Be the Message

​So much coming up today! So productive!
If you don't like the way someone behaves, don't start criticizing, nagging and controlling them. Nobody listens to a critical nag!
The way to get people to change is to be an example for them. This is much less hands-on and it will take tolerance, patience and love on your part, if they decide to change at all. Whether someone changes is up to them and them only - not you. You don't have the right to expect others to change to suit yourself - this is a free will zone (dark interference excepted).
If you don't have tolerance, patience and unconditional love, then you need to take measures yourself but this does not mean to try to change others to suit you. That doesn't work. We've all tried it, let's face it.
Often people don't like in others what they have repressed and don't like in themselves. Nobody wants to look at behaviours they haven't accepted in themselves being acted out in others. But life is a mirror.
Like they say:
God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change
The courage to change the things I can
And the wisdom to know the difference.
This is exactly what that 12 step prayer means!