What Is Predatory Behaviour? How Does It Look In Everyday Transactions?
- Not listening when others say "No" and try to set a boundary with you.
- Not listening to others at all - only talking about yourself.
- Thinking you're the exception to their rules. You're so special that they'll welcome your friendship with open arms. This is narcissistic. You're sure when others say "No" they don't mean you, that they will make an exception for you.
- Not really wanting to get to know another person for who they are but for what they have to offer you.
- Having overt or covert intentions to use another person to suit yourself
- Outright lying about yourself to project a false idea of your good points
- Trying to put over your false idea of friendship on someone unsuspecting.
- Only looking at others for what you can get from them
- Trying to dominate everyone else; needing to be the one in control
- Using the word “friendship” to disguise your true intentions. Frankly, with the drop in values since I was a kid here in western society, friendship can mean anything now. I like the old definition: hanging around with someone you like. Doing things for your friends comes later, long after you've developed a bond.
- Playing out the "victimizer" A.I. software mind control position, making victims out of others who you can exploit and dominate
- Not understanding what a nuisance you can be to other people and thinking everyone loves you because your ego is over the top - you love yourself so everyone else must see you the same way. This is called "emotional reasoning."
- You say you want to "be friends" but you're continually prompting "your friend" to ask the ET she channels for you. Like that's not obvious.
- Energetically you come across as a banshee if you are a high energy being. Your screech is hard for other empaths to bear because what you have is high dimensional energy that is out of alignment with love as it gets distorted in the lower dimensions.
- You're quick to capitalize on any situation to see how you can benefit from it; that's because you think that way. You have a predator mind.
- You basically come across as ruthless to other people and they resent having you around. I don't. I'll dispense with you as quickly as possible.
- Or you use niceness as a weapon to violate others' boundaries. You're sweet and demure, using this false face as a means of deceiving others as to your real intentions.
- You've very unaware of your own behaviour, and assume others won't be either. You think people are stupid so they won't catch on to you
This applies to both males and females, folks. Both men and women want to have the upper hand in their victim/victimizer relationships, but they don't realize that on the triangle, nobody wins.
Learning to take a "No" is the gateway to adulthood. Trying to manipulate and control others means you still have a child's mentality because that's what children do.
When it turns out the other person was wise to you, you try to come back in any way you can to blame and shame them, telling them they're wrong about you. Instead of taking it on the chin, and God forbid, thinking maybe they might be right about you, your ego goes on the defensive to "save your honour" or whatever. This is because you have no self esteem. If you had real self esteem, you wouldn't think much of it and move on. But you have to attack because that's also A.I. programming that you're a victim of and that, too, is predatory.
You switch from the victimizer to the victim position on the triangle and you make out the person who was wise to your game out to be a victimizer, the bad guy. That's because that's how you think. You don't think like an assertive person so you can't understand how they were defending themself against you.
If you're an obsessive type or a stalker, you'll find any channel you can to show up in the person's face again and again. Your quest for domination knows no end.
Folks, whether you bake cookies, build tree houses or run a Fortune 500 company, there will be someone around looking to capitalize on what you know or what they think they can manipulate you into doing for them. Many people will not ask with a question that can be answered yes or no – they will play on your sense of goodness, fairness or your kind nature in order to manipulate you into giving them what they want.
Ivo: When a person is good, kind and fair, it is because they have been such with them self first, and so with this healthy sense of self in place, it is not easy to be manipulated. When a person has worked to release them self of toxic guilt, then it is very difficult to make them do anything they do not want to do. Doing things for others becomes a matter of choice, not guilt. They also realize they can do whatever they want, and that if they do not wish to, they can say “no”, kindly but if need be, to be repetitive or in the end to walk away when not listened to. A person who is fair to them self is responsible first to them self, not to others.
Me: Flattery is one typical tactic. That's one that leaves me cold and annoyed. I'm very likely to tell the flatterer to stop kissing my ass because I don't like it and they need to be made aware that it's not working.
It's like the bumper sticker I've seen on pickup trucks occasionally: “Yes, this is my truck and no, I won't help you move.”
I make friendships based on whether I want to know someone or not, not on what I can provide for them. If I work exchanging information with anyone for reasons of ascension, planetary liberation or disclosure, I call people my “contacts.” I call the channeling I do a service, because that's what it is – a service. It has nothing to do with the friendships I establish – those are based on a person's relationship with me, not my ETs.
Ivo: Another area where people tend to be predatory is with money. That is because they believe that there is only a limited amount of money, which is not true, and if you have more than I will have less. This is also not true.
In the third dimensional business model, many a bad business deal has been done behind a handshake and a cunning smile.
Me: Did you have to bring that up? I've just spent two days in “the pain body” over a business relationship that turned out to be predatory. That's the problem when you are open hearted: even business relationships are based on heart for you, but not for others. They base it on money. I don't base anything on money and most of my life I have resented the fact I had to earn it.
Ivo: Yes, what you focus on grows. You began this channeling last week and now had a personal experience that helped to clear out your auric field.
Me: I didn't really want this relationship to go south, but unfortunately it did. Some people think they have to manipulate others out of money; that's because they're too afraid to just put up their damned prices. Oh well.
I sit there and look at my neighbour, who suffers from tremendous anxiety and drinks daily. He described how he got to know his wife, what his last relationship was like and how she treated him like crap, and I've talked to her mother and his parents. I wouldn't want that guy's life for all the tea in China. I feel sorry for him. These people are all at each others' throats. They're all predatory. Playing the victim/victimizer roles.
If that's what relating to others is like on this world, and I can remember for a time it was like that for me, then thank you, I'll be one of those old ladies who lives with her cat.
Ivo: You are moving in with me.
Me: Yes, I will be. I don't expect the same nonsense that I see going on in people's relationships on earth.
Ivo: And you will not get it. We have a purpose to accomplish, yes, but I am not like the people on earth.
Me: Yes, I know. You spoil me.
Ivo: I should think so. All people should be spoiled with love.
Me: Seriously, guys, you've got to hear what he says to me. I share a lot of it in this working relationship we have, but because neither of us is predatory, and neither of us is working for money, guess what? It works!
So, back on topic, what do you do if you're with someone who utilizes underhanded tactics of manipulation, control and whatever to bilk you out of what they want from you. I just said no and explained the way I saw it. The fact that I was furious was hard to disguise. I hate being taken for money and I resent people looking at what I am doing to earn it so they can hit me up for some more.
I will do all my work from now on by contract. It can't be helped.
If this is what's going on in your life, I suggest you walk away if you can. Unless you want to be manipulated and controlled. For me, it was a deal breaker.
How many people's relationships are out of balance? How much do you give versus how much do you get back? Are you carrying all the weight in your relationship? Are you being taken for granted? Or do you do these things to your mate?
Ivo: Predatory behavior is not just behavior that is aggressive and involves attacking. It can also be covert behavior, hidden behind a nice demeanor, and it will come out when the covert predator sees opportunity to advance them self at your expense.
Me: Yes, and it can be shocking for someone to realize that you're really like that when they thought so much of you.
Ivo: Yes, disappointment. Remember it is all mind control.
Me: Yes. It's mind control but people are being held personally responsible for bad karma they create. It's universal law. Can't be helped.
Ivo: Correct, my love.
Me: I want to point out another typical predator and that's the pick up artist. That can be male or female. What they're trying to steal is your energy. Think about that. The other thing you need to consider is what happens when you have this sexual energy exchange with a complete stranger. These are the energies of creation you're exchanging with someone who may be out of alignment with you. I think it would be possible to pick up energy from another person who may have negative deposits within their auras. Then you'll end up either suffering from this energy exchange or having to transmute it.
Frankly, a relationship, however short, based on booze, bullshit and flattery would leave me about as excited as a trip to the dentist. Those of us whose hearts have always been open on this planet tend to have strong feelings about anyone they let get close to them, and something like this, I have found, is very hard to deal with afterwards. While he's just walking away and ignoring you, your heart is pounding for him because of the false intimacy. I believe having intercourse with someone is a very solid way of creating a spiritual link to them, and it's not something to be trifled with.
Ivo: It is, my love. It most definitely is.
Me: Thanks, Ivo.
Ivo: My love, you have learned so many lessons. I am so proud of you.
Me: Yeah, I'm going to get a T-shirt for Vega: I survived the earth school of life. I should get an award.
Jan, hoe vindt je deze boodschap? Ik heb veel bewerkt. LOL
According to Lisa Renee, they're specifically out to decrease two things:
1. Your intelligence, (IQ) and 2. Your willpower.
Me: Ivo, I understand that by decreasing what we determine to be our intelligence, they're trying to create dumber societies of people. They don't want people to be able to think to create logical deductions, yet I see a lot of people who are doing exactly that now. We're all waking up, so apparently their dumbing down scheme isn't working.
I struggle myself with being able to remember vocabulary I would have freely used even just years ago, but now instead of saying ingenious, quick-whitted or intellectually masterful, I would just say smart. I'm surprised at times when you and Ashtar come through with words I wouldn't have thought of or can't remember the meaning of anymore. Ashtar regularly does that in his channelings – I have to look up the word to see what it means to see if it fits the context of what he's saying. And it always does. It's just that I don't remember the meaning of the word.
They say losing your brainpower is part of having fibro, but maybe fibro is a disguised term for people who are subject to mind control. This wouldn't even surprise me in this mixed up world.
As for willpower, I find that I've done this for a long time: picked up projects and never finished them. I've started something with great intentions and then never finished it. Particularly spiritual books or other projects that I'm doing for the Light.
I don't believe these are just signs of age, or that they are personal quirks. I believe sometimes things get left by the wayside because they're not supposed to be finished or soul decides there is a more important project to be carried out instead. Now I find that I have very little ambition to finish anything at all. Nothing seems to have meaning anymore. All I can do is look forward to the next move I'm to make and focus on thinking about that.
Ivo: That has to do with leaving the Matrix, my love. Youtube videos for hours on end is now over with because you no longer wish to learn about aggressiveness against others, be it through plane crashes, train crashes or tsunami's. You no longer desire to elevate your adrenalin levels through watching youtube. You are not interested in watching crime shows and in scaring yourself. So there is not much to watch. You watch outdoor campers, musicians, and then only so much of this entertains you because it is not your frequency anymore. There is nothing really upon earth that resonates to your frequency so you watch videos of monks chanting Om.
Me: LOL My cat likes them too.
Ivo: There is little left for you right now. Your neighbours' victimhood is boring to you so you have let them know you need your space. Then you come over with stories about archons in your bedroom at night and these poor people are scared to death.
Me: They watch that stuff on TV!
Ivo: Yes, but they do not live it.
Me: Even Archons are boring.
Ivo: They are not your frequency. I am your frequency and you will be moving soon.
Me: Can we have honeysuckle trees, wisteria and a wildflower garden?
Ivo: Yes. You need not ask me. Plant them yourself.
Me: True. I want to create Paradise on earth.
Ivo: It is how you use what you have learned. How you observe and what observations you have drawn and how you apply those observations in your life.
Yes, people are waking up now. They are drawing conclusions from what they see. They are making decisions about who they want to run their countries, and who should be in power in your world, and they have decided that the ones who are, are not the ones they want.
Me: It's working. People are coming from their “I” again, not from their “you”. It's “I want this!” not “You lead me!” anymore.
Ivo: That is willpower.
Me: Anyone else feel like that? It's pretty weird when you leave the Matrix, especially when you leave the Matrix mindset and have to connect with your higher self. Life tends to look totally different and it works differently too. You react to things differently and projects maybe your ego would enjoy your soul doesn't have a need for. I hope I get my chakra book read, though, I really want to finish it. Yes, I'm being reminded I wanted to know about the higher chakras, not the 7 embodied chakras. Well, I'm finding information on them as well.
Who you thought was “you” is not in charge anymore. You have to get used to the idea that there really is a higher power and she is dictating (in a nice way) what you will do during the day. I don't know what to do, to be honest. I look at my flowers. I watch cars to see if they manifest into the ones I asked for. I write videos. Do channelings. The scope of life becomes narrower and narrower. I'm sure that when I move, there will be a huge explosion of input as I face Ivo face to face and actually learn in an eyes-on way how he lives and how he behaves. I'm sure I'll be in for many lessons and the details will be passed on to you. Well, most details. Some will be private. LOL
You start really tapping into synchronicities and then you find you can regulate how life works around you. Every time I pull into the parking lot, if the spot across from me isn't empty, it will be when I go to leave. I just make it that way. If it's not, then at the same time I'm getting in my car to leave, someone in an adjacent spot gets in their car to leave. Every single time. I can control life. We're all that powerful!
I can ask to be shown things and poof! There they are. I asked to see a green kia soul the other day. I didn't get one. I got a gold kia soul within half an hour, which is close, then the woman who owns the grey one across the street was wearing this phosphorescent green nurse's outfit. I got it. There's your green plus a kia soul. When I look up, there's her car parked there every day. But I've never seen her wear this outfit til yesterday.
Yesterday, I said, “Athena, show me your love by sending me a purple car.” Not very common colour for a car, is it? It showed up behind me today as I left the store, a little grape coloured sports car. You have to realize how little I drive to be able to understand how miraculous all of this is. I go to the store and back, it's a couple blocks away. That's it. I also said that I wanted to see a checkered pattern in cars: black, white, black, white. When I went to the store today, I pulled in and there was a white car to my left, a black car in front of it, a white car in front of me, and a black car to my right. The space in front of his was empty. The white car was pulling out as I got in to leave, so I thought I was good to go until a lady in another white car quickly zipped into the spot to block my path. No worries, the guy in the black car to my right was leaving. That's plan B: Someone adjacent to my car is leaving as well as me. It's crazy how you can make this up and it plays out in front of you. Which is a good reminder: Be careful what you wish for and make sure it's really positive! And stop complaining. That's about the worst thing you can do to yourself.
Life bends to your will. You consciously influence what's going on around you. If you focus on people who are riding around on mobility scooters, guess what you're going to see more of? Yes, people riding around on mobility scooters. I'm doing that as well, One just went by. There's another kia soul, a light grey one, just went by. What you focus on you get. The other day I marvelled at all the white cars I was seeing. Guess what? Now I'm going to see more and more white cars. It's the magic of the mind.
When you focus on fear, you get things to be afraid of. It works both ways. I'm being shown in a huge way how I'm the artist on the canvas that's called my life.
Imagine if thousands of us started to realize this: started to see their outer reality bend to the instructions of their mind. Imagine the chance the DS would have then, eh?
Ivo: My love, intelligence in your world is thought of as the ability to learn facts. It is not. It is about the ability to use a set of facts to create. That is intelligence. The set of facts will align with universal law. Your quiz shows only enforce this incorrect idea. Many of the facts that you have memorized are in fact, untrue, and they are part of the agenda to keep your vibration low.
Me: So stop watching Jeopardy! Geez, I liked Alex Trebek. RIP Alex. Yeah, maybe on our TV station we'll have a game show called, “Galactic Jeopardy!” LOL
Ivo: As for your creating your reality and seeing it projected out in front of you, yes, you are correct. Humans are that powerful. They can create reality, even apparently in getting other people to decide to wear bright green clothing the next day. This was your creation. The soul always seeks to serve others so her soul complied with your wishes. All is cooperation.
You have gone a step beyond the normal level of observation. Most people believe that what they see in front of them is the reality, but they do not understand that they created it. You understand that you created your entire life, and now you are putting the horse before the cart: you are telling the universe what you wish to see manifest. And it is doing it because it responds to your mind. You are doing it consciously and having fun in the process.
Me: Yes, it is fun. Understanding that this is my canvas and I can put on it whatever I want.
Ivo: Whatever resonates to your frequency. Most people do not realize this is universal law because they go to the store. In the store, such as Walmart, they find whatever they desire. So they believe that in order to create something you must use money and a shopping cart. That is not true. Everything is energy and the strong mind can create an object from thin air. That is what you call “alchemy” but there is far more to alchemy than just that. That is manifestation.
If your frequency is harmless, than you will have fun creating harmless manifestations such as purple cars and empty parking spots. If your frequency is low and you are fear based you will manifest more harmful things for self and others. If your frequency is benevolent then you will manifest things that are of goodness to yourself and all.
Now, my love, I wish you to move up to the benevolent range. You can do this.
Me: I can. What can I start with? I'd love to see the food bank in my city get so much money or donations that they can't shut their doors.
Ivo: You could start a fundraiser and donate the winnings to Agape.
Me: (I go and look at their site) You can just donate on line. Okay, I'll try it. Thanks Ivo.
Ivo: You are most welcome, my love.
Me: Also, a reminder, folks. Please donate to your local food bank. People really need the food and there are many families who are living below the poverty line. For some it's a question of either having to pay the rent or eating so food banks are absolutely essential.
The link for Sharon and Ivo's Agape Fundraiser will be below this video.
The appearance of these supernatural abilities follows the maturation of the chakras,
We are never to substitute true spiritual enlightenment for the prideful assumption of power.
Whatever your gift, know that it will only increase the more willing you are to use it to help others in a way that serves your life as well.
Our chakra activity corresponds uniquely to our personality characteristics. There are several reasons for this, but the primary one is that most of us live more from certain chakras than from others. Most of us have stronger or more emphasized chakras versus weaker or lesser-used chakras, simply because our life purpose usually requires employing certain gifts rather than others.
Dale, Cyndi. Llewellyn's Complete Book of Chakras (Llewellyn's Complete Book Series)
In other words, your strongest chakras will be those necessary to fulfill your spiritual and life purpose.
Me: Ivo, can you discuss this please?
Ivo: I thought we always discuss things?
Me: Your speech is more eloquent than mine is. Plus I've just experienced my daily trigger.
Ivo: I realize you have issues with inconsiderate people.
Me: I do. It's a bitch coming here from another planet and knowing intrinsically the loving way they interact and then having to adjust to a system that insults and abuses you. This is the place where anything goes and working on daily forgiveness is the only way to keep your sanity. The irony is the more triggered I am by inconsideration, the more I remember life on Elteron because I can say, “I'm triggered by this inconsideration. Why am I so angry? Because on Elteron I would never be treated that way.” That's the process I have undergone in remembering my soul and my life as Tiannia on Elteron with Ivo.
Ivo: Yes, that is the process. Everything that irks you about life on earth is because you have not experienced it recently or perhaps at all in your past lives. The way to remember your soul is to stop being insulted or feeling abused, neglected or other, because your soul would not feel this way. For those who are in situations that threaten them physically, or the emotional abuse is too much to bear, this is counterproductive so we still recommend you leave for safety's sake.
Me: So there you go, folks. We just told you how to remember your soul and your past life. Look at your expectations of self and others, and to remember your soul it's still the same: leave the ego behind. All of this is about re-connection of you to your “higher aspects.”
Ivo: Very well, I will discuss these points.
“The appearance of these supernatural abilities follow the maturation of the chakras.”
Yes, this is true. All of you want to understand what your life's mission is. When your chakras have matured to the level that they are functioning within a reasonable semblance of balance, then you will understand your life's mission. Many of you do not understand the power of attraction. The power of attraction asks you, “What do you want to do?” And in answering that question, you may very well embark upon the road to fulfilling your life's dream – your mission.
Some of you do not realize that it is too early to fulfill or to begin working on your mission in any meaningful way because the circumstances are not rife yet to allow you to begin this work. Your service is more futuristic. It is not the world yet to be able to manifest your primary mission in.
Yes, Sharon will not allow me to call it a job because many of you have an idea of what a job is and it does differ from being of service. In your jobs you are allowed to kill and fry animals, for example, you are allowed to insert needles into patients, cut people open, and drill out their teeth. In doing service, you will not be allowed these abominations.
Me: Yeah, we've never told anyone that their mission is to be a dentist.
Ivo: No. We have not.
However, in preparation for doing your mission, perhaps you might take on any volunteer position, whether it is one of your own making or with an organization. Then you learn the fundamentals of being of service and this will give you the opportunity to do so.
The chakra maturation process has to do with working through daily issues that come before you. You are capable of attracting the lessons you need in order to mature your chakras. If your life seems like a bad life and you are unhappy it is because you are focusing on being happy, you are not focusing on learning to be your true self. Many take up addictions in order to stifle this process of wholeness. It only worsens the pain for you and lengthens the process, sometimes taking more than one lifetime.
When your chakras are allowed to function in balance, you embody your higher self. If they are out of balance, then you need to do work on them. Most people have imbalanced chakras on your world and this is due to Matrix interference.
As we said, your world is going through a collective kundalini awakening and root chakra issues are being addressed, and you see a good smattering of taking back your power which is a solar plexus issue. With the rescue of children from the bases and cessation of child abuse, this is a collective sacral issue for those upon planet earth.
All of this rebalancing will lead to opening of the collective heart for those upon planet earth, some sooner, some later. That is when collective ascension to 5D will be possible – when the heart of all opens and love becomes the main way of interaction.
Maturation of the chakras is absolutely necessary. Kundalini must be allowed to rise. Without this process, you remain homo sapiens.
Now, one thing I must say is that whenever your chakras are out of balance, you will attract lessons that will put them back into balance whenever you do the work. When you do the rebalancing work, you will not attract the lessons. Especially with higher energies coming in now, you will attract lessons that show chakra imbalances quite quickly. When you do daily chakra rebalancing via the youtube video's, you will require fewer such lessons. It is that your chakras are imbalanced that you experience pain.
Me: So you're saying rebalance your chakras daily and you won't have these karmic lessons?
Ivo: They will be reduced. Your life, for example, would be a lot easier if you would work daily on rebalancing your chakras, but you do not, so you attract these lessons.
So that one I got today of being treated with inconsideration, what chakra is that being affected.
Ivo: The solar plexus chakra, this is about power.
Me: Whose power?
Ivo: The person who was inconsiderate of you feels entitled to treat you so poorly.
Ivo: This is the power over others system at work. When you keep your solar plexus chakra more attuned, you will circumvent many of these.
Me: Yes, I've been getting them daily. Daily triggers which make it hard to do my channeling work.
Me: What about old lessons, unhealed parts of us?
Ivo: You can still work through them by watching your own thoughts. You will catch them in action.
Now the book says this as well, and it explains a lot for people who have certain psychic abilities but not others. You for example, have a stronger throat chakra than you do a third eye. This is because you are primarily clairaudient. Having said that your third eye (clairvisuality) is catching up, so much so that you could write a book about your third eye voyages.
You are very emotional and a Scorpio, so you use your sacral chakra predominantly. You are very emotional but still have a love/hate relationship with your emotions, and now you are working through them to embrace all of them – Uncomfortable and comfortable emotions. You are trying not to label them “bad”.
Many people have stronger mental chakras – the solar plexus. They believe that their intellect is their power and your entire western society functions on this principle. Since this tends to be primarily men who pride themselves on their intellect, your western world has overfunctioning, out of balance sacral chakras. For the male, many have a strong physical presence, and perhaps a strong intellect, but they are taught to repress their emotions so the emotional side of them, as expressed through the sacral chakra, is underactive and out of balance.
You see, as well, that there are many men who are large in stature and muscular and these men make a lot of money in professional sports. That is because the dark ones are very adept at understanding your chakras and manipulating them to benefit themselves. The root chakra rules over the physical body and money or rather security, which is expressed through money in your western world. No surprise there.
What you must realize is that the true human has strength in ALL of these areas: physical, emotional and mental. Then there are the upper chakras which include heart energy and balance of the personality, higher hearing, higher vision and connection to God source.
Me: Yes. You have all of these.
Ivo: We are balance. We do not pride ourselves on our mental abilities and reject our emotional states. We embrace them all.
Ivo: Your life purpose does require stronger chakras than others at this point in time. When earthlings again become superhumans, then all chakras will function at full power.
The reason that you are given certain roles, and that some chakras are stronger than others at this point in time, is because your bodies would not be able to sustain that much energy. They would become weak through burnout.
Your bodies now must grow and acclimate to your increasing psychic skillsets. Some are born with more active DNA now but the older ones take longer generally to come into their skillsets because of the body they are born in. Some are born with open chakras anyhow.
One role of the lightworker/starseed was to be born into these double stranded bodies and to “grow” the body to become more powerful. This was done for the sake of future generations.
Me: Thanks Ivo.
Ivo: You are most welcome, my love.
Starting back in about 2002/2003 I went through a MASSIVE kundalini awakening. Five years of it. Yeah, just after 9/11, like so many other people, I started to wake up. I call it dark night of the soul, and maybe it was. It sure felt like it. I tell you. It was the challenge of my life just to want to wake up every day when I knew extreme pain would be all I would face. I used to curl up on my large couch in a fetal position. Somehow that seems to help when you're in a lot of pain.
What I didn't realize was I'd been working with an energy healer who was working on unblocking my chakras. I worked with him a while and then went to see a conventional doctor who engaged in talk therapy while I was attending the twelve steps. Instead of running from my past, I was now facing it, so I was really stoking up the energies and releasing them.
Right now, everyone on this planet is going to go through a kundalini awakening and you see it, it looks like the planet's gone crazy with all the fires, looting and burning. Everyone's gone mad. In my neighbourhood we have almost weekly calls to the police department. What in fact this is, though, is this world letting loose its negative energies and eventually it will return to sanity. That's the process.
I am reading Cyndi Dale's book on the chakras. Not that I haven't read chakra or healing books before, I have, but she seems to be the “go to” person in the west right now and she's added a lot of info the other ones didn't. For once I'm trying to understand the eastern version of how the body operates. Who knows? Maybe I'll be able to resolve my fibro or hormonal imbalances by doing so.
I find this stuff fascinating. It's interesting that she talks about the Granthis, which are like gates for the kundalini to rise through. When life lessons aren't learned then kundalini can't pass through the gates and rise to the top to reach enlightenment. Life lessons must be learned.
I've noticed a lot of these life lessons have been tampered with by the dark ones in order to stop our kundalini from rising. Many are stuck at the root chakra because they have money and security issues.
The first granthi is Brahma and it relates to the root chakra. Life lessons include: Childhood abuse issues; financial challenges; addictions; repressed sexuality and identity confusion; questions about primary partner, lifestyle, and career; potentially fatal illnesses; greed, envy, and materialism.
The second granthi is Vishnu, it relates to the heart chakra and the life lessons include: Questions about lovability, deservedness, relationship needs, codependency, separateness from the Divine; heart, lung, and breast conditions.
The third granthi is Rudra, it relates to the sixth chakra or third eye, and life lessons include: Issues with appearance, self-worth, and body image; questions about future, goals, and dreams; challenges with vision, perception, learning, and hormones.
Yes, I will be certain to give Cyndi Dale credit for this information and recommend you read her book, “Llewelyn's Complete Book Of Chakras.”
I can tell from this list where I am. I have some life issues that have been with me since I was a kid. I am wondering if I need to do past life regressions into my bloodline to see where the overeating and poor body image got started. Maybe I can release it.
I'd like to remind you guys: Many of you are here to transmute your bloodlines' bad karma. So it feels like you have done some bad things but you haven't. But what you haven't done is transmuted the bad things into positive energy. I can tell you that someone in my family has killed another person because I can feel that energy. Someone created some pretty bad karma and I'm transmuting it.
The other thing I want to remind you is that we are now going through a collective kundalini awakening – the whole planet.
Maybe I'll let Ivo explain it.
Ivo: I have explained it, many times however for clarity I will explain it again. Your world is rising in frequency. In order for your world to rise in frequency, kundalini must also rise up. Negativity must be expunged and positivity must take its place. That is universal law and basically the process of ascension in a nutshell.
You see upon the planet that there are many bombs, fires, riots, fighting, etc etc. Your world is embroiled in battle and war again. This is the dark fighting the Light and now the Light will win. The energies are on our side.
As for the human collective on earth, those who have chosen to will go through an ascension process, culminating in a rise to fifth dimensional frequency.
You see the issues that are being dealt with by many people now, as defined by Cyndi Dale in her book: The first granthi is Brahma and it relates to the root chakra. Life lessons include: “Childhood abuse issues; financial challenges; addictions; repressed sexuality and identity confusion; questions about primary partner, lifestyle, and career; potentially fatal illnesses; greed, envy, and materialism.” Many people are dealing with these issues personally, but the world is dealing with these issues collectively. For example, what about PizzaGate? That is child abuse. Financial challenges: You see this in the markets. Now you see the announcement of the QFS (Quantum Financial System) and the return of the gold standard is being announced as well. What do you think this will do for your monetary challenges when corruption is removed from your world, or at least minimized? As for repressed sexuality and identify confusion, you see that the DS is stepping up gender confusion in the children. This is a fight back against the acceptance of all peoples regardless of gender preference.
Me: They don't like us loving gay people?
Ivo: No, they do not. They also do not like you loving people of colour so they hire them to start riots. They also do not like you loving Anons, so they lie about them as well. Do you see what they are attempting to do? They are attempting to keep the collective kundalini from rising.
Me: They were pretty good at it for a long time.
Ivo: Yes, but this is not their playing field any longer. It belongs to the Light now.
Are people considering new lifestyles? Are they eschewing materialism? What about the younger ones who are embracing minimalism?
As for potentially fatal illnesses, well, we see the covid pandemic and the vaxx programming are addressing your fears as well.
They are simply attempting to keep things as they were: everyone in fear. With your collective kundalini rising, there is no fear. They are using the Brahman life issues to do it.
Me: What about the ones who think this is a no brainer, Ivo? Like me? I know what choices to make and it's easy?
Ivo: This is because your kundalini has already arisen past this point and your life's issues have been healed at the root chakra or the Brahma level.
You are at the Rudra level and working on these issues. You have embraced a low carb diet and are working on body issues.
You see why there are so many doctors who throw new diets at you all the time, and keep you wondering how to eat properly, while they poison you with toxic foods? This is to keep your third eye out of proper alignment and to keep you from enlightenment.
When you see all of this, you will have confidence that all is going well, and it is. Of course the dark ones are fighting back. Would you not fight back as well?
The earth is being healed at Brahma level right now. It will be ongoing for a few years. People who have done no work on themselves will be in turmoil but those who have awakened and done the work already will be fine.
As for those people who wish to be able to speak to their higher selves, twin flames and more, you are part of this collective process and you are clearing out your negative karma as well as allowing your kundalini to rise. The day of speaking to your loved ones is coming. It will only take patience.
Me: Thanks, Ivo.
Ivo: I realize you wanted to say this, my love. All is well. People are impatient to be able to have their multidimensional skillset but the DNA must be activated and the life's issues must be dealt with. If you have not worked on it yet, then your life's issues will be dealt with along with that of the collective.
Do You See The Beauty of Life?
Me: I think this is really important, Ivo. We need to stop and smell the roses more often.
As someone who constantly walks around with a camera, I have probably photographed every lily, tulip or garden patch on the west side of Toronto. I loved stopping to look at the beautiful flower gardens that people planted, and then walking to Lake Ontario to watch the sailboats in the water on a sunny day.
Are we taking time from our busy lives to do these things, I'm asking. If you don't, start giving it a shot, because it will really turn the way you see life around.
Let's face it, there's so much hard learning going on on earth right now, we need to see life more in balance. I see stressed out people with it seems constant problems, suffering lack. I try to help them out. My neighbour wants an air conditioner for her downstairs so I said I knew my super had three of them so I'd ask him next week if he could recondition one of them for her. I try to help. I donate to the food bank, and oh yes, Greg Prescott of in5D.com is asking for donations again.
It seems there's a never-ending trail of that, but we have to see a more balanced perspective.
I have decorated my ugly front porch with beautiful summer plants and décor I got at the dollar store (nice stuff, not the tacky stuff) and I picked up a few more trinkets at the local green grocers. I love sitting out there, even when it's hot, because the colours are so vibrant and the themes I have like the buddha statue and the suns made out of pressed tin, I enjoy so much.
I love nature. Flowers and trees, beautiful sunsets without chemtrails, fall colours, a winter's spring of water.... you can't beat it.
Going to the water at the park and sitting listening to the wind and the lapping of the water on the shore. Like meditation.
Give yourself time to do these things. Even if you've never done them before. Stop achieving, trying, changing, doing, processing, cooking, eating, typing, texting, videoing... disconnect from all that stuff and reconnect with the spirit of nature. It's so invigorating!
Have you created a beautiful space around you? Do you have a room that's so comfortable that you love to sit in it and relax? Or is it full of stuff and looking at it just reminds you of the unfinished work you have to do?
Do you have beauty in your home? Or is your home strictly functional? Do you have plants, paintings and candles that will help create a mood or is it full of boxes and other crap that needs to be put away?
It makes such a difference to your stress level.
Ivo: Humans are respecters of beauty. In our homes on our planets, we have beautiful homes with tasteful decoration. Why? Because we understand that beauty is a higher frequency so we allow it into our lives. Yes, we enjoy looking beautiful as well, you might have noticed that.
Me: Hell no, not me! Never even noticed!
Ivo: Your humour again. Sharon and I share a love of foliage, plants and flowers that bloom into gorgeous blossoms that smell of heaven. We have had many lifetimes walking among the flowers and the blooming trees in Lyra and the Vegans are becoming more aware of their need to create this beauty as well. They have had other means to do so; in fact they are lover of gems.
Me: Ah. That's where I get it from.
Ivo: Yes. Your love of amethyst is also indicative of which energy you wish to draw to yourself.
Me: Here, I found this on amethyst. (sivanspirit.com)
Me: Looks like with amethyst, you can't go wrong.
Ivo: It is violet, and aligns with the third eye chakra. For those wishing to open their third eye, then perhaps the purchase of some amethyst would help. Also for those who are Indigo's and have a tendency to draw negativity towards them, Amethyst would help in transmutation of these energies.
Me: My house is full of amethyst. LOL
Ivo: You are living in a place where the people are the creators of the negative energies and this affects you as well.
Me: Yes, like you were saying, we live too close together.
Ivo: With little nature in between to draw the positive energy of. Your cities are created to imbalance. In our cities and those ancient cities of earth there is plenty of gems, water, and green foliage that will take up any negativity that is created. Your cities of Atlantis were made in this way: crystals abounded, fruit trees were everywhere, beautiful flowers were on the pathways and walkways for all. Buildings were created to bring in higher energies and to hold higher energies – your current buildings are toxic in nature and create slow lethal doses of energy within the humans.
Water is a wonderful transmuter of energy, so is the sun. To have these things around you daily is important, not just a jaunt to the beach on weekends. These are necessities, not occasional indulgences.
Me: Looks like our light city is going to be beautiful.
Ivo: Because we understand the need for these things, we will create a city where they are available in large supply.
Me: Thanks Ivo.
Ivo: My love, yes, you do not understand your link with nature. You work in polluted cities at stressful jobs. This must stop.
This is what happens when energies speed up... we begin to see what we have manifested earlier so now we can make a correlation.
Last night I was talking to my neighbours and her mother Sue came along. She asked about the cat flap and if there is a problem with other animals getting in the house. I said no, it's been pretty good, and at night time because I have the big door shut, there's no problem. blah blah blah
A couple hours later Merlin comes tearing through the cat flap, runs around the living room and then starts to focus on the book shelf. I look at what he's chasing because there is definitely something there - a mouse. It got away, Merlin stood down eventually, and I could see what Sue had manifested for me very readily.
I just hope none of those black cats with the white stripes down their backs try to get in. They smell pretty bad!
Me: Ivo, I see this as something that Sue manifested for me. I never really gave other animals coming in the cat flap any thought, but she was worried about it and directed that energy to me. I responded by saying, “No, there's never been any problem.” Not that tonight was a problem, it's not, but I believe I was being shown something. Actually it was kind of funny, except for the mouse, who did end up getting away, by the way.
Ivo: You were being shown the power of your thoughts.
For example, right now you saw a woman walking up the street with a t-shirt that reads, “Thank you for social distancing,” and you muttered, “Stupid signs. It'd be a cold day in hell before I'd wear that on my back.”
Me: It's true.
Ivo: However you shot low vibrational energy her way. Perhaps instead look at the person and feel compassion that she has to sell her soul in order to make a living.
Me: Everyone has to do that, pretty much!
Ivo: You do not. You get to celebrate your soul by doing the channelings. And you are in touch with everyone else's as well.
Me: I know. I'm lucky.
Ivo: All low vibrational thoughts must go somewhere. Energy is love in action. If you are looking at another person, talking to another person, or thinking about another person, that is where your thoughts are going. You must become very aware of this and stop it if it is negative, because you are doing no good for the world this way.
Ivo: I will keep reminding you as you need to be reminded. The other thing I remind you of is giving yourself negative thoughts.
Be careful about what personal messages you give to yourself...
Me: I'm taking on the role of putting out messages to the Angel Light warrior group now as well. That's fine. I'm an influencer and I have to use that to the best advantage for the Light. I really think this is important. Today's message was that the Philippines is going to start arresting anti-vaxxers and we really need people to turn that around for them. Are we going to take this sitting down? I don't think so! Who's in charge of this world? We are!
Now, if someone sends me negative energy that said, “You are going to lose all your channeling abilities,” would this be possible?
Ivo: Indeed, other people can control your reality. If they so desire. It happens all the time, it is called the Matrix, but there must be some co-operation.
You have had people send you negative energy which has robbed you of all your ability to work.
Me: Yes, until you blocked her.
Ivo: Which makes a point. Employing shields against the negative energy of others, against the negative energy of those with attachments, against the negative energy of life in general is good energetic maintenance. Repairing “holes” in one's aura is also wise. And deleting energy cords from others is worthwhile doing daily. That way you walk as a more focused, authentic person. With too many cords, you give too much energy away, and we all know this, the parent who is always on the go, running from one demanding family member to the next. This person is poorly corded and must detach these cords and take their power back, literally. This is how re-empowerment of a personality occurs: when you release cord attachments and you literally have more energy to empower yourself on the mental and emotional levels. Doing such a thing reflects a change in your physical world of a person becoming more assertive.
The problem with being connected to others is that they are connected to the negative Matrix. Unless they are cognizant of this, and work to keep their aura clear, then being corded to them can be a problem for you.
The other way you are disempowered is through negative messages you give yourself. And so you must be cognizant of them as well.
Me: For example, the “I'm busy” messages come up, which mean, “I have too much to do.” So I change them to “I've got this, I can handle this.” I can set priorities and deal with it all. I can see the job I'll be doing versus Ivo's, who will be working with the TV station. I can see that lovely man, sitting looking up at me as I think about him. He's got his legs crossed.
But yeah, I want to discuss this in more detail because I need a reminder. Oh oh. There's the ambulance and the police.
Ivo: Send higher energy to Mrs Roper.
Me: She's in better health than I am and she's 80.
Ivo: Send her higher energy, my love.
Me: Yes, she's one of the characters in this neighbourhood and has taken on the role of animal protector for every animal she can find. Very concerned about Merlin's bad knee a couple weeks ago, but we got that fixed. He has a ligament problem in his right knee. Vet said it was a football type injury. Merlin doesn't play football and I don't understand football, but I'll take his word for it.
Ivo: It is hard work for all of you upon earth to stay out of negativity, but now more than ever it is important. Practise, practise, practise.
When Sue had that conversation with you, she created the possibility within your mind. Even though you said it was not really possible for any other animals to come in, or that you hadn't had a problem with it, she still put that bug in your mind. The reason you did not see it as a problem, but rather as an amusing incident is because you do not see it as a problem. Period. So you were amused when the mouse flew through the cat flap.
When you talk about people, gossipping and backstabbing, you are sending the person negative energy. All people bring gifts with them. It is a question of seeing the gift. Pain is a wonderful teacher in the lower dimensions, we have dispensed with it in the higher dimensions, but it does motivate one to seek solutions.
If you must, envision every person you interact with or even think about, as holding their arms out in a gesture of giving. What are they giving you? What are they showing you? What wisdom do you have to gain by understanding their being in your life now. Because it is your show, your life, your movie, your play, the novel you are writing. It is all for the learning. When you see everyone who is in your life as bringing a gift to you, then you will stop hating others.
Your neighbours are giving you the gift of giving. You help them out because they are having a hard time right now, and so now the boy will have new summer clothing, which they cannot afford. You have always wanted to help people through philanthropy, now you are doing it.
They are also teaching you to do this with hands off, because you realize they overspend in many ways and do not understand that if they curbed this spending, they would be able to afford more. They think they are doing well with their income.
Me: I remember someone who had purse habits, would buy all sorts of expensive desserts, and squandered money like mad when she couldn't afford to, so I just shut up. I give them what I give them with no strings attached. It doesn't give me the right to tell them how to spend it.
Ivo: Others come to you with their information and their talents, and they are allowing you to post up pages about their work on your website. This is another gift you get to give to others – responsible caring contacts you have that can help the people who follow you.
(the section on our website is called “Lightworkers In Their Roles.” I've found some interesting people.)
Me: Yes. Stephanie also deals with helping targeted individuals, so she's a real gem, I think.
Ivo: Energy is always in motion, it never stands still. If you think negative thoughts about another, they receive it, perhaps not consciously, but they do. If you think positive thoughts about another, the same applies.
The way to deal with the DS is to love them. Send them love. It is not their vibration, but it is yours. You are enforcing your own I AM and standing before them as if to say, “I do not approve of what you are doing. You do not control me.”
You can live a lifetime just sitting on the couch. Your thoughts are everything.
Yesterday when you went to the store, you said that the car parked in the spot ahead of yours will be gone so that you can pull straight out. However, you have also said that every time you get into your car in a parking lot, one of the spots adjacent to yours has owners returning to their cars. It never fails. So because you said this never fails, the man did return to the car across from yours and spent time on his cell phone so you could not pull straight out. You had to back out of your spot instead. If you had said that this was the predominant thought, then he would have pulled away to allow you out. Your mind is a super accurate manufacturer of reality. Whichever is the predominant thought, will prevail. If you have conflicting thoughts, then often you end up with nothing, no progress in either direction.
You must make a finely tuned, sharp as steel, projector of energy of your mind. Very focused on one thought that you wish to create.
No more saying, “I'm too busy,” which means I am overwhelmed. If you wish not to be overwhelmed, affirm the opposite, “I've got this. I can do this.”
Me: Yes, old Weight Watchers meetings taught me this. I did do it too. LOL
Ivo: Send positive thoughts to all, thoughts of compassion, understanding, not anger.
Me: Maybe I don't want to relate to what they're doing, though.
Ivo: It does not mean you agree with them, my love, it means you feel for their plight.
Ivo: Yes, many of you use anger as a barrier. You say, “I am behind this barrier,” and everything before you is subject to your ire. Take these limits away from yourself and say that you have compassion for all life. It does not mean that you agree with all, it means that you simply relate on some level, either through past experience or simply because you can. Your soul is compassionate. Exercising compassion connects you to soul.
Me: I had another idea last night, Ivo. People are asking us how to become more telepathic. If you're at all artistic, and even if you're not, try sketching a person's face from memory. Even a simple sketch. I use drawings to sketch from when I draw, I don't sketch what's in my mind's eye. But if you can learn to hold an image that you've taken from a photograph and re-sketch it on paper, then the more you are training your mind to hold an image in your mind's eye. In doing that I'm sure you'll be closer to seeing what's out beyond our visual abilities soon enough. I remember when I was astral traveling at first, I had trouble holding the images. And I could still stand to work on it, to be honest.
One of the things I like to draw is caricatures. I've done politicians and Mick Jagger.
Ivo: Yes, this is a good idea. Also when practising to become clairaudient – to hear voices in one's head – then begin to recite poetry from memory. Your ability to focus on words and to recall them will help you to become clairaudient.
Me: There's a book out about that by Joseph Weed called, “Wisdom of the Mystic Masters.” He's a Rosicrusian and he has all these exercises for focusing the mind in this book.
Ivo: Very good, my love. The information is on earth. It is coming back out again. What many believe makes a focused mind is more caffeine, in fact it is relaxing and being calm that allows the mind to focus.
Me: Thanks Ivo.
Ivo: You are most welcome, my love.
We create emotional safety within ourselves through integrity
We create safety in relationships through consistency and compassion
We create physical safety through our perception and our actions as needed
Me: Ivo, can you expand upon this please?
Ivo: Have I not been?
Me: Yes, but in a nutshell.
Ivo: This is why I encourage you all to embrace higher values of charity, compassion, forgiveness, honesty, gratefulness, kindness, discipline, and patience.
When you indulge in these higher emotional states you raise your frequency above the vibration of fear. Quite often because these states are on a continuum, simply reversing your behaviour will put you into the higher state.
For example, when you are unforgiving, if you embrace forgiveness, then you are in the higher emotional state.
Me: That's a no brainer, Ivo. It's how do you get there?
Ivo: Obviously, not engaging in your normal reactive behaviour. Sit and think for a moment, and choose the higher path. Ask yourself, “How do I choose to respond to this?” It is often that in the matrix you have learned to react out of fear, so to be in a higher state of frequency, in higher mind, takes a moment to make a different choice. Sometimes it takes longer depending on how armed your fight or flight response is.
Me: Yes. I need to do chakra rebalancing or deep breathing. That helps move me back into the parasympathetic nervous system.
Ivo: Which is my point. You already know how to do these things because you come from higher dimensions, but you have a predisposition to acting out of fear because you have been trained to be on earth.
When you spend all day in front of the computer, you have the time to make choices differently. When you go on social media, this is a good way to practise creating safety for yourself with people by behaving in an ethical, integrous way.
It is more difficult when you are face to face with others but you now have a new forum of relating to other people besides face to face communication, and this forum allows for a slower response, even days in between in conversations where you can mull over a better choice.
Me: That's true. One good thing to be said about electronic communication.
Ivo: Perhaps you have been ungrateful for a situation you have been in. You are reminded of the cameras a neighbour put up to view and record his yard and your next door neighbour's reaction at seeing he was being filmed. But in the same vein, now his wife's car accident was filmed on camera and now there is evidence that she did not contribute to the accident because of the camera being there. So instead of ungratefulness, there is gratitude that the cameras were filming.
Perhaps you read a post and your first instinct is to react unkindly. But you delay your response and the next day when your mood has changed, you react differently – now you post a kind response. This is how you can move away from anxiety and move into a higher frequency. Through practise and actually waiting to respond and then thinking about a higher frequency response in the meanwhile.
Me: Gives the negative aliens indigestion too. No loosh to be had.
Ivo: Correct. If you would all do this, they would starve.
As for relationships, I have created safety for you by being consistent and compassionate.
Ivo: Had I treated you as you had been treated on earth, you would have refused to speak to me.
Ivo: So I am doing a good job then.
Me: LOL I'm going to give you more chances soon.
Ivo: Ah, I see.
We do have compassion for all of you upon earth. You gave up so much to go to help others who were suffering. Now you live as they do: suffering as well, everything from financial difficulties to teeth falling apart. These things would not have happened to you had you remained with us, and we appreciate that you went to help others and are willing to work with us to continue to help others.
It is that you do not remember the compassion you felt for earthlings that you criticize them now, and call them sheep, because if you would ask your higher self to let you tap into that energy in meditation, you would be overwhelmed by the immense compassion she or he would have for you and for those who walk upon earth. It would bring you to your knees to just feel some of it.
Then I would tell you that that is who you are, not the person on earth that you have been told you are. Not at all.
Ask your higher self to show you next time you meditate. Let me connect with your compassion. You will be overwhelmed.
It goes without saying that what the earth needs is more compassion, at the level of your higher self. Your job is to embody that. So practise as I have instructed you to: stop your automatic response, take a deep breath, walk away if you need to, calm yourself down and when you are calm and recentered, then make your comment. While you are riled up you will only create loosh, and for that matter bad karma.
When you practise this, you will learn to stop suffering.
Me: Thanks Ivo.
Ivo: We have channeled 4 videos today, my love, so shall we stop?
Me: I was just getting started.... LOL
Ivo: Your curiosity knows no bounds, my love.
Understanding Ego Behaviour
Ivo: Always be on the lookout for ego. Ego is the part of the soul that attempts to create unhappiness.
Me: It's simple, really. You have examined your behaviour and you tend to act in ways you've become familiar with. You can understand your reaction to things, you can pretty much anticipate how you'll react to something, can't you?
What if you were having dinner and someone sneezed in your plate? You know how you'd react, wouldn't you?
Let's face it, this isn't something that you'd really want to happen to you, but we know, shit happens sometimes.
Don't you love the person who says, “Oh, bless you, but I will take a fresh plate of food,” and then smiles because they know the whole world hasn't caved in. Are you that person? Would you take such a situation so gracefully? Would you help to alleviate feelings of shame and embarrassment in the sneezer by taking it so gracefully and being forgiving? Would you console the sneezer and offer them kleenex with a smile and a kind pat on the back of the shoulders?
Would you just have a chuckle, and laugh it off in a relaxed way, hoping that the sneezer will understand it's no big deal. Then order a new plate from the server without making a fuss.
Or would you be less loving?
Are you the one who would say, “Eeuuw, that's so gross!” Would you sit there expecting an exchange of words between the sneezer and the sneezee? Are you the one expecting a nasty exchange of words?
Are you one of the ones who sits at the table, laughs and then seems to enjoy this uncomfortable moment, maybe pulling out your cell phone and taking a picture of everyone's faces, hoping to get a laugh out of it on facebook. And then maybe adding a comment about what an idiot the sneezer is.
Is that you?
Are you the one who decides to get disgusted and exclaim your disgust out loud, embarrassing not only the sneezer and the sneezee but making everyone else uncomfortable at the crowded table? Do you not care whether your outburst draws the attention of everyone else in the restaurant and whether the sneezer is humiliated because of it?
Do you make things worse or do you make things better? Do you make mountains out of mole hills, or do you take the opportunity to revel in the fact you think someone else is an idiot and they deserve to look stupid for doing this?
Can you see the difference between an egotist and someone who lives from soul now? Is it more clear?
Are you trying to make things better or to make things worse?
Who would you want sitting beside you at the table?
The point has to be made, and Ivo has made it with us in so many ways already, that you suffer from your own vibrational frequency or you benefit from it.
The ones who are expecting a brawl, or who think nothing of embarrassing the entire table in public suffer from their own low vibrational reactions. The ones who have a giggle or who take it gracefully are the ones who benefit from their own reactions.
Let's try another one. Let's do my neighbour's recent situation. She just started a new job, had backed her car out of the driveway and was putting it into drive when someone came out of the driveway across the street and rammed her rear quarter panel. My neighbours have been having a tough time lately, many things have gone wrong in their lives, and they certainly didn't need this. Turns out the dent looks like it could be banged out with a baseball bat and bondoed, at least that's the way we used to do it back in the 70's. I think the damage is minimal because the gas tank and the rear lights weren't even touched. She hit the right spot if she had to hit it.
How do you react in a situation like this?
Take the opportunity to go ballistic and make her feel like shit?
Deal with your irritation and just go about the business of getting insurance details, names, etc. without making her feel unduly embarrassed. You might say this is highly inconvenient to her but you're not going to go overboard.
Understand that accidents happen, and have a more forgiving standpoint.
Let's face it, with day to day stresses, there is a challenge here. The challenge is to behave the way you would envision yourself behaving, in a way you would be proud of yourself. I know Ivo has something to say about this, so let's ask him.
Ivo: In fact, my love, when these types of things happen there are many energetic viewpoints to consider. There is often the energetic viewpoint of standing negative energy that has not been dealt with. Many of you have this. But work must be done to release negative energies within you so that your reaction or rather your action taken, in these situations can be of a higher nature.
When you have undealt with accumulated energy from past situations, and many of you do because of your tendency to find emotions inconvenient and your tendency to repress them, this energy will attach itself to the energy generated at this event, and will take the opportunity to unleash itself finally. Yes, that is why you have people who “go postal” or “go ballistic” or have road rage incidents. You are terrible emotional processors and that is because you are always asked to present your best face.
Many people go through a stressful day but do not take 15 minutes to sit and allow repressed feelings to vent. So they build up. Do you journal at the end of the day, writing about situations such as these and allowing your thoughts and feelings to emerge? This is the way of learning about who you truly are and where your ego is inhibiting your enjoyment of life.
Because the ego does not allow you to enjoy life. Only the soul knows love. The ego is fear-based. When people take pictures and then call the sneezer an idiot on facebook, it is because they are hoping that they never have to be in the same situation of embarrassment. This reaction is one of relief that it did not happen to me. However because you are charging your energy negatively, in fact something like this will happen to you, as you now have karma to rebalance.
Yes, the ego is all about karma. The soul does not accumulate karma. It vibrates higher than these cycles.
Ask yourself how many times you have acted out of charity, compassion, patience, humility, forgiveness, gratefulness and kindness.
Having an attitude of gratitude is a good way to ward off any bad karma in your life. Did you realize this? This will not require that you spend time paying off bad karma, or rebalancing negative energies you have charged and released into the ethers.
It is the best insurance any car owner can buy.
Me: Ivo, thanks. I know I keep saying how wonderful my car is and how nothing ever goes wrong with it. I've had it 4 years and every time I take it in for a regular service check, I can tell they're trying to find some way to justify making money off of me but they can't. They only figure I must do city driving, so they keep re-doing the brakes. I know what they're doing. Nothing ever goes wrong with the car!
Ivo: Precisely. You have them flummoxed.
Me: The thing's four years old. It's still low mileage but it runs like a top. Having a positive attitude goes a long way.
Ivo: It does indeed.
Ivo doesn't speak directly in this channeling but it was a combined effort between he, Sigrid, Athena and me.
What Is Unconditional Love?
Caring is not always doing.
Caring is sometimes not doing.
Caring is not always giving.
Caring is sometimes not giving.
Caring for others is listening. Caring for yourself can mean listening to others.
Caring for yourself can mean not listening to others. It can be, like whenever my neighbour was talking, he'd yak a stream of lies and bullshit nonstop, and I'm not exaggerating. I would go into the house because I couldn't take it. It was just noise. Would it have been more loving to have listened to him? No? why? Because he was lying.
Or what about not watching the news? Caring for yourself is not listening here too.
When we talk about being unconditionally loving, what are we talking about? Only one of these dualities, like the one the person wants? Does this mean unconditionally loving or is there another definition?
Being unconditionally loving simply means doing everything with love in your heart, not out of fear. That's it. Conditions are fear based.
Being unconditionally loving means doing things with courage, wisdom, intention, with awareness. It does not mean doing something that doesn't offend anyone else, doesn't anger anyone else, it doesn't mean doing something that doesn't hurt anyone else.
That's pretty radical. Being unconditionally loving yet the other person gets hurt? Why? Because that's their choice to be hurt, that's not anything you have power over.
If I say to you, “Thank you but I don't want you to send me emails with suggestions for my PTSD,” and you do, and I bin the email and you get hurt, is that my fault? Am I responsible for the fact that you're hurt? No. Why? Because I warned you I didn't want your email. I told you. If you don't listen, that's not on me, you hurt yourself.
Many people think other people “make” them do something. That's because our largely unconscious society is very reactive. When you're not reactive, and more deliberate about what you think, say and do, you realize that this concept of someone “making” you a particular way is false. You may even resent it.
He hurt me. No, he didn't. Unless it's a physical hurt, anything else is an emotional hurt. Have you ever been so "on to" someone toxic that you stop reacting to every nasty thing they say and do? This person is doing you a huge favour: They are teaching you to take responsibility for your own emotions and to stop reacting to others. Unless you choose to. What a wonderful lesson! Live with my boozer/drug addicted friend for three years and you stop reacting to his insults and begin to realize you're above all of this and it's really because of him that he acts that way. It has nothing to do with you and it never did. I used to just sit there looking at him saying, "Uh huh," and of course this was cause for another litany of insults about how stupid I was, or whatever, but I had just stopped reacting to him. I didn't believe him anymore. These people can do more for your self esteem than the nice kindergarten teacher you had that loved your butterfly drawings!
Unconditional love is living with no fear. Do you set conditions with others? Yes. Out of love for yourself and/or them.
Unconditional love is explaining assertively to another person how you feel.
Conditional fear based emotions would have you screaming at this person in anger.
Unconditional love is setting a boundary because you have needs you want others to acknowledge.
Conditional fear based scenario would have you not even trying, letting yourself be overrun, or not even asking.
People show you where your limits are. The people who challenge you show you where your limits are.
I know I have limitations around theft, I hate being stolen from. I have limitations around my PTSD and anxiety. I still have old triggers from when I was a child: not being listened to, my needs not being met by others, no workable social interaction.... People not respecting me. I released my sister because she called me “an interesting nut”. Ivo had to impress upon me the fact that she doesn't even respect me, so why was I in a relationship with her?
Unconditional love does mean you recognize you have limits and you protect yourself.
I'm curious that unconditional love seems to say, “In love being unconditional, you can't set boundaries.” I think many people think that's what it means: that you have no boundaries. In having boundaries, what do they do for you: loose boundaries mean you take on others' emotions and this leads to emotional drain and fatigue. Common signs of loose boundaries include overinvolvement in others’ lives; perfectionism and people pleasing; trying to fix and control others with judgments and advice; staying in unhealthy relationships; taking on too much work or too many commitments; and avoiding being alone too much. When your boundaries are too loose you can feel responsible for everything and everyone, powerless, imposed upon, and resentful. (taken from internet website)
Here are some signs that your boundaries need adjusting:
If you don't believe me, ask your higher self to show you how much they love you. You may have 3 near misses, one fender bender, and a case of the flu that you survived before you begin to realize you're supposed to be here, but your higher self will ensure you get the message one way or the other. It's a question of understanding the message – your being alive means your higher self loves you. That doesn't mean that people dying means their higher self is upset with them, by no means. It just means that their job here is finished. All good things must come to an end!
Boundaries are set in many ways: with yourself (internal boundaries), and with others (external boundaries). Internal boundaries regulate your behaviour and your conscience often has something to do with that. External boundaries are your agreements with other people.
Boundaries with other people specify how you want to relate to them. Now, ideally you are such a fantastic manifester that nobody that comes into your life brings anything negative for you to learn from anymore. You've done all your work and life now is a breeze. I believe there are people like that. They can love everyone who's in their life because they're not dealing with the underbelly of life anymore. Most of us aren't there. We need boundaries. When we set a boundary it's for some reason that's advantageous to either us, them or both parties. When your boss says, “I'll talk to you later about this,” they are setting a boundary that they don't have time now, talk to me when I have available time.
I like boundaries because I use them when I realize that I've had enough of something, learned my lesson and I'm not going to go there anymore. I've noticed that when boundaries are weak, the lesson has to go forward. I've had several drug addicted alcoholics living around me the last 6 years who have all made their availability clear to me. I have turned them all down. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt, learned the lesson.
I also use boundaries with others to protect my time. I use boundaries with Merlin to protect the cleanliness of my home: I don't like him walking on the countertop because he's a dirty outdoor cat that sleeps under the neighbouring house. I have another boundary: I don't bathe cats with soap and particularly in water because they hate water. It would be traumatizing for him. I also don't like spraying anything on him. I let him clean himself but I don't like him on the counter top because I eat food from that.
We tend to have boundaries to protect things that are dear to us, like our time, our money, our relationships, our sleep time, our relaxation time and more and for me, my counter top cleanliness. LOL
How can we be unconditionally loving when we are in a limited physical reality? We can do our best. Basically I feel we're in two worlds simultaneously, the physical world and the spiritual world. Setting boundaries and limits with yourself and others in the physical world is necessary because of the current situation here, it's a free will zone where precious few exercise free will. In the end, you have to examine your motivation for setting a boundary: Is it out of love or is it out of fear? Are you trying to make something good come out of it or are you afraid something bad will happen if you don't say no?
Learning to Take a “No”
I'm interested in the fact that since I started doing personal channelings that the dislikes on my videos have increased. Not by much, but they have. Perhaps you are the ones who really need to hear these messages, not the people who agree with them so you're welcome to keep hating my video's. Or maybe you're one of my stalkers and you're pissed off that I keep blocking you and refunding your donations. Who knows? Or maybe you didn't like the comment I made about why I shut off comments on these video's. You guys know who you are. There are wonderful people who follow us and I respect and love you. Then there are the ones who are still argumentative, and frankly, I'm not a referee and I won't spend my time trying to settle arguments between you and the trolls. Everything you need to avoid arguing with a troll is in Ivo's words and on these videos. If you didn't get it, maybe you need to have a re-read. They're on our blog.
Is this “conditional love” and am I a bad spiritual person for setting my standards high and not being unconditionally loving? Yes, maybe I am. Do I care? No, I don't. Anyone can follow me the way I have this channel set up. You just can't pick fights with anyone anymore.
The thing is, with all the people in the galaxy who are unconditionally loving, so is everyone else around them. Of course, that's not the case here. On 3D/4D earth, being unconditionally loving is a far greater challenge than anywhere else in the universe. That's why we are being asked to forgive. That's Plan B.
Boundary violators violate boundaries because they can't take a “no”.
When I was in Codependents Anonymous, I was told to start giving advice in such a way that would make it easy for others to refuse. Why? Because this eliminates a lot of useless behaviours such as saying “Well, yeah, I guess I could use that,” then hearing the advice and never following it. Then the person giving the advice wouldn't get mad and say, “Why don't they ever do what I tell them to?!” It eliminates behaviours like going to your friends frustrated and complaining of other friends who never listen to you (gossiping), it eliminates behaviours like you stressing out, becoming insistent that others listen to you, it eliminates feelings like feeling unlistened to, feeling unimportant to others, and more. It stops codependent behaviours. And it makes relationships easier.
How do you have to be before you can learn to take a no, then? You have to value yourself because others won't always value you. You have to be strong enough to be the only one on earth who is willing to walk your own path, you have to be able to take rejection without beating yourself up, you have to be able to think of yourself and your worth as important without others agreeing with you. Because you get a bit of a self esteem hit, don't you, when you offer advice and people follow it? It makes you think you're smart, you're important, you did a good thing.
If you don't get any likes on your facebook post, how do you feel? Does it make you happy? Do you put others down for not agreeing with you or do you just say you liked your post and it works for you, or maybe there is a message in the fact that you didn't get a response, and you need to look at yourself and your intentions for posting it.
If you can like yourself in the face of total rejection by others, you're doing pretty good. You stand to learn more from your detractors than you do those who walk with you. I won't call them enemies because that term has to be eliminated. We have no enemies, only teachers.
You have to be able to believe all those things about yourself and to validate your own self esteem because others won't always do it. In my family, they did everything they could to destroy my self esteem. I had to rebuild it. I did that by going inside and learning that my best friends were in there. These people I talk to always have my back, always love me, always care for me, always esteem and respect me, no matter what I say or do. They always try to help me. And one of the people inside of me is me. So it's not a skill you really have to develop as much as something you have to remember. And you will be challenged to do so.
Being able to say “no” takes the giver out of a power over others situation and into an assertive power over self position. Because when someone says no to you, how do you feel? I think. “I'm sorry I couldn't help you, but it's up to you.” I also think though, “Don't come crying to me when your way didn't work. I tried to help you but you wouldn't listen.” The onus is on you to take the responsibility for your way of doing things. When I offer advice, I always ask first. If the answer is “No,” that's fine. I also have to decide if the person is going to do what they want to do and not follow the advice I offer them, then how is this going to impact our relationship? If they're not someone I know so closely, then it doesn't really matter to me.
The other thing that needs to be stated is there's more than one way to do anything. I'm now telling you how I did it. Take what you like and leave the rest.
There are some of you who insist that the only reason you're doing something is because you care. If you care about someone so much why don't you respect their wishes then? It appears your ability to care for me is only reflected in your ability to give or to do something, not to stand down when asked to. Maybe you need to work on that.
Some people argue that messages come in the form of others. Yes, they do. I get many messages through other people. Have I taken other people's advice? Yes, I have. However, when I specify I don't want them, particularly because I have a dialogue going with Ivo, my higher self Sigrid, Ashtar, and my Christ self Athena, and I can talk to God and Jesus any time I like. I'm surrounded by masters. So do I need the help of someone on earth? No offense, but probably not. Does this make me a snob? No. It makes me feel extremely fortunate that I have this level of help available to me 24/7.
So, no thanks. I use my own life's challenges to channel master level help down to earth. I know that what I'm undergoing is the same thing that many lightworkers and earthlings are undergoing and I need to keep channeling new information to earth because of it.
I'm not afraid to challenge you. You must know that by now. I'm not one of these people who is going to sugar coat the way I see things or say, “I'd better not say that. They might get offended.” If you get offended by what I say, then you need to look at it because you might be able to learn something. And if the only thing you learn is that you're following the wrong person, isn't that a great lesson to learn? Some of you will message me to tell me how wrong I am. No worries. I love you. When are you going to learn that nobody is wrong? Where you are on your path is where you are on your path, and you are always doing the right thing for yourself even if what it is is to eliminate that path from your most successful path in life, the one that gets you to connect with your higher self. I took lots of those. Like when I lived with a crack addicted alcoholic in Toronto for 3 years. That was the matrix's path for me but I got off of it eventually. If you look at things as wrong, then you'll just stay stuck because you're pouring bad energy after bad energy onto your wounds.
If you feel my saying this makes you wrong, that's not my intent. It's just that I don't want your advice. That doesn't make you less than anything or anybody. It's just not requested.
Me: Ivo, how do you feel about the word “no”.
Ivo: We rarely say it, my love. Often we have other suggestions that we put forth in a conversation or we work as a group to come up with the best solution.
Me: Okay, but what about if I said to you, “Ivo, you only sleep 3 hours a night. You really need to get more sleep.” What would you say?
Ivo: I would explain that I get as much sleep as my body needs. I would not say, “No, you are wrong.”
But yes, I realize that there is much ego esteem riding on the need to be right. And it is taken as rejection when one's advice is not followed upon earth.
Looking at others as wrong and yourself as right is the way to learn very little in life. It keeps you stuck in self righteousness. Do not make others wrong. Then you will not need to be right.
Ivo: I realize that your mother was such a person and she became very offended when you did not do what she wanted.
Me: So I would deliberately not follow her advice in order to piss her off.
Ivo: That as well. You have the rebel gene.
But you had to develop your own inner guidance because you saw your parents as being so flawed. So you became very introverted and you had us guide you throughout your life.
Me: Yes, I called it thinking.
Ivo: In fact it was us thinking, or putting thoughts and ideas into your head.
Me: Thank God you did that.
Ivo: You might consider, however that the people who email you with advice simply want to help you.
Me: I didn't ask for it.
Ivo: I realize this is important for you. To have control over who you correspond with. However they may simply be trying to help.
Me: For me, it's a trigger. The first thing it does is irritate me.
Ivo: Yes, I realize this. Perhaps it would be best to reply, “Thank you for your help. I see you are being kind. However I have my own path to follow and I will not be utilizing your help.”
Me: Then watch. Ivo, I'm trying to uncomplicate my life. Say that to a controlling person and you have a problem on your hands, believe me.
Ivo: You can always block them. But first you might look at the fact they are trying to help you.
Me: I don't need help. I've gotten this far on my own.
Ivo: Yes, you are a strong person.
Me: I realize that part of the problem is I complain about things. The reason I complain about them is because the challenges I face are the substance of these channelings, because I don't believe I'm different from many people. My stance isn't changed: Please don't send me emails for any other reason than the channelings and for them, use the form on our website. I'm trying to simplify my life, Ivo. And maybe you'd like to acknowledge I've always been highly introverted, insistent on doing things my way, and I've had loads of inner guidance. If that were not the case, I'd have married one of the potential handlers that the matrix sent my way, and taken my life off its best course even worse than I had at times.
If you people listening want to give me help, then you should've been there when I was living with Glenn. I would gladly have let you open your doors for me so I could stay in your home while I got resettled in Toronto. Then I could've used help. But of course, I was alone and had to use my wits to get myself out of that situation. And I did.
Which makes a good point. Anyone who's been through the shit I have realizes they can do a lot on their own. I've always done it my way and I will continue to do so.
Ivo: Very well. You do have a fear of being overwhelmed.
Me: Not surprisingly. God threw me in the deep end when he sent me here. I had to learn to swim from an early age.
Ivo: And you learned you already could swim.
Me: Yes. Babies in water already know how to.
Until you can say “no” your “yes” means nothing. - Anonymous
If any of the artwork from this website is taken off this website and used for any purpose, you will be sued.
Implant Communications holds the copyright to all of the artwork on this site and on other social media platforms run by Sharon Stewart.
Personal theft is a violation and punishable by Law. If you want access to similar artwork, have it done for yourself. Thank you.
- Sharon Stewart