Controlling Versus Loving Behaviours
Me: Ivo, how do we discuss this in 10 minutes or less?
Ivo: (smiling) It is a difficult task, to be sure.
Me: I have a few things I want to say to people who follow me. For starters, the ascension process requires your focus to be on yourself, not on others' faults as you perceive them. If you're going through ascension, keep your focus on yourself because the minute you switch to what someone else has done wrong, you're being controlling. In any interaction with another person, you're 50 per cent and they are 50 per cent of the transaction. The only part you can change is your half.
When you're focused on what others are doing wrong as per your perception, you're being controlling and frankly, you're focused on changing something that will be very difficult to do and interfering with their free will. Yes, I know. We learned that in the Matrix. Well, we're leaving the Matrix now.
The reason you want to control someone is because you're fearing them in some way. All controlling behaviours arise out of fear of them, not love for them.
Me: The next thing I want to say is I am one person who has thousands of people following me and scrutinizing my messages and my behaviour. If you think I'm perfect, you're deluding yourself. If you expect anyone to be perfect, think again. This is 3D/4D earth. Anyone who tries to correct my behaviour, to tell me how to behave, is an energy vampire and being very controlling and I will deal with them as I would any energy vampire.
Of course, people will wonder, "What about being forgiving?" Like I have said before, I forgive people constantly. I have to to be able to continue to do this work. However you won't get the chance to do it again or to become a problem for me by repeating the same behaviours over and over. Like anyone else, I know the pitfalls of having people in my life who behave dysfunctionally and I choose not to have them. I also know I'm targeted by the dark and that people are being used to disrupt my life and to keep my vibe low. The worst part is it works!
People expect because I'm followed by the public that I have to be nice all the time and I have to be perfect. I think people call that Hollywooding someone. What I am is real and authentic. I still have my warts and if you can't deal with me being real, then you need to drop this channel in a hurry because I am very real. I worked in a workplace where I felt I had to be nice no matter what others did to me, so I got severely abused. Don't think I didn't learn that lesson. They would get what was coming to them now if I were in the same situation. They would be told. No need to swear or call them names but I would be very assertive and I have always been that way since then. I am also outspoken.
Expecting me to conform to your vision of who I should be is your control issue. We make up stereotypes for people all the time. This person is a jock, so they should behave like this and then we're surprised when this jock is a caring, loving, humble man. This person is a Hollywood star so we expect them to be egotistical, obnoxious and full of themselves, and then when the person is kind, loving and an animal rescuer we're shocked. Throw out your stereotypes of people and learn to see them as they are. Understand in doing so, your ego's needs will get in the way. They will assert themselves while you are trying to assess this person's character and colour up your view of someone to be exactly as you want them to be.
There's a lot of this going on around people who are "spiritual types." We don't take into account that being spiritual and going through ascension has to do with releasing negative energetic blocks that we created in duality, or for some that they're empathic anyway and overwhelmed by negativity around them as it is, or that they have opted to transmute the familial DNA line so that new generations can be born into this DNA line without having to be traumatized. My familial DNA is a quarter Vegan, quarter Lyran and half Pleiadian. Right now, anyone born into this DNA line is assured a life of abuse as it is of very low vibration.
Because I'm transmuting this now, hopefully future generations will be of higher frequency because the DNA was cleared out of negativity. This is no small job. Both my parents were narcissists and I'm assuming that many were who were born in prior generations. I'm not an isolated case either. There are many more who are doing this so that humanity can continue to live on earth without the violence and suffering we've experienced to date.
That is spirituality and ascension. People have this idea of what spirituality is based on an ideal, which is common when we stereotype. We look at the ideal and automatically assume that is what that person is. We all have our dualistic natures, except for those who are ready to go to 5D because they have already transcended them. Your ego is the part of you that doesn't accept people as they are and it's because it has an agenda. You either want to point out their flaws and feel superior to them, or you want them to be perfect so you can take an inferior place under them or to be safe with someone for a change.
The soul has no need to do that. It accepts all as they are without playing ego games. It understands the goal of all lives as being ascension and embodiment of the higher dimensions within the physical in this life. The ego tries to thwart that by getting you to misunderstand your true purpose on earth and getting you to hate those who you feel are beneath or above you. Don't listen to it and stop trying to fix people you feel don't meet your standards. They are on their own path led by their higher selves whether they have contact or not.
Nice and perfect are not real. I am authentic and express my authentic self and some people may not like this. Again, expecting me to conform to your vision of who I should be is your control issue.
Ivo: You will get there, my love.
Me: Unconditionally loving? I wish! It's a helluva' stretch going from a child who has suffered narcissistic abuse to being unconditionally loving. And it's a lot of work. To be able to love everyone and not to be affected by their behaviour would be the ideal. I've drempt of that all my life.
Ivo: Keep working on raising your vibration and working on forgiving those who transgress in error.
Me: Yes, it's about raising your vibration, isn't it? Because I know I've been in a space before where I couldn't have cared less what anyone said or did. I'm not there now.
Ivo: Your goal was shown to you. You were happy.
Me: I'm not now, and BTW people don't send me your energy. I didn't ask for you to send me your energy and this too, is a violation of my free will if you send it. I happen to have myself blocked off from receiving any energy from anyone because unfortunately your energy also includes your own issues and I don't need any more to deal with. I have plenty of baggage to last me this trip on earth. Plenty to deal with. I am already overwhelmed. Thank you for your kind thoughts, but I'm not interested in mixing energy with any more people than I have to. Ivo's making me laugh!
Ivo: We can mix energies, my love!
Me: We do all the time, Ivo. I love talking to you guys because your energy is so much higher than what I'm used to and it feels so good.
Ivo: You will get there, my love. You will return home to me. You did take on a large load - many lightworkers have chosen to do so. You understood the earth needed you to do this and you complied.
Me: No comment.
Ivo: It does not feel good and now Akon has said that the energies you are feeling now will not abate until the solstice.
Me: That's all I needed. But then yes, I have to remember I'm not doing this for myself. When I think I'm doing this for myself, then it doesn't make sense. When I remember I'm doing this for others, to keep a species of humans alive and restarting an ascension process, then it makes sense. I sacrificed 75 years for the sake of others. No, I'm not martyring myself.
Ivo: As for those who try to control vs. loving behaviours, I have one word of advice to help people to understand what they are attempting to do. When you are attempting to accept a person AS THEY ARE, with faults and all, this is a loving behaviour.
But when you are attempting to CHANGE a person to something other than what they are, this is a controlling behaviour. You are assessing what you see as being wrong with them, then attempting to fix it by saying something to them, or sending your energy to them, or whatever action you may be taking. But you are attempting to change them, and when you attempt to change others to how you feel they should be, you are attempting to control them.
A person who surfs the internet or deals with others by looking for their faults is a controller. Nobody wishes to have their faults pointed out to them and with these ascension processes, it is not necessary to do so. If you do so, it is for the sake of your ego alone and you must be aware that your behaviour will not be welcomed by many.
Sharon has been having a moody month. Since she took chanka piedra which started to detox her liver and she ended up in the emergency unit requiring fluids because she could not eat or drink, she has been having a hard time. Energies are working to rid her of her customary impatience and her own controlling behaviours. She is feeling it.
So when her moodiness shows the controllers come out to tell her how she must behave in order to conform to what they want her to be.
Me: Exactly as the Matrix has taught everyone: keep everyone else in compliance! Keep them in line by telling them they're out of line! This has filtered over to the spiritual community as well: this Matrix behaviour of expecting compliance to some standard. Exactly the same. We should do a video on this as well, Ivo. How the Matrix mind and ego has infiltrated the spiritual community.
Ivo: We can.
Allowing people to go through their moods because moods are part of a healthy process of seeing the light and changing one's behaviour, is being loving. Trying to tell the person what to do to either cut the process short or how to behave because you feel threatened by that person or disappointed that they do not live up to your view of who they should be, is controlling behaviour.
There are caveats to this of course. If the other's moods are a threat to your physical well being or are creating a life of havoc complete with emotional abuse, then it would be best to rethink the relationship.
As for an occasional moody post on Facebook then it is not a problem unless you make it a problem. There are people who are compulsive fixers but they must understand that they are energy vampires. This is a problematic behaviour. Needing to change others because you feel you know better than they do, especially when it pertains to their own life, is controlling, vampiric and an infringement of their free will and their ascension process. When asked to help, that is different. But so many offer help even when it is not asked for and then do not understand why they are being rebuffed.
Me: It's like my old aunties.
Ivo: You have had every sort of interference imaginable in your life, provided firsthand by your family and relatives.
Me: My family was a bunch of energy vampires and they became the inspiration for all my posts now. Wait till we get going on the next book, Ivo! I'll be on a roll then. But I'm waiting till the solstice ends to start writing.
Ivo: Very good.
Me: To sum up, I put this together as channeled by Ivo:
How to figure out if you're being loving or being controlling:
1. Someone's behaviour bothers you (big clue),
2. You're focused on them, not on yourself and your reaction to their behaviour, (controlling),
3. You do something or tell them something that is intended to change them, presumably to become more the way you want them to be, (controlling)
4. Instead of accepting they are like this (loving) and asking them if they want to talk or would like some help - leaving that option entirely in their hands (loving).
5. Expecting conformity to some imaginary (or not) standard is Matrix ego-based behaviour.
It's about tossing aside what you expect others to be in favour of accepting them as they are. Bearing in mind, your own boundaries and that they don't violate your right to safety and non-abuse.
Ivo: The point is to ask the questions, “How does their behaviour affect me?” “Does this behaviour disempower me?” “Does my reaction disempower me?” When you seek to rescue, to fix or to correct the person who you see as faulty, you are in effect lowering your own vibration and disempowering yourself. Any act of ego is an act of disempowerment. Do not forget that. You are intending to interfere with their free will to be who they are and to behave as they want.
Me: Good point, Ivo.
Ivo: The last thing to ask is, “How can I be more loving?” Being more loving can include bearing witness to their behaviour and not responding to it, especially negatively. That is an extremely loving act. To allow them to be themselves and mirror back to them your acceptance of them as they are!
Me: You do it all the time, Ivo. LOL You have to! LOL
Ivo: I do. I hear you. I witness your moods, your anger, your frustration at being on this planet that you dislike so much and so badly want to change. I witness your anger at the inhumanity of humans towards others and towards the earth and the animals. I believe I understand why you feel the way that you do about your life. I have been there as your guide throughout your entire life and I feel I know all of you, even your physical mind. It is hard to surprise me. I often know the roots of your behaviour before you understand them. I love you as you are. Even with your warts as you call them.
Me: I love you too, Ivo.
Manipulating with Guilt
Me: Hi Ivo, I'd like to speak to you about this today, if you have time.
Ivo: My love, this is a good subject to go over in more depth.
Me: Yes, we've probably touched on it before. First of all, you have said before, and I want to repeat it, that when you feel guilt it's because someone is trying to control you. In the Matrix, guilt is used to control us, as well as shame, fear and doubt. There are more but you get the gist – these are negative states used to control us. If you're not pissed off at this, you should be. Anger, of course, being another signpost emotion that tells you something's wrong. Nothing more.
Ivo: But the fact is, now you do not. You may feel guilt or anger, but you use it as a signpost that someone is attempting to manipulate you. You use it to strengthen yourself, not to weaken yourself and to give in to their plan for your life over your own.
Me: True. The other thing that people may not know is with my mother I learned to read between the lines. I learned to understand what she was implying without directly saying so. There were times she could be direct, even cuttingly frank, but there were other times I guess she felt less entitled to her way and used manipulation in order to try to get what she wanted. The fact that none of us kids were allowed to say no without being punished for it didn't help. We had to learn to say no in obtuse, sneaky ways ourselves. However I outgrew that. I learned to be assertive.
Ivo: And all this has made you stronger. You simply say no when you want to. I would like to point out that one of the worst areas for this type of manipulation on your planet, is when people want to ask for something for themselves. Your abnormal feelings of not being worthwhile are causing you to ask in a way that is manipulative, and it is best to unlearn this and to step into better self esteem.
Me: There are a lot of people who try to manipulate me into getting me to provide them with what they want, many times a free channeling but they ask in sneaky ways. I've learned from experience that one channeling leads to another. There's no such thing for many people as “Just one” or a “one off”. They treat it more like they've violated your boundaries and now have access to the candy store any time they want. As if.
I mentioned the other day that I'm talking to Jesus and of course people showed up interested in what Jesus had to tell them.
My first inclination was to not respond but then I started to think the more loving thing to do would have been to tell them that he'd probably prefer they not leave broad hints in social media comments indicating you'd like a channeling done for yourself. The more respectful way, and more adult way, to ask for something for yourself is to ask directly in a way that the person can respond with a “no” or a “yes” depending on whether they want to oblige you or not. Saying, “Gee, I wonder what he'd have to say to me,” is NOT an adult way to deal with others. It's sneaky, manipulative and the intent is to control another without their being aware of it.
I'm all about people learning to channel for themselves. I see so many lightworkers waiting for someone else to meet their needs rather than getting on with doing their own work, that I just say no to everyone. Do it yourself. If that carrot is what is going to get you to get involved in your own ascension instead of waiting for someone to help you with it, I'll let you live with it.
I know it doesn't sound very nice, but people have to realize that they're here to live their own lives and engage in their own ascension process – not expect others to do it for them. The only reason you can't is because you think you can't. We're all here to become multidimensionals and you came here because you knew you could do it. When I see Rick Jewers posting that some have given up and are being soothed I see there are fails. That's unfortunate. It's do-able. If I can manage to change my life from hell, then others can too. That's what I figure. I'm the daughter of a narcisstic father and a histronic enabling mother, and I still cry over what I missed out on as a child. I've been suicidal, addicted, close to homelessness several times, and targeted by the dark and I still changed my life for the better.
Ivo: What you did was accept these things, attract better circumstances by healing yourself, and now you share what you have learned to help others overcome their negative circumstances as well. You are more and more powerful every day.
Me: Beating manipulation is easy. For one thing you have to understand what it is.
Ivo: Manipulation is either outright lying, or using half truths to achieve one's ends. Be it a need or a want, manipulation is a devious, cunning way to trick another into giving you what you want. It is not respectful of others and shows no integrity on your part.
Me: I think even my definition was milder, Ivo. LOL
Ivo: It is trickery. It is not a respectful way of dealing with another. Removing their right to say no to you by using methods of cunning is a draconian behaviour, and not one that the Light would indulge in. It is done to you all the time on earth, just turn on your newscasts, but that does not make it right. And that is the point that all adults must understand. Yes, children do it. They manipulate by being cute but they are children. They must eventually be taught to become assertive, for their own sakes as well as others. When you deal with people in such a disrespectful fashion, you incur negative karma.
Me: Yes, there are always consequences when you behave beneath the standards of Love. Can we do some examples, Ivo? Just so people know what we're talking about. And remember being manipulative can come across as very innocuous behaviour – it's not earth shattering but it's still not respectful of the one you're trying to get what you want from.
Ivo: There is your free channeling example. The correct way to find out whether you are willing or not is to ask you, “Would you do a channeling for me please?” but instead the requester asked, “I wonder what he would have to say to me?” implying that you are supposed to come to her rescue and jump in with a message.
Me: I just left it. But I'm even arguing with myself that the most loving thing to do is to tell her of the correct way to ask someone for something.
Ivo: Imagine that you all would hold others up to such standards, how quickly your world would ascend. Imagine.
Me: Yes. I also get people who ask me, “How are you?” This doesn't sound like the most horrendous thing to say to a person at all, but therein lies the trick. I can sense this person wants something and the usual response to someone who asks, “How are you?” is, “Fine. How are you doing?” Then they can dump all their woes on the empath (me) and walk away feeling better while I get to flounder in the negativity they didn't feel like dealing with. Not gonna happen.
Ivo: There is the other example that came up of people who say, “Ivo, can you discuss (a particular topic)” without acknowledging you. This is a power play, which if you comply would force you to channel for them without your consent. Because they are ignoring your part in the process. Obviously because you channel me, you are involved in the process of my replying. But when they go over your head and speak to me directly as if you are not there, this is a manipulation of you. In order for me to respond to them, you are compelled to do something that you have not said yes to.
Me: There was the time when I was a kid that even my parents stood up for themselves. They were willing to suffer being really uncomfortable, to stick up for what they wanted. And sometimes that's what you have to do. Awkward silences. If you keep doing what you've always done for the sake of feeling comfortable, you're not going to change. You won't gain more power. You'll keep feeling like you're being taken advantage of, and you'll keep giving away your free will.
As the story goes, they had some friends from the old country who would show up many Sundays at 5 p.m. And then my parents would graciously invite them to have dinner with us. Everyone had to do with less because my mother hadn't accounted for these unexpected guests, or as we used to call them freeloaders. This kept happening and happening. Despite having a telephone and to call and ask whether they could come, which these people never did, they would leave my parents on the short stick by dropping in unexpectedly for dinner.
One day I think it was my mother, had had enough. When they showed up uninvited at dinner time, she had coffee ready, sat them down in the living room, and we all ate in the kitchen without them. We never saw these people again. They got the message. What was so disappointing is that it was pretty clear why they were coming over. Not true friends at all.
I was amazed at my mother that she could stick up for us like that because she was generally a real pushover, being the victim/enabler/martyring type herself. I am still amazed at their willingness to risk being uncomfortable, and that's what you have to do.
Ivo: It was brave of your parents, and it does take strength to do these things. But for one's own sake, they must be done. There are much larger manipulations. But this entire subject has to do with your free will.
I have said in so many videos that earth is NOT a free will zone despite the many people who tell you so, because you are being manipulated in your lower mind and lower chakras to behave as negative reptilians would.
The first step in taking back your free will is to stop manipulating others and to stop allowing yourself to be manipulated by others. That includes your system, and that includes your friend down the street who simply assumes you'll do whatever they want without your saying yes to it. That simple but it is a major issue. Major!
That is why so many adults manipulate others. That is why they never learn not to. And that is why being assertive is so important. Because then you can exercise your free will and take back this world as the planet of free will that it was intended to be. Take your power back.
Me: I learned that if the person doesn't ask directly and is being manipulative, that the thing to do is to prompt them to ask a yes or no question by openly speaking about their manipulation attempt. Something like, “Oh. Are you asking me to channel Jesus on your behalf?” And then they have to answer yes or no. They may try to manipulate again, but ask them another such question. If they never get around to respectfully dealing with the issue. Drop it. Or just say, “You're not asking me in a respectful way. I refuse to deal with this any further.”
Me: Thank you Ivo. That was an eye opener for me too. I didn't even think of it like that. I love you.
Ivo: My dear. Thank you. I love you as well. Always.
Some advice for people who want to learn about manipulation and becoming more assertive. Do my free e-course on my website www.sharonandivo.weebly.com called “Stop Being A Victim,” or do some google searches to find free info on assertiveness and manipulation. There is loads of it on line. You're welcome.
Ivo and I will be going into more detail on manipulation, controlling behaviours, guilting, shaming, anxiety and more in a series of upcoming videos.
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Me: LOL Adama, you're not getting off this lightly.
A: I'm here for you, as always.
Me: So, I put up the first video to this series and then you referred to the Course in Miracles (as channeled by Jesus) which I'm doing. Then I listened to lesson 46 today and Jesus' comment (through channeler Tina Spalding) talked about forgiveness and the first thing it said is that, “God does not forgive because God never condemns,” which I believe is what you were getting at.
Then Jesus said that we have to work on forgiving as a way of living, and he said that he forgives us for being overweight.. he loves us as we are. LOL I know a lot of people who worry about being less than because they're overweight. I got over that. I think it'd be healthier but in this world of hormone imbalanced people, who wouldn't be overweight? It's not our fault, I believe. This is part of the unhealthiness the Matrix likes to keep us in and overweight is just a sign.
A: Yes, earthlings are suffering and this goes back to my first point: when you forgive yourself for taking offense at others' behaviour, when you stop seeing their behaviour as offensive you'll have less reason to dislike living. Less reason to fear. And for those who are inclined, less reason to overeat or overimbibe to cope with your stress. Your stress is created by your thoughts, and your thoughts are largely of condemnation.
Many point fingers at others seeing them as the problem, where the finger should be pointed at the one doing the condemning and forgiveness taken immediately. Align with your soul, who sees through the eyes of love, not with the ego which sees through the eyes of separation, hate and fear.
Me: So in the case of someone who, say, has come to my apartment and not that I even have any, taken my jewellery. What do you do then? Do I condemn? Can I set a boundary?
A: In that case you would restrict that person's access to your apartment. You would have to forgive them their act and perhaps speak to them about retrieving the jewellery. Boundaries would be necessary but no rancor held.
But in the cases where no physical manifestation was required in order to complete the lesson, where nothing was stolen, hurt, raped, injured, taken in any way, then this is much simpler to practice. Those who accost you for your views, those who seek to argue with you, simply forgive yourself for not being able to love them as they are, because this is your shortsightedness. This is what you've learned, so now unlearn it.
Me: I get that. In theory, yes, but the next time I forget and get pissed off at someone....
A: Then you need to remember and work on forgiving yourself for forgetting and then for continuing to behave in the old unloving ways that are so painful to you and so many others upon our planet.
Many of you are seeking to live in ways of higher vibration and to love all as they are regardless of what they have said to you, and on a planet of such imbalance as your outer earth, forgiveness is necessary.
You learned as a child that others commit transgressions against you. You've seen on tv that certain behaviours merit punishment, that others should be judged as insufficient because of who they are and what they do, when in fact to allow oneself to be loving towards all despite what they do is the key to freedom. It truly is. You hold no malice or fear within your being towards others who are unaware of the love that surrounds them and who behave in less than loving ways. They're in pain. And when you condemn them, you are in pain.
So forgive yourself for not being as loving as would be optimal for your own happiness – because your focus on externals for your own happiness is seeing it the wrong way. When you allow others to affect your happiness then you balance on a scary precipice indeed! Your day is fine until Joe does something at the office that you find offensive, and then your day is ruined. When you don't take offense, your day is still fine and life goes well.
In your case, you started to ask the right questions in order to advance to this. You asked, “This is what I'm doing and it's still painful. Isn't there a better way? What can I do differently?” And there is. This is the better way. To love all including yourself, and refuse to see all around you as transgressions of your boundaries. See all around you in a way that is intended to allow you to learn to love, to heal yourself so that you too, can become completely loving towards others.
Me: I see that. That makes it so clear.
A: Yes, you need to set boundaries when physical transgressions are made, however when you live your life from a loving, forgiving stance, you don't attract those who transgress against you – you attract people of like mind as you have learned the lesson all the offenders were sent to teach you – stop condemning and learn to love all as they are.
Me: I see that.
A: When you defend yourself from the transgressor, you put up resistance. The energy stops with you because your seeing it as offensive slows down its frequency. It was being released and on its way to becoming part of the ethers when you caught it by slowing its frequency down. You trapped it within your light body because you charged this energy with a low frequency. Now it's yours to deal with. Rather than free flowing around the universe, it's now stuck in your light body and your problem to transmute and release it. This is alchemy and you're all alchemists.
When you see all as love, despite what you've been taught, the energy continues to flow around you. It's as if you're playing baseball and the ball comes to you. Do you catch the ball and throw it back or do you let it fly past you?
Me: I don't think you'd win the game doing that, LOL.
A: And this is how you've been taught. To win the game. Winning this game of love is different – your life becomes a lot easier when you let things flow through you rather than catching the energy and making blocks for yourself. And like I said, these blocks are made by your resisting them with fear-based responses.
When you say, “Oh! Hold on there!” you're catching the energy. You're holding onto the energy. You engage in alchemy all the time without realizing it.
Me: Yes, we do.
A: So, when you understand that all is one and all is love, you need to develop a different perspective on day to day transactions. Seeing everything as love is definitely a lot easier than seeing everything as fear.
A: You've all been taught to see through fear. Now change that. Make life easier for yourself. You asked the questions the other day. You've got them written on one of your sticky notes.
Me: Yes, I'm a sticky note fanatic.
A: The question says that you're sick of having negative interactions with others – you deal with the public who malign you, try to argue with you, bait you, try to manipulate you, and now you're tired of it. When you see all through loving eyes, none of this will bother you. When you see yourselves all as One who are helping each other on the road to wholeness, yes, like the “Holy” one you call God, it is actually Wholly with a W that you mean. Nonetheless, you're all taking the road back to wholeness and every one is helping the other. It might not appear to be that but it is. Your interpretation of what's happening prevents you from seeing the purpose behind all actions.
The key to this is understanding that it's your reaction that keeps the ball moving. When you throw the ball back to the pitcher in your baseball game, you're keeping the ball moving. Your lack of a negative reaction will release the doer to find another subject. You can be aware; you don't have to be oblivious. Just be loving, and if not, then forgiving of yourself for not being loving.
Me: Thank you Adama
A: I'm always here to be of assistance to you. You're all on an important journey of the self. Adieu.
Me: Hi Adama, I'm hearing what you're telling me while doing this meditation.... this is a new way of looking at forgiveness. I'm used to thinking of forgiveness as something you dispense towards others for your own sake, but now you have a different angle on it....
A: Yes, the angle you speak of is when you are in a situation where you are annoyed, angry, irritated, upset in any way by another person's comment or action, to forgive yourself.
Me: Interesting... so why should I forgive myself if I haven't done anything wrong?
A: But in effect you have done something wrong – you condemned the other person's behaviour as being unfit in some way. Whereas they are simply being themselves.
Me: I think this is a new way, a completely new way of looking at things.
A: It would be, yes.
Me: So when someone says something offensive, why do I have to forgive myself?
A: For labelling it as offensive. For taking offense. For not being loving towards that person. For reacting as if that person were at fault in some way.
Me: Wow. Mind blower.
A: Your ego is the one who takes offense. You are accustomed to certain social parameters you must work within and the expectation is that all must fit these parameters. What if you dropped all of these parameters and simply allowed each person to be themself? What if you saw the flaw within yourself for not allowing the person to be themself? Yes, all beings are divine beings, no matter how they should express that.
All interactions are interactions of love, no matter what they should be.
Forgive yourself for forgeting that and returning to your old standard of expectation. Your egotistical earth rules.
Your social parameters say that X will behave in a certain way in order to show me the respect I deserve. There are socially acceptable ways of showing respect and there are people who do not abide by them for one reason or another.
You so often say that the only thing you can change is yourself. So focus on that. See the fault as lying with yourself, not the other. See the fault, the shortsightedness as being your own, not the other.
Me: There are still people I wouldn't want around me because of their need to create chaos. So does that mean I'm unforgiving by your terms?
Me: I don't want them creating chaos and negativity.
A: So could you reach a compromise then?
Me: I'm not having toxic, chaotic people around me. If that were the case I would have to live with my parents again and I'm not doing that.
A: So you have not forgiven yourself for not accepting your parents as they were.
Me: Are you saying that forgiveness is a double edged sword? There are two sides to it?
A: You can forgive your parents for wronging you. But you have not forgiven yourself for not being able to love your parents. When you forgive yourself for not being able to love your parents, you will become loving towards them.
Me: So complete acceptance of them as they were.
Me: I'll have to think about this.
A: Begin by asking yourself, “What if I were to forgive myself for not accepting this person as they are?”
Me: I would become self-loving.
A: And what if you were to forgive that person for being that way?
Me: Mmmm. Doesn't make sense now.
A: There is nothing to forgive. People are simply the way that they are. It is that you react that needs to be forgiven. It is that you react without love that needs to be forgiven.
A: When you try to forgive others for what they have done when in fact they were simply being themselves. It is your label of offensive or obnoxious that needs to be forgiven.
Me: But they did compromise my life to a terrible standard. They created a lot of pain in me.
A: And what have you done with this pain then?
Me: I healed it. True. Without their having done this I wouldn't be where I am today......
A: So it was all for the greater good in the end. All of life is. When you don't see the greater good in suffering, then you don't understand life. You certainly don't understand the life of Jesus.
Me: No. Never studied that much.
A: There are also expectations. There is an expectation that all parents will do everything possible to ensure their child's happiness. When in fact this isn't true. So expectations must change as well. It is all for the learning.
Me: I can feel some fear because then I think that it'll be like the grave scene in Michael Jackson's thriller video. All the worst offenders will come out to get me.
A: You have dealt with many offenders in your lifetime. When you forgive yourself for seeing their action as offensive, all rancor is dropped. The lesson of loving all no matter what – unconditional love – is learned.
Me: Can I still set a boundary?
A: Based on what? There was no offense.
A: You are learning to become a fifth dimensional. That is what fifth dimensionals behave like – they love all.
Me: Okay. I'm pretty sure me and Ivo discussed forgiveness before and we talked about either forgiving them or forgiving both them and myself.
A: Forgiveness is necessary for you as you are in the public eye and you're very aware that people either deliberately or not deliberately offend you. When you take offense and forgive yourself for taking the offense then nothing is wrong. All is still love.
You are afraid because you think that with no boundaries that everyone will come out to offend you. But in not putting up boundaries you are stepping into a greater awareness of the being a whole consciousness with others. Boundaries are a way of learning who you are, how you prefer to be treated and as a defense mechanism. Not having boundaries means to stop taking offense or to forgive yourself when offense was taken. To continue to be part of the one.
Me: I'll have to think about it.
A: You said that 2019 was “your year,” the year you step even closer to your divinity. You have all the books you think you will need to study. You have the Law of One. You have books on every subject you feel you need to study to understand yourself as a consciousness, an energy being and you are also working on the Course in Miracles now.
Me: Which is a miracle because I've put it off for a long time!
A: You weren't ready. You now are. Wait till you hear of the surprises Sananda has in store for you.
Me: Okay. It's good he's broken it into 365 segments because it's not something you could do in a month even, I feel.
A: It's very important. But remember what I said in this video. There is no offense. There is only learning. There is only love.
Me: You always make me teary-eyed!
A: Love does that. The truth does that. For someone who has longed for the truth for so long, it is emotional when you finally hear it.
Me: Ivo tells me the truth and I'm forgiving myself right now for findinng offense at your words.
A: You said yesterday to stop personalizing people's statements. You are thinking that I am saying that Ivo does not tell you the truth. He does. He tells you the next truth you need to hear to build your process. There are levels of awareness and you are all opening to higher consciousness now. There is no offense. There is only learning. There is only love.
Forgive yourself for not understanding. It is you that is ignorant and I do not mean that in a slanderous way. You do not know. Forgive yourself for not knowing and take the time to learn. We will be with you to remind you.
Me: True. There is no offense. There is only learning. There is only love.
A: Ivo has told you that those you take offense at are your teachers and you have paid lip service to this. Now jump in to the lesson feet first. LOL
Me: Got it! Thank you Adama, my man of love.
A: You are very welcome. Adieu.
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Me: Ivo, we need to discuss this again. I think we've already done a video on personalizing but a reminder needs to go out. This would stop a lot of the lightworker infighting right in its tracks.
Ivo; This is true, my love. Your people personalize your conversations with others. This leads to the ego being triggered, and ensuing arguments. By comparison, what if you looked at the weather?
Me: LOL Yeah, it's raining here right now at the end of March and we're expecting an ice storm today. So what if I said, instead of, “It's raining now and it's supposed to ice over today,” I said, “It's raining now and it's supposed to ice over today. Why is it doing this to me?” Well, it's not of course. It's just doing what it's doing without taking me into consideration. So why personalize conversations? People are just doing what they're doing without taking you into consideration. Even when the conversation is directed at you.
I'm trying to keep this simple. We said that people personalize what others say, even about them, which they shouldn't do. People tend to automatically put a “to me” at the end of others' statements.
So for example, Ivo, someone is on social media and another person puts up a comment and I was just in this the other day. It was about the 4D/5D lightworker and how some 5D's seem to think themselves as “higher up” than the 4D's, hence assigning less value to the role of the 4D lightworker. Of course, we all know that frequency is impersonal – it's just your frequency but there's probably an implication that they achieved 5D by being of better character.
Someone put that up and another lightworker went after her like a barracuda after its breakfast. This person's attack mentality was launched because she personalized that statement because inherently she probably believes that she is “less than” others in some ways and doesn't like to be reminded of her own feelings of inadequacy. If she didn't have them, she wouldn't have personalized the comment and read her own meaning into it. However attacking someone isn't a good way to show others you're of high moral character. LOL
Ivo: Yes, that is true. People are triggered by others' comments due to their own feelings about themselves, not because the other person even knows anything about them. The attacker was triggered by her own feelings of inadequacy. And it is totally avoidable by simply not adding the personalization, “How does this comment pertain to me?” while reading it. It is simply a comment. If the commenter is in fact that egotistical that they see the role of the 5D lightworker as superior to the 4D lightworker, they will not be going to 5D anyway. They are deluding themself.
So in order to avoid arguing between lightworkers, the best tact to take is to stop personalizing all comments. However it is what you react to you then have to heal. Perhaps ask yourself, “What can I get from this?” rather than, “What does this say about me?”
If you react to another's comment, you begin a self-searching function in order to determine whether in fact there is any truth to this. Those of humility will use their own reaction to admit fault and gain self mastery; while those of ego will attack and begin a denial process.
Me: So let's go over some other scenarios to help lightworkers learn to disengage from their attack function. Because from what I see, it's really getting crazy with lightworkers fighting and arguing all the time. We're supposed to be on the same team. Although by having us all working on our issues strenghtens our lightwork and our whole team, it sure doesn't feel like it. It has a divisive effect.
Ivo: It does. You are not seeing it for what it is – all are gaining self mastery through arguing with each other, but in the same time, it is creating loosh and holding back progress as well.
Me: So it sounds like a self-defeating process.
Ivo: Which, in fact, life upon your planet has been for many millenia, thanks to your dark controllers.
Me: True. There has to be a better way.
Ivo: Understand that a comment is simply a comment that one makes, and it does not pertain to you. For starters. Stop personalizing it. Understand that if you do react to a comment, then it is up to you to work through your reaction to it – ON YOUR OWN – as opposed to engaging the commenter in an argument. Take pen and paper, or a fresh word document, and write down your reaction to the comment, how you feel about the comment, and what it indicates about you, not about the other person – about you – because you are the reactor. Does it indicate that you are fearful, doubtful, shameful, angry... what does it tell you about yourself? And then understand what it is that is lacking within you. If you are angry, perhaps you require patience to be more loving. If you are doubtful then you need more confidence. Your reaction is simply showing you what you lack and by working with it you will come to understand more about how you can develop yourself towards self mastery and unconditional lovingness.
Me: True. So how about some examples. I've got many of being attacked... Let me see.
The one who left my group with a parting shot, calling me “McArthur,” clearly indicated that she was feeling restrained in my group and couldn't live up to the high standards of being respectful and not arguing with others in the group. Case in point, her parting insult.
I had to consider if in fact, I am as controlling as she was indicating. I have high behavioural standards, that's for sure. I believe all can interact respectfully but still honestly with others. I don't see why that would be a problem but I've been proven wrong on many occasions. I was being asked to provide a safe attack-free environment by the people in the group. And that's my personal preference as well because I really don't think much of people who attack others; in fact they're energy vampires and toxic to boot, so I don't want to be around them.
I've spent much of my life in their company and now have chronic fatigue because of it, so I'm not big on having them around. Also as an empath, I'm very affected by negative energy I pick up off of others. So I'll just keep on Mcarthuring like I always do. I think it's the right way to go for now. The day that negativity has no effect on me anymore, and I do think that's possible even for an empath, I may stop McArthuring.
I believe there are levels of awareness. Unconditional love being a very high level, yet attainable.
Let's see, what's another example?
Ivo: What of the 4D/5D lightworker – where the 5D lightworker implies they are of more value than the 4D lightworker? Yes, you came across that on Rick's post the other day where a 4D opened fire and attacked a person claiming to be a 5D lightworker but stating their opinion in a way without humility. The other lightworker was triggered but need not have been had they not personalized the message. They read it as an insult. When perhaps it was not intended to be. When you add the “to me” or “What is this saying to me?” Or “What is this saying about me?” you are personalizing the message when in this case it was not personalized at all.
May I remind all that you are not here to fix others – you are here to master yourselves. It is simply who you see as being the problem – yourself or others. Your negative reaction indicates that you are the one holding the issue and this must be rectified.
Me: Yes. Good point, Ivo.
Personalizing is like driving and thinking the person who hit your bumper did it to piss you off. Of course they don't want to hit your bumper. Personalizing is like going to the store and buying a toy only to find it defective and saying that the store did that to annoy you. Personalizing is like saying your boss has it in for you when they treat everyone the same way. Don't be fooled, though, by the person who knows how to wangle their way around the boss' ego and kiss up to them, they'd still be treated poorly if they weren't so manipulative. I've seen this time and time again in the workplace.
Ivo: What must be worked on is the habit of personalizing because it is a function of the ego. The ego asks, “What does this say about me?” when you were not involved in its conception at all. The ego asks, “How will this affect me?” when you are actually so powerful you will only be affected if you choose to be. You create your own reality. The ego asks, “What does this person think about me?” when if you ask them they had not considered you at all. The ego makes itself front and center in everything. Every little thing. And that is why it argues. It insinuates itself in every conversation and creates discord when triggered. It is the personal responsibility of all to attempt to overcome this bad habit and to get along with others because that is what most desire upon your earth – a peaceful, loving world. Be part of the solution, not part of the problem. Keep your ego in check. Stop fighting with others and heal yourselves.
Me: Thank you Ivo.
Ivo: My love, my rose bud.
Me: I know. With the thorns still on the stem. I'm working on these thorns. Or am I personalizing your comment? LOL
Ivo: You have the option of seeing my vision of you in any way you like. You prefer to see yourself as one who still has faults to resolve, but you see yourself as the blooming rose as well. You see yourself on a path of growth and this is desirable.
Did the wash this morning, washed sheets. I can STILL smell the residue of my neighbour's laundry soap from the washer I used which belongs to the landlord, not me, from a few weeks ago. Her washer broke down and she used the landlord's with her poisonous stinky laundry soap. I ran a wash of just vinegar in it to try to break the smell down, but then it's not really an organic is it? It's a chemical. So what breaks down chemical perfumes, I don't know.
It helped but I can smell her laundry soap on my sheets. This will probably aggravate my chemical sensitivity. Ivo says that I shouldn't move before I glean all I can learn from the situation I have with my upstairs neighbour otherwise it's just going to happen again until it's resolved.
I learned today that because my needs are out of the ordinary, because of my heightened sensitivity, I don't get too much sympathy from anyone who doesn't have these extraordinary needs and who doesn't live from the heart. I learned that until I create my own space that caters to my health and sensitivity needs, I most likely won't have any rest around this issue.
Until I own my own space, I'll have to put up with non-sympathetic others and people who just will do whatever they want regardless of how it affects those around them.
Moving is not a possibility because I don't have the money to. When I move I don't expect things to be any better unless I should move into a green community or my own place.
Me: Hi Ivo, I've had the most tremendous experience these last few weeks! I archived my facebook group and opened my own forum which is still growing, and took a break. I have learned so much.
Ivo: I see this my love. You are in a much better frame of mind.
Me: I'm an empath and I thought for once in 3 years, I would pare back my interaction with others to absolute minimum so that I could understand how I feel at “default.” I want to understand which emotions are mine and which belong to others that I am feeling. I did put myself on a vitamin regime as well, so I think that helped, but I feel great. Absolutely alone and fantastic!
Ivo: Yes. You are. However you are still a transmuter and that is your work.
Me: I'm connecting with people little by little so that I'm not overwhelmed. I think that's the difference Ivo – not being overwhelmed by my interaction with others. Because I was. And I've learned social media is a good place to feel overwhelmed for this empath.
I was worried that I wouldn't have access to the news I was looking for to pass on to others so I still do go back on now and then but not nearly as much as before. I've also been reading my email subscriptions from my trusted sources like in5D.com (Gregg Prescott and his guest writers), James Gilliland (he's also a channeler and gets more intel on intervention than I do), Lisa Renee sends out a weekly or monthly newsletter so I see that in my inbox.
All the people I trust to give me the best news are doing what I do as well: going to their trusted sources and quoting them so I get the benefit of second hand news passed on to me, which I then pass on in my forum. It's such a great idea! Plus I get ideas on new books to buy to do more research. I love it!
I've learned so much. And I'm so grateful!
Ivo: Yes, and that is not the end of it, is it?
Me: No. Getting to the subject of this video – I've rested up and feel so peaceful. Then it dawned on me that that's the way of soul – to be at peace, to even work in peace, and that going forward I had to learn how to do this too.
I have had many decades of caffeine-fueled assaults on my inbox at 9:00 a.m., followed by 5:00 p.m. crashes into spaced-out oblivion. That's how I got the adrenal fatigue. I took that work model to some extent and applied it to what I'm doing now but I realize for best results if I want to do my soul's work, and I do, the best thing to do is to do it in the way my soul would – in peace and love.
Because I'm interested in addressing my adrenal fatigue problem, I realized too, that I had to stop working up adrenalin in my work. To do my work in peace would hopefully give my adrenals the break they would need to mend.
I've realized I have to take frequent breaks hourly, daily, and weekly. That was your prompting too so thank you for caring! I was doing none of that. I have accomplished a lot because the fourth book is almost done and we have a large library of videos. I also had a look at which were the most effective ways to get my message out and I realized that social media isn't because of the censorship I experience there. That means the people who want my message aren't getting it. To counter that I put my Facebook posts in my blog.
So going forward, interacting with others is fine, but not to the point of overwhelm and working on this is fine too but not to the point of stressing my adrenals. This is going to be interesting but the results are so worth it!! Just loving my life in peace.
Ivo: So this was a very worthwhile experience for you.
Me: It was and I want to share that with people: figure out what's not working for you, reduce or eliminate it, and go the way of your soul – in peace!! The love will come back on its own. Going the adrenalin fuelled way of the ego is just not worth it. It's running yourself into the ground. Do what you need to do. I make a list of what I want to do in future and it might or might not get done. If it's still a priority I'll do it. If not, I'll omit it.
Of course, we're never taught to rest and when the adrenals kick in, you don't want to rest. But you have to rest to get back to center – to peace and calm. That's when life feels best.
I thought I'd pass this message on to people who are doing too much. Find ways to eliminate work, get help, take breaks and stay centered in peace and love. It's the only way for me now.
Of course the old will temp me. I have a book I want to read and grill Akon on and it'll get done when it does. I have another project with him and Gladeela (Elizabeth Klarer) coming up and I want to work more with Adama, my man of love!!
But I have to pace myself.
Hope this reminder helps you too!
Lots of love and peace, Sharon and Ivo
From in5D, by Amanda Lorence:
"For our goal, our reason for coming here this incarnation, was not to stay in 3D or 4D. But to enter and live in 5D. To do so, we could not (can not) take any lower frequency energy with us. Because 5D has its own frequency bandwidth, which doesn’t include some of the lower dimensional frequency energies (measured in Hz) that are available to experience in the 3rd and 4th Dimensions. So the patterns have to be cleared, hence the so called lessons. They are not ‘lessons’. They were all gifts, for the individual to look within themselves, just themselves, and clear."
Ivo has taught me that 4D is like a bandwidth of energy. In the same way that your eyes will only see things in a certain range of the light spectrum, so will your physical mind and body be able to exist within the energetic spectrum of the fifth dimension - when you clear lower dimensional patterns. That is the ONLY way. Otherwise you stay in lower dimensions.
It's like if your cell phone is out of range of wifi frequencies you're not going to be able to connect via wifi.
There is no shame in staying in lower dimensions. It doesn't make you worse than others - it simply means that that's where you're to do your lightwork.
I think some have a case of escapism where they feel if they can get to 5D, they won't be subjected to the negativity of the lower dimensions. I believe until you can see the love in every action of life, you're not understanding the lower dimensions. Granted, 3rd and 4th dimension have gone beyond a useful capacity for this lesson learning love by becoming a death culture, and this is being corrected by the Light forces intervention.
All you have to do is open your heart and keep it open in all transactions. When you find something that shuts it, figure out why. That's the lesson and the energy you need to clear.
Me: Ivo, we need to discuss this as part of our attempt to help people become more discerning in the lightworker field.
Ivo: Yes, my love. I know you have many points to make.
Me: I do. For one thing, I've had a falling out with one particular social media forum that has shadowbanned me, sent me dark agents, and even removed people from my groups since I've been on it. I will be on that platform again but certainly not in the same way I was before. So when we're discussing social media, we're discussing the forums, not the video type, or even blogs. This one type in particular.
I'm suspicious that a lot of darkworkers haunt social media and circulate dark messages to the lightworkers. I'm even thinking some could be paid by the forum owners themselves to do so. Why not? They pay shills to go into lightworker groups and screw around with them. Why not find someone with spiritual or ET knowledge to spread disinformation? Seems very likely.
But I'm not even going to focus on these aspects of social media as much as one thing: I believe social media keeps your dopamine up and gets and keeps you addicted to your own adrenalin.
The reason I say this is because I got a post in my group, which I've since closed, from someone no one had ever heard of, and certainly this person's work had never been posted in the group. And the comments were a cacophony of confusion.
The person made statements contrary to the beliefs of the people reading it and it just sent them into a tizzy. And I don't think this is an isolated case at all, so I'm not picking on these people. It was this situation that brought this to my attention. I don't think it's uncommon at all for lightworkers to be confused over content they're seeing and then to start arguing with each other, not at all.
Ivo: And of course, my love, this is the intention of these posts. To confuse. To create chaos. To create loosh. To create fear. To create self-doubt. To prevent ascension. To control.
Me: Wouldn't it be possible that someone, like me, would post something and it would confuse people too?
Ivo: Of course. But as I told you yesterday, when you are confused you must understand that it is because you are either not knowledgeable enough to accept the information as truth, or because the post actually is a lie or contains several lies, and is intended to lower your vibration. Lightworkers still do not understand the extent of the war on your consciousnesses. You are particularly targeted because you are so powerful. You are earth's first line of defense in this consciousness war, so you are targeted to create loosh as opposed to ascending higher. Facebook goes out of its way to see to it that you are kept in the dark, as you have been. They cut you off from many sources of light information that could help in your ascension.
It would be prudent to understand that it is NOT a good source for information that you require to ascend. On the contrary. It is a negative platform run by the cabal, and so how can you figure you will find the light in any meaningful amount when you are on it?
They are simply controlling you.
Me: My other point, is, Ivo, the lightworker if they've never meditated before in their lives, to go out to the beach and lie in the sand and sunshine for half an hour. That's all it takes, not even. Remember how wonderful you felt. You were blissed out. Well, you can feel that way again when you remove yourself from negative circumstances because that's how you feel at a higher, more spiritual level. Why do you bother with forums that keep you feeling badly? If you're on facebook and you've been in yet another argument with some person you'll never see or hear from again for the rest of your life, what's the point? What is the point arguing with a total stranger? To make your ego feel validated. And that's the other thing we're on about here, Ivo. Stop feeding your ego. Facebook, or Twitter or wherever is the perfect place to do that.
But you end up feeling bad. Why bother?
Ivo: Yes, you are kept in fear because that is the ego's goal: to make you feel superior but through fear.
And yes, then when you are on there and you see material by someone unknown, why then would you become upset at this material? This is the first time you have witnessed this person's work. You do not know them. You do not understand their perspective. You do not understand their intentions. You have studied and read and followed those truly of the light and yet you allow one person to make you question all of it. Why? Because you believe that everyone knows more than you do. Even those posing as light who are not of the Light. You believe everyone is smarter than you and you should defer to their way of thinking. This is incorrect.
Why do you continue to learn and to read and study when you will simply give all this knowledge and self-empowerment away to the first one who states something other than what you are familiar with. Why bother?
When will you have confidence in yourself? Let me explain. You are a lightworker who has been researching and feel empowered by this research and the lessons it has provided to you and the changes it has allowed you to make in your life. You have gotten to a generally good level of happiness in your life. This means that you are vibrating at a good frequency, a high frequency.
Then you read something that makes you question what you know. And then you start to feel confused. This confusion is a form of fear and indicates that your vibrational frequency has dropped. If you continue to believe what you have been told, then you will continue to feel the drop in vibration. It is that simple. You are energy. Energy vibrates. The higher you go in frequency the happier you feel. When you read something the dark has provided and you believe it to be true, you will fall to a state of fear in confusion. Do you want that?
My advice is: Do not read anything that does not make you feel good. If you do not like it, if it does not make you feel good, you will drop in frequency.
Do you watch scary movies? Do you drive wrecklessly? Do you listen to music that you do not like? No? Why? Because it does not make you feel good. So why listen or read information that does not make you feel good. And in that vein, remember to turn off the television.
Me: The other thing is make a list of your trusted sources of light information. And stick to them. Yes, we all want to investigate and learn more, but when you give away your power so readily, it's best to stick to who you trust. The ones that helped get you to this higher state in the first place.
Ivo can we discuss the adrenalin addiction in more detail please?
Ivo: Of course. This is one thing many of you feel makes you feel good: your own glandular secretions. With adrenalin coursing through your veins, how do you feel? Powerful. Omnipotent? You could jump out of an airplane. With the combination of adrenalin and your ego, you have a pile of wood waiting for the match to drop.
It is peace you are looking for, to meet with your soul. Like you said, my love, go sit on the beach in the sunshine for half an hour. This is the feeling you want. Not the feeling of losing control in a social media argument. And social media does, in fact, give you the means to become overwhelmed in adrenalin. It is very addictive.
Your lives are very adrenalin driven. You have too much to do, too little time for relaxation. This is by design. Do not spend your time on a social media platform that does not offer you the peace you seek. Yes, it is addictive and you will need to resist this addiction when you first come off of it. Yes, like a drug. Do not think that your controllers do not understand the addictive nature of the ego because they do. And they find ways to keep you busy creating loosh for them while you remain addicted and stressed out.
You must find peace through relaxation. Meditation is best. Or go to the beach.
Me: Thank you Ivo.
Ivo: My love, always good points to help others with. I love you.
Me: kiss kiss
The fact is, spiritual people aren't loud. They're humble and usually quiet.
They're not busy directing your lives, they're not busy lauding their superiority over others, they're not busy shunning others who aren't where they are at yet. They don't barge in and offer help when it's not asked for. They understand everyone is on their own path and accept that life is for learning. They assume when you need help, you'll ask. If you don't ask them, they don't get hung up about it.
They don't get caught up in drama and chaos. They don't fear life, they enjoy it. They understand that they create life, so why fear themselves and their own creations?
They don't control and manipulate, those behaviours are incongruent with their higher emotional states. Love is about truth and honesty.
They have compassion and love for others as they do themselves.
To understand a truly spiritual person, look at the frequencies of emotion. Those who live predominantly through their higher chakras express the higher emotional states on this pyramid. It's about frequency.