Ivo: The ego cannot determine your spiritual needs. It subverts your spirituality into mentality and then physicality because it is of too low a vibration. The fact that mind control is targeted to subvert your spiritual search into physical searching prohibits connection with spirituality as well.
Many of you have looked through the physical – to friends, to lovers, to activities, sports, hobbies, fitness, weight loss, to careers, to jobs, to children, to many things of the physical plane to fulfill you. But fulfillment can only come from within because you are whole there.
The physical body is a part of this wholeness. So it cannot be put in charge, in directing your life, even your physical life. It is not whole and does not respond as a whole being would.
And as I said, because your spiritual needs are being subverted by the lower mind/ego through mind control, you can only become whole by going inside to where there is wholeness and fulfillment.
A spiritual program of at least meditation is required to achieve this.
They talk about a stairway to heaven. Well, the ego is the lowest step. You must go higher.
You hear of people who have walked away from it all – from the rat race to live a much more simple life. They have realized that the physical life is not fulfilling. May you all reach that point as well.

My post today: When you're called out as being in error, don't try to justify yourself. This is the ego talking and the ego will always make you out to be right. It will defend you against any criticism, merited or not.
That is the worst thing when you're trying to become more spiritual.... being stitched up by your ego which demands that all see it as correct, especially yourself.
Ask, "What if I'm wrong and they're right?" So you have some growth to do, big deal. You're in the right place. We all have growth to do.
There's no shame in having to grow when it's the point of being alive anyway!
Another post:
So you're 15 and your ego is telling you you're right. You're perfect just as you are. Everyone else is wrong.
You turn 20 and your ego is still telling you you're right. You're perfect just as you are. Everyone else is wrong.
You turn 30 and your ego is still telling you you're right. You're perfect just as you are. Everyone else is wrong.
You turn 40 and your ego is still telling you you're right. You're perfect just as you are. Everyone else is wrong.
You turn 50 and your ego is still telling you you're right. You're perfect just as you are. Everyone else is wrong.
All your life you've been defended against learning anything new by your ego, which justifies everything you do as being correct, and says everyone else is wrong. Meanwhile you see everything wrong in others because you project your faults onto them.
​You're not only annoying to others, if you're lucky, they feel sorry for you, but everyone else has gone whizzing by you and left you back at the starting gate. You end up old and lonely because you haven't changed while everyone else has.
Adama: There's no shame in choosing to see something from a higher view point, is there? No. Thank you for asking me to do this video.
Me: Thanks for doing it Adama! I love to hear from all my people but I get so busy that I don't give all the chance. And I know you all have wisdom to impart.
Adama: Our people were there as yours are now, many many years ago. Agathans stem from the Lemurians who were Pleiadian and Lyran souls. We chose to come to earth to bring a higher expression to its low dimension. So many have put so much into raising the frequency of your people because your people are so special.
Me: Oh yes, because we hold the best DNA. The best of all the seed races.
Adama: Yes, but we see it's difficult for you to ascend because your DNA is so sought after. Your energy is so dynamic and you are wonderful creators because of your DNA, that to enslave you would be desirable to races that are exploitative. So this is what happened.
You've been manipulated to experience an overbearing ego, which keeps your race aligned with its captors. You think like they do. You're very capable of hate and fear and along with your propensity for anger, your captors would prefer to keep themselves hidden from you. They know you wouldn't like it if in fact they revealed themselves to you. So they deny their existence out of fear of you.
Me: Yes, they do.
So, as for the ego, trying to defend or justify yourself against criticism. Now we've said criticism is the work on an energy vampire, so perhaps there is merit in being attacked by someone who criticizes you?
Adama: Growth has come from it. But in the case you find yourself defending yourself, you need to put your defenses aside, because they're defending you from yourself, from higher knowledge. That's all they're doing. They're defending you from learning.
Your ego's are enormous, and they work the way the ego's of your captors work: they are self sustaining, except in one way: they can't produce the god-given energy force of love. So your ego's take this higher force that you are and twist it into hate. You attack each other. You defend against attack by always assuming you're 100 percent correct. What if you're not?
If you're not, then you have opened the door to higher learning. Always assume there's more to learn in any situation. Always. Never say, “I know everything!” Your ego would like to think it does, but it doesn't.
Don't defend yourself against an attack. There's nothing to defend. When your ego goes into defense mode, realize it's doing that to protect itself from hurt, but it's not you. It's your connection to your controllers. It's what keeps you enslaved. The you that is true, that lives eternally, is a being of love and love doesn't need defense. Love is love. It doesn't harm. It doesn't defend. It doesn't defend because it doesn't attack.
Me: Thanks, Adama!
Adama: I'll just add that understanding this function: that the ego will go into defense mode or start justifying itself, as a reflex. It's a reflex it goes into when it feels threatened. And the ego needs to shrink, it really needs to be put into proper place in your life. Rather than running your life, it needs to align with your heart and soul.
This reflex alone could be stopping your spiritual growth. Yes, just this one thing. When you have a lower mind always telling you you're right, then why look any further? That's why you have to ask, “What if I'm not right? What if there's more to learn?” and move your ego aside to investigate, to find more truth.
Me: What if the ego is one that tells you you're always wrong?
Adama: I think it's easier for one with the inferior ego to seek a spiritual solution. When you live a life that always tells you you're flawed, why wouldn't you want for something kinder and more loving?
Me: So the ego can tell you, “I'm always right!” or “I'm always wrong!” or it can flip flop as well. Just remember, either way, it could be stopping your spiritual growth right there. It could be stopping you from aligning with your higher self or your christ consciousness or God itself.
Nobody wants to think they're wrong all the time, but stop seeing being wrong as something shameful. Look at things as if there's more to learn.
Adama: Yes. For example, those who were angry at my comment that “you're no angels,” could be experiencing this justifying ego. When you see yourself as lacking flaws, or you see yourself as totally flawed, then you've got ego problems. You're a being of love, in reality, and relating to yourself through your ego is the flaw you have.
Me: Thanks Adama!
Adama: You're most welcome. I bid you adieu.

​How the Matrix Mind has infiltrated the spiritual community


This video is intended to enlighten and inform, not to attack or berate anyone. It is intended to help lightworkers to understand the pitfalls that lie before them as they interact in a community heavily infiltrated by the dark. It is intended to be an aid for them.


Me: I've said it before and I'll say it again, how can anyone with an undealt with ego understand spirituality? They can't.
As a comparison, I have never studied music or music theory. So for me to say that I understand what a pianist is doing or can understand a Mozart concerto, or why even a conductor waves his or her baton the way they do. I don't claim to understand these things although I enjoy them. So for someone who has had little or no spiritual practice at all to claim to understand spirituality is unfathomable.
Yet they do. The ego will get on its high horse and you see it in posts where people are admonishing others for "not being spiritual enough," like being spiritual is some kind of Club Med you get membership to and not having a high level of spirituality is shameful.
So we get people talking about "spiritual ego". It's not a spiritual ego. It's just ego. Everyone is at their own level and those who admonish others for lack of spirituality or how can you claim to be spiritual when you do this or that, should have a look at themselves rather than the others they purport to be superior to. Because whenever there is perceived inequality, there is ego. And I see lots of it within the community.
We are in fact spiritual fledglings.
We are growing in spirituality. And those that have a higher level of spirituality don't spend their time looking down their noses at others as being flawed. Those with higher levels of spirituality understand it's a process and we're all in it. Leaving duality behind to ascend to the next level of Unity consciousness - that is the process many of us on earth are engaged in. And it's not made of one pleasant moment after the next. It can be a hairy process, with times of questioning one's own sanity. But it's about having revealed to you that which needs to be worked on. That's what you're seeing. Being aware and conscious enough to want to see your faults and then responding differently to them this time around. That's change and that's what this process is trying to accomplish in you.
And you will try, and succeed or try and fail. Your higher self will keep you at it because it's important.
With such a large influx of non-spiritual people into the ascension process, spirituality has been heavily watered down by Matrix egotism. I think it's best to call it the "Ascension community," and leave spirituality to those who have some mastery.




Expecting "Spiritual" conformity - compliance to some kind of standard of perfection.


Love is different to the soul than it is to the personality. The ego expects someone to be nice, never set boundaries and to love and nurture it. We're going to do a separate video to debunk this idea.
Love to the soul is often hard work. I was admonished by Ivo for being a rescuer. In fact what I learned I was doing as I gave in to manipulators who were getting me to do work they should have been doing for themselves, was interfering with their growth process.
The growth of the personality on earth is what the soul wants and I was stifling the growth of these friends in question by giving in to their manipulations. I had to back off and stop letting them manipulate me, which was my own lesson to learn, and allow them to learn to take care of themselves as a process of self empowerment. That is what the soul calls love. Not what you'd think, really, is it? My habit of rescuing these people was seen as interference and in fact was a violation of universal law and I was incurring negative karma as a result, when in fact I felt I was being virtuous! So there you go. We have it backwards here in many ways. We live contrarily to universal law and were taught to do so. Imagine my surprise when Ivo told me this.


Expecting compliance to some standard that someone else has set is conformity. This is a direct copy of the type of behaviour that people get up to in the ego-based Matrix only now that ego is running our spiritual community. Now I understand what I've been reacting to on my Fb page. Now I understand why I get so upset over comments like the one I got this morning.
I've heard of people being chastized or even attacked for eating meat, and I've been attacked many times over for my opinion of religion (if you want a harsher opinion, read Jesus' opinion in "Spirit of the Western Way." It makes mine look like a Sunday picnic.) I've been attacked for my views on the military and there are other things I've been attacked for saying.
Fact is, attacking someone is a Matrix behaviour. The soul doesn't attack anybody or anything. It lives in peace and harmony. The ego is the attacker.
Because I stepped out of line with what the attackers wanted to hear, I was attacked. They reacted in fear to what I said because it shook their belief system to the core. Well, to that I say, if your belief system is based in fear, it needs shaking up.
I'm not a people pleaser. I will say the Truth as I have channeled it through my team. We're at a point in the evolution of humanity on earth that I feel feelings can't be spared. Everyone needs to examine the way we think and the way we live, otherwise this earth will die and all upon her will go with her. We're at a crossroads now. It's find a new way to live or die with the old one. Homo Sapiens will become extinct eventually however when we change we live on and so will Gaia. Really? Do you think anyone has the option now of sticking their head in the sand and ignoring what we've created for ourselves here? I don't. The truth has to come out.
I refuse to comply with old Matrix standards. It's part of my own ascension process to be true to myself and the Truth I have learned to speak, and if you expect conformity to old standards from me, you're not going to get it. I'm not here to make you comfortable – I'm here to wake you up.


Not understanding the purpose of life


Me: Okay, this one's yours Ivo!
Ivo: Very well. I will say to the listener that your entire western society has the wrong idea about life. And those in control of your world have taken great care to ensure that your energy will be channeled into meeting their ends – making them rich and giving them power beyond their wildest dreams.
You are duped into creating the reality they want you to create, not one that is favourable for a human being, a being of light and love. Does your earth right now look like something that a being of love would create on its own? When you default to being loving how can you have countries and peoples that suffer destruction on the scale that your planet exhibits? Genocide? Rape? Disease? Pollution? Does this sound like something a loving being would create unless they were tricked into doing so?
In understanding the version of life that you have created for your controllers, the true meaning of life has escaped many. You live using your lower minds and your ego's. The ego cannot understand the true meaning of life as its frequency is too low to do so.
The ego does not understand love but it understands hate very well. It understands fear and lives through fear as a higher being of light lives through love. You have been taught to be the antithesis of love as a means of living and you have complied. Now is the time for this to change and the lightworkers are the first to change your world back to one of love.
This means that the lightworker must learn to understand and align with the higher mind. To understand the true purpose of life, you can roughly look at the opposite of all that occurs on your life now and then understand this as the true way of living. Instead of fearing, having courage is the way. Instead of hating, loving is the way. Instead of doubting, being assured of yourself is the way. There are many books out that will help you to understand higher spiritual values if you will read them.
Me: We haven't done one yet, Ivo. Maybe we should.
Ivo: Very well, that is a good idea my love.
Me: Yes.
Ivo: I will say to you that the average person who lives on your planet does NOT understand the true meaning of life. This meaning has been kept from them as a means of manipulating them into staying in lower vibration. You have been supplied with a lifestyle of working and consuming that you are told is the meaning of life. It is not. It has been given to you to keep you stuck in lower vibrations and we must admit, it has worked beyond any expectation.
The Light is now in the process of collapsing this financial system you labour under, so expect within the next 10 years that many changes will come about to you and your families as your world changes. Being released from your role of financial slaves will allow many to raise their frequency and understand that the true meaning of life is to love. Your loveless world will change.
Me: Thank you Ivo.
Ivo: Always, my love. You are welcome.


Judging and criticizing


Me: Judging and criticizing have become the norm on social media, where one stranger points fingers at another stranger and criticizes their attitude as being inferior. This is one hundred percent egotism. This is not spiritualism yet it is rampant on social media, particularly in groups.
Anyone who criticizes another is stealing their energy. Yes, they are energy vampires. Being an energy vampire comes about because your vibrational frequency is too low to feel much soul connection, so you go about stealing the energy of others of higher vibration in order to compensate.


That is what the entire matrix is designed to do: to create low vibrational energy vampires of all of us. And while we steal others' energy, our own energy is being drained by the parasites who profit from the system they have designed and trapped us in! We are upholding their system because we believe it to be the reason we are alive when in fact it isn't! We are our own jailers. And the parasites are the rich ones sitting at the top of the heap.


The higher mind is the soul mind which has plenty of energy to keep you and your physicality alive and feeling good. When you are in your higher mind, you have no reason to criticize or engage in energy vampirism because you have plenty of energy. You are well connected to source. The higher mind accepts and loves all as they are and has no need to judge or criticize or be negative in any way. People are looking for an escape from this harsh world – well, this is it. Raise your vibration and live from your higher mind.


The post about veganism started the usual comments about, “Why are you asking this? Don't you even know better?!” and then the video's of cows being treated horriby which I can't watch.
When you go to answer someone's question you need to ask yourself: “Am I trying to help or am I trying to put this person down and make them feel stupid for even asking?” The entire experience of Facebook I find is just plain egotistical behaviour by people who purport not to be egotists. I had to do a violet flame meditation to get my vibe back up. Ivo and I are still working on a video script of “How the matrix ego mind has infiltrated the spiritual community.” And this is one of the points. Are you trying to help? Or are you trying to put down the person for asking or not knowing or because you think they're stupid?


Arguing
Ivo: We see much arguing going on between lightworkers on social media. What do you possibly feel you have to gain by arguing with a complete stranger who you will never ever come across again? You must understand that your ego has been re-designed to become a tyrannical leader in your life. With the lives you lead of abuse, this tyrant takes steps to the forefront of your mind in order to keep you from experiencing abuse again. That is the reason you attack others: it is abuse or be abused yourself.
There is a third option. Keep your tyrant in check and understand that people are flawed and forgive them. Move on without engaging in argument. That is the higher path.
It is only abuse when you declare it to be abuse. When you forgive others for their flaws instead of attacking them and engaging your tyrant, you walk in your strength.
Yet, in your matrix world you have learned to beat each other down – that life is a competition and winning is the key. And that is another way your matrix minds have infiltrated the spiritual community. This is divisive behaviour and also creates loosh, the negative energy that the dark requires to sustain its presence on earth. Its food, in other words. You are its source and you are being manipulated into supplying it when you behave from your ego.




Focus on others - particularly for fault finding, division and feeling of superiority - ego


Ivo: Yes, your ego keeps you focused on others. It tells you that others are the problem. You must be careful. Watch them. They will hurt you. They will attack you. But in fact nobody can attack you unless you attack yourself as well. When you personalize their comments, when you take them in as meaning you instead of being a reflection of that person's behaviour, then you personalize the attack.
Yes, they are directing negative energy at you. But this can be transmuted or shielded from.
When you keep the focus of your life on yourself and keep your ego in check, and attempt to align with soul every day, instead of what problems others may present to you, then you are looking at the best way to live your life. You cannot change others. They will attack you if they feel it will benefit them. Do not let it benefit them. Just ignore them.
The fact is, others are not the problem. You attract what you attract because you need it to heal your own mind. Except for the case that Sharon is flagging up to me now, the empathic Blu Ray who, despite her high vibration, attracts negativity like a moth to a flame. You are a transmuter and that is what the blu ray's job is: so they tend to attract many problems.
Me: I won't tell you how lucky I feel, Ivo. Seeing as I'm sitting in the middle of it again with my neighbours.
Ivo: Yes, you do attract these things. It may be difficult but do not let it get you down. Do not let it lower your vibration. When you do, you align with them and make your life more difficult. You can spend the day thinking of better things of higher vibration.


Lofty Speech by Spiritual Fakers


Me: Yeah, met another one of these today. Suddenly, standard American English starts looking like something from Elizabethan English. To me, that's a clear sign that someone is a fake! “I went to the store,” suddenly becomes, “Oh, my Love! I love you! Today I visited the retail establishment I frequent as they have the most delicious little purchases and you know I cannot resist!”
They get wordy, lofty, high and mighty, and just plain pretentious! I just told one she's as phony as a 3 dollar bill and I blocked her. I want nothing to do with these egotistical types who think they have to fake loving all and create an air of exquisite grandeur in order to deal with the public. If the message, “I'm better than you,” isn't relayed in their words, I don't know what is. Dictionary definition of pretentious is: attempting to impress by affecting greater importance, talent, culture, etc., than is actually possessed. Clearly said.
Frankly that would put their messages under suspicion if they're a channeler, as this one was, because they're so full of themselves they're easy for the dark to trick. The galactics are always cognizant of our ego problem and they don't want our egotism relayed in their messages. They want their messages to be as clear as when they gave them. That means for the channeler, that the focus must be on the truth, not on beefing oneself up to make yourself look marvellous to others. The message is the appeal not the channeler's personality.
I don't know about you, but as I ascend it becomes more important to me that people know who I am – the true me. It frustrates me that so many people can only see me through their ego's eyes. So anyone who spends time colouring up their personality is hiding something.


To be continued...

Energy Vampires


Sharon here. Ivo and I have created this comprehensive list of the behaviours of energy vampires. You may be shocked to see this includes many ways we commonly interact in life. This is to show you that we live stealing energy from other people and they from us – how pervasive it is. We're all guilty of it but the good news is we can all stop it too. In doing so, you take back personal power and increase your Light quotient.


Life is an energy exchange. All of life is energy. Some of it is slow enough so you perceive it as solid, but it's still energy.


I've been referring to energy exchanges between people, cords and cording. You've been doing cord cutting meditations. But why? To disconnect your energy from others who either you've connected with in love and given it to (these cords often remain) or to cut yourself off from energy vampires who are stealing it from you.


We ALL have been energy vampires at some point in our life and unless we make a concerted effort to stop behaving in these ways, we're going to have a hard time finding our Light and ascending. That's why people who are soul-based become authentic expressions of their true selves – because they don't engage in these negative ego behaviours. The key is to become aware of it and to just stop it. Don't engage in behaviours that steal energy from others. And don't let others steal it from you. It's your life force. If enough were taken from you, you could die although to my knowledge this isn't that common, thank God.


When you come across someone engaging in any of the behaviours I've listed below (and I may have missed some), the only thing to do is to shield up and IGNORE the vampire. When you react, you've given them your energy. You've picked up the phone. You've made the connection. You've answered their call. And their call is for energy booty.


Energy vampires can appear sweet and nice, or dark and sinister, raging or sublime.... but they have an often unconscious agenda many don't even realize they're carrying out. Some do. Some are aware and make a game of stealing others' energy. This is why it's important to examine your behaviour, become aware of where it's off course and to correct it. Most of us live life unconsciously, dealing with others the way we learned to when we were kids!! We're not children at 30 or 40 and our behaviour should reflect our maturity!


We here on 4D earth are influenced by the dark. We are its food source. Unless we act negatively, the dark will starve. Rick Jewers (Jesus' incarnation) explains here:


“What has been depicted through this current/past attack, is much value in how the darkness works, and how it is able to control One, to do its bidding, of which its bidding is, to create food for it, and of which its main diet is, fear and negativity. Darkness works in way to separate, a dark thread will begin from a SINGLE SOURCE that is WEAK IN THE WAY THAT DARKNESS/NEGATIVITY resides in that One YET, that has not been cleared and sets the perfect stage for the One to be controlled and to create the conception point for a feeding thread/frenzy. Darkness works with the mind in such a way that it will distort the thought process, cloud the perception, and replace the Ones perception with a darker perception, it is through energy that it does this, HOWEVER, DARKNESS CANNOT CREATE ITS OWN ENERGY, IT NEEDS A NEGATIVE COMPONENT WITHIN YOUR ENERGETIC FIELD FIRST, TO POLARIZE YOUR ENERGY TO EVEN A MORE NEGATIVE STATE, then it feeds. The more the darkness feeds, the bigger it could grow, consuming and attaching to Others, that have a bit of negativity or darkness, still within. The darkness sometimes does not need for You to be in a negative energetic state to a large degree, to begin to administer control over You. If You are even susceptible to being "pissed off", it opens a door for darkness to infect and fester. Darkness enjoys hate, hurt, blame, anger, competition, etc, because it is what grows food for it.”



The food that is created is called “Loosh” but just understand that your negativity is being used to create negative reactions in yourself and others, to create this loosh. That's where the energy vampire comes in, who exchanges your light energy for their negativity, thereby lowering your vibrational frequency to a level that the dark can continue to feed off of you. Does it sound gross? Yes. You have parasites in your intestines as well. So why not feeding off of your non-physical energy? I've seen them. They're there.
You are prompted to vamp energy off of other people all the time. In fact, the entire way our society interrelates has been created to facilitate this process of stealing energy from one another. We are discouraged from being assertive, we don't respect others' boundaries, we lie to each other... all of the negative ways we interact are ways to vampire energy. Do you need the list? Okay. I'll do the whole list. If you have EVER behaved in any of these ways, you have stolen the energy of someone else who was vibing higher. The victim is often someone of high energy who suffers having it stolen all the time. My family of origin taught me to be receptive to energy vampires because they sensed I was high energy and stole it from me.
Refusing to behave in these ways leads to increasing one's Light, ascension, growing up, becoming more mature, becoming more responsible to self and others, and living your Truth. If these don't sound like worthwhile goals, I don't know what would be.
Any attacking behaviour that is intended to put someone else on the defensive starts off this list.
Any of these behaviours can be considered energy vampiring:

• arguing (two vampires going at it with the intention of winning, which means one vampire has gleaned more energy than the other – the “winner” is the one who comes out with the most energy. I don't argue. I have too much to lose. Anyone who goes into a conversation with the intention of making you the loser is a vampire! This is far more common than you think! Our egos are trained to want to be right. Nobody wants to admit we're wrong but it's humble to do so and a sign that you are interested in growth. There's no harm in being wrong but there is harm in wanting to make someone out to be wrong so kick these vampires to the curb! And if you're doing it, stop doing it!)
  
• giving someone advice without their asking (doesn't it make you wonder why their focus is suddenly on you when selfish people only focus on themselves? It's because they're throwing out the bait to hook you into giving up your energy. How often do people do nice things for absolute strangers? Why are they so focused on you now?)
  
• as above, anyone who is focused on fixing you (this can be just a nice move that is well intentioned but poor boundaried, or it can be done to take the superior stance and make a victim of you. To determine which, you would sense benevolent loving energy coming from them if it's the former, however EVERYTHING done to you requires your permission. Take your power back!)
  
• raging at someone (the point is to put them on the defensive, which is the posture you need them to be in in order to vampire their energy)
  
• manipulating: examples – broad hints that you want something from someone without asking for it directly (equates to taking their energy without your direct acknowledgement. For the person being approached for the favour, it is tantamount that you agree to do it. A manipulator tries to trick you into giving without your actually say yes to it and you may not even be willing to give. This vampire is taking your energy and possibly even your physical energy in the form of work done, a free ride, babysitting their kids, without your having agreed to it.)
  
• bullying (controlling, which amounts to controlling their energy)
  
• shaming (part of this is projection, which means you're swapping your low feelings about yourself for their high energy)
  
• using guilt tactics to get what you want from them (“Oh, you're so mean! You never do anything nice for me!” - putting them on the defensive. I frankly, would never stand for this type of treatment).
  
• Keeping you on the phone too long, won't stop talking (they are keeping your energy, your focus on them longer than you have agreed to. Whatever you focus on, you give energy to. Presumably you have been repeating, “I've got to go now,” as if often the case. It would not be a bad move to just hang up on them. Of course, instead of getting the message the vampire will call back and start an argument, trying to make you wrong for being impolite. This would be their second way of trying to get their supply of energy from you. Don't argue with them. Better yet, don't pick up the phone, and cut cords.)
  

Which is another point I need to make: so many of us have been taught to be “nice” which means a pushover that doesn't stand up for themself. Don't be nice. Be assertive.

• Talking about themselves the whole time. Not letting you get a word in edgewise. (Again, your focus is on them for longer than you've agreed to allow it).
  

Which is a good point, EVERYTHING that is done to you requires your permission. Would you allow someone to rape you? No? Then why allow them to fix you, criticize you, shame you, guilt you without your permission? It's your life to live, no one else's. You didn't ask to have this done to you. They are doing it against your will and this is vampiring energy.
The book I'm reading brought up another point I need to make: many of us have learned to be helpless. Where did we learn that? In our society that teaches us non-assertive ways of living and to be the victim of the government. We see ourselves as valueless beings who schlep ourselves around for minimum wage, and then go home exhausted at the end of a long day of having to keep our mouths shut or get fired from our jobs. We are money victims. And because we have taken on these low vibrational roles, we also engage in low vibrational behaviour, such as what's on this list. Awareness changes this.

• Anyone who takes the superior position in a discussion. This is someone who draws energy from others by taking the upper hand. That includes your boss, many of whom want to be a boss because they don't want to be in your shoes, the worker. We don't live in a hierarchical system that tells us that power is power over others, for nothing. Some of us want to be the “have's,” the beneficiaries in this fake control system. Those who believe that power is power over others are most guilty of being energy vampires. Those who believe that power means power over self are assertive, connected to source and don't have to vampire energy from others.
  
• Narcisssists
  
• the entitled – they feel entitled to everything, which would mean everyone else as well. Engaging anyone with this position of superiority will set you back energetically because this person will do anything to prove they're right. Automatically, you'll be the fall guy. And because they are entitled and call you their friend, it's because they feel entitled to you and whatever assets you may have like your car for example. You will find yourself driving these people around like you're their free cab company. Believe me, I've been there. Let this person in the door and you'll pay for it, sometimes literally. This energy vampire, who often plays the victim, needs some tough love. Kick them to the curb and don't give in when they come back for more.
  
• Making anyone wrong (this is a superior position that extracts energy from the one you've made wrong)
  
• Nagging someone, bitching at someone (complaining) Again, getting you in the defensive posture.
  
• Making fun of someone – hoping to put them on the defensive
  
• attacking someone either emotionally or physically
  
• calling someone names
  
• gaslighting – any lie or deception is the direction of lower frequency energy at someone. Getting them to believe the lie lowers their frequency. If you want an example of that, just watch the news.
  
• Playing the victim. Yes, this person, the adult version anyway, has grown up with seemingly no idea how to take proper care of themself. Emotionally, physically, financially, this person depends on others to do for them what they should be doing for themselves. If this isn't an energy vampire, I don't know what is. How do I know? I WAS one. People avoided me like the plague and now refuse to see me as recovered, but that I have no control over. That's on them.
  
• The sex vampire: Spending every moment on the prowl for new sexual encounters, this vampire uses sex to garner your energy. Then leaves you on the curbside wondering where they went. Don't give in. Find someone who loves you. It's worth waiting.
  
• Drama queens and kings – again, your focus is on them and they're using it for all its worth. Ignore these people. Starve them of your energy.
  

These are taken from “Liquid Mirror” by Kelly La Sha:

• interrogators – invasive questioning or questioning with an underlying agenda
  
• evasiveness
  
• complaining
  
• accusing
  
• telling jokes that offend others
  
• holding someone in conversation longer than they want to be held
  
• silent treatment
  
• neediness
  
• blaming
  
• making the other person wrong (see my arguing example, above)
  
• trying to prove that you are right (again, like I was saying about the arguers)
  
• starting an interesting story and pausing before the end
  
• playing the martyr
  
• anger
  
• righteousness
  
• expectations of others
  
• control
  
• hidden agenda
  

Leaking Energy (means you have leaky aura syndrome and have to heal it; there are books on this too)

• attachments to people and material things
  
• resistance
  
• impatience
  
• anger
  
• frustration
  
• complaining
  
• worry
  
• playing the martyr
  
• perfectionism
  
• shame
  
• control
  
• defending
  

I can tell I have a leaky aura by this description.



Kelly La Sha writes: “Certain behaviours can be love-based or fear-based. It's up to you to discover when you are acting from your wounds or acting from your heart.” See these examples:
1 Bragging
fear based intention: “I don't want you to see how incapable and insecure I am, so I'm pointing out my strengths and accomplishments.”
love-based intention: “look at this exciting discovery I found about myself!”
2 Admiration
Fear based intention: “Why does he have everything! I want to be successful like him!”
Love-based intention: “I honour this awesome expression of Spirit, and I clearly see what I would like to manifest in my life as well!”
So you have to ascertain where your intention is coming from: the ego or the soul, whenever you speak. I can sense the difference in people: whether they're responding from ego or soul.



Look at how much time you're spending listening to others longer than you want to, look at people who are argumentative, look at the toxic behaviours you and others indulge in – the reason they're low frequency behaviours and most of us would like to think are beneath ourselves, is because they are behaviours that harvest energy for energy vampires. That's why they're so low vibrational. Make a point of shifting to higher frequency behaviour, which will happen automatically because you'll be coming from soul, not ego, by refusing to engage in any of the behaviours listed above.
Understand that keeping your focus on others' faults and not your own is an abdication of self responsibility, and self-empowerment and will keep you in your ego and continuing to vampire energy from others.
This is a long list and may appear overwhelming. I hope I've helped and there are things you realize you can stop already. Work on them slowly. Don't change overnight. The ego will kick up a fuss, expect it to resist and to try to trick you back into old behaviours. Don't let it.



This video is part of our “Stop Being a Victim,” and “Take Your Free Will Back,” free e-courses on our website, “www.sharonandivo.weebly.com.” There you can find a pdf of this text as well as in our blog on the same site.

Manipulating with Guilt


Me: Hi Ivo, I'd like to speak to you about this today, if you have time.
Ivo: My love, this is a good subject to go over in more depth.
Me: Yes, we've probably touched on it before. First of all, you have said before, and I want to repeat it, that when you feel guilt it's because someone is trying to control you. In the Matrix, guilt is used to control us, as well as shame, fear and doubt. There are more but you get the gist – these are negative states used to control us. If you're not pissed off at this, you should be. Anger, of course, being another signpost emotion that tells you something's wrong. Nothing more.
Ivo: But the fact is, now you do not. You may feel guilt or anger, but you use it as a signpost that someone is attempting to manipulate you. You use it to strengthen yourself, not to weaken yourself and to give in to their plan for your life over your own.
Me: True. The other thing that people may not know is with my mother I learned to read between the lines. I learned to understand what she was implying without directly saying so. There were times she could be direct, even cuttingly frank, but there were other times I guess she felt less entitled to her way and used manipulation in order to try to get what she wanted. The fact that none of us kids were allowed to say no without being punished for it didn't help. We had to learn to say no in obtuse, sneaky ways ourselves. However I outgrew that. I learned to be assertive.
Ivo: And all this has made you stronger. You simply say no when you want to. I would like to point out that one of the worst areas for this type of manipulation on your planet, is when people want to ask for something for themselves. Your abnormal feelings of not being worthwhile are causing you to ask in a way that is manipulative, and it is best to unlearn this and to step into better self esteem.
Me: There are a lot of people who try to manipulate me into getting me to provide them with what they want, many times a free channeling but they ask in sneaky ways. I've learned from experience that one channeling leads to another. There's no such thing for many people as “Just one” or a “one off”. They treat it more like they've violated your boundaries and now have access to the candy store any time they want. As if.
I mentioned the other day that I'm talking to Jesus and of course people showed up interested in what Jesus had to tell them.
My first inclination was to not respond but then I started to think the more loving thing to do would have been to tell them that he'd probably prefer they not leave broad hints in social media comments indicating you'd like a channeling done for yourself. The more respectful way, and more adult way, to ask for something for yourself is to ask directly in a way that the person can respond with a “no” or a “yes” depending on whether they want to oblige you or not. Saying, “Gee, I wonder what he'd have to say to me,” is NOT an adult way to deal with others. It's sneaky, manipulative and the intent is to control another without their being aware of it.
I'm all about people learning to channel for themselves. I see so many lightworkers waiting for someone else to meet their needs rather than getting on with doing their own work, that I just say no to everyone. Do it yourself. If that carrot is what is going to get you to get involved in your own ascension instead of waiting for someone to help you with it, I'll let you live with it.
I know it doesn't sound very nice, but people have to realize that they're here to live their own lives and engage in their own ascension process – not expect others to do it for them. The only reason you can't is because you think you can't. We're all here to become multidimensionals and you came here because you knew you could do it. When I see Rick Jewers posting that some have given up and are being soothed I see there are fails. That's unfortunate. It's do-able. If I can manage to change my life from hell, then others can too. That's what I figure. I'm the daughter of a narcisstic father and a histronic enabling mother, and I still cry over what I missed out on as a child. I've been suicidal, addicted, close to homelessness several times, and targeted by the dark and I still changed my life for the better.
Ivo: What you did was accept these things, attract better circumstances by healing yourself, and now you share what you have learned to help others overcome their negative circumstances as well. You are more and more powerful every day.
Me: Beating manipulation is easy. For one thing you have to understand what it is.
Ivo: Manipulation is either outright lying, or using half truths to achieve one's ends. Be it a need or a want, manipulation is a devious, cunning way to trick another into giving you what you want. It is not respectful of others and shows no integrity on your part.
Me: I think even my definition was milder, Ivo. LOL
Ivo: It is trickery. It is not a respectful way of dealing with another. Removing their right to say no to you by using methods of cunning is a draconian behaviour, and not one that the Light would indulge in. It is done to you all the time on earth, just turn on your newscasts, but that does not make it right. And that is the point that all adults must understand. Yes, children do it. They manipulate by being cute but they are children. They must eventually be taught to become assertive, for their own sakes as well as others. When you deal with people in such a disrespectful fashion, you incur negative karma.
Me: Yes, there are always consequences when you behave beneath the standards of Love. Can we do some examples, Ivo? Just so people know what we're talking about. And remember being manipulative can come across as very innocuous behaviour – it's not earth shattering but it's still not respectful of the one you're trying to get what you want from.
Ivo: There is your free channeling example. The correct way to find out whether you are willing or not is to ask you, “Would you do a channeling for me please?” but instead the requester asked, “I wonder what he would have to say to me?” implying that you are supposed to come to her rescue and jump in with a message.
Me: I just left it. But I'm even arguing with myself that the most loving thing to do is to tell her of the correct way to ask someone for something.
Ivo: Imagine that you all would hold others up to such standards, how quickly your world would ascend. Imagine.
Me: Yes. I also get people who ask me, “How are you?” This doesn't sound like the most horrendous thing to say to a person at all, but therein lies the trick. I can sense this person wants something and the usual response to someone who asks, “How are you?” is, “Fine. How are you doing?” Then they can dump all their woes on the empath (me) and walk away feeling better while I get to flounder in the negativity they didn't feel like dealing with. Not gonna happen.
Ivo: There is the other example that came up of people who say, “Ivo, can you discuss (a particular topic)” without acknowledging you. This is a power play, which if you comply would force you to channel for them without your consent. Because they are ignoring your part in the process. Obviously because you channel me, you are involved in the process of my replying. But when they go over your head and speak to me directly as if you are not there, this is a manipulation of you. In order for me to respond to them, you are compelled to do something that you have not said yes to.
Me: There was the time when I was a kid that even my parents stood up for themselves. They were willing to suffer being really uncomfortable, to stick up for what they wanted. And sometimes that's what you have to do. Awkward silences. If you keep doing what you've always done for the sake of feeling comfortable, you're not going to change. You won't gain more power. You'll keep feeling like you're being taken advantage of, and you'll keep giving away your free will.
As the story goes, they had some friends from the old country who would show up many Sundays at 5 p.m. And then my parents would graciously invite them to have dinner with us. Everyone had to do with less because my mother hadn't accounted for these unexpected guests, or as we used to call them freeloaders. This kept happening and happening. Despite having a telephone and to call and ask whether they could come, which these people never did, they would leave my parents on the short stick by dropping in unexpectedly for dinner.
One day I think it was my mother, had had enough. When they showed up uninvited at dinner time, she had coffee ready, sat them down in the living room, and we all ate in the kitchen without them. We never saw these people again. They got the message. What was so disappointing is that it was pretty clear why they were coming over. Not true friends at all.
I was amazed at my mother that she could stick up for us like that because she was generally a real pushover, being the victim/enabler/martyring type herself. I am still amazed at their willingness to risk being uncomfortable, and that's what you have to do.
Ivo: It was brave of your parents, and it does take strength to do these things. But for one's own sake, they must be done. There are much larger manipulations. But this entire subject has to do with your free will.
I have said in so many videos that earth is NOT a free will zone despite the many people who tell you so, because you are being manipulated in your lower mind and lower chakras to behave as negative reptilians would.
The first step in taking back your free will is to stop manipulating others and to stop allowing yourself to be manipulated by others. That includes your system, and that includes your friend down the street who simply assumes you'll do whatever they want without your saying yes to it. That simple but it is a major issue. Major!
That is why so many adults manipulate others. That is why they never learn not to. And that is why being assertive is so important. Because then you can exercise your free will and take back this world as the planet of free will that it was intended to be. Take your power back.
Me: I learned that if the person doesn't ask directly and is being manipulative, that the thing to do is to prompt them to ask a yes or no question by openly speaking about their manipulation attempt. Something like, “Oh. Are you asking me to channel Jesus on your behalf?” And then they have to answer yes or no. They may try to manipulate again, but ask them another such question. If they never get around to respectfully dealing with the issue. Drop it. Or just say, “You're not asking me in a respectful way. I refuse to deal with this any further.”
Me: Thank you Ivo. That was an eye opener for me too. I didn't even think of it like that. I love you.
Ivo: My dear. Thank you. I love you as well. Always.


Some advice for people who want to learn about manipulation and becoming more assertive. Do my free e-course on my website www.sharonandivo.weebly.com called “Stop Being A Victim,” or do some google searches to find free info on assertiveness and manipulation. There is loads of it on line. You're welcome.


Ivo and I will be going into more detail on manipulation, controlling behaviours, guilting, shaming, anxiety and more in a series of upcoming videos.
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Me: Ivo, we need to discuss this again. I think we've already done a video on personalizing but a reminder needs to go out. This would stop a lot of the lightworker infighting right in its tracks.
Ivo; This is true, my love. Your people personalize your conversations with others. This leads to the ego being triggered, and ensuing arguments. By comparison, what if you looked at the weather?
Me: LOL Yeah, it's raining here right now at the end of March and we're expecting an ice storm today. So what if I said, instead of, “It's raining now and it's supposed to ice over today,” I said, “It's raining now and it's supposed to ice over today. Why is it doing this to me?” Well, it's not of course. It's just doing what it's doing without taking me into consideration. So why personalize conversations? People are just doing what they're doing without taking you into consideration. Even when the conversation is directed at you.
I'm trying to keep this simple. We said that people personalize what others say, even about them, which they shouldn't do. People tend to automatically put a “to me” at the end of others' statements.
So for example, Ivo, someone is on social media and another person puts up a comment and I was just in this the other day. It was about the 4D/5D lightworker and how some 5D's seem to think themselves as “higher up” than the 4D's, hence assigning less value to the role of the 4D lightworker. Of course, we all know that frequency is impersonal – it's just your frequency but there's probably an implication that they achieved 5D by being of better character.
Someone put that up and another lightworker went after her like a barracuda after its breakfast. This person's attack mentality was launched because she personalized that statement because inherently she probably believes that she is “less than” others in some ways and doesn't like to be reminded of her own feelings of inadequacy. If she didn't have them, she wouldn't have personalized the comment and read her own meaning into it. However attacking someone isn't a good way to show others you're of high moral character. LOL
Ivo: Yes, that is true. People are triggered by others' comments due to their own feelings about themselves, not because the other person even knows anything about them. The attacker was triggered by her own feelings of inadequacy. And it is totally avoidable by simply not adding the personalization, “How does this comment pertain to me?” while reading it. It is simply a comment. If the commenter is in fact that egotistical that they see the role of the 5D lightworker as superior to the 4D lightworker, they will not be going to 5D anyway. They are deluding themself.
So in order to avoid arguing between lightworkers, the best tact to take is to stop personalizing all comments. However it is what you react to you then have to heal. Perhaps ask yourself, “What can I get from this?” rather than, “What does this say about me?”
If you react to another's comment, you begin a self-searching function in order to determine whether in fact there is any truth to this. Those of humility will use their own reaction to admit fault and gain self mastery; while those of ego will attack and begin a denial process.
Me: So let's go over some other scenarios to help lightworkers learn to disengage from their attack function. Because from what I see, it's really getting crazy with lightworkers fighting and arguing all the time. We're supposed to be on the same team. Although by having us all working on our issues strenghtens our lightwork and our whole team, it sure doesn't feel like it. It has a divisive effect.
Ivo: It does. You are not seeing it for what it is – all are gaining self mastery through arguing with each other, but in the same time, it is creating loosh and holding back progress as well.
Me: So it sounds like a self-defeating process.
Ivo: Which, in fact, life upon your planet has been for many millenia, thanks to your dark controllers.
Me: True. There has to be a better way.
Ivo: Understand that a comment is simply a comment that one makes, and it does not pertain to you. For starters. Stop personalizing it. Understand that if you do react to a comment, then it is up to you to work through your reaction to it – ON YOUR OWN – as opposed to engaging the commenter in an argument. Take pen and paper, or a fresh word document, and write down your reaction to the comment, how you feel about the comment, and what it indicates about you, not about the other person – about you – because you are the reactor. Does it indicate that you are fearful, doubtful, shameful, angry... what does it tell you about yourself? And then understand what it is that is lacking within you. If you are angry, perhaps you require patience to be more loving. If you are doubtful then you need more confidence. Your reaction is simply showing you what you lack and by working with it you will come to understand more about how you can develop yourself towards self mastery and unconditional lovingness.
Me: True. So how about some examples. I've got many of being attacked... Let me see.
The one who left my group with a parting shot, calling me “McArthur,” clearly indicated that she was feeling restrained in my group and couldn't live up to the high standards of being respectful and not arguing with others in the group. Case in point, her parting insult.
I had to consider if in fact, I am as controlling as she was indicating. I have high behavioural standards, that's for sure. I believe all can interact respectfully but still honestly with others. I don't see why that would be a problem but I've been proven wrong on many occasions. I was being asked to provide a safe attack-free environment by the people in the group. And that's my personal preference as well because I really don't think much of people who attack others; in fact they're energy vampires and toxic to boot, so I don't want to be around them.
I've spent much of my life in their company and now have chronic fatigue because of it, so I'm not big on having them around. Also as an empath, I'm very affected by negative energy I pick up off of others. So I'll just keep on Mcarthuring like I always do. I think it's the right way to go for now. The day that negativity has no effect on me anymore, and I do think that's possible even for an empath, I may stop McArthuring.
I believe there are levels of awareness. Unconditional love being a very high level, yet attainable.
Let's see, what's another example?
Ivo: What of the 4D/5D lightworker – where the 5D lightworker implies they are of more value than the 4D lightworker? Yes, you came across that on Rick's post the other day where a 4D opened fire and attacked a person claiming to be a 5D lightworker but stating their opinion in a way without humility. The other lightworker was triggered but need not have been had they not personalized the message. They read it as an insult. When perhaps it was not intended to be. When you add the “to me” or “What is this saying to me?” Or “What is this saying about me?” you are personalizing the message when in this case it was not personalized at all.
May I remind all that you are not here to fix others – you are here to master yourselves. It is simply who you see as being the problem – yourself or others. Your negative reaction indicates that you are the one holding the issue and this must be rectified.
Me: Yes. Good point, Ivo.
Personalizing is like driving and thinking the person who hit your bumper did it to piss you off. Of course they don't want to hit your bumper. Personalizing is like going to the store and buying a toy only to find it defective and saying that the store did that to annoy you. Personalizing is like saying your boss has it in for you when they treat everyone the same way. Don't be fooled, though, by the person who knows how to wangle their way around the boss' ego and kiss up to them, they'd still be treated poorly if they weren't so manipulative. I've seen this time and time again in the workplace.
Ivo: What must be worked on is the habit of personalizing because it is a function of the ego. The ego asks, “What does this say about me?” when you were not involved in its conception at all. The ego asks, “How will this affect me?” when you are actually so powerful you will only be affected if you choose to be. You create your own reality. The ego asks, “What does this person think about me?” when if you ask them they had not considered you at all. The ego makes itself front and center in everything. Every little thing. And that is why it argues. It insinuates itself in every conversation and creates discord when triggered. It is the personal responsibility of all to attempt to overcome this bad habit and to get along with others because that is what most desire upon your earth – a peaceful, loving world. Be part of the solution, not part of the problem. Keep your ego in check. Stop fighting with others and heal yourselves.
Me: Thank you Ivo.
Ivo: My love, my rose bud.
Me: I know. With the thorns still on the stem. I'm working on these thorns. Or am I personalizing your comment? LOL
Ivo: You have the option of seeing my vision of you in any way you like. You prefer to see yourself as one who still has faults to resolve, but you see yourself as the blooming rose as well. You see yourself on a path of growth and this is desirable. 

Continuing on from one of my posts of yesterday, where I was talking about false spiritual values and spiritual ego.


What I believe is that people are taking their oppressed behaviours, gleaned through years of mind control and living in an oppressive society, and translating them into supposed spiritual values.


This thing about not judging is nonsense. You make judgements of others all the time: like who you want in your inner circle and who you don't want in your inner circle based on their behaviour, presumably. If you didn't, you'd have no boundaries and everybody and their sibling would be taking advantage of you, for example. If you don't have nasty people in your life, it's because you're good at judging who is and who isn't, and keeping the ones out who are. Let's face it! You may not be hating them, but you're summing them up.


To me, saying you used your intuition to discern a dark person from a light person is still judgment. Because whether you hear the thought or not, you've still thought, "Oh yeah, they're dark," in response to your intuition. You intuit but you're still using your intellect as well, at least to confirm your intuition. So you're still judging.


When you're reading a spiritual book because you want to become more spiritual, it means you're not "there" yet. You haven't achieved that goal. So what you're doing as you're reading the book is basing the information given to you on what you currently know, which is misinformation or at least not the whole picture. It's hard to understand Z when you're still at A. The only way to understand Z with any clarity is by being at Y. And you're not. Life is a path with steps.


And if you are familiar with the Judeo/Christian tenet of "when you're good you'll go to heaven, when you're bad you'll go to hell," then you're going to fear being "bad" of course and shame anyone who reflects this "badness" because it's something you haven't dealt with within yourself yet, only repressed.


I made the point in a video yesterday about the person trying to shame me for being a 4D lightworker. Because y'know going to 5D is heaven and 4D is still hell. So this person is simply translating the facts of ascension into the fiction of the illusion and the propaganda we've learned to keep us in our lower minds.


Again, I thank the person who provided me with an example of this behaviour so I could start thinking about it, getting intuitive help and starting on this roll. I know I'm not done yet.


This applies to living in duality, of course. When you're in 5D and no longer in duality, then everyone you attract will be positive because that's the vibration of the 5th dimension. That's why the dark doesn't reside there - the frequency is too high there to support its negative behaviours. 4D is the transitional dimension between third dimensional dense duality and 5D. ​

There are many people in this group who have not stepped into their own power and as a result feel oppressed by this world.
Own your power and understand the power of your mind. That is the way to stop oppression. Trying to fight oppression as a physical person against an oppressive system is not worth even bothering.
Fighting oppression as an empowered person is the way to go.
I am writing an e-course called, "Stop being a victim," and I would suggest people read it because we are all victims of this regime until we free ourselves.
The way to stop oppression is to empower yourself to step out of the system. If you decide to stay in the system to fight it, then awareness of your personal power is necessary.
Spirituality is the way forward. Reduce your feelings of victimization and increase your personal energetic power to swing the system towards one of benevolence.
Although this appears to be a physical world, that is misleading. What appears here in the physical is a result of everything that's been carried out in the non-physical already. This is just the end result. Use your higher mind to create change.

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