This is what happens when energies speed up... we begin to see what we have manifested earlier so now we can make a correlation.
Last night I was talking to my neighbours and her mother Sue came along. She asked about the cat flap and if there is a problem with other animals getting in the house. I said no, it's been pretty good, and at night time because I have the big door shut, there's no problem. blah blah blah
A couple hours later Merlin comes tearing through the cat flap, runs around the living room and then starts to focus on the book shelf. I look at what he's chasing because there is definitely something there - a mouse. It got away, Merlin stood down eventually, and I could see what Sue had manifested for me very readily.
I just hope none of those black cats with the white stripes down their backs try to get in. They smell pretty bad!
Me: Ivo, I see this as something that Sue manifested for me. I never really gave other animals coming in the cat flap any thought, but she was worried about it and directed that energy to me. I responded by saying, “No, there's never been any problem.” Not that tonight was a problem, it's not, but I believe I was being shown something. Actually it was kind of funny, except for the mouse, who did end up getting away, by the way.
Ivo: You were being shown the power of your thoughts.
For example, right now you saw a woman walking up the street with a t-shirt that reads, “Thank you for social distancing,” and you muttered, “Stupid signs. It'd be a cold day in hell before I'd wear that on my back.”
Me: It's true.
Ivo: However you shot low vibrational energy her way. Perhaps instead look at the person and feel compassion that she has to sell her soul in order to make a living.
Me: Everyone has to do that, pretty much!
Ivo: You do not. You get to celebrate your soul by doing the channelings. And you are in touch with everyone else's as well.
Me: I know. I'm lucky.
Ivo: All low vibrational thoughts must go somewhere. Energy is love in action. If you are looking at another person, talking to another person, or thinking about another person, that is where your thoughts are going. You must become very aware of this and stop it if it is negative, because you are doing no good for the world this way.
Ivo: I will keep reminding you as you need to be reminded. The other thing I remind you of is giving yourself negative thoughts.
Be careful about what personal messages you give to yourself...
Me: I'm taking on the role of putting out messages to the Angel Light warrior group now as well. That's fine. I'm an influencer and I have to use that to the best advantage for the Light. I really think this is important. Today's message was that the Philippines is going to start arresting anti-vaxxers and we really need people to turn that around for them. Are we going to take this sitting down? I don't think so! Who's in charge of this world? We are!
Now, if someone sends me negative energy that said, “You are going to lose all your channeling abilities,” would this be possible?
Ivo: Indeed, other people can control your reality. If they so desire. It happens all the time, it is called the Matrix, but there must be some co-operation.
You have had people send you negative energy which has robbed you of all your ability to work.
Me: Yes, until you blocked her.
Ivo: Which makes a point. Employing shields against the negative energy of others, against the negative energy of those with attachments, against the negative energy of life in general is good energetic maintenance. Repairing “holes” in one's aura is also wise. And deleting energy cords from others is worthwhile doing daily. That way you walk as a more focused, authentic person. With too many cords, you give too much energy away, and we all know this, the parent who is always on the go, running from one demanding family member to the next. This person is poorly corded and must detach these cords and take their power back, literally. This is how re-empowerment of a personality occurs: when you release cord attachments and you literally have more energy to empower yourself on the mental and emotional levels. Doing such a thing reflects a change in your physical world of a person becoming more assertive.
The problem with being connected to others is that they are connected to the negative Matrix. Unless they are cognizant of this, and work to keep their aura clear, then being corded to them can be a problem for you.
The other way you are disempowered is through negative messages you give yourself. And so you must be cognizant of them as well.
Me: For example, the “I'm busy” messages come up, which mean, “I have too much to do.” So I change them to “I've got this, I can handle this.” I can set priorities and deal with it all. I can see the job I'll be doing versus Ivo's, who will be working with the TV station. I can see that lovely man, sitting looking up at me as I think about him. He's got his legs crossed.
But yeah, I want to discuss this in more detail because I need a reminder. Oh oh. There's the ambulance and the police.
Ivo: Send higher energy to Mrs Roper.
Me: She's in better health than I am and she's 80.
Ivo: Send her higher energy, my love.
Me: Yes, she's one of the characters in this neighbourhood and has taken on the role of animal protector for every animal she can find. Very concerned about Merlin's bad knee a couple weeks ago, but we got that fixed. He has a ligament problem in his right knee. Vet said it was a football type injury. Merlin doesn't play football and I don't understand football, but I'll take his word for it.
Ivo: It is hard work for all of you upon earth to stay out of negativity, but now more than ever it is important. Practise, practise, practise.
When Sue had that conversation with you, she created the possibility within your mind. Even though you said it was not really possible for any other animals to come in, or that you hadn't had a problem with it, she still put that bug in your mind. The reason you did not see it as a problem, but rather as an amusing incident is because you do not see it as a problem. Period. So you were amused when the mouse flew through the cat flap.
When you talk about people, gossipping and backstabbing, you are sending the person negative energy. All people bring gifts with them. It is a question of seeing the gift. Pain is a wonderful teacher in the lower dimensions, we have dispensed with it in the higher dimensions, but it does motivate one to seek solutions.
If you must, envision every person you interact with or even think about, as holding their arms out in a gesture of giving. What are they giving you? What are they showing you? What wisdom do you have to gain by understanding their being in your life now. Because it is your show, your life, your movie, your play, the novel you are writing. It is all for the learning. When you see everyone who is in your life as bringing a gift to you, then you will stop hating others.
Your neighbours are giving you the gift of giving. You help them out because they are having a hard time right now, and so now the boy will have new summer clothing, which they cannot afford. You have always wanted to help people through philanthropy, now you are doing it.
They are also teaching you to do this with hands off, because you realize they overspend in many ways and do not understand that if they curbed this spending, they would be able to afford more. They think they are doing well with their income.
Me: I remember someone who had purse habits, would buy all sorts of expensive desserts, and squandered money like mad when she couldn't afford to, so I just shut up. I give them what I give them with no strings attached. It doesn't give me the right to tell them how to spend it.
Ivo: Others come to you with their information and their talents, and they are allowing you to post up pages about their work on your website. This is another gift you get to give to others – responsible caring contacts you have that can help the people who follow you.
(the section on our website is called “Lightworkers In Their Roles.” I've found some interesting people.)
Me: Yes. Stephanie also deals with helping targeted individuals, so she's a real gem, I think.
Ivo: Energy is always in motion, it never stands still. If you think negative thoughts about another, they receive it, perhaps not consciously, but they do. If you think positive thoughts about another, the same applies.
The way to deal with the DS is to love them. Send them love. It is not their vibration, but it is yours. You are enforcing your own I AM and standing before them as if to say, “I do not approve of what you are doing. You do not control me.”
You can live a lifetime just sitting on the couch. Your thoughts are everything.
Yesterday when you went to the store, you said that the car parked in the spot ahead of yours will be gone so that you can pull straight out. However, you have also said that every time you get into your car in a parking lot, one of the spots adjacent to yours has owners returning to their cars. It never fails. So because you said this never fails, the man did return to the car across from yours and spent time on his cell phone so you could not pull straight out. You had to back out of your spot instead. If you had said that this was the predominant thought, then he would have pulled away to allow you out. Your mind is a super accurate manufacturer of reality. Whichever is the predominant thought, will prevail. If you have conflicting thoughts, then often you end up with nothing, no progress in either direction.
You must make a finely tuned, sharp as steel, projector of energy of your mind. Very focused on one thought that you wish to create.
No more saying, “I'm too busy,” which means I am overwhelmed. If you wish not to be overwhelmed, affirm the opposite, “I've got this. I can do this.”
Me: Yes, old Weight Watchers meetings taught me this. I did do it too. LOL
Ivo: Send positive thoughts to all, thoughts of compassion, understanding, not anger.
Me: Maybe I don't want to relate to what they're doing, though.
Ivo: It does not mean you agree with them, my love, it means you feel for their plight.
Ivo: Yes, many of you use anger as a barrier. You say, “I am behind this barrier,” and everything before you is subject to your ire. Take these limits away from yourself and say that you have compassion for all life. It does not mean that you agree with all, it means that you simply relate on some level, either through past experience or simply because you can. Your soul is compassionate. Exercising compassion connects you to soul.
Me: I had another idea last night, Ivo. People are asking us how to become more telepathic. If you're at all artistic, and even if you're not, try sketching a person's face from memory. Even a simple sketch. I use drawings to sketch from when I draw, I don't sketch what's in my mind's eye. But if you can learn to hold an image that you've taken from a photograph and re-sketch it on paper, then the more you are training your mind to hold an image in your mind's eye. In doing that I'm sure you'll be closer to seeing what's out beyond our visual abilities soon enough. I remember when I was astral traveling at first, I had trouble holding the images. And I could still stand to work on it, to be honest.
One of the things I like to draw is caricatures. I've done politicians and Mick Jagger.
Ivo: Yes, this is a good idea. Also when practising to become clairaudient – to hear voices in one's head – then begin to recite poetry from memory. Your ability to focus on words and to recall them will help you to become clairaudient.
Me: There's a book out about that by Joseph Weed called, “Wisdom of the Mystic Masters.” He's a Rosicrusian and he has all these exercises for focusing the mind in this book.
Ivo: Very good, my love. The information is on earth. It is coming back out again. What many believe makes a focused mind is more caffeine, in fact it is relaxing and being calm that allows the mind to focus.
Me: Thanks Ivo.
Ivo: You are most welcome, my love.
We create emotional safety within ourselves through integrity
We create safety in relationships through consistency and compassion
We create physical safety through our perception and our actions as needed
Me: Ivo, can you expand upon this please?
Ivo: Have I not been?
Me: Yes, but in a nutshell.
Ivo: This is why I encourage you all to embrace higher values of charity, compassion, forgiveness, honesty, gratefulness, kindness, discipline, and patience.
When you indulge in these higher emotional states you raise your frequency above the vibration of fear. Quite often because these states are on a continuum, simply reversing your behaviour will put you into the higher state.
For example, when you are unforgiving, if you embrace forgiveness, then you are in the higher emotional state.
Me: That's a no brainer, Ivo. It's how do you get there?
Ivo: Obviously, not engaging in your normal reactive behaviour. Sit and think for a moment, and choose the higher path. Ask yourself, “How do I choose to respond to this?” It is often that in the matrix you have learned to react out of fear, so to be in a higher state of frequency, in higher mind, takes a moment to make a different choice. Sometimes it takes longer depending on how armed your fight or flight response is.
Me: Yes. I need to do chakra rebalancing or deep breathing. That helps move me back into the parasympathetic nervous system.
Ivo: Which is my point. You already know how to do these things because you come from higher dimensions, but you have a predisposition to acting out of fear because you have been trained to be on earth.
When you spend all day in front of the computer, you have the time to make choices differently. When you go on social media, this is a good way to practise creating safety for yourself with people by behaving in an ethical, integrous way.
It is more difficult when you are face to face with others but you now have a new forum of relating to other people besides face to face communication, and this forum allows for a slower response, even days in between in conversations where you can mull over a better choice.
Me: That's true. One good thing to be said about electronic communication.
Ivo: Perhaps you have been ungrateful for a situation you have been in. You are reminded of the cameras a neighbour put up to view and record his yard and your next door neighbour's reaction at seeing he was being filmed. But in the same vein, now his wife's car accident was filmed on camera and now there is evidence that she did not contribute to the accident because of the camera being there. So instead of ungratefulness, there is gratitude that the cameras were filming.
Perhaps you read a post and your first instinct is to react unkindly. But you delay your response and the next day when your mood has changed, you react differently – now you post a kind response. This is how you can move away from anxiety and move into a higher frequency. Through practise and actually waiting to respond and then thinking about a higher frequency response in the meanwhile.
Me: Gives the negative aliens indigestion too. No loosh to be had.
Ivo: Correct. If you would all do this, they would starve.
As for relationships, I have created safety for you by being consistent and compassionate.
Ivo: Had I treated you as you had been treated on earth, you would have refused to speak to me.
Ivo: So I am doing a good job then.
Me: LOL I'm going to give you more chances soon.
Ivo: Ah, I see.
We do have compassion for all of you upon earth. You gave up so much to go to help others who were suffering. Now you live as they do: suffering as well, everything from financial difficulties to teeth falling apart. These things would not have happened to you had you remained with us, and we appreciate that you went to help others and are willing to work with us to continue to help others.
It is that you do not remember the compassion you felt for earthlings that you criticize them now, and call them sheep, because if you would ask your higher self to let you tap into that energy in meditation, you would be overwhelmed by the immense compassion she or he would have for you and for those who walk upon earth. It would bring you to your knees to just feel some of it.
Then I would tell you that that is who you are, not the person on earth that you have been told you are. Not at all.
Ask your higher self to show you next time you meditate. Let me connect with your compassion. You will be overwhelmed.
It goes without saying that what the earth needs is more compassion, at the level of your higher self. Your job is to embody that. So practise as I have instructed you to: stop your automatic response, take a deep breath, walk away if you need to, calm yourself down and when you are calm and recentered, then make your comment. While you are riled up you will only create loosh, and for that matter bad karma.
When you practise this, you will learn to stop suffering.
Me: Thanks Ivo.
Ivo: We have channeled 4 videos today, my love, so shall we stop?
Me: I was just getting started.... LOL
Ivo: Your curiosity knows no bounds, my love.
Understanding Ego Behaviour
Ivo: Always be on the lookout for ego. Ego is the part of the soul that attempts to create unhappiness.
Me: It's simple, really. You have examined your behaviour and you tend to act in ways you've become familiar with. You can understand your reaction to things, you can pretty much anticipate how you'll react to something, can't you?
What if you were having dinner and someone sneezed in your plate? You know how you'd react, wouldn't you?
Let's face it, this isn't something that you'd really want to happen to you, but we know, shit happens sometimes.
Don't you love the person who says, “Oh, bless you, but I will take a fresh plate of food,” and then smiles because they know the whole world hasn't caved in. Are you that person? Would you take such a situation so gracefully? Would you help to alleviate feelings of shame and embarrassment in the sneezer by taking it so gracefully and being forgiving? Would you console the sneezer and offer them kleenex with a smile and a kind pat on the back of the shoulders?
Would you just have a chuckle, and laugh it off in a relaxed way, hoping that the sneezer will understand it's no big deal. Then order a new plate from the server without making a fuss.
Or would you be less loving?
Are you the one who would say, “Eeuuw, that's so gross!” Would you sit there expecting an exchange of words between the sneezer and the sneezee? Are you the one expecting a nasty exchange of words?
Are you one of the ones who sits at the table, laughs and then seems to enjoy this uncomfortable moment, maybe pulling out your cell phone and taking a picture of everyone's faces, hoping to get a laugh out of it on facebook. And then maybe adding a comment about what an idiot the sneezer is.
Is that you?
Are you the one who decides to get disgusted and exclaim your disgust out loud, embarrassing not only the sneezer and the sneezee but making everyone else uncomfortable at the crowded table? Do you not care whether your outburst draws the attention of everyone else in the restaurant and whether the sneezer is humiliated because of it?
Do you make things worse or do you make things better? Do you make mountains out of mole hills, or do you take the opportunity to revel in the fact you think someone else is an idiot and they deserve to look stupid for doing this?
Can you see the difference between an egotist and someone who lives from soul now? Is it more clear?
Are you trying to make things better or to make things worse?
Who would you want sitting beside you at the table?
The point has to be made, and Ivo has made it with us in so many ways already, that you suffer from your own vibrational frequency or you benefit from it.
The ones who are expecting a brawl, or who think nothing of embarrassing the entire table in public suffer from their own low vibrational reactions. The ones who have a giggle or who take it gracefully are the ones who benefit from their own reactions.
Let's try another one. Let's do my neighbour's recent situation. She just started a new job, had backed her car out of the driveway and was putting it into drive when someone came out of the driveway across the street and rammed her rear quarter panel. My neighbours have been having a tough time lately, many things have gone wrong in their lives, and they certainly didn't need this. Turns out the dent looks like it could be banged out with a baseball bat and bondoed, at least that's the way we used to do it back in the 70's. I think the damage is minimal because the gas tank and the rear lights weren't even touched. She hit the right spot if she had to hit it.
How do you react in a situation like this?
Take the opportunity to go ballistic and make her feel like shit?
Deal with your irritation and just go about the business of getting insurance details, names, etc. without making her feel unduly embarrassed. You might say this is highly inconvenient to her but you're not going to go overboard.
Understand that accidents happen, and have a more forgiving standpoint.
Let's face it, with day to day stresses, there is a challenge here. The challenge is to behave the way you would envision yourself behaving, in a way you would be proud of yourself. I know Ivo has something to say about this, so let's ask him.
Ivo: In fact, my love, when these types of things happen there are many energetic viewpoints to consider. There is often the energetic viewpoint of standing negative energy that has not been dealt with. Many of you have this. But work must be done to release negative energies within you so that your reaction or rather your action taken, in these situations can be of a higher nature.
When you have undealt with accumulated energy from past situations, and many of you do because of your tendency to find emotions inconvenient and your tendency to repress them, this energy will attach itself to the energy generated at this event, and will take the opportunity to unleash itself finally. Yes, that is why you have people who “go postal” or “go ballistic” or have road rage incidents. You are terrible emotional processors and that is because you are always asked to present your best face.
Many people go through a stressful day but do not take 15 minutes to sit and allow repressed feelings to vent. So they build up. Do you journal at the end of the day, writing about situations such as these and allowing your thoughts and feelings to emerge? This is the way of learning about who you truly are and where your ego is inhibiting your enjoyment of life.
Because the ego does not allow you to enjoy life. Only the soul knows love. The ego is fear-based. When people take pictures and then call the sneezer an idiot on facebook, it is because they are hoping that they never have to be in the same situation of embarrassment. This reaction is one of relief that it did not happen to me. However because you are charging your energy negatively, in fact something like this will happen to you, as you now have karma to rebalance.
Yes, the ego is all about karma. The soul does not accumulate karma. It vibrates higher than these cycles.
Ask yourself how many times you have acted out of charity, compassion, patience, humility, forgiveness, gratefulness and kindness.
Having an attitude of gratitude is a good way to ward off any bad karma in your life. Did you realize this? This will not require that you spend time paying off bad karma, or rebalancing negative energies you have charged and released into the ethers.
It is the best insurance any car owner can buy.
Me: Ivo, thanks. I know I keep saying how wonderful my car is and how nothing ever goes wrong with it. I've had it 4 years and every time I take it in for a regular service check, I can tell they're trying to find some way to justify making money off of me but they can't. They only figure I must do city driving, so they keep re-doing the brakes. I know what they're doing. Nothing ever goes wrong with the car!
Ivo: Precisely. You have them flummoxed.
Me: The thing's four years old. It's still low mileage but it runs like a top. Having a positive attitude goes a long way.
Ivo: It does indeed.
Interpreting All As Fear
Is this fear? We interpret all of these things as fear, I believe. Sometimes we dare, double dare ourselves to go and do it anyway, like go to the concert even if we don't think we'll be comfortable.
You're afraid your kid is going to get hit by a car when he crosses the street, but is this fear or love for your child?
You hit the brakes so you don't collide with the car in front of you. Is this your fear of hitting another car and going through the insurance headache, or is it out of love for self that you do this?
You've had it in your relationship and you leave him or her. They've been abusive and you're not putting up with it. Is this out of fear that they'll get worse or out of love for yourself that you won't take anymore and frankly, should never have started?
You're going to emergency because you fear you've had a heart attack, or because out of self love you want to keep living?
You're afraid you're going to get fired at your job so you take a course to upgrade your skills, or are you doing it out of self love and the desire for better in your life?
You're looking for another job because you think the company will fold. They're not saying anything but you've been watching the stock markets and your boss seems to be packing up his stuff. His office is looking bare and he seems to be working on something at his desk that looks like a resume. But he's not saying anything. So you prepare. Is this out of fear or out of self love?
Your weight is up 50 pounds over your ideal weight and you don't like it. Are you dieting because you fear getting heavier or are you dieting because you want better for yourself and want to look better?
You're starting a walking regime because you want to get some exercise. Is this because you fear your health getting worse or because you want better for yourself?
You take a vacation because you need a break. Why? Because you fear if you don't you'll have a heart attack or because you feel you deserve it.
You're not going to the Three Dog Night reunion (even though there's only two dogs left, one is gone already and his was my favourite voice, but hey!) and you think maybe “Mama Told Me Not to Come,” and maybe you shouldn't because the crowd might be rough there and you won't be comfortable. Is that because of fear or because you love yourself too much to make yourself feel uncomfortable unnecessarily?
Do you see? Fear and love are on the same continuum. They are two opposite ends of the spectrum and all you have to do is to find the opposite end to switch your brain to love. It's like flipping a coin. If you do everything out of fear, then you need to realize that you're looking at it the wrong way and just practise seeing it the right way.
If you want to open your heart and keep it open, if you want to see life the way your higher self sees it, start with this. Your interpretation of everything you do and why other people do what they do.
Ivo: When you are mind manipulated into lower vibrational thinking, fear becomes rampant. Everything is interpreted through the same filter, and you are forced to believe that everything is actually an expression of fear, when in fact it is not.
That was the point I was trying to make with you earlier, and now you have expanded upon it.
We will look at shame and guilt later as well because there are often loving things you do for yourself and feel shame at doing so.
Your collective thinking upon earth needs to change. With the higher vibrations coming in, this is more allowable now. Your minds can grasp a better interpretation of life's events than you have been led to believe.
Me: Thanks Ivo
Ivo: Thank you, my love, for being willing to think differently.
Ivo doesn't speak directly in this channeling but it was a combined effort between he, Sigrid, Athena and me.
What Is Unconditional Love?
Caring is not always doing.
Caring is sometimes not doing.
Caring is not always giving.
Caring is sometimes not giving.
Caring for others is listening. Caring for yourself can mean listening to others.
Caring for yourself can mean not listening to others. It can be, like whenever my neighbour was talking, he'd yak a stream of lies and bullshit nonstop, and I'm not exaggerating. I would go into the house because I couldn't take it. It was just noise. Would it have been more loving to have listened to him? No? why? Because he was lying.
Or what about not watching the news? Caring for yourself is not listening here too.
When we talk about being unconditionally loving, what are we talking about? Only one of these dualities, like the one the person wants? Does this mean unconditionally loving or is there another definition?
Being unconditionally loving simply means doing everything with love in your heart, not out of fear. That's it. Conditions are fear based.
Being unconditionally loving means doing things with courage, wisdom, intention, with awareness. It does not mean doing something that doesn't offend anyone else, doesn't anger anyone else, it doesn't mean doing something that doesn't hurt anyone else.
That's pretty radical. Being unconditionally loving yet the other person gets hurt? Why? Because that's their choice to be hurt, that's not anything you have power over.
If I say to you, “Thank you but I don't want you to send me emails with suggestions for my PTSD,” and you do, and I bin the email and you get hurt, is that my fault? Am I responsible for the fact that you're hurt? No. Why? Because I warned you I didn't want your email. I told you. If you don't listen, that's not on me, you hurt yourself.
Many people think other people “make” them do something. That's because our largely unconscious society is very reactive. When you're not reactive, and more deliberate about what you think, say and do, you realize that this concept of someone “making” you a particular way is false. You may even resent it.
He hurt me. No, he didn't. Unless it's a physical hurt, anything else is an emotional hurt. Have you ever been so "on to" someone toxic that you stop reacting to every nasty thing they say and do? This person is doing you a huge favour: They are teaching you to take responsibility for your own emotions and to stop reacting to others. Unless you choose to. What a wonderful lesson! Live with my boozer/drug addicted friend for three years and you stop reacting to his insults and begin to realize you're above all of this and it's really because of him that he acts that way. It has nothing to do with you and it never did. I used to just sit there looking at him saying, "Uh huh," and of course this was cause for another litany of insults about how stupid I was, or whatever, but I had just stopped reacting to him. I didn't believe him anymore. These people can do more for your self esteem than the nice kindergarten teacher you had that loved your butterfly drawings!
Unconditional love is living with no fear. Do you set conditions with others? Yes. Out of love for yourself and/or them.
Unconditional love is explaining assertively to another person how you feel.
Conditional fear based emotions would have you screaming at this person in anger.
Unconditional love is setting a boundary because you have needs you want others to acknowledge.
Conditional fear based scenario would have you not even trying, letting yourself be overrun, or not even asking.
People show you where your limits are. The people who challenge you show you where your limits are.
I know I have limitations around theft, I hate being stolen from. I have limitations around my PTSD and anxiety. I still have old triggers from when I was a child: not being listened to, my needs not being met by others, no workable social interaction.... People not respecting me. I released my sister because she called me “an interesting nut”. Ivo had to impress upon me the fact that she doesn't even respect me, so why was I in a relationship with her?
Unconditional love does mean you recognize you have limits and you protect yourself.
I'm curious that unconditional love seems to say, “In love being unconditional, you can't set boundaries.” I think many people think that's what it means: that you have no boundaries. In having boundaries, what do they do for you: loose boundaries mean you take on others' emotions and this leads to emotional drain and fatigue. Common signs of loose boundaries include overinvolvement in others’ lives; perfectionism and people pleasing; trying to fix and control others with judgments and advice; staying in unhealthy relationships; taking on too much work or too many commitments; and avoiding being alone too much. When your boundaries are too loose you can feel responsible for everything and everyone, powerless, imposed upon, and resentful. (taken from internet website)
Here are some signs that your boundaries need adjusting:
If you don't believe me, ask your higher self to show you how much they love you. You may have 3 near misses, one fender bender, and a case of the flu that you survived before you begin to realize you're supposed to be here, but your higher self will ensure you get the message one way or the other. It's a question of understanding the message – your being alive means your higher self loves you. That doesn't mean that people dying means their higher self is upset with them, by no means. It just means that their job here is finished. All good things must come to an end!
Boundaries are set in many ways: with yourself (internal boundaries), and with others (external boundaries). Internal boundaries regulate your behaviour and your conscience often has something to do with that. External boundaries are your agreements with other people.
Boundaries with other people specify how you want to relate to them. Now, ideally you are such a fantastic manifester that nobody that comes into your life brings anything negative for you to learn from anymore. You've done all your work and life now is a breeze. I believe there are people like that. They can love everyone who's in their life because they're not dealing with the underbelly of life anymore. Most of us aren't there. We need boundaries. When we set a boundary it's for some reason that's advantageous to either us, them or both parties. When your boss says, “I'll talk to you later about this,” they are setting a boundary that they don't have time now, talk to me when I have available time.
I like boundaries because I use them when I realize that I've had enough of something, learned my lesson and I'm not going to go there anymore. I've noticed that when boundaries are weak, the lesson has to go forward. I've had several drug addicted alcoholics living around me the last 6 years who have all made their availability clear to me. I have turned them all down. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt, learned the lesson.
I also use boundaries with others to protect my time. I use boundaries with Merlin to protect the cleanliness of my home: I don't like him walking on the countertop because he's a dirty outdoor cat that sleeps under the neighbouring house. I have another boundary: I don't bathe cats with soap and particularly in water because they hate water. It would be traumatizing for him. I also don't like spraying anything on him. I let him clean himself but I don't like him on the counter top because I eat food from that.
We tend to have boundaries to protect things that are dear to us, like our time, our money, our relationships, our sleep time, our relaxation time and more and for me, my counter top cleanliness. LOL
How can we be unconditionally loving when we are in a limited physical reality? We can do our best. Basically I feel we're in two worlds simultaneously, the physical world and the spiritual world. Setting boundaries and limits with yourself and others in the physical world is necessary because of the current situation here, it's a free will zone where precious few exercise free will. In the end, you have to examine your motivation for setting a boundary: Is it out of love or is it out of fear? Are you trying to make something good come out of it or are you afraid something bad will happen if you don't say no?
Learning to Take a “No”
I'm interested in the fact that since I started doing personal channelings that the dislikes on my videos have increased. Not by much, but they have. Perhaps you are the ones who really need to hear these messages, not the people who agree with them so you're welcome to keep hating my video's. Or maybe you're one of my stalkers and you're pissed off that I keep blocking you and refunding your donations. Who knows? Or maybe you didn't like the comment I made about why I shut off comments on these video's. You guys know who you are. There are wonderful people who follow us and I respect and love you. Then there are the ones who are still argumentative, and frankly, I'm not a referee and I won't spend my time trying to settle arguments between you and the trolls. Everything you need to avoid arguing with a troll is in Ivo's words and on these videos. If you didn't get it, maybe you need to have a re-read. They're on our blog.
Is this “conditional love” and am I a bad spiritual person for setting my standards high and not being unconditionally loving? Yes, maybe I am. Do I care? No, I don't. Anyone can follow me the way I have this channel set up. You just can't pick fights with anyone anymore.
The thing is, with all the people in the galaxy who are unconditionally loving, so is everyone else around them. Of course, that's not the case here. On 3D/4D earth, being unconditionally loving is a far greater challenge than anywhere else in the universe. That's why we are being asked to forgive. That's Plan B.
Boundary violators violate boundaries because they can't take a “no”.
When I was in Codependents Anonymous, I was told to start giving advice in such a way that would make it easy for others to refuse. Why? Because this eliminates a lot of useless behaviours such as saying “Well, yeah, I guess I could use that,” then hearing the advice and never following it. Then the person giving the advice wouldn't get mad and say, “Why don't they ever do what I tell them to?!” It eliminates behaviours like going to your friends frustrated and complaining of other friends who never listen to you (gossiping), it eliminates behaviours like you stressing out, becoming insistent that others listen to you, it eliminates feelings like feeling unlistened to, feeling unimportant to others, and more. It stops codependent behaviours. And it makes relationships easier.
How do you have to be before you can learn to take a no, then? You have to value yourself because others won't always value you. You have to be strong enough to be the only one on earth who is willing to walk your own path, you have to be able to take rejection without beating yourself up, you have to be able to think of yourself and your worth as important without others agreeing with you. Because you get a bit of a self esteem hit, don't you, when you offer advice and people follow it? It makes you think you're smart, you're important, you did a good thing.
If you don't get any likes on your facebook post, how do you feel? Does it make you happy? Do you put others down for not agreeing with you or do you just say you liked your post and it works for you, or maybe there is a message in the fact that you didn't get a response, and you need to look at yourself and your intentions for posting it.
If you can like yourself in the face of total rejection by others, you're doing pretty good. You stand to learn more from your detractors than you do those who walk with you. I won't call them enemies because that term has to be eliminated. We have no enemies, only teachers.
You have to be able to believe all those things about yourself and to validate your own self esteem because others won't always do it. In my family, they did everything they could to destroy my self esteem. I had to rebuild it. I did that by going inside and learning that my best friends were in there. These people I talk to always have my back, always love me, always care for me, always esteem and respect me, no matter what I say or do. They always try to help me. And one of the people inside of me is me. So it's not a skill you really have to develop as much as something you have to remember. And you will be challenged to do so.
Being able to say “no” takes the giver out of a power over others situation and into an assertive power over self position. Because when someone says no to you, how do you feel? I think. “I'm sorry I couldn't help you, but it's up to you.” I also think though, “Don't come crying to me when your way didn't work. I tried to help you but you wouldn't listen.” The onus is on you to take the responsibility for your way of doing things. When I offer advice, I always ask first. If the answer is “No,” that's fine. I also have to decide if the person is going to do what they want to do and not follow the advice I offer them, then how is this going to impact our relationship? If they're not someone I know so closely, then it doesn't really matter to me.
The other thing that needs to be stated is there's more than one way to do anything. I'm now telling you how I did it. Take what you like and leave the rest.
There are some of you who insist that the only reason you're doing something is because you care. If you care about someone so much why don't you respect their wishes then? It appears your ability to care for me is only reflected in your ability to give or to do something, not to stand down when asked to. Maybe you need to work on that.
Some people argue that messages come in the form of others. Yes, they do. I get many messages through other people. Have I taken other people's advice? Yes, I have. However, when I specify I don't want them, particularly because I have a dialogue going with Ivo, my higher self Sigrid, Ashtar, and my Christ self Athena, and I can talk to God and Jesus any time I like. I'm surrounded by masters. So do I need the help of someone on earth? No offense, but probably not. Does this make me a snob? No. It makes me feel extremely fortunate that I have this level of help available to me 24/7.
So, no thanks. I use my own life's challenges to channel master level help down to earth. I know that what I'm undergoing is the same thing that many lightworkers and earthlings are undergoing and I need to keep channeling new information to earth because of it.
I'm not afraid to challenge you. You must know that by now. I'm not one of these people who is going to sugar coat the way I see things or say, “I'd better not say that. They might get offended.” If you get offended by what I say, then you need to look at it because you might be able to learn something. And if the only thing you learn is that you're following the wrong person, isn't that a great lesson to learn? Some of you will message me to tell me how wrong I am. No worries. I love you. When are you going to learn that nobody is wrong? Where you are on your path is where you are on your path, and you are always doing the right thing for yourself even if what it is is to eliminate that path from your most successful path in life, the one that gets you to connect with your higher self. I took lots of those. Like when I lived with a crack addicted alcoholic in Toronto for 3 years. That was the matrix's path for me but I got off of it eventually. If you look at things as wrong, then you'll just stay stuck because you're pouring bad energy after bad energy onto your wounds.
If you feel my saying this makes you wrong, that's not my intent. It's just that I don't want your advice. That doesn't make you less than anything or anybody. It's just not requested.
Me: Ivo, how do you feel about the word “no”.
Ivo: We rarely say it, my love. Often we have other suggestions that we put forth in a conversation or we work as a group to come up with the best solution.
Me: Okay, but what about if I said to you, “Ivo, you only sleep 3 hours a night. You really need to get more sleep.” What would you say?
Ivo: I would explain that I get as much sleep as my body needs. I would not say, “No, you are wrong.”
But yes, I realize that there is much ego esteem riding on the need to be right. And it is taken as rejection when one's advice is not followed upon earth.
Looking at others as wrong and yourself as right is the way to learn very little in life. It keeps you stuck in self righteousness. Do not make others wrong. Then you will not need to be right.
Ivo: I realize that your mother was such a person and she became very offended when you did not do what she wanted.
Me: So I would deliberately not follow her advice in order to piss her off.
Ivo: That as well. You have the rebel gene.
But you had to develop your own inner guidance because you saw your parents as being so flawed. So you became very introverted and you had us guide you throughout your life.
Me: Yes, I called it thinking.
Ivo: In fact it was us thinking, or putting thoughts and ideas into your head.
Me: Thank God you did that.
Ivo: You might consider, however that the people who email you with advice simply want to help you.
Me: I didn't ask for it.
Ivo: I realize this is important for you. To have control over who you correspond with. However they may simply be trying to help.
Me: For me, it's a trigger. The first thing it does is irritate me.
Ivo: Yes, I realize this. Perhaps it would be best to reply, “Thank you for your help. I see you are being kind. However I have my own path to follow and I will not be utilizing your help.”
Me: Then watch. Ivo, I'm trying to uncomplicate my life. Say that to a controlling person and you have a problem on your hands, believe me.
Ivo: You can always block them. But first you might look at the fact they are trying to help you.
Me: I don't need help. I've gotten this far on my own.
Ivo: Yes, you are a strong person.
Me: I realize that part of the problem is I complain about things. The reason I complain about them is because the challenges I face are the substance of these channelings, because I don't believe I'm different from many people. My stance isn't changed: Please don't send me emails for any other reason than the channelings and for them, use the form on our website. I'm trying to simplify my life, Ivo. And maybe you'd like to acknowledge I've always been highly introverted, insistent on doing things my way, and I've had loads of inner guidance. If that were not the case, I'd have married one of the potential handlers that the matrix sent my way, and taken my life off its best course even worse than I had at times.
If you people listening want to give me help, then you should've been there when I was living with Glenn. I would gladly have let you open your doors for me so I could stay in your home while I got resettled in Toronto. Then I could've used help. But of course, I was alone and had to use my wits to get myself out of that situation. And I did.
Which makes a good point. Anyone who's been through the shit I have realizes they can do a lot on their own. I've always done it my way and I will continue to do so.
Ivo: Very well. You do have a fear of being overwhelmed.
Me: Not surprisingly. God threw me in the deep end when he sent me here. I had to learn to swim from an early age.
Ivo: And you learned you already could swim.
Me: Yes. Babies in water already know how to.
Until you can say “no” your “yes” means nothing. - Anonymous
Not Respecting Others' Free Will – Boundary Violators
The Buddha said, “Don't let yourself be controlled by three things: people, money or past experiences.”
The first two I'm good with, the third I still have trouble. I have PTSD. And please don't send me all kinds of emails on how to deal with PTSD! I will block you from ever contacting me again.
You're offering advice that I can use, right? You're being nice and trying to help.
Apparently you didn't see our last video called “Power over Others Versus Authenticity.” This is one of the power over others cases.
But you're thinking, “I'm not trying to get power over you! I'm trying to help you!” I didn't ask for your help. It's that simple.
That is how you're exercising power over me. You're not respecting my free will and my right to ask for what I need rather than having it be foisted at me by well meaning people. And for someone whose first experience of life was abuse, whose first experiences in dealing with human beings on earth was them telling them what to think, what they're allowed to feel, and violating them in every other way possible, violating their self worth, violating my soul, I have learned to walk my path by myself, but ultimately for others.
Why should I do things your way instead of the way I choose to do them? I'm on my own path and I get to decide what I want to do. If it's the wrong thing then it's up to me to figure that out, isn't it? Because that's the other message you're sending me when you tell me how to do something: You're doing it wrong. I know better than you do, so do it my way. What part of this isn't controlling? You're trying to control me yet you don't even realize it, that's how well your method of developing consciousness is working for you. You're blind to the fact that you're trying to control me. You're blind to the fact that you're a boundary violator. You're blind to the fact that not everyone wants to hear what you've got to say. If that's higher consciousness, thank you but I'll just stick to my way of doing things because I'm aware of these things. I only give answers when I'm asked to give them. I still believe the best way to higher consciousness is to become aware of every single little thing you do every day – intention is everything. Why do you think you've incarnated? What do you think the purpose of incarnation is? So you can become conscious while embodied. It's not so you can avoid consciousness, which is what a lot of people are doing. They believe themselves to be physical bodies and live accordingly. This is not conscious living. You take up a practise but are you applying it to your everyday life, because that's your legacy, on earth anyway. That's your gift to this planet: your every day life, the decisions you made, how you treated others, etc etc. If you're like a bull in a china shop, I don't want to share my life with you and I won't.
Learning to see the forest before the trees helps. I can spot a boundary violator with controlling tendencies while I see the forest. I don't need individual details (the trees) to determine what challenge you're bringing to my life. Life has given me the gift of foresight. I've hit my head on enough trees in the past to understand what I'm looking at now.
People don't look at what their behaviour implies. They don't think very deeply about the reasons they do what they do. I have had to. In order to get myself to this point of awareness, I have had to scrutinize everything I think and how I react to others. So I understand many of the motivations of other people's behaviour.
I am deliberate enough that if I want your help, I will ask for it. It's that simple. When you give it without my asking for it first, I feel like my boundaries are being violated and that you're not safe for me. The fact that you can't respect my free will tells me that you are a boundary violator, right there. Maybe this time you're being nice, but maybe next time you won't be so nice, or maybe after 5 or 6 times of dispensing advice to me that I won't follow, you're going to become nasty, critical and overbearing.
Respect my boundaries, or you will be blocked. You are not safe for me.
Every day I get up and I stick to the schedule as best I can. I will not allow myself to be taken off of my path by extraneous situations. If what you're introducing doesn't pertain to my day's work, I won't value it. I have sent out requests to people I wish to keep in contact with, for whatever reason. I have cut off those who are not safe for me or who feel that they can email me back and forth on a friendship basis.
Let me explain it: When you have PTSD, high anxiety and the tendency to be a depressive, when you have fibromyalgia or hormone imbalances, whatever this problem I have is, you are very caught up in self care and you don't have time for a lot of things. You have to take time to rest, whether you want to or not. You have to take time to eat properly, with allergies I have to keep the house clean. It's not like I have a choice nor would I want to live in a dirty house.
Those of you with chronic fatigue syndromes or who are going through ascension or both, are like me, I'm assuming. You've watched your lives dwindle down to basics and even then you can't get much done. Housework gets done in 10 minute intervals, exercise means you walk to the next corner 4 houses away and back. You spend your time in front of the computer because the only part of you moving is your hands. You learn to conserve energy. Your 80 plus year old neighbour can walk faster than you can.
The other thing that many of you don't realize is that when you approach me, it's for help. I have opened up to do these personal channelings but that's it. When you're as sick and tired as I am, helping other people becomes a very difficult proposition. But yet we still need to do it in order to ascend. Do you see the connundrum this causes for many of us? I'm not the only one.
The fact that you guys don't listen when I ask for your cooperation makes you unsafe. When you think about it, apply that in your daily life. You say no you can't stay late to your boss and your boss tells you you have to, you don't have a choice. How much are you going to like him after he forces you to stay late against your will?
Someone wants to be your friend on Facebook and you're just not that into them, but they keep bugging you and bugging you, wanting to talk to you. Does that make you feel safe? Does that make you enjoy life any more than you already do or don't?
Somebody emails you and tells you how lucky Ivo is to have you because, obviously he's implying he'd like to have a shot at you himself. How does that make you feel? The fact that he believes he'd even HAVE a shot at me, that I have no free will or the right or desire to turn him down? He doesn't think I can say no to him? That fact that I'm in a relationship but he doesn't care. He goes on lusting over me anyway. Would that make you feel safe?
Being at peace with each other is great but what are the smaller steps? One of the smaller steps is not representing a threat to other people by violating their free will. We are free will violators. We do it all the time, in the name of being “nice” too. Because we are boundary violators. And it's in violating each others' boundaries that many arguments start, let's face it. Don't think the Matrix doesn't know that. It encourages it. Great source of loosh for them.
We just think there is a normal way of interacting with others and everyone subscribes to that normal way. That works for the most part, but sometimes people have special needs. The way to determine this is to ASK FIRST and then listen when they tell you what they need from you. If the person doesn't make their email public, or specifies on their web page that they'll can any email for any other purpose than the one specified, why do you think you're so special that you can ignore all their boundaries? Yes, you're a boundary violator. And you're used to ignoring other people and only serving your own needs. You are entitled. So you get blocked. When people keep shutting the door in your face, maybe you'll start to get the message because it's coming.
Self serving is third dimensional.
I take a lot of risks in working with you guys and most of you respect my needs, and I thank you for it. Others do not and they get blocked. Most of you who have followed me for a while are respectful. See, the other thing is those entitled people who ignore others' needs also disrespect them as people. I come from a family of boundary violators and disrespecting the person whose boundaries you're violating is part of the behaviour. If you respected me, you wouldn't violate my boundaries, would you? The person I called out on facebook for sending me an unsolicited email will probably get annoyed and walk away thinking I'm some kind of screwball. The reason for this is because the ego will defend their behaviour as being correct despite what I say. The ego has to defend itself as being right all the time. And because the ego doesn't have self esteem or the capacity for respecting others, it will chop anyone down it feels disagrees with it.
Being conscious is a question of admitting when you're wrong, admitting when you could have done better and then making restitution. And not shooting down but learning what they have to teach you.
That's the other thing: Busy as I am, everything that happens of this sort is an opportunity for personal growth on my part and that takes time as well! So I have to look at it. I know I'm working on forgiveness and I have to find a way to forgive people. Or like Jesus said, “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.” I do think slowing down your day is a way to become more conscious. When it speeds by you and you're just reacting to it in ways you know, you don't have a chance to examine it. You have to take time to examine it even if that means making time. And who's got that? It's like learning French. You have to slow down the speech otherwise you don't understand it. Same with becoming conscious.
I guess Jesus was asked how many times the person should forgive someone who erred against him and Seven times was suggested. Jesus said 77 times. He's persistent.
I have to admit though, when I allowed comments on this channel, I wasn't impressed by what I was seeing written. The trolls found the channel, and then the fighting began. Some people didn't get involved, the ones with self mastery. Others got into fights with the trolls and when the trolls took shots at me, you came to my rescue. Despite everything Ivo and I had said about the victim triangle, you were lured into setting them up right on my channel. Not even listening, apparently. I guess the ones who listen know how important good boundaries, authenticity and assertive speech is to the future of humanity, because it is important. If you're fighting with trolls you're helping to keep your vibration low, and you're setting this entire ascension process back. Yes, an intuition. One day those who are more conscious will separate from those who aren't. The timelines will split out and the slow ones will have made their choice. The ones who “got it” will fly higher.
I want to include part of a conversation I had with Ivo the other day in here because it's informative:
Ivo: And this is the thing, my love. Normally, they can manage. And we know that the world will change soon, in order to make their lives easier. They will pay fewer taxes, they will receive more money from the St Germain funds, they will have an easier time of it. Things that are necessities in life will become less expensive, such as gasoline. And your bills will be reduced. New types of power will come in to compete with the old power systems.
Me: Wow! No more hydro lines all over the place. What if they had a big crystal in a city and then people had crystal energy receivers in their homes and then the energy was turned into electricity by a converter, and then it fed all your appliances like electricity does now?
Ivo: Yes, just think. What if.
Me: Where would birds land? LOL
Ivo: I am sure your birds will do fine.
Me: No more lines for the squirrels to run across. What will I do in my free time instead of watching acrobatic squirrels? LOL
Ivo: You could talk to me.
Me: Ivo, I've learned that communicating is work.
Ivo: I realize this, but I am most interested in telling you about our way of life and what we plan to do for our community.
Me: So maybe I can do video's on it?
Ivo: If you prefer.
Me: You know I share everything. That's why I'm Sharon.
Ivo: I realize that, my love.
Me: I consider the information you give me to be public domain.... well, no, not that information! LOL
Ivo: (snickering) Yes, some things are confidential.
Me: I want you to tell me face to face about our life together, the life we live as souls, not just the last physical life.
Ivo: So you are holding out on me.
Me: LOL I figure there will be a lot of information you have to give me when you land. It'll be mind boggling.
Ivo: Yes. You are catching on to some of it yourself, such as the large crystal feeding free energy to homes. We do have systems like that in the galaxy.
Me: What else?
Ivo: We have “home crystals” as well.
Me: So smaller ones that feed your appliances.
Ivo: Yes, and we store information in them as well. It can work like a book. Our minds tap into the crystal and our favourite book is downloaded into our minds.
Me: Yeah, but your minds are fast. How long are your books?
Ivo: I said, we see one lifetime as being from inception to current day, and even then, we will go back and forth into the future and the past.
Ivo: It goes without saying that your lives are considerably shortened because of the frequencies you indulge in, such as fear, hate and anger. When you express these constantly, then you lower your life expectation. The body works best on higher frequencies of love.
You are tiring.
Me: I got up early so I could have some free time.
Ivo: Yes, now you require a nap.
Me: I might need one or two today to keep me going.
Ivo: Very well. We will end this channeling.
Me: Thanks, Ivo.
Ivo: My love, there is so much for you to remember. And for the rest of you as well.
Here's another example of my higher self trying to help me. We discussed this in a video a while ago and I've been watching out for examples for a while.
One time I was dating an alcoholic, or maybe I shouldn't have said “one time” because I dated a lot of them, anyhow, I suggested a place to go for dinner after work that I liked, but I told him they didn't serve alcohol there. He didn't want to go.
That was something that could have stopped our relationship and a lot of crap from happening in my life right there. But I just said, “Oh, okay,” and suggested another place that was licensed. I could have made a decision there that night that would have stopped a lot of pain but because I didn't, I needed the painful lesson to wisen up, so I got it.
Right there, I should have realized that I was more intent on finding and relating to a man – any man – I didn't care – and that need was getting me into a lot of trouble. Look at the three flames of God within the heart – this was the wanting to love flame but I was pretty low on wisdom. When I sat there and said, “I am not dating anyone anymore!” that's when finally I called my power up and my wisdom and got them married before I ever did. The wisdom was: there was nobody in this system or on this planet for me. I seemed to know it as well because one time when I complained to my sister about my abysmal love life, I said, “The only man for me flies a spaceship and comes from another planet!” I was being sarcastic. Turns out it was true. Loving without wisdom, and having power without wisdom gets you into a lot of the crap that can be had on this planet. Wisdom comes from facing the truth.
The best people at avoiding people who are addicted are addicts themselves. You have the knowledge to understand how an addict works and you can avoid them better than anyone else. That's your power. It helps if you're sober.
Consider That Everything You See Is Significant
In the video we've done on how your higher self helps you, how your higher self contacts and guides you, I've since noticed that I had said that I wanted to have cranberries so I can make a low sugar juice for myself. I wasn't even fussy, they didn't have to be organic. I just wanted to find some. So one day in Walmart I turned my head and glanced down the freezer aisle to find my eyes resting on a bag of frozen cranberries. Other things have happened as well – I may have mentioned this one already.
What if, and just what if, everything you see has a message for you? What if everything you look at has a message for you in some way? I'm going to go out to the stationery store to do some photocopying today and I'm going to make note of everything that catches my eye. Then I'm going to sit and consider if there's a message in everything and anything. Why not? We're part of the creative system. Why create something when you get nothing from it?
It's like when people see a black cat cross their path. They call it superstition. What if there was a message for you in virtually everything you notice? You could tap into the magic of life.
Me: Ivo were there any cryptic messages in there for me today?
Ivo: Yes and no, my love. What did you observe about the man who was bicycling in the rain?
Me: He was wet. I think he seemed to be smiling too. I keep being reminded of the Led Zeppelin song: Fool in the Rain, or maybe Singing in the Rain. He seemed to be enjoying getting a soaker.
Ivo: This could mean any number of things, but one thing it could mean is that not everyone thinks as you do. You took your car instead of walking in the rain, and made sure you were protected from the rain. He did not seem to care.
Me: No. Then there was a the lady with the pink umbrella.
Ivo: You are attracted to the colour pink.
Me: Why not? There aren't really any other colours that stand out.
Ivo: Many of the signs for your businesses are quite bright in colour, but you simply manage to shut them out. What about Pizza Pizza? It is bright orange. Or McDonald's colours. You do not notice them.
This was different and it could mean anything from a reminder that you are love to being more loving.... compare this woman who was prepared for the rain to the man on the bike that did not seem to be and see how you felt about each person.
Me: I was curious about why he'd do that to himself, but because this woman was prepared so I wasn't worried about her.
Ivo: What does that tell you about yourself?
Me: I prefer to be prepared for anything, really.
Ivo: So you are not the spontaneous fool who enjoys bicycling in the rain.
Me: I don't seem to be, no.
Ivo: Life has taught you that you require preparation to take it on. And so you always study and prepare but you seldom have moments of unbridled enjoyment.
Me: Nope, I don't.
Ivo: Perhaps this man enjoys creating his own fun.
Me: I would, but I work too much.
Ivo: Yes, you are purpose driven.
When Tommy James asks you, “What do you see?” You envision the parking spot across from yours empty so you can pull through. You see the truck of the repair man and remember you must call him for a repair. You see the woman crossing the parking lot. Then later you see her again, doing the same thing.
You are observing the Matrix in action. Everything you see is the Matrix in action. The Matrix is glitching, yes, but it is reminding you to spend money, and it attempts to tempt you to do so but you refuse to spend the money. You will think about the desk, you were not purchasing impulsively today. You did what you came to do: print out your new course. So this means that you are in charge of what you purchase, not the Matrix. You call the shots, not it.
You observe a man in the store who seems to be doing nothing.
Me: I thought he might be waiting for my photocopier, not sure. I didn't really care. If he wants to stand there, that's his business.
Ivo: Again, that is something that arouses your curiosity: doing nothing. Do you understand the point I am making?
Spontaneity and relaxation are terms you are not that familiar with anymore. You used to be. You would have unscheduled time and did nothing with it.
Me: Yeah, Ivo, I will have unscheduled time when I have 2 support staff and you are helping me boots on the ground. Right now I'm doing it all myself, thank you very much.
Don't tell me I don't have unscheduled time. Geez! I always seem to be behind the eight ball in so many ways!
Ivo: And this is why we point these things out to you: the more you relax the easier your work will become. Never mind you must change your self dialogue from being disadvantaged to one of being advantaged.
Me: Yes, I'm starting to understand that. I have to deal with my anxiety and learn to organize things better.
I have to change my expectations. And prioritize self knowledge and self care.
Ivo: Correct. Then things will work more smoothly for you. It is about how you work with your power. When you continue to give yourself messages of disempowerment, you will create this reality. Life will provide you opportunities to improve.
Me: I like the Matrix glitching, though.
Ivo: As do we, my love.
Why Even Bother?
Why do I even bother?
Explain to someone the importance of their DNA and not getting vaxxed. Put them in touch with their galactic family.
Then they get vaxxed.
Then they come to me wondering what to do about it.
If you're going to be stupid, I can't help you. Your light mission just ended there. At the vaxx. You chose your timeline. You need soul contact to continue your mission. Now you're not going to have it.
If you're vaxxed, you won't get any anti-vaxxers who'll even get near you, never mind start a community with you. And that was her dream.
Ivo says those of us who are truly of the light know we don't need it, and we will refuse it. Gene Decode says, though, that we have to utilize protocols against vaxx contagion. I'm still looking into what this would be. I'm hearing pine needle tea.
This is another reason I don't want to get personally involved with you : Because when you make decisions like this, I feel emotions for you, like anger and then sympathy if you make poor decisions. It saves me a lot of emotional hell when I only know you at face value. I have enough to do dealing with my own emotions.
Strangely, I may not appear to, but I care so much for everyone that I even try to hide it from myself. I find out how much I care about someone when they do something like this. We are all One and it hurts me too. Yes, I'm working on the precious gift of detachment but not surprisingly it's hard for me. I see some progress but not enough.
This woman I'm thinking of was pressured by her earth family to vaxx up or they'd leave her behind. When you leave your earth family behind in making these decisions, you gain the entire universe. Now she will not be able to contact her twin flame, she will probably never get soul access because that's what the vaxx stops from happening. She will just die somewhere along the armageddon timeline and then go home but she will have to consider this life a failure with respect to her mission.
The other thing I worry about is her soul pulling her from earth now that she's made this decision. You have 5 exit points in life and I'd bet you dollars to donuts that your soul planned one of them around getting the vaxx. Apparently my cousin's did. RIP Nick, I love you and I miss you. You went too soon. You never saw Trump get back in office and I know you wanted to. You were a believer, to the core.
Ivo: She is not of the Light any longer. For the reasons you have specified above. She will never have soul contact. She will never be able to ascend. She may have to reincarnate on other third dimensional planets in order to make her way back to her loved ones in the galaxy.
Me: Wow! Robbed of everything!
Ivo: Do not get the vaxx. You do not need it. However, continuing a protocal of anti-virals is worthwhile for reasons of contagion. There are many types of anti-virals available such as the one I cannot mention lest we be censored from youtube.
Me: It's the one that ends in “ine” and has lots of syllables. Also now hearing about pine needle tea.
Ivo: With her earth family pressuring her to get vaxxed, and with her giving in, she in fact made a decision: I am an earthling, not a citizen of the galaxy. And I do not want to be the latter. She will live in conflict for the rest of her life, wondering why she cannot reach her twin flame.
Me: Yes, and here I am with tears in my eyes, crying for her. I don't want to go through this with every one of you who fails in your mission. Sorry, I have limits. Bawling my eyes out all day isn't one of them.
That's how you become a sheep, folks. She got sucked into the agenda by letting her family pressure her. I keep saying that everyone's a Smith when the Matrix wants them to be. She fell for it. If you've done the same thing, don't contact me because this pisses me off. You knew. You were told and you made the wrong choice.
For those who have to do it for your work, you're still making the wrong choice. Imagine if everyone stopped working because they didn't want to be vaxxed. Imagine all those people standing up for themselves and saying, “I am not part of your system and I will not allow you to tell me what I need to have put into my damned body!” We'd have a revolution on our hands now if people would stand up for their rights, but they don't. They just give in because they believe the system owns them. If the system owns you now, you're in trouble.
Hell, I don't even leave money in the bank anymore. I've used universal law to earn it, and I don't use a bank to store it in. A couple months ago, when we were switching the Canadian economy over, Royal Bank of Canada began to collapse. The first thing it did was shut the doors and then seize all the customers' accounts. Why? To keep themselves afloat. My money isn't in the bank. I'll protect it myself, thank you very much.
If you trust any part of this system right now, it's because you're too trusting and you believe liars. Some of those liars are your parents, although it's unintentional, but they don't know the truth.
I guess some people can't take the pressure of being rejected. I've lived with it all my life. It sucks but it's kept me out of the system. I was always an oddball, never felt accepted or never WAS accepted. But they're lovin' me now, aren't they? Yeah, everyone will shine in their time.
Another sad truth I have to contend with is that lightworkers are like sperm: Some make it to see their goal to fruition and others fail.
The other thing about lightworkers, is that there are what I call “passive lightworkers” or starseeds, who haven't taken on such great roles, but are in supportive roles. They may be light holders or parents to starseed children but they themselves haven't contracted to change the world to great degrees, although everyone is welcome to try.
One lightworker I know goes into the grocery store with an oxygen mask on! I love it! Freaks out the maskers. She does this because of the viral protein spikes. They're airborne and you can inhale the virus because of this. No mask is going to help you; the masks never did work. If people believed the masks worked, they wouldn't be getting jabbed.
Fear of rejection: This lightworker stood to be rejected by her entire family and abandoned by them, and she couldn't take it, so she got vaxxed. NOW you know why lightworkers go through the hell that they do: to strengthen them up to these fears so when it's crunch time that they make the right decisions. She wasn't strong enough. I am because they never loved me in the first place. That's why lightworkers have crappy lives of rejection and abandonment, financial hardship and abyssmal love lives: because it makes you strong enough to be a warrior for the light in this consciousness war now. They need people to make the right decisions, not to buckle under to the system.
Man, I am so sorry to hear her news. But it may not be the last time I hear this. Just know I'll be crying for you. I didn't really cry for you when you complained about your shitty life because I knew you had to live it to toughen up. If you fail in your mission, you're letting down your galactic family and friends, who only want you back with them where life is easier.
Ivo: That is why, my love, I put you through your paces and do not let up when you complain. It has made you tough, and strong, but your heart of gold still beats within your chest.
Me: Ivo, don't get poetic please. Poetry softens me up. LOL!
Ivo: LOL My love, you are poetry in motion.
Me: I'm not sure of that, but I get answers to problems I have and I'm on the edge of an epiphany now.
Ivo: Very good. You have much information at your disposal now and you realize that you have anxiety attacks. You have learned that you must calm your body before you assess situations. When you assess situations you stand to learn very much about yourself and who you truly are. Your anxiety lies to you; it is your false self.
Me: Yes. Calming the body could be doing chakra rebalancing meditations, now there's poly-vagal exercises, rhythmic breathing, and I finally figured out what the ice cream habit is about: There's the fight, flight or freeze stress response. I'm a fighter/fleer (video says "freezer" but I'm not correcting it. If I were a freezer I'd fill myself with ice cream!). Then there's the parasympathetic nervous system response of rest and digest. Well, I've been digesting. Food soothes my nerves, literally. I have to learn how to relax. Most of us don't start relaxing when we're overstressed though. My thing is to try harder. Now I have to learn how to let go and relax. Meditation helps.
For any of us who were told we weren't good enough, or who drew that assumption from our parents' behaviour, that's where the trying harder reaction comes from. We try harder to win their approval. But you're never going to get it from disapproving, manipulative parents. You have to start approving of yourself now.
Complicated People versus Simple People
The way you react to the channeling I gave you speaks volumes about how you deal with life.
If you take it, say thanks, and I never hear from you again, that's great. You take the information and make of it what you will. Maybe you'll take action to increase your multi-dimensional skillset or maybe you won't. That's up to you. And that's where I leave it. I understand you have the confidence to make your own choices in life.
Others use the opportunity to try to start a friendship with me. As I have said so many times, I can't be friends with thousands of people, and I don't have the time. You'd have to clone me, and we all know about clones. I have asserted my right to be alone so many times and for those who don't listen, I take appropriate measures. Yes, I have a right to be alone and I prefer it. I have chosen to experience life here from that standpoint. Many of you believe that because we are social beings, it's almost criminal to want to be alone. But this is a system of duality. For those who want to be social, there are others who don't. It's your choice and I'm asking you to respect mine. Because I have so much going on in my own head, I have little need for human contact. I am very introverted. I always have been.
This isn't about not liking you. Some of you I like very much. It's just the only person's company I really need is my own, and Ivo's.
At one time on earth I was searching for a life, and that life included Ivo. And in this lifetime, as I move closer to leaving this planet and returning to my prior life with Ivo, I have to shed off everything I knew as “me,” I have to detach from all my attachments. Including family, old friends, and any beliefs or material possessions I may have.
Now, on the other hand, others of you hear your message and become stuck. You are the ones I wish I had never channeled for. Why? Because you're using the channeling to become upset, you're using the information we have provided to you to get stuck, to fret, to worry, perhaps even panic (yes that's happened before too), and worse, to start depending on me to get you out of the mess that your mind is creating. It's not my job to relieve your worries – that's your job. There is no problem. The only problem is the one your mind is making out of it. All information is good information, ultimately, when you know how to work with it, but the people who get stuck by their messages need to learn to work on calming themselves down first. An upset mind nets you very little, believe me, I'd know. I believe in these cases, you weren't ready to receive the information, because it's counterproductive. I will not channel for you anymore, either. For me, that's a matter of ethics. Providing information before you can use it to good end is an ethical issue for me. That much I can control.
What I believe is there's a reason that you do not know the name of your higher self, your Christ self, your twin flame, your origins and your mission, etc. And the reason for this is because you have not undergone the organic process of self evaluation and taking action that I had to, in order to move enough of the negativity I harboured out so I could connect with soul. That's why we keep telling you: Leave the Matrix. The way to leave the Matrix is to examine your belief system. What is it that you're believing that keeps you stuck in the Matrix? It's not that you have to come from an extremely toxic family like I did, what it is is that you keep believing the lies. And you believe the lies about yourself, like you're a dentist's assistant. You're not a dentist's assistant. You are a spark of light that came off the godhead millions of years ago who is incarnated in a human body on 4D earth. You are a creation of God, part of the entirety of the whole of God. Not a dentist's assistant, not an Amazon delivery person, not a baker... you have to start thinking like THAT. From the soul's perspective.
If you have not done enough self examination, then you will not be aware of your inner self. Some of you can get the name of your twin flame or guides, and will work at closing the gap. Others of you will wallow in panic, fear and upset because you're not able to do it. You'll call yourself all kinds of names and believe that you're flawed. Sharon can do it, why can't I? Sharon has been through hell just trying to get there, I might remind you, and I hope it's easier for you, but it takes WORK. Work on yourself. If you're going to get stuck in fear and upset from the get-go, then I wish I'd never channeled for you, because in your case it's done more harm than good.
By the way, the “there” I was looking to reach was peace and quiet. That's all I ever wanted. I didn't even know I had a twin flame back then or a galactic family. Turns out as soon as I found enough peace and quiet in my life, Ivo turned up. The more peace and quiet I have, the more abilities I find out about. That's the answer for those of you who want to realize your super human abilities. I just saved you ten bucks.
This is why I have mixed feelings about doing these channelings. Some people can go with it, others get stuck in it. I can tell by your reaction which camp you're in. And I can tell by your reaction how you deal with life.
In some cases, people got information that they weren't aware of and needed time to adjust and get reassurance from me, which I gave them. These people may have been in a crisis situation without even realizing it, maybe suspecting it, but not fully cognizant of what was going on and why. I did aftercare with them because their situation was out of the ordinary. I will also move these people up in the line if I see questions of that nature. Others may be in crisis situations and would need to fall back on Ivo and I for assistance so I have left their door open.
But if you're the one creating your crisis, then you need to deal with the way you deal with things.
I really hope that I'm saying things directly enough that you understand who you are in this. Some people say I'm not nice but I think being nice is for the birds. Telling the truth is more important to me. If I need to, I will tell you directly. Do you think Ivo sugar coats everything he says to me? He doesn't. He gives me the straight goods, even though he realizes that I might not like it. I respect him for doing that, and I love him for caring enough to tell me the truth. I hope you do too.
Anyone who lies to you does not love you. Human beings are being of truth and the energy they share is love. Love can only be shared via the truth.
Me: Oh, Ivo, you didn't get a chance in here.
Ivo: Not today, no!
Me: Do you have anything you want to add?
Ivo: My love, I love you for telling me the truth as well. Even when you yell at me, I still love you because you are telling me how you feel. Your society where everyone is shut down emotionally and where people lie to each other. How are you today? I'm fine thank you. For so many even, that is a lie. And that lie tells you that you must lie in order to associate with others upon your planet.
Me: Yep, dirty little white lie. I prefer to say, “I'm having a shitty day. Would you like to hear about it?” Inevitably they say no or some people might venture to find out. Or maybe they express condolences or 12 steppers would say, “This too shall pass,” because it does. Which is a nice reminder to have. Emotions are temporary. Then I go and do my chakra rebalancing. LOL
Ivo: Yes, definitely worthwhile for you all.
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