More on Acceptance/Rejection and Good/Bad
Me: Ivo, I want to talk about this because Jesus brought up a good point in A Course in Miracles. Well, he brought up a lot of good points, some of which I'm already familiar with, thankfully. But the one point he made really opened my eyes and I want to discuss this.
Ivo: And this point was what he said about acceptance of what is before you.
Me: Yes. I'll take myself for example. How many times there's something right in front of me, something's going on and my reaction is, “I can't believe it!” or “You've gotta be kidding!” or, “You're joking!” As a matter of fact, the latter is my standard response to many things I see on earth, coupled with a shaking of my head. I can't wrap my head around so much that I see, or so much that other people do. It doesn't make sense to me! So my first response is not to want to accept it.
And that was Jesus' (Sananda's) point: You helped to create it, so why are you rejecting it now? You are rejecting the reality you just created. You see it's right in front of you and yet your reaction is not to believe that just happened so you reject it. Wait a minute.... my new friend wants to get a word in. LOL
Jesus: I am happy, Sharon, that you have realized this very important point. When you continue to reject your reality because you may view it in a certain way, you are rejecting your life. You are creating these circumstances, as you are aware, in order to grow from so the rejection of these circumstances out of disbelief, which is common for you, leads to further problems. When you reject your reality, you stay in the ego and it is happy you have chosen yet again, to empower it. Your ego is the one whose basis is in unreality and when you refuse to accept what is before you, you again live in and create unreality. Do you see my point?
Me: I do, Jesus. I'm also getting goose flesh on my arms. LOL
Jesus: I want all my children to understand that accepting life as it is before them is the road to living a higher life. To living as I did. To living from your heart, from your soul. Sharon wishes to bring up more examples of reactions to life, and how she has, in the past denied, minimized, wished away, hid her head under a pillow and cried, how she did all these things because she did not want to deal with her reality. But when you accept it, it is easiest to deal with. As Ivo has said, any resistance to what is is resistance to love because you are all on a loving path, on a higher path. When you resist, you fall off of this path and back into the ethers of unreality. Do you understand?
Me: I do. I'm so glad you said that in ACIM. I was almost having flashbacks of all my reactions. And I will list them here and Ivo and I will go through them and we'll explain how this is all resistance. I will admit that some of the stuff I've been through has just been bloody crazy, y'know.
Jesus: Some of it was crazy because that is the fork you chose on the road. And you had to take the crazy path back to the road of love, the correct fork which you strayed from. Do you understand this?
Me: Yes. Like the time me and my family lost the footpath and had to climb the rock wall at Niagara Glen. We took the hard way back but we were pretty much in the habit of doing that all the time in life.
Jesus: Yes, you make your lives more difficult than they need be by not accepting. I will leave you now.
Me: Okay. I feel like begging you to stay but I'm proud, LOL. I know you're there.
Jesus: I am, my child. I am always watching you.
Me: He's saying, when you resist what is you'll get a worse reality with possibly even more pain, in order to wake you up, get you to accept it, and get you back on the correct path of your life, the path of love. Yes, nothing motivates like pain. Life wants to get your attention. When you keep falling off into the unreal, it will reach over to you and try to yank you back to the loving path. But this will be a harder path than it would have been had you accepted in the first place. Incredible! This does follow universal law, though.
As far as the list of exclamations goes, like I said, I had my favourites. Then there was the ones with the expletives and where I used divine names in vain, like his for example. I still wonder if he hears me when I swear using his name. He probably can.
Ivo: When you are using your long list of exclamations and expletives, you can use them as a signal that you are in fear. Yes?
Me: Yes! Good one, Ivo! See, I didn't say, well, y'know. Whatever.... Actually, whatever is one of them too. Uttered in a sarcastic tone.
Ivo: Yes, you use it a lot. Your people are used to being in the ego and assessing any situation as being bad or good. “Is this bad for me or good for me?” The response is automatic. This is not an actual dichotomy but an artificial construction. As all life is love in action, there is no bad. Yes, I realize when you look at a dented front bumper MATERIALLY you then can exclaim it is bad, however on a spiritual level, the material hardly matters at all. That is what you have insurance for.
Me: Yeah, except for the $1,000 deductible.
Ivo: But I will stress again. Perhaps make a list of your common reactions when you are shocked by something and understand these are fear reactions. Understand that because it is true. So for Sharon, it would be, “You're joking, right?” “WTF?” “Are you nuts?” “This is crazy!” “Jesus Christ!” “Oh my effing God!” “What the eff is going on here?!” These are all fear reactions. Perhaps log it electronically or write it on a note pad as Sharon would, but at the end of a day or a week look at what you have said, and what it was in response to. Understand that these are fear based reactions and that you are thinking this would be bad for you. You would not object if you felt it was good for you, would you? No. Most people would not.
But then you must do the work. The work is to understand that initially you have had a fear based reaction but in fact you helped to create this reality. So there is nothing to fear. No matter what it is, it is before you to help you learn to love more, to become a stronger person, or to learn to have compassion or to forgive. Sharon gets a lot of these. LOL
Me: I do. Yeah, just look at it like going to the gym every day or 4 times a week or whatever. Those muscles aren't going to get bigger and stronger by sitting in front of the boob tube, are they? They have to be worked out repeatedly and your spiritual muscles have to as well.
I might add, if you're with someone and shock is your only reaction to their behavior, you might want to reconsider the relationship, especially if you're in emotional or physical danger. Not all relationships are meant to stay in, BTW. Sometimes leaving someone IS the lesson and it's the only choice and most loving thing to do for yourself because you count too!
Ivo: So, you must understand that everything is good. No matter how your ego labels it, it is all good. Dark attacks and dark dirtywork included. It is there to empower the Light within you. You may scream in exclamation and admittedly some situations will take longer to come around to accepting. That is why there is the process of grieving. Some situations will require griefwork. Many not.
Me: Can we do an example, Ivo?
Ivo: Of course. My love we can take such a simple example for you as you are an exclaimer. You are a labeler of “this is bad,” or “this is good.” You are in Walmart and they do not have the cat toys that you like to give Merlin. What do you say?
Me: “Shit! They don't have them again! Dammit!”
Ivo: Did you ever think of ordering any on line, perhaps writing down the model number if it is on the label on the shelf or finding out the name of the manufacturer and ordering them directly?
Me: No. I didn't.
Ivo: If you really wish to have these toy mice, then you can do so. It is that simple. Yet month after month when you have your check you look and they are again, not there. They are not there because for some reason they are not being stocked or they have been sold out. As for you, because you are in fear of their not being there, they are not. This is all being done for your good, my love.
Me: Okay. What else?
Ivo: What else do you react to? Well, bad drivers, of course.
Me: Yeah, we talked about that already. People who make up their own rules on the road scare me.
Ivo: And you see your first reaction is an expletive because you have decided this is bad for you. How many car accidents have you been in, my love?
Me: The one where the dark tried to off me when I was 16.
Ivo: And now you are 58, so it has been 42 years and you have not been in another car accident.
Me: I just consider myself a good driver.
Ivo: Ah, I see, it is because of your ego's excellence that you have not been in another crash. I told you that your team including myself, work hard to keep you safe on the road. You see Merton flying his ship around you as you drive, do you not?
Me: Yes. I'm still a good driver.
Ivo: When you come from this standpoint, you will see anyone else who does not drive as you do as a bad driver. You will make the comparison that the ego is so fond of.
Ivo: As soon as you make yourself out to be good, all others are either better or worse than you, my love. Do not look at it that way anymore.
Me: Okay. Well, I think people have the idea. I think your advice to write down times people reacted and didn't want to accept something is a good exercise. Remember, stay on the easy path and accept a lesson into your life the first time it comes around. Because it'll only get harder to get your attention the next time. Life will up the ante. That's universal law.
I think if you wanted to study the habits of successful people, that would probably be in there. Not to react and fear what just happened. Even see it as an opportunity. It would make sense.
Ivo: Alright then my love, thank you for this opportunity to share with others.
Me: Thank you Ivo, and Jesus. Kiss kiss
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