Me: Ivo, we need to discuss this again. I think we've already done a video on personalizing but a reminder needs to go out. This would stop a lot of the lightworker infighting right in its tracks.
Ivo; This is true, my love. Your people personalize your conversations with others. This leads to the ego being triggered, and ensuing arguments. By comparison, what if you looked at the weather?
Me: LOL Yeah, it's raining here right now at the end of March and we're expecting an ice storm today. So what if I said, instead of, “It's raining now and it's supposed to ice over today,” I said, “It's raining now and it's supposed to ice over today. Why is it doing this to me?” Well, it's not of course. It's just doing what it's doing without taking me into consideration. So why personalize conversations? People are just doing what they're doing without taking you into consideration. Even when the conversation is directed at you.
I'm trying to keep this simple. We said that people personalize what others say, even about them, which they shouldn't do. People tend to automatically put a “to me” at the end of others' statements.
So for example, Ivo, someone is on social media and another person puts up a comment and I was just in this the other day. It was about the 4D/5D lightworker and how some 5D's seem to think themselves as “higher up” than the 4D's, hence assigning less value to the role of the 4D lightworker. Of course, we all know that frequency is impersonal – it's just your frequency but there's probably an implication that they achieved 5D by being of better character.
Someone put that up and another lightworker went after her like a barracuda after its breakfast. This person's attack mentality was launched because she personalized that statement because inherently she probably believes that she is “less than” others in some ways and doesn't like to be reminded of her own feelings of inadequacy. If she didn't have them, she wouldn't have personalized the comment and read her own meaning into it. However attacking someone isn't a good way to show others you're of high moral character. LOL
Ivo: Yes, that is true. People are triggered by others' comments due to their own feelings about themselves, not because the other person even knows anything about them. The attacker was triggered by her own feelings of inadequacy. And it is totally avoidable by simply not adding the personalization, “How does this comment pertain to me?” while reading it. It is simply a comment. If the commenter is in fact that egotistical that they see the role of the 5D lightworker as superior to the 4D lightworker, they will not be going to 5D anyway. They are deluding themself.
So in order to avoid arguing between lightworkers, the best tact to take is to stop personalizing all comments. However it is what you react to you then have to heal. Perhaps ask yourself, “What can I get from this?” rather than, “What does this say about me?”
If you react to another's comment, you begin a self-searching function in order to determine whether in fact there is any truth to this. Those of humility will use their own reaction to admit fault and gain self mastery; while those of ego will attack and begin a denial process.
Me: So let's go over some other scenarios to help lightworkers learn to disengage from their attack function. Because from what I see, it's really getting crazy with lightworkers fighting and arguing all the time. We're supposed to be on the same team. Although by having us all working on our issues strenghtens our lightwork and our whole team, it sure doesn't feel like it. It has a divisive effect.
Ivo: It does. You are not seeing it for what it is – all are gaining self mastery through arguing with each other, but in the same time, it is creating loosh and holding back progress as well.
Me: So it sounds like a self-defeating process.
Ivo: Which, in fact, life upon your planet has been for many millenia, thanks to your dark controllers.
Me: True. There has to be a better way.
Ivo: Understand that a comment is simply a comment that one makes, and it does not pertain to you. For starters. Stop personalizing it. Understand that if you do react to a comment, then it is up to you to work through your reaction to it – ON YOUR OWN – as opposed to engaging the commenter in an argument. Take pen and paper, or a fresh word document, and write down your reaction to the comment, how you feel about the comment, and what it indicates about you, not about the other person – about you – because you are the reactor. Does it indicate that you are fearful, doubtful, shameful, angry... what does it tell you about yourself? And then understand what it is that is lacking within you. If you are angry, perhaps you require patience to be more loving. If you are doubtful then you need more confidence. Your reaction is simply showing you what you lack and by working with it you will come to understand more about how you can develop yourself towards self mastery and unconditional lovingness.
Me: True. So how about some examples. I've got many of being attacked... Let me see.
The one who left my group with a parting shot, calling me “McArthur,” clearly indicated that she was feeling restrained in my group and couldn't live up to the high standards of being respectful and not arguing with others in the group. Case in point, her parting insult.
I had to consider if in fact, I am as controlling as she was indicating. I have high behavioural standards, that's for sure. I believe all can interact respectfully but still honestly with others. I don't see why that would be a problem but I've been proven wrong on many occasions. I was being asked to provide a safe attack-free environment by the people in the group. And that's my personal preference as well because I really don't think much of people who attack others; in fact they're energy vampires and toxic to boot, so I don't want to be around them.
I've spent much of my life in their company and now have chronic fatigue because of it, so I'm not big on having them around. Also as an empath, I'm very affected by negative energy I pick up off of others. So I'll just keep on Mcarthuring like I always do. I think it's the right way to go for now. The day that negativity has no effect on me anymore, and I do think that's possible even for an empath, I may stop McArthuring.
I believe there are levels of awareness. Unconditional love being a very high level, yet attainable.
Let's see, what's another example?
Ivo: What of the 4D/5D lightworker – where the 5D lightworker implies they are of more value than the 4D lightworker? Yes, you came across that on Rick's post the other day where a 4D opened fire and attacked a person claiming to be a 5D lightworker but stating their opinion in a way without humility. The other lightworker was triggered but need not have been had they not personalized the message. They read it as an insult. When perhaps it was not intended to be. When you add the “to me” or “What is this saying to me?” Or “What is this saying about me?” you are personalizing the message when in this case it was not personalized at all.
May I remind all that you are not here to fix others – you are here to master yourselves. It is simply who you see as being the problem – yourself or others. Your negative reaction indicates that you are the one holding the issue and this must be rectified.
Me: Yes. Good point, Ivo.
Personalizing is like driving and thinking the person who hit your bumper did it to piss you off. Of course they don't want to hit your bumper. Personalizing is like going to the store and buying a toy only to find it defective and saying that the store did that to annoy you. Personalizing is like saying your boss has it in for you when they treat everyone the same way. Don't be fooled, though, by the person who knows how to wangle their way around the boss' ego and kiss up to them, they'd still be treated poorly if they weren't so manipulative. I've seen this time and time again in the workplace.
Ivo: What must be worked on is the habit of personalizing because it is a function of the ego. The ego asks, “What does this say about me?” when you were not involved in its conception at all. The ego asks, “How will this affect me?” when you are actually so powerful you will only be affected if you choose to be. You create your own reality. The ego asks, “What does this person think about me?” when if you ask them they had not considered you at all. The ego makes itself front and center in everything. Every little thing. And that is why it argues. It insinuates itself in every conversation and creates discord when triggered. It is the personal responsibility of all to attempt to overcome this bad habit and to get along with others because that is what most desire upon your earth – a peaceful, loving world. Be part of the solution, not part of the problem. Keep your ego in check. Stop fighting with others and heal yourselves.
Me: Thank you Ivo.
Ivo: My love, my rose bud.
Me: I know. With the thorns still on the stem. I'm working on these thorns. Or am I personalizing your comment? LOL
Ivo: You have the option of seeing my vision of you in any way you like. You prefer to see yourself as one who still has faults to resolve, but you see yourself as the blooming rose as well. You see yourself on a path of growth and this is desirable.
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