Me: Hi Ivo, I need to discuss this because of things we mentioned in yesterday's video. We went through this yesterday and I want to explain what you told me to others because it might help them.
Ivo: Very well, my love.
Me: What this pertains to is the fact that this weekend, I have yet again gone over some long standing resentments against people who mistreated me and for some reason, they won't relinquish. You explained why.
Ivo: Yes, because you are looking at them through the ego's eyes. The ego cannot forgive. It will only hate. As we have pointed out before, the negative ego is, for lack of a better word, a parasite. It needs other people to relate to in order to exist. Without a fuming resentment at another, it would be still. Without anger at the Dollar Store clerk, it would be quiet. You would not know you have a shadow if you are not angry with anyone.
Ivo: So the ego is about how it relates or compares you to others. There is no comparison. It is like comparing apples to oranges in that the physical being is so different from other physical beings, and it is like comparing apples to apples because at soul level, we are all One. So it does not make sense to compare. Your people believe that having these relationships of ego are the stuff of life. It is not. Having relationships based on love, because love is how you would treat yourself if you could, is the stuff of life.
The ego has no place in your relationships with others. It is that simple. That is not its function however your people have been manipulated into accepting this in order to create the world you now have. This is what the ego can create for humanity. And I believe war is being threatened again, as we speak. Hatred of and control over others.
Me: True. But what are they fighting over? Isn't that a ruse to get at the portals in the middle east and shut them.
Ivo: Yes. There are many portals there still controlled by the dark.
Me: Okay, so moving on with the lesson then.....
Ivo: Yes. Your ego's have no business running your lives is my point and the fact that you are so resentful of people you feel mistreated you in the past bears witness to that. The ego also tends to personalize things. You have a longstanding resentment of Bruce, who used to come into your office and intimidate you. He, in fact, was attempting to prompt you to stick up for yourself but you were too afraid. Having spent your life with your narcissistic father, you were quite used to threats of physical violence and intimidation and when Bruce did this, you did not defend yourself. By the way, your resentment is actually with yourself, not with Bruce, which you are aware of.
The point I made with you yesterday was not to look at the person but to look at the life lesson instead. That is why I had you draw the horizontal line and put markers in places where this life lesson appeared in your life. When you look at your life lesson of "being afraid in the face of physical intimidators" you see that you in fact did re-empower yourself.
And you see this happened when you were living in London in your 30's. So you can thank Bruce for his efforts but you did learn the lesson eventually, just not from him. I might add that you were not in an earning environment when you finally asserted yourself and you must always be careful of losing your job because you asserted yourself.
Me: Which did happen too later on.
Ivo: But the point was, you can finally let Bruce go with love because the lesson was learned.
Even later on when you lived with Glenn, another narcissist, you were not in much threat of physical danger. You ran because you knew you'd crossed his rules and he would have beat you up at that point. So you left him. You have not been in any situations where you were physically threatened by another person since then. It takes being away from stress-free situations to be able to learn and reflect upon them. When you are in them, it is very difficult to learn thinking on your feet.
So, my love, and to the listeners out there, if you find a particular resentment or unresolved anger lingers around a certain person, understand this person is there to help empower you. Sharon has had many of these people in her life to help her heal from her original experience with her narcissistic, physically and emotionally abusive parents.
There are many life themes that can run throughout anyone's life and if you find that there are people who you cannot let go of anger towards, then they can be inserted into such a timeline as Sharon has depicted and this takes the focus off of them, and puts it towards the soul lesson to be learned. It helps with the learning, and helps with the forgiving. Life themes tend to focus on self-empowerment, unconditional love and forgiveness.
For Sharon, in this case, she must look at how she lived as an intimidated little girl in her crazy family home, then moved into the working world where she was abused by her co-workers both male and female, then moved away to London, England where she was treated more respectfully by all coworkers and then shown how people work together in a mutually respectful environment. She knew what she'd experienced before was very dysfunctional, but this validated her idea that people can behave properly and it was a positive experience for her to have. It strengthened her own sense of self esteem and moved her towards becoming more assertive, which she is very much so today.
There were two incidents in London with two strangers who physically touched you and your ability to fend them off was very adequate to the occasion.
Me: Yeah, they were just strange. Guy rubbing my back on the Tube and muttering under his breath and another one edged up so close to my butt at Speaker's Corner after he'd followed me from speaker to speaker.... yeah, both were dealt with in short order.
Ivo: And there are many who are approached by strangers in your public transit systems who need to be aware and very assertive.
Me: I know. That's why I love my car. LOL
Ivo: We can take another example if you like, another example of how you learned self mastery and self empowerment. It could be, "Dealing with putdowns," or, "Dealing with advantage takers," and when you draw your horizontal line, you populate it with people who come to mind. Put them in chronological order, as best you can, and see how you have progressed throughout your life to become re-empowered again.
Yes, you have been dealing with many solar plexus chakra issues and it shows in your life's themes. This is not uncommon for a lightworker as the dark wishes to keep you disempowered. You are here to overcome that.
Sharon now is very assertive and speaks her boundaries very clearly. She feels confident enough to be able to do these videos, using her own life's experiences as an example for others to learn from. Not everyone would do that.
Me: No. I figure if I can't help someone else, then what good is it? I know by changing myself I've helped humanity but the more the merrier.
Ivo: Yes, and it is not everyone's cup of tea and that is their choice. Some refuse to learn or to do the work but those you have no wish to have around. They tend to be energy vampires. Yes, you are thinking of the woman at the dollar store yesterday.
Me: Yes, the one who called me "sir."
Ivo: She is a jealous person, childish and spiteful of others who appear to have more than she does. In her case she was jealous of your looks.
Me: I get that. Even at my post menopausal age, women are comparing looks. Oy vey! When does it end?
Ivo: If people would understand that the reason they appear as they do is to learn, then they would be more accepting of themselves and perhaps would stop comparing themselves to others.
Me: I can't fathom how anyone could come here and not grow. How can you keep going through the same things and never want to make your life better? The same hurts over and over. For me, it's the pain that keeps me growing, and I'm sure that's what it's intended to do.
Ivo: Pain is resistance to love and many resist it. Remember that many are mind controlled and believe this pain is normal.
Me: Wow. Okay then I hope we have the idea across and maybe people can use this technique to take the focus off of the people who've hurt them and put the focus onto the healing path they're on. Oh, the other thing we said yesterday, Ivo, was about the way in our world we believe that people who hurt us need to be punished. We're taught that. And it's instilled from childhood. If you're bad, you need to be punished.
Ivo: People who hurt you need to be forgiven because it helps both you and them. The cord between you is dropped but not before the healing energy is delivered to the one who has attempted to teach you. Those on the healing path must understand this. Punishment does not change much. It would bring about fear in most people and this is the vibration of the original deed. The solution is to raise the vibration of both parties.
Me: Yes, a foreign idea to this world.
Ivo: And so we put it out into your collective consciousness now.
Me: True. All people are teachers. Love you.
Ivo: I love you my dear.
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