standpoint, you will see anyone else who does not drive as you do as a bad driver. You will make the comparison that the ego is so fond of.
Ivo: As soon as you make yourself out to be good, all others are either better or worse than you, my love. Do not look at it that way anymore.
Me: Okay. Well, I think people have the idea. I think your advice to write down times people reacted and didn't want to accept something is a good exercise. Remember, stay on the easy path and accept a lesson into your life the first time it comes around. Because it'll only get harder to get your attention the next time. Life will up the ante. That's universal law.
I think if you wanted to study the habits of successful people, that would probably be in there. Not to react and fear what just happened. Even see it as an opportunity. It would make sense.
Ivo: Alright then my love, thank you for this opportunity to share with others.
Me: Thank you Ivo, and Jesus. Kiss kiss
How the Matrix Mind has infiltrated the spiritual community
This video is intended to enlighten and inform, not to attack or berate anyone. It is intended to help lightworkers to understand the pitfalls that lie before them as they interact in a community heavily infiltrated by the dark. It is intended to be an aid for them.
Me: I've said it before and I'll say it again, how can anyone with an undealt with ego understand spirituality? They can't.
As a comparison, I have never studied music or music theory. So for me to say that I understand what a pianist is doing or can understand a Mozart concerto, or why even a conductor waves his or her baton the way they do. I don't claim to understand these things although I enjoy them. So for someone who has had little or no spiritual practice at all to claim to understand spirituality is unfathomable.
Yet they do. The ego will get on its high horse and you see it in posts where people are admonishing others for "not being spiritual enough," like being spiritual is some kind of Club Med you get membership to and not having a high level of spirituality is shameful.
So we get people talking about "spiritual ego". It's not a spiritual ego. It's just ego. Everyone is at their own level and those who admonish others for lack of spirituality or how can you claim to be spiritual when you do this or that, should have a look at themselves rather than the others they purport to be superior to. Because whenever there is perceived inequality, there is ego. And I see lots of it within the community.
We are in fact spiritual fledglings.
We are growing in spirituality. And those that have a higher level of spirituality don't spend their time looking down their noses at others as being flawed. Those with higher levels of spirituality understand it's a process and we're all in it. Leaving duality behind to ascend to the next level of Unity consciousness - that is the process many of us on earth are engaged in. And it's not made of one pleasant moment after the next. It can be a hairy process, with times of questioning one's own sanity. But it's about having revealed to you that which needs to be worked on. That's what you're seeing. Being aware and conscious enough to want to see your faults and then responding differently to them this time around. That's change and that's what this process is trying to accomplish in you.
And you will try, and succeed or try and fail. Your higher self will keep you at it because it's important.
With such a large influx of non-spiritual people into the ascension process, spirituality has been heavily watered down by Matrix egotism. I think it's best to call it the "Ascension community," and leave spirituality to those who have some mastery.
Expecting "Spiritual" conformity - compliance to some kind of standard of perfection.
Love is different to the soul than it is to the personality. The ego expects someone to be nice, never set boundaries and to love and nurture it. We're going to do a separate video to debunk this idea.
Love to the soul is often hard work. I was admonished by Ivo for being a rescuer. In fact what I learned I was doing as I gave in to manipulators who were getting me to do work they should have been doing for themselves, was interfering with their growth process.
The growth of the personality on earth is what the soul wants and I was stifling the growth of these friends in question by giving in to their manipulations. I had to back off and stop letting them manipulate me, which was my own lesson to learn, and allow them to learn to take care of themselves as a process of self empowerment. That is what the soul calls love. Not what you'd think, really, is it? My habit of rescuing these people was seen as interference and in fact was a violation of universal law and I was incurring negative karma as a result, when in fact I felt I was being virtuous! So there you go. We have it backwards here in many ways. We live contrarily to universal law and were taught to do so. Imagine my surprise when Ivo told me this.
Expecting compliance to some standard that someone else has set is conformity. This is a direct copy of the type of behaviour that people get up to in the ego-based Matrix only now that ego is running our spiritual community. Now I understand what I've been reacting to on my Fb page. Now I understand why I get so upset over comments like the one I got this morning.
I've heard of people being chastized or even attacked for eating meat, and I've been attacked many times over for my opinion of religion (if you want a harsher opinion, read Jesus' opinion in "Spirit of the Western Way." It makes mine look like a Sunday picnic.) I've been attacked for my views on the military and there are other things I've been attacked for saying.
Fact is, attacking someone is a Matrix behaviour. The soul doesn't attack anybody or anything. It lives in peace and harmony. The ego is the attacker.
Because I stepped out of line with what the attackers wanted to hear, I was attacked. They reacted in fear to what I said because it shook their belief system to the core. Well, to that I say, if your belief system is based in fear, it needs shaking up.
I'm not a people pleaser. I will say the Truth as I have channeled it through my team. We're at a point in the evolution of humanity on earth that I feel feelings can't be spared. Everyone needs to examine the way we think and the way we live, otherwise this earth will die and all upon her will go with her. We're at a crossroads now. It's find a new way to live or die with the old one. Homo Sapiens will become extinct eventually however when we change we live on and so will Gaia. Really? Do you think anyone has the option now of sticking their head in the sand and ignoring what we've created for ourselves here? I don't. The truth has to come out.
I refuse to comply with old Matrix standards. It's part of my own ascension process to be true to myself and the Truth I have learned to speak, and if you expect conformity to old standards from me, you're not going to get it. I'm not here to make you comfortable – I'm here to wake you up.
Not understanding the purpose of life
Me: Okay, this one's yours Ivo!
Ivo: Very well. I will say to the listener that your entire western society has the wrong idea about life. And those in control of your world have taken great care to ensure that your energy will be channeled into meeting their ends – making them rich and giving them power beyond their wildest dreams.
You are duped into creating the reality they want you to create, not one that is favourable for a human being, a being of light and love. Does your earth right now look like something that a being of love would create on its own? When you default to being loving how can you have countries and peoples that suffer destruction on the scale that your planet exhibits? Genocide? Rape? Disease? Pollution? Does this sound like something a loving being would create unless they were tricked into doing so?
In understanding the version of life that you have created for your controllers, the true meaning of life has escaped many. You live using your lower minds and your ego's. The ego cannot understand the true meaning of life as its frequency is too low to do so.
The ego does not understand love but it understands hate very well. It understands fear and lives through fear as a higher being of light lives through love. You have been taught to be the antithesis of love as a means of living and you have complied. Now is the time for this to change and the lightworkers are the first to change your world back to one of love.
This means that the lightworker must learn to understand and align with the higher mind. To understand the true purpose of life, you can roughly look at the opposite of all that occurs on your life now and then understand this as the true way of living. Instead of fearing, having courage is the way. Instead of hating, loving is the way. Instead of doubting, being assured of yourself is the way. There are many books out that will help you to understand higher spiritual values if you will read them.
Me: We haven't done one yet, Ivo. Maybe we should.
Ivo: Very well, that is a good idea my love.
Ivo: I will say to you that the average person who lives on your planet does NOT understand the true meaning of life. This meaning has been kept from them as a means of manipulating them into staying in lower vibration. You have been supplied with a lifestyle of working and consuming that you are told is the meaning of life. It is not. It has been given to you to keep you stuck in lower vibrations and we must admit, it has worked beyond any expectation.
The Light is now in the process of collapsing this financial system you labour under, so expect within the next 10 years that many changes will come about to you and your families as your world changes. Being released from your role of financial slaves will allow many to raise their frequency and understand that the true meaning of life is to love. Your loveless world will change.
Me: Thank you Ivo.
Ivo: Always, my love. You are welcome.
Judging and criticizing
Me: Judging and criticizing have become the norm on social media, where one stranger points fingers at another stranger and criticizes their attitude as being inferior. This is one hundred percent egotism. This is not spiritualism yet it is rampant on social media, particularly in groups.
Anyone who criticizes another is stealing their energy. Yes, they are energy vampires. Being an energy vampire comes about because your vibrational frequency is too low to feel much soul connection, so you go about stealing the energy of others of higher vibration in order to compensate.
That is what the entire matrix is designed to do: to create low vibrational energy vampires of all of us. And while we steal others' energy, our own energy is being drained by the parasites who profit from the system they have designed and trapped us in! We are upholding their system because we believe it to be the reason we are alive when in fact it isn't! We are our own jailers. And the parasites are the rich ones sitting at the top of the heap.
The higher mind is the soul mind which has plenty of energy to keep you and your physicality alive and feeling good. When you are in your higher mind, you have no reason to criticize or engage in energy vampirism because you have plenty of energy. You are well connected to source. The higher mind accepts and loves all as they are and has no need to judge or criticize or be negative in any way. People are looking for an escape from this harsh world – well, this is it. Raise your vibration and live from your higher mind.
The post about veganism started the usual comments about, “Why are you asking this? Don't you even know better?!” and then the video's of cows being treated horriby which I can't watch.
When you go to answer someone's question you need to ask yourself: “Am I trying to help or am I trying to put this person down and make them feel stupid for even asking?” The entire experience of Facebook I find is just plain egotistical behaviour by people who purport not to be egotists. I had to do a violet flame meditation to get my vibe back up. Ivo and I are still working on a video script of “How the matrix ego mind has infiltrated the spiritual community.” And this is one of the points. Are you trying to help? Or are you trying to put down the person for asking or not knowing or because you think they're stupid?
Ivo: We see much arguing going on between lightworkers on social media. What do you possibly feel you have to gain by arguing with a complete stranger who you will never ever come across again? You must understand that your ego has been re-designed to become a tyrannical leader in your life. With the lives you lead of abuse, this tyrant takes steps to the forefront of your mind in order to keep you from experiencing abuse again. That is the reason you attack others: it is abuse or be abused yourself.
There is a third option. Keep your tyrant in check and understand that people are flawed and forgive them. Move on without engaging in argument. That is the higher path.
It is only abuse when you declare it to be abuse. When you forgive others for their flaws instead of attacking them and engaging your tyrant, you walk in your strength.
Yet, in your matrix world you have learned to beat each other down – that life is a competition and winning is the key. And that is another way your matrix minds have infiltrated the spiritual community. This is divisive behaviour and also creates loosh, the negative energy that the dark requires to sustain its presence on earth. Its food, in other words. You are its source and you are being manipulated into supplying it when you behave from your ego.
Focus on others - particularly for fault finding, division and feeling of superiority - ego
Ivo: Yes, your ego keeps you focused on others. It tells you that others are the problem. You must be careful. Watch them. They will hurt you. They will attack you. But in fact nobody can attack you unless you attack yourself as well. When you personalize their comments, when you take them in as meaning you instead of being a reflection of that person's behaviour, then you personalize the attack.
Yes, they are directing negative energy at you. But this can be transmuted or shielded from.
When you keep the focus of your life on yourself and keep your ego in check, and attempt to align with soul every day, instead of what problems others may present to you, then you are looking at the best way to live your life. You cannot change others. They will attack you if they feel it will benefit them. Do not let it benefit them. Just ignore them.
The fact is, others are not the problem. You attract what you attract because you need it to heal your own mind. Except for the case that Sharon is flagging up to me now, the empathic Blu Ray who, despite her high vibration, attracts negativity like a moth to a flame. You are a transmuter and that is what the blu ray's job is: so they tend to attract many problems.
Me: I won't tell you how lucky I feel, Ivo. Seeing as I'm sitting in the middle of it again with my neighbours.
Ivo: Yes, you do attract these things. It may be difficult but do not let it get you down. Do not let it lower your vibration. When you do, you align with them and make your life more difficult. You can spend the day thinking of better things of higher vibration.
Lofty Speech by Spiritual Fakers
Me: Yeah, met another one of these today. Suddenly, standard American English starts looking like something from Elizabethan English. To me, that's a clear sign that someone is a fake! “I went to the store,” suddenly becomes, “Oh, my Love! I love you! Today I visited the retail establishment I frequent as they have the most delicious little purchases and you know I cannot resist!”
They get wordy, lofty, high and mighty, and just plain pretentious! I just told one she's as phony as a 3 dollar bill and I blocked her. I want nothing to do with these egotistical types who think they have to fake loving all and create an air of exquisite grandeur in order to deal with the public. If the message, “I'm better than you,” isn't relayed in their words, I don't know what is. Dictionary definition of pretentious is: attempting to impress by affecting greater importance, talent, culture, etc., than is actually possessed. Clearly said.
Frankly that would put their messages under suspicion if they're a channeler, as this one was, because they're so full of themselves they're easy for the dark to trick. The galactics are always cognizant of our ego problem and they don't want our egotism relayed in their messages. They want their messages to be as clear as when they gave them. That means for the channeler, that the focus must be on the truth, not on beefing oneself up to make yourself look marvellous to others. The message is the appeal not the channeler's personality.
I don't know about you, but as I ascend it becomes more important to me that people know who I am – the true me. It frustrates me that so many people can only see me through their ego's eyes. So anyone who spends time colouring up their personality is hiding something.
To be continued...
Being Controlled: Live for yourself and share your life, or live to others' expectations of you. Which is it?
Me: Ivo, So many topics, so little time.... LOL Actually, Ivo, I have a comment that does fit in with this video. I was on Facebook for an hour this morning, and for some strange reason I'm not seeing any of my usual friends' posts but I keep getting posts from all these lightworker/starseed groups.
I put up a comment in one group that the question about veganism is typical of what trolls post to start arguments in groups and I think the admin deleted my comment. He'll figure it out someday, maybe.
My comment about this hour spent on facebook was that it was not a very positive experience. There are questions that people could answer but maybe these people don't have any experience with the solution because there were no responses. The woman was asking why she felt she had been raised to be her own worst enemy, to be nice to people even though they weren't nice to her. I said it's because you have been raised to behave against your own best interests and you need to change that. You're going to go through a lot of guilty feelings when you go against your upbringing, but do it anyway because it's worth it. And I told her that guilty feelings happen when you've been manipulated.
The post about veganism started the usual snotty comments about, “Why are you asking this? Don't you even know better?!” and then the video's of cows being treated horriby which I can't watch.
When you go to answer someone's question you need to ask yourself: “Am I trying to help or am I trying to put this person down and make them feel stupid for even asking?” The entire experience of Facebook I find is just plain egotistical behaviour by people who purport not to be egotists. I had to do a violet flame meditation to get my vibe back up. Ivo and I are still working on a video script of “How the matrix ego mind has infiltrated the spiritual community.” And this is one of the points. Are you trying to help? Or are you trying to put down the person for asking or not knowing or because you think they're stupid?
When it comes to ego you have to be extremely honest with yourself and admit it if you're there to inflate your ego at others' expense. You always have a choice every time you interact with yourself or others: do I choose ego or do I choose soul? Ivo's been teaching me that it's not, “bad / good” or “positive/negative” but whether you accept what is or reject what is. Hopefully you'll accept what is because what is has already happened and that's your reality, the current reality, whether your ego approves of it or not, and deal with the reality. When you're working through your ego, you're not dealing with reality. You're dealing with your ego's need to be in charge. And it can be a tyrant!
Anyway this lady's question was about disempowerment of the divine feminine. And yes, the divine masculine is disempowered in our world although superficially, in general, it would appear not to be, but it is.
And that fits in with this video's subject: Are you going to live in a way that's true to yourself or in a way that fits in with what others want of you? And by others I mean anyone from the government to your parents, to your spouse, to anyone. Or the ubiquitous, nameless, “They” that is spoken of all the time.
Think about it. Can you imagine lying on your death bed thinking back to the fact that you really wanted to be an artist or to travel the world, but someone told you it was impossible so you made a lifelong career of being an accountant instead. I would feel awful knowing I lived in a way that others told me would be better for me. And that is control. You have to listen to your heart and lead your own life!
I really pissed my mother off when I never got married and had children. My mother needed to learn she had one life to live: her own, and she doesn't get to tell me how to live mine. Was she ever mad but I held my ground. I'm not going to change my entire life just because she wanted more babies. It's whether I want the babies or not that counts, and I sensed it wasn't in the cards for me. I now know that it wasn't and that I came here with a different plan for myself. I really didn't feel I was up to being a good mother so I never had kids.
But it's an important part of taking your power back and to stop allowing others to control you. To decide how you want to live and not to live by what others say you should do, unless in fact you agree with them. That's different.
There are so many people who are dancing to others' tunes.
Ivo: My love, your people have got it wrong. They turn outwards to ask others who they are. In the case of parents, many parents will tell their children who they want them to be rather than allowing the child to tell the parents who they are. So the child is not used to going within in order to gain self empowerment. The child is used to having the parents tell them how to behave rather than working with the child on their behaviour, which is control of course. The child is used to having the teacher tell them what life is and to direct their behaviour in the school system. The child is used to the television telling them what normal is and how to behave socially.
Me: Yes, I remember that program, “ALF,” about the supposed alien who lived with an American family. Before that time, belching in public was taboo; after Alf it was normal for some to just belch out in front of others with no feeling of shame. People get a lot of their programming from television! A lot!
Ivo: They do indeed. And it is not always favourable programming, to be sure. You are always looking outside of yourselves to allow others to control you, whether you realize it or not. The controller of your behaviour is you and you must go within to understand who you are and how you should behave. Not to listen to the ego, which is just another facet of this external control system, obviously. Your people are mind controlled and the ego is the afflicted part of your psyches.
For those who spend their lives looking to externals to find themselves, this must cease. You must go inside and learn to understand who you really are. You must learn to put up boundaries to disallow any form of external control and manipulation, otherwise you get hooked into your ego again and would become basically helpless to do the right thing for yourself once more.
Believe me, those in charge of your planet use many means to do this. Sharon has had people sent to her right at times she was about to renew her spiritual seeking. These people were alcoholic/drug addicted egos who ascribed to the control system. Her inclination of wanting to find a mate predisposed her to those who put her under the ether again. By causing drama and chaos in her life, which she did not know how to deal with via the soul, she was again pulled back into her shadow. It was always a relief to break up with these men and to resume her life on her own.
Perhaps, my love, you might have recognized you were better off on your own at that time but you did not. You felt it was weird to not want to have a mate so you kept seeking and the dark provided you with ones that eventually empowered you but not after upsetting the apple cart over and over again. Sharon was always relieved to break up with her boyfriends because they had nothing to offer her; they in fact were narcissists and energy vampires who were there to teach her to stand up alone in life. Yes. You see that mating is not always the route for everybody. Some are here to live singularly.
Yes, these men taught her, through reflection, where she was lacking so in that way, by relating to others, she was able to see what she wished to change about herself. Life is a mirror and you are mirrored back through the people you deal with.
However, this is not the same as the control that I am speaking about. When you allow others to control you and submit to their behaviour with no thought of, “This is wrong! What do I really want for myself?!” then you are controlled. Eventually, Sharon was angry enough that she started to understand that she should listen to herself and she heard that she must stop these relationships because she was attracting the wrong men. She understood that she would never be happy with any men of this type and eventually, she gave up dating entirely.
Me: That's when you came through! LOL
Ivo: Yes, I had attempted a few times to wake you up to the fact I was here with you but it was not enough. It required your reading the book about Elizabeth and Akon to realize that it is possible for earth women to mate with men from other planets.
Me: And that's when you spoke up.
Ivo: My love, you knew this subconsciously as well, may I remind you! There was the one time, long before we began to speak, that you in frustration, proclaimed, “The only man for me flies a spaceship and comes from another planet!” And if you had listened to yourself instead of saying this in sarcasm, you would have been correct. We could have begun speaking at that time as well.
Me: That would've been a trip.
Ivo: Yes, you would not have accepted it. So we led you to the book. Then you accepted it because you understood the possibility was real.
In any case, we wish to suggest to the listener that you are reflected back to yourself through the behaviour of others. When you say something to a person and they become angry at you, you think, “I do not like this,” and you say to the other, “If you do not speak to me in a calm voice, I will leave.” Then again, you must see what they do. You must observe your emotions when you react to the behaviour of others and see what you wish to change and what you find to be healthy.
When you look to others to tell you who you are, beware. When you acquiesce to the way of the system before you, beware. You are being controlled. Sharon had very strong feelings about things even as simple as holidays, because she realized she was being controlled into buying things to celebrate these holidays when in fact she did not even understand their significance or even care about these holidays.
Me: I've always been very reflective. I think about everything. Do I want this? Do I like this? Is this “me” or not? What do I want? How does this suit me? Is this something I want to continue? Always. I almost do it to a fault.
Ivo: Better too much than not enough, my love.
Me: So, man who flies a spaceship and comes from another planet, we'll wrap this one up unless you have anything else.
Ivo: No, I am done for now. LOL
Me: Okay, thank you Ivo.
Ivo: My love, one day we will write our love story as well.
Me: We've had so many lives together. That would be interesting.
Me: Ivo, I have always been aware of this to some degree but when Jesus said it in the Course in Miracles I practiced trying not to attack others. And I'm still doing it. It's not easy. We live with our ego's in the driver's seat until we can become more soul aligned. I find with these high energies coming in, my mood tanks and my ego sets up shop again to start its games.
Ivo: And you are being given the opportunity to relive the old again, my love, and to do it right this time. To do it in a more loving way. Because now you know better. We see you go back and forth. It is not for no reason I have told you that when you are in a bad mood, you drop to a lower timeline, and thusly incur more negative situations. A higher level of negativity will bring on more opportunities for change for the person. You find that when you are in a bad mood, there seem to be worse drivers on the road. There are. They are there for you, to help you to learn to forgive even when you are in a bad mood. Forgiving when you are in a bad mood raises your vibration. When you are on a lower timeline and can raise your vibration by being more loving and forgiving despite your ego's shenanigans, you bring yourself out of that lower timeline.
Me: Thank you for explaining that. It makes it more clear. I'm really tired today so let's see what happens as I venture out on the road. I wish I could sleep. Ascension isn't letting me.
Ivo: One bit of progress you have made is you now accept that in the city you live in, when you need to turn left you will be turning on a red light because none of the drivers will allow you to turn on a yellow light. You now accept this instead of honking and yelling at drivers asking them how many colours they need to get them to stop. That was actually humourous. You are funny when you are angry, my love.
Me: I just imagined a traffic light with about 20 colours on it and all of the colours lighting up in succession between the green and the red lights to get the drivers to clue in they have to stop. The law is that when the light is yellow, you stop if you can. Nobody does anymore. They all go through until it turns red, leaving the person turning left opposite them to turn left on the red light. So I get it. I have to live with that now.
Ivo: You are accepting of the reality of where you live.
Me: Some progress. I still want to leave. Anyway let's get back to attacking....
Ivo: Yes, you attempted to stop your mind from attacking others and were shocked to realize how often your ego does this. It would be worthwhile to make a mental note of every time you did so and to ferret out the reason, probably an illogical one, as to why it would be worthwhile to attack someone.
Me: Well, the typical ego reason: they were wrong and I was right was the reason on the amber light.
Ivo: So you must understand that whether you are right or not, people make mistakes driving, or in the case of the one who crossed the street in front of you and turned left as you were attempting to turn left, he did not care that your car was there and that you had the right of way. So you must understand that there are people in your city that do not care what the rules are.
Me: Yes, this place is pretty low vibe. I have to accept that and drive defensively. Now I pull forward at that intersection so that if someone wanted to pull out of the road they would broadside my car or they would have to drive behind it.
Ivo: Do you think that perhaps someone may do this?
Me: They might.
Ivo: So do you think it would be wiser to let them go first even though the law is on your side?
Me: Maybe. I'll see how I feel next time. I fear people who make their own rules because it makes driving dangerous for all of us.
Ivo: But they do do this and you were aware beforehand that he intended to do this.
Me: yes, I sensed it.
Ivo: So you must understand that other drivers make mistakes and they also do not care about the rules. When you accept this and give up your need to feel righteous, you will drive more peacefully and at a higher vibration. You need to stop trying to control others' behaviours. They will do as they please whether you like it or not.
You need to accept whatever it is they are doing because this keeps you aligned with soul, not your ego. Lack of acceptance, or resistance to what is, causes a drop in vibration that aligns you with ego.
Me: True. My ego won't attack them. Or it may try but I'll have the upper hand.
Ivo: You must understand, and this is your old 12 step lesson, what is better: being right or being peaceful? Acceptance leads to peace. Being righteous and attacking others leads to resentments. Peace keeps you connected to soul. What is most important for you? You must decide. Accept what is, or to not accept what is because it was done improperly. To lower your vibration through an attack of righteousness or to be at peace and aligned with soul?
Me: I sense that in my family, having been made wrong all the time by my parents, I associated it with low self esteem, low self worth and being attacked by others. It wasn't pleasant. I gave up when I was young. There was no sense in trying. My only goal as a teenager was to move out. That's what child abuse does to people, by the way. It makes them give up. So I guess my ego became defensive because it doesn't want to feel wrong anymore. I have to work on that.
Can we discuss the types of attacks the ego gets up to, Ivo?
Ivo: Of course. In your matrix world, you have all learned to focus on the behaviours of others. So much so that you even guess as to what they are thinking and feeling without asking the other person. You make assumptions about others that are often incorrect. You are focused on changing that which cannot be changed: other people. You do not focus on what can be changed: yourself. This is by design because it keeps you in a disempowered state. Keeping the focus on yourself and attempting to change your behaviour to that of higher frequency is the true goal of life. Attempting to change an entire world that refuses you is folly.
The behaviours that are used in attempting to change others fall under the category of energy vampiring. Yes. Criticism of another's behaviour is an example of the ego's attempt to change another. It is often sharp and unappreciated, not taking the feelings of others into account. This is a highly controlling behaviour. It is an obvious form of attack.
Advice giving is another, disguised as an attempt to help. These behaviours are all listed under codependent behaviour. To give advice when it was never requested is an attempt to change someone who did not request help. It is a form of attack.
Name calling, calling others stupid, seeing others as less than yourself, are all forms of attack.Whether it is thought or spoken out loud does not matter.
Being jealous is another reason the ego attacks. For example the cashier who called you “sir” in the Dollar Store a few weeks ago. This was a subtle but still malevolent attack and it was intended to register with your self esteem.
One must always remember that when one lowers one's vibration, they are prone to energy vampiring behaviours. Because the soul connection has decreased and less love, less energy is felt, then the ego attempts to garner energy through obnoxious thinking (stinkin' thinkin' I believe your groups called it) will be re-employed. This is not the way. The way is through forgiveness which will always heal and raise one's vibration.
One must always be cognizant of the fact that when you are attacked, it is an issue with the attacker, not with you. You are simply the target and you have not done anything to deserve the attack. On the contrary, forgiveness is the way to go to correct the wrongs of your world. This is also in the Course in Miracles. You are here to forgive as you have been asked by source to do so. Your power is in your higher behaviours and thinking, and to do otherwise is what Jesus has called, “Indulging your weaknesses.” Many of you live lives of indulging your weaknesses and never understand or exercise your strengths. Your strength is in loving others, even those your ego takes exception with. Your ego is part of the problem on your earth. Your soul is the solution. Look at it that way.
Attacking behaviours? Any thought where another's flaw is the focus of your attention will lead to an attack. Seeing fault in others leads to attack. When you dislike the city you live in, Sharon, it is not the problem of the people that live around you – it is due to your incorrect choice of a place to live. Yes, you came to hold light there and now that job is finishing so you will be able to leave soon.
Me: Good. I'll search for something of a higher vibration.
Ivo: There are still opportunities for self improvement here. To rid yourself of your ego which dislikes what it sees, for example.
Me: True. I'll keep working on it, Ivo. Ivo I just saw you telling me something about practicing the new way of forgiving rather than attacking through the ego....
Ivo: Yes, as you were reading this back, I showed you what you can do to practice the correct behaviour. Instead of waiting for an event to happen which would trigger your ego into a defensive attack on another, use visualization of other events that have happened already, perhaps events where you were triggered into ego and then re-live these events in your mind but practicing the correct approach instead. For example the left turn where you yelled at the other driver who did not yield to the yellow light. See the person going through the yellow light and you calmly waiting for them to pass so you can turn on the red. This is acceptance and it is not acceptance of what is right but acceptance of what IS. Labelling it right or wrong invites the ego into the picture. Good / bad is another example where the ego is triggered. Avoid these labels at all costs. Life just is. Either you accept it and can take steps to change, or you reject it and cause yourself pain by blocking it.
Another example, when you were turning left into Adolphus Street and the person who wanted to turn left onto the street you were on cut you off and turned left in front of you although you had the right of way. You leaned on the horn and were extremely angry. You realize that you have these responses as a result of having PTSD still. Although you have improved, you still have some.
Me: Yes, no flashbacks anymore, thank God.
Ivo: But your quick temper is there and a sense of self-righteousness while you are behind the wheel. Remember that being in the right will not stop an accident from occurring. So it serves no purpose.
Me: I figure that's because I learned to drive when I was 16 and in full ego mode. I haven't really worked much on changing the way I view driving since that time but I need to. I found one trick that worked to help relax me and that was look at how few accidents there are compared to how much time people spend driving on the roads, so somebody has to be doing something right. There are more correct things done than not.
Ivo: And you realize your response is triggered by fear. So that is a start. Understand you feel vulnerable on the road. You gave up using a bike when you were 16 because you got doored and cut off in separate incidents, by the same woman who was unaware of the fact you were riding a bike near her as she tried to park.
Me: Yeah, I swore a blue streak at her. She seemed totally out of it. So I learned that day that many drivers don't have much situational awareness.
Ivo: Then you had a car accident shortly after you got your licence (3 weeks) so you got off to a bad start. This still needs to be healed, my love. I have told you that that was no accident but a murder attempt by the dark. Any other attempts to kill you have been caught and prohibited by myself and your team. However, expecting people to be perfect is folly. You must realize that. You make mistakes as well. And how do you feel when you do?
Me: Guilty and ashamed.
Ivo: These are maladaptive responses.
Me: Okay, I'll look at that.
Ivo: Very good my love. I will help you.
Me: I'm sure you will. LOL
"Nice" and "Perfect" are not real
There are a lot of people undergoing transition right now as we change from homo sapiens to homo divinicus. Expecting everyone to have a Pepsodent smile and to treat you with overwhelming love when they are in the emotional pits themselves is unrealistic.
I don't believe in venting my own stuff at others - making them the recipient of my bad mood and energy. I look at comments and questions in groups to see what's going on in the community.
I can understand that people would want to find someone who is safe for them and not going to turn on them. If you want that person, you have to BE that person. It's not fair to expect others to be something or someone that you can't be yourself or cannot reciprocate back to them. You have to attract that level of gentle lovingness by being that level of gentle lovingness. It's only fair really and life really is fair, at least when you look at universal law. There is much consistency out in the universe that has escaped us here on earth and that's because our leaders have created an environment for us that is unfair, very hurtful indeed.
What people tend to expect of me, and I'm sure I'm not the only person so this is for you all as well, is people expect me to be "nice" all the time and to behave "perfectly." What I feel they're looking for is an accepting parent because perhaps they didn't have any. They need to become their own parent and there is much information available on inner child work or self parenting. The more of your needs you put onto other people, the less responsibility you place on yourself. So the less progress you will make in your ascension.
Let me just remind you of a few things: I'm talking about draconians and archons running this planet, I'm talking about things that are intended to wake you out of the sleep you've been living in. The things I talk about are things that are the unsavory realities of life on our earth. Why do you think I will continue to be nice and tell you what you want to hear? But I get that. People are mad at me because I've rattled their cages by saying things that they don't want to hear. Why follow me then? If you can't take the truth, then go somewhere where people are lying to you. Like the news.
Expecting someone to be "nice" and to be "perfect" is expecting conformity of them. For someone who is a lightworker and waking up to the fact that you are from another planet, have another family and set of friends on this planet, never mind come from a completely different way of life, or perhaps you've never had a physical body and came from higher dimensions that had already dealt with the separation illusion, you would think you would have gotten past your need for conformity already. Because like it or not, you don't fit in.
I see a lot of lightworkers who are looking for like minded friends. This is not expecting conformity. It is trying to find someone who can relate to you as you are.
Attacking someone who has said something that you don't agree with is getting mad at them for not conforming to your expectations of them. It is entirely egotistical. It is also energy vampirism as most of our matrix behaviours are also energy vampirism.
If you haven't figured out that our world is not entirely nice, then you really need your eyes opened.
Back when I was younger when I complied with the idea that I had to be nice to everyone, no matter who they were or how they treated me, I was nice on the outside and seethingingly angry inside. The outside and the inside did not match because it was my ego that told me to present a pleasant face to the world. It was my mask. I've since taken off the mask. I'd think it was the first order of my ascension to start to match the two up so at least I would start expressing what was inside of me rather than bottling it all up and stuffing it down with food and yes, I don't overeat anything near what I used to.
I tried to be perfect in order to hide what was inside of me. That feeling of self loathing I did my best to cover up so people would like me. Now I don't care if people like me. I like myself and that's step one of the process.
Ivo: In the Matrix, you are all expected to tow the line, to conform to the standards that are outlined for you. You are taught this in school. You are taught this in your workplaces. You are taught this in church. You are taught this by your families and friends. You are expected to conform so you can fit in. You are expected to be nice. You are expected not to become a problem for others.
When in fact you are soul guided, you do not conform to external standards - you reflect your own inner standards. Sharon has claimed that she does not need laws to teach her how to behave and she does not. She has always governed her behaviour through her conscience - consideration of self, consideration of others. She does not go racing through the city at 80 mph because she understands that an accident would be imminent were she to do so. A lot of behaviour is simply common sense.
She does not go to the store and attempt to steal another woman's purse because her conscience tells her that stealing another's money is not conscientious.
Your laws are put in place to keep your people oppressed. That is the only reason why they are there. Those who are lawless do not regard the law anyway. They break the law, perhaps because they do not care or because they do not understand. Their egos tell them that they need to break the store windows and loot the stores because they do not have enough in their lives so they feel justified in stealing from others. This is not in alignment with the law of attraction and neither are they. Some knowledge of this might work well for them.
Having a poverty consciousness or a lack consciousness is the actual problem and of course this is created within your western societies as a means of keeping you oppressed. You learn the prize is money and you have little of it so your self esteem suffers. And it is expected of you as well. Because when you have more, people hate you. When you have less, people hate you. That is what happens when you do not conform to the norm as dictated by the person who believes in it. In that way, many of your western world comply with the norm. What we always wonder as we watch you is why do you intend to accumulate so much money that you will not be able to use upon your death? You pass it down to your children presumably and this is fine but the accumulation of something you never intend to use always perplexes us.
But I digress. This person, as has happened many times to Sharon, will expect her to comply with what they feel is normal. Sharon will not and the person will be unfriended for attempting to control in this way.
It is also expected that Sharon be nice all the time. Despite the videos we have published using Sharon's personal problems as subject matter for the videos, people still refuse to believe that she is flawed in any way.
Me: There's something wrong with that, Ivo.
Ivo: Yes, there is. They see you as a saviour of sorts.
Me: I have a lot of life experience. I have had to overcome sometimes insurmountable personal problems in order to just keep a roof over my head. I was so maladjusted to life on earth it wasn't funny anymore. I'm sure if a UFO had picked me up and brought me to Elteron, I'd have had no trouble fitting in at all.
Ivo: No, you would not. And that is the other thing that lightworkers must realize: they do not fit in to earth's fabric because they fit in to their home planet's and that home planet is very dissimilar. You do not fit in with the 3D Matrix because you are here to create a new reality for this planet. So your acquiescence to your societies' expectations was not possible. Not entirely. You came here to wake up to who you truly are.
Me: Ivo, let's try an experiment. Why don't you come and pick me up and take me to Elteron, for say, 17 years earth time, and we can do a video after that time on how we're right on this?
Ivo: Nice try, my love, but you know I am correct.
Me: I know. I just wish it wasn't so incredibly painful living on a planet with so many people who are so unloving, uncaring of others, who smile to your face while they think how much they despise you because you're pretty, for example.... I get that fired at me a lot.
Ivo: You are a being of love living on a basically loveless world. Why would you expect it to be a good experience?
Me: Thanks, Ivo. I won't fire the guilt trip at you that you let me go.
Ivo: It was you or I. You let me continue my commandership of the Tiannia and went in my place.
Me: It's been very unpleasant. I have some nice followers who are caring people. The hard part is trying to get across to followers that I don't speak matrix anymore and I'm not going to fit in to what they expect of me. And to stop attacking me for that.
Ivo: The fact that they cannot is evidence they are not ascended enough or removed enough from the matrix to understand themselves.
Ivo: The best thing to do is to understand them, have compassion for them, forgive them for attacking you and to unfriend those who you feel you do not wish to hear from anymore.
Me: That's a deal breaker for me: attack me, you're out. Thank you Ivo. With a cord cutting meditation afterwards as well.
Ivo: Yes. Do not allow them to remain attached or your energy will dwindle.
Me: Thank you Ivo.
Ivo: My love, I await the day you are back with me on Elteron. Being without you has been very hard for me as well. Watching you suffer in this heartless world has had a tremendous effect on my own energy.
Controlling Versus Loving Behaviours
Me: Ivo, how do we discuss this in 10 minutes or less?
Ivo: (smiling) It is a difficult task, to be sure.
Me: I have a few things I want to say to people who follow me. For starters, the ascension process requires your focus to be on yourself, not on others' faults as you perceive them. If you're going through ascension, keep your focus on yourself because the minute you switch to what someone else has done wrong, you're being controlling. In any interaction with another person, you're 50 per cent and they are 50 per cent of the transaction. The only part you can change is your half.
When you're focused on what others are doing wrong as per your perception, you're being controlling and frankly, you're focused on changing something that will be very difficult to do and interfering with their free will. Yes, I know. We learned that in the Matrix. Well, we're leaving the Matrix now.
The reason you want to control someone is because you're fearing them in some way. All controlling behaviours arise out of fear of them, not love for them.
Me: The next thing I want to say is I am one person who has thousands of people following me and scrutinizing my messages and my behaviour. If you think I'm perfect, you're deluding yourself. If you expect anyone to be perfect, think again. This is 3D/4D earth. Anyone who tries to correct my behaviour, to tell me how to behave, is an energy vampire and being very controlling and I will deal with them as I would any energy vampire.
Of course, people will wonder, "What about being forgiving?" Like I have said before, I forgive people constantly. I have to to be able to continue to do this work. However you won't get the chance to do it again or to become a problem for me by repeating the same behaviours over and over. Like anyone else, I know the pitfalls of having people in my life who behave dysfunctionally and I choose not to have them. I also know I'm targeted by the dark and that people are being used to disrupt my life and to keep my vibe low. The worst part is it works!
People expect because I'm followed by the public that I have to be nice all the time and I have to be perfect. I think people call that Hollywooding someone. What I am is real and authentic. I still have my warts and if you can't deal with me being real, then you need to drop this channel in a hurry because I am very real. I worked in a workplace where I felt I had to be nice no matter what others did to me, so I got severely abused. Don't think I didn't learn that lesson. They would get what was coming to them now if I were in the same situation. They would be told. No need to swear or call them names but I would be very assertive and I have always been that way since then. I am also outspoken.
Expecting me to conform to your vision of who I should be is your control issue. We make up stereotypes for people all the time. This person is a jock, so they should behave like this and then we're surprised when this jock is a caring, loving, humble man. This person is a Hollywood star so we expect them to be egotistical, obnoxious and full of themselves, and then when the person is kind, loving and an animal rescuer we're shocked. Throw out your stereotypes of people and learn to see them as they are. Understand in doing so, your ego's needs will get in the way. They will assert themselves while you are trying to assess this person's character and colour up your view of someone to be exactly as you want them to be.
There's a lot of this going on around people who are "spiritual types." We don't take into account that being spiritual and going through ascension has to do with releasing negative energetic blocks that we created in duality, or for some that they're empathic anyway and overwhelmed by negativity around them as it is, or that they have opted to transmute the familial DNA line so that new generations can be born into this DNA line without having to be traumatized. My familial DNA is a quarter Vegan, quarter Lyran and half Pleiadian. Right now, anyone born into this DNA line is assured a life of abuse as it is of very low vibration.
Because I'm transmuting this now, hopefully future generations will be of higher frequency because the DNA was cleared out of negativity. This is no small job. Both my parents were narcissists and I'm assuming that many were who were born in prior generations. I'm not an isolated case either. There are many more who are doing this so that humanity can continue to live on earth without the violence and suffering we've experienced to date.
That is spirituality and ascension. People have this idea of what spirituality is based on an ideal, which is common when we stereotype. We look at the ideal and automatically assume that is what that person is. We all have our dualistic natures, except for those who are ready to go to 5D because they have already transcended them. Your ego is the part of you that doesn't accept people as they are and it's because it has an agenda. You either want to point out their flaws and feel superior to them, or you want them to be perfect so you can take an inferior place under them or to be safe with someone for a change.
The soul has no need to do that. It accepts all as they are without playing ego games. It understands the goal of all lives as being ascension and embodiment of the higher dimensions within the physical in this life. The ego tries to thwart that by getting you to misunderstand your true purpose on earth and getting you to hate those who you feel are beneath or above you. Don't listen to it and stop trying to fix people you feel don't meet your standards. They are on their own path led by their higher selves whether they have contact or not.
Nice and perfect are not real. I am authentic and express my authentic self and some people may not like this. Again, expecting me to conform to your vision of who I should be is your control issue.
Ivo: You will get there, my love.
Me: Unconditionally loving? I wish! It's a helluva' stretch going from a child who has suffered narcissistic abuse to being unconditionally loving. And it's a lot of work. To be able to love everyone and not to be affected by their behaviour would be the ideal. I've drempt of that all my life.
Ivo: Keep working on raising your vibration and working on forgiving those who transgress in error.
Me: Yes, it's about raising your vibration, isn't it? Because I know I've been in a space before where I couldn't have cared less what anyone said or did. I'm not there now.
Ivo: Your goal was shown to you. You were happy.
Me: I'm not now, and BTW people don't send me your energy. I didn't ask for you to send me your energy and this too, is a violation of my free will if you send it. I happen to have myself blocked off from receiving any energy from anyone because unfortunately your energy also includes your own issues and I don't need any more to deal with. I have plenty of baggage to last me this trip on earth. Plenty to deal with. I am already overwhelmed. Thank you for your kind thoughts, but I'm not interested in mixing energy with any more people than I have to. Ivo's making me laugh!
Ivo: We can mix energies, my love!
Me: We do all the time, Ivo. I love talking to you guys because your energy is so much higher than what I'm used to and it feels so good.
Ivo: You will get there, my love. You will return home to me. You did take on a large load - many lightworkers have chosen to do so. You understood the earth needed you to do this and you complied.
Me: No comment.
Ivo: It does not feel good and now Akon has said that the energies you are feeling now will not abate until the solstice.
Me: That's all I needed. But then yes, I have to remember I'm not doing this for myself. When I think I'm doing this for myself, then it doesn't make sense. When I remember I'm doing this for others, to keep a species of humans alive and restarting an ascension process, then it makes sense. I sacrificed 75 years for the sake of others. No, I'm not martyring myself.
Ivo: As for those who try to control vs. loving behaviours, I have one word of advice to help people to understand what they are attempting to do. When you are attempting to accept a person AS THEY ARE, with faults and all, this is a loving behaviour.
But when you are attempting to CHANGE a person to something other than what they are, this is a controlling behaviour. You are assessing what you see as being wrong with them, then attempting to fix it by saying something to them, or sending your energy to them, or whatever action you may be taking. But you are attempting to change them, and when you attempt to change others to how you feel they should be, you are attempting to control them.
A person who surfs the internet or deals with others by looking for their faults is a controller. Nobody wishes to have their faults pointed out to them and with these ascension processes, it is not necessary to do so. If you do so, it is for the sake of your ego alone and you must be aware that your behaviour will not be welcomed by many.
Sharon has been having a moody month. Since she took chanka piedra which started to detox her liver and she ended up in the emergency unit requiring fluids because she could not eat or drink, she has been having a hard time. Energies are working to rid her of her customary impatience and her own controlling behaviours. She is feeling it.
So when her moodiness shows the controllers come out to tell her how she must behave in order to conform to what they want her to be.
Me: Exactly as the Matrix has taught everyone: keep everyone else in compliance! Keep them in line by telling them they're out of line! This has filtered over to the spiritual community as well: this Matrix behaviour of expecting compliance to some standard. Exactly the same. We should do a video on this as well, Ivo. How the Matrix mind and ego has infiltrated the spiritual community.
Ivo: We can.
Allowing people to go through their moods because moods are part of a healthy process of seeing the light and changing one's behaviour, is being loving. Trying to tell the person what to do to either cut the process short or how to behave because you feel threatened by that person or disappointed that they do not live up to your view of who they should be, is controlling behaviour.
There are caveats to this of course. If the other's moods are a threat to your physical well being or are creating a life of havoc complete with emotional abuse, then it would be best to rethink the relationship.
As for an occasional moody post on Facebook then it is not a problem unless you make it a problem. There are people who are compulsive fixers but they must understand that they are energy vampires. This is a problematic behaviour. Needing to change others because you feel you know better than they do, especially when it pertains to their own life, is controlling, vampiric and an infringement of their free will and their ascension process. When asked to help, that is different. But so many offer help even when it is not asked for and then do not understand why they are being rebuffed.
Me: It's like my old aunties.
Ivo: You have had every sort of interference imaginable in your life, provided firsthand by your family and relatives.
Me: My family was a bunch of energy vampires and they became the inspiration for all my posts now. Wait till we get going on the next book, Ivo! I'll be on a roll then. But I'm waiting till the solstice ends to start writing.
Ivo: Very good.
Me: To sum up, I put this together as channeled by Ivo:
How to figure out if you're being loving or being controlling:
1. Someone's behaviour bothers you (big clue),
2. You're focused on them, not on yourself and your reaction to their behaviour, (controlling),
3. You do something or tell them something that is intended to change them, presumably to become more the way you want them to be, (controlling)
4. Instead of accepting they are like this (loving) and asking them if they want to talk or would like some help - leaving that option entirely in their hands (loving).
5. Expecting conformity to some imaginary (or not) standard is Matrix ego-based behaviour.
It's about tossing aside what you expect others to be in favour of accepting them as they are. Bearing in mind, your own boundaries and that they don't violate your right to safety and non-abuse.
Ivo: The point is to ask the questions, “How does their behaviour affect me?” “Does this behaviour disempower me?” “Does my reaction disempower me?” When you seek to rescue, to fix or to correct the person who you see as faulty, you are in effect lowering your own vibration and disempowering yourself. Any act of ego is an act of disempowerment. Do not forget that. You are intending to interfere with their free will to be who they are and to behave as they want.
Me: Good point, Ivo.
Ivo: The last thing to ask is, “How can I be more loving?” Being more loving can include bearing witness to their behaviour and not responding to it, especially negatively. That is an extremely loving act. To allow them to be themselves and mirror back to them your acceptance of them as they are!
Me: You do it all the time, Ivo. LOL You have to! LOL
Ivo: I do. I hear you. I witness your moods, your anger, your frustration at being on this planet that you dislike so much and so badly want to change. I witness your anger at the inhumanity of humans towards others and towards the earth and the animals. I believe I understand why you feel the way that you do about your life. I have been there as your guide throughout your entire life and I feel I know all of you, even your physical mind. It is hard to surprise me. I often know the roots of your behaviour before you understand them. I love you as you are. Even with your warts as you call them.
Me: I love you too, Ivo.