Dealing with boundary violators
We all want to learn to be more loving of others. Unconditionally loving of other people.
I have put up a contact form on my website for people who want to pass my channeled messages on to others. It's a convenience. I put the channeled messages up on my website as well and you can copy and paste them up from there if you want. But for convenience's sake I figured I'd start a mailing list.
I only have 25 subscribers but of those already people have misused my email to send me stuff back, either personal stuff or stuff related to the work I do. One sent me a list of questions he wanted answered. Another just spammed me with something completely unrelated.
I have had a conversation with Ivo and Ashtar long ago as this work can be overwhelming. I know there are lightworker teachers out there who don't set limits and then get burnt out trying to help more people than they possibly can. I am going through my own ascension process, have loads of work to do, blog daily and channel several times a week, as well as channeling books (right now I'm working on two of them and setting up a third for next year), plus I have all my administrative work to do.
I have picked and chosen what I want to do to get my work done and this is everyone's right. They can say yes to what they want and no to what they don't want.
Dealing with people is difficult for me because of the negative energy I have to deal with on a daily basis anyway, having come here as a transmuter. So I don't make myself available to people wanting to discuss their personal problems.
The point I'm making here is that we need to learn to be more loving to other people by respecting their boundaries. Listening to others and respecting when they say no is the most loving thing you can do for another person. Trying to impose your wants and needs onto someone who's not willing to meet them is not on!!
The other thing boundary violators do is they always think they're the exception - that's how they justify violating others' boundaries - thinking that the other won't mind. It's just once.
Fact is, I can see a problem with this entire idea in that people who get my email address are using it for different purposes than was specified, using these unverified justifications in order to make it okay with themselves. If I get more boundary violators I will have to suspend the service and ask that you go back and get the video content from my website. The more people subscribe, the more problem it seems I'll have with boundary violators.
I said that trying to impose your wants and needs onto someone who's not willing to meet them is not on.
You think that using an email address for something other than what the person wanted to use it for isn't so bad, but let me show you what violating others' boundaries and others' rights looks like in the extreme, then maybe you'll make the connection.
What are we always saying about our right to say no to? Sex. Rape is the ultimate boundary violation because it removes the victim's right to decide how they want to express their sexuality.
Then there's aggression or hitting another person. Punching someone. Did they want that? Obviously not.
Another way we violate people's boundaries are that we lie to them. We complain about politicians lying to us yet we lie to others as well.
Another example: pedophilia. The child has a right to age-appropriate treatment and this is anything but that.
Genocide is another type of boundary violation. Do you think that people who have died from genocide really wanted to be culled by a more powerful authority?
What I'm saying to you is that these boundary violations are all on the same continuum!! Some are lesser infractions than others but ALL OF THEM are a violation of what the person said they don't want.
Listen to others when they say no and respect that. That shows them you love them more than sending them information that you think is appropriate for them.
We are codependent society. We think we know what others want and we don't listen when they tell us! We feel we have the right to treat others as we see fit, not as they see fit. When you don't listen to what others want, you are in fact attempting to dominate them, and subordinate them to you. Yes. This is part of the control over others system we are living in and this has to be rectified. Not listening to another person when they set limits with you is an attempt at domination over them! I'm not being radical either.
We are inflexible, controlling, dominating, manipulative and unloving of others.
Consider what I've said for yourself. How have you violated another's boundaries today? How have you attempted to dominate them by ignoring their needs?
How can you be more loving and respectful of others in future? Do you really know what they want or would you be open to discussing it with them?
We need to stop dealing with others in dominance/submissive patterns and start respecting each other. Look at how you're dealing with others and ask yourself, "Am I trying to get what I want and ignore what they want?" This is dominance and it's insidious!
Thank you for your indulgence.
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