The other night Merlin was on the window sill looking outside. I walk by and see a transparent Merlin jumping off the credenza back onto the floor. Seeing into other dimensions. Pretty cool. I stayed on the timeline where Merlin was on the sill, but didn't go with him onto the timeline where he jumped off, otherwise that cat would have been opaque instead. I see the choices my cat is making in two timelines.
Demi Lovato comes out as “pansexual” - anything really. It's people like this that make our world unsafe. Why? Because they encourage others to reveal everything about themselves to anybody and everybody. The correct procedure of disclosing who you are to others is dispensed with. Obviously this is being done in order for the DS to lower our sexual boundaries so pedophilia can be regarded as normal. That's what they're after ultimately, and if they can confuse our sexual boundaries enough, they believe they can make us accept pedo's. Because they want us to accept them so they can have access to our kids. So what's next? Accepting Satanism as normal? Don't be surprised.
Why do people now have to “come out” around their sexual orientation? Okay, I'm straight. No inclination to be bi-sexual whatsoever. And I'm monogamous. I've had friends who were bi, gay, lesbian, kinky, whatever, and that's all fine. You don't have to tell the world unless you're trying to change the world. And that's what Lovato is trying to do for the DS. Really, it's your own business, not everyone else's. The other thing is not everyone even cares!
Oh yeah, and JB is trying to take away your guns, folks. Don't let him.
Everything is age appropriate. Exposing your kids to movies with content in it they're not ready to accept only confuses and scares them.
Do you know who else dispenses with the procedure of correct disclosure of self? People with poor boundaries. Everyone puts on their best face at the outset and discloses the most intimate of who they are when it's appropriate to do so, appropriate meaning you won't lose the person if you tell them who you are. People with poor boundaries tell all at the beginning, which makes our job of discerning whether we want to know them or not really easy.
Then there are others who disclose little, are even confusing, and then we find out what they really want. Again, dealing with that now too. That's why I don't commit to anything on earth. I make no commitments, sign no agreements, and that way I can walk away whenever my limits are reached which inevitably will happen. I fly alone. I do my work alone because I can do it in a way that suits my needs. I don't compromise with anyone on earth as a rule, because I don't trust people.
There are some people I trust with some things, but not other things. And others I can trust with other things but not some things. It depends. But a person is still a person. I look for telltale signs of being able to trust others, like if they gossip. If they tell others' business to you, they'll be telling yours around too.
What I've noted most about this world is how people are living a lie. Strangely, in order to continue to live this lie, they seem to have to convince others of its authenticity. I was always the skeptic.
People don't know how to be honest. People don't know how to be vulnerable. They spend their whole lives believing what their parents told them.
I have only met one person I could trust myself with, and that was a doctor I counselled with twenty years ago. I still love this man. I believe he's passed on now, but he did a lot for a lot of people who needed someone they could trust.
The irony of it: People who are masters have to go into counseling in order to acclimate to this planet. And they can't do it. Nobody has been able to re-create the circumstances on this planet that I'm accustomed to living by except Ivo and the other ETs I talk to. If you've been looking to put a feeling into words, this may be what you're feeling. You know better than what's going on here, you're used to better and a much more loving way of life than is practised here, so because of this you don't trust earth. Am I ringing a bell for anyone? I thought so. You're here to change this place, not to acclimate to it. Your aversion to it is indicative of the change you have to make. So for those of you who hate liars, for example, be as honestly truthful as you possibly can. For those of you who can't stand egotists, get out of your ego's and into your soul. The things you don't like about others reflect what you want for yourself. For those of you who despise the DS, it's because you're here to create a new system. For those of you who get sick on the foods we have to eat, start figuring out new recipes based on higher frequency foods. Be the change you want to see. Listen to your alien heart! Then share your truth!
You all want to know what you're here to do. You want all the information today. You want to know everything. Why don't you just start your journey with something smaller like what I've suggested now? The journey starts with the first step. Be the change you want to see. Because you know what you want to see. Your distaste for what goes on here stems from the fact that you know better and that you're here to change it, not to accept it.
The only thing you have to do is to learn to know yourself better, so that means dispensing with what you have learned about yourself here on earth, because it's a lie too. If you've never fit in, this is why. If you feel like you're at odds with everything, this is why. You're here to seed a new earth, you're here to seed the flowers, not the weeds. (I even like some weeds, think they're pretty, and who knows, maybe they are the super foods we've been looking for.)
When I was a kid, I learned not to trust anyone. I think trust is a result of proper attachment, and I was never able to attach to either of my parents, nor did I want to. Everyone I met afterwards I either attached to or not. I had friends in high school that were caring, but afterwards when I hit the work world, I had trouble with making friends. I had friends, but they were miserable, with an “us against the world” victim attitude, which of course just reflected my own. I was in good company.
This is a hard place to deal with. The way we compensate in order to try to survive this place often is dysfunctional.
I developed stringent boundaries. I am able to accommodate people in some cases but I hate being lied to or people who obscure the truth, hold back information until it's too late for me. It's never too late for me. Like I said, I don't commit to anything. Every time I'm lied to reminds me of how my parents couldn't love me, and it hurts.
For me, this is what “Being on this world, but not being of it,” looks like.
What does proper disclosure look like? Like I said, you don't spill the whole can of worms at the start.
When Ivo came through in 2015, he told me what his name was and what planet he was from. I sensed that he liked the clothes I had on, but being an empath, I was used to that feeling of appreciation from men, if not sick and tired of it, so I ignored it. I'm seldom flattered by it. It makes no difference to me and doesn't sway my feelings towards them. Ivo knew I was a hard sell, very jaded, and I am. But because I could feel it, I realized that I wasn't talking to my deceased grandfather; this was someone else.
By the way, ladies, don't worry about getting fat. It doesn't matter how fat you are or how out of shape, someone will always think you're appealing.
And guys, she knows. If you don't get a response back from her like a smile or something, go find someone else. I know some men “like the hunt” but how will you know she's right for you when you're blinded by the chase? You'll be overlooking so many other signs that she's not Mrs Right, you'll be asking yourself how you could have been so wrong.
If you're planning on making her Ms Right Now, and she's tired and jaded to the extent I was, you're going to get flat out rejection. Her response is everything. And she'll let you know immediately if she's interested. Or go hit on Demi Lovato, anything goes there.
I like Demi's name: Demi means half in French. Lovato looks like an extension of love. Half love. So what's the other half then? (Thanks Athena. She clues me in to these things.)
Ivo did not tell me, “My name is Ivo and I come from a planet named Elteron in the Vegan star system. You and I are soul mates and we have been together through many successive lifetimes, had many children together, and have been in love with one another since the beginning of creation.” That would have been overkill. Too much information. Wisely, he gave me time to figure that out, and he waited to see what my response would be to him before he disclosed more of who I am and who he is to me. From the first day, he was just an ET guide. I didn't know why I had an ET guide, but I did. I didn't know I was an ET myself, or a starseed. Not then. I had to learn that as part of the disclosure process.
He let me learn. He told me bit by bit. He didn't drop the whole ball of wax and leave me stunned, or dumped so much on me that I would've rejected the information, and most likely him as well.
He showed up one day. I was sitting on the couch, going through a lot of doubt at the time as to the authenticity of all of this, and as I looked up, there he was standing at the threshold between the living room and the kitchen, all white and with crackly lines through him, but it was him. I jumped to rush off the couch but he disappeared. He knew I saw him and that's what he'd intended – so I would stop doubting his existence.
He's remained himself, and has worked to help me be less shell shocked at living here, realizing the truth of who I am, and why I incarnated on this planet. He's helped me to keep my focus when I lose it some days, he's helped me to feel less depressed and anxious, and helped to show me that I'm not one of the people on this planet – that I'm not even like them. That I truly am an alien to this world. And because of my high frequency and the fact that my soul is a master, I hold very high energies which also conflict with living here on a low frequency planet. And cause physical problems.
It's been six years and I'm still learning.
He's gained more trust by doing things for me. He replaced one of my teeth, which had a leaky amalgam filling it it. He fixed my jaw which was coming out of its socket because of grinding at night, I had tooth pain in two teeth and he repaired the nerves and the pain stopped.
But he expects me to help myself. He's not rescuing me. He's guiding me and then watching what I do with it. If I do nothing, he patiently reminds me again later.
He encourages me because he realizes that if he's brusque with me it will only get a rebellious response. I've been trained to do that, and I don't think that he necessarily wants me to stop being rebellious, because otherwise I'd be a happy mask wearer out to get my jab right now. Ashtar Sheran had once indicated that I was a bit of a different case because they wanted to learn how to use my shadow to their advantage, and this would be one such example. I have to be rebellious, and this was a reaction I'd learned as a child with my parents. I rebel against authority, and right now, this is a good thing.
Being cynical and untrusting. Also good. I find there are times I naively fall for stuff, and I can't let that part of me predominate. I have to scrutinize everything. So they don't discourage what might appear to be me being negative. Trusting a destructive society and all those within it wouldn't be an asset, not at all.
Look for these traits in yourselves, folks. I'll bet they're there too.
But you'll still be expected to do the work. As for trust, whatever crutch you've been using to trust throughout your life, be it an addiction, a habit like watching movies (yes, seeing the same thing over and over always playing out the way you expect I think can be soothing for some), your teddy bear, or your pet who is always there for you, this trust needs to shift. It needs to shift to trusting yourself. If you can't trust yourself, then you really can't trust anybody else. And that can be a long process of hard work.
What do you trust yourself with? With living your truth. Your consciousness will guide you. It will tell you when you've crossed an internal boundary. You'll feel a pang of guilt or shame.
Living your truth in a world of lies is difficult. And it can be lonely. You may have nobody you can walk this path with. That's why I hope by reaching out in our video's, that you can trust Ivo and I.
How Unity Consciousness Looks Like in 3D
I am of unity consciousness. I always was. I was born that way. But I learned to understand separationism in 3D. What happened all my life was I tried to connect with people and all I came across was people who couldn't connect. I never experienced unity when I was a child within my family; it was all discombobulated. My family was only unified when they were backstabbing the person who wasn't in the room. This was not a united family. Love unites people. This family was not loving.
I remember standing in the school yard when the kids made fun of the retarded girl in our class. She began spastically flailing at them and they laughed at her even harder. It broke my heart. I have an autistic brother who I watched my father abuse so many times I can't count. He just took it. I remember when another challenged girl flipped out when the grade five girls got “the talk” from the Kotex lady, and everyone made fun of her. That kid was right. That was no picnic, Kotex or not! I watched from the side as people got their knives out and stabbed the life out of others who were vulnerable and easy marks. I never was part of that gang. I was always noted for liking the “underdog”. I hung with the kids who were not predatory and usually these people had big chips off their shoulders but I hung out with them because I could relate to them better.
What I've come to realize is that those predatory kids usually suffered as much or worse abuse than I had, and they were just mimicking their parents' treatment of them. They thought it was normal. I knew it wasn't. That was the difference between me and them.
You're probably like this too, or you wouldn't be watching this.
I remember bawling my eyes out that night when the teacher showed us a film about a farmer blowing up a litter of fox pups. My mother couldn't understand why I was so emotional. I was freaking! No wonder I learned to repress my emotions. I figured I wasn't normal.
There was the time in kindergarten that we went on a field trip to a beef slaughterhouse. I was panicking, trying to get out of there as fast as I could. Everyone else seemed to be just watching. I was freaking! Poor little five year old. How many books have we read about the cute cow jumping over the moon and then I got to watch them being killed that day.
Were you like that too? You knew you were different and you didn't know why you couldn't be normal like everyone else? So you thought you were screwed up?
I was not one of the “cool” crowd. I was always uncomfortable around people and socializing was hell for me. Why? Because I found people to be very predatory and instead of finding common ground, they would gossip, attack and backstab. My high school friends weren't really like that either, thank God. There were two girls who tried to become part of the “in” crowd and eventually they went their own way.
There were some I found when we started talking about commonalities I got drawn in too fast so that wasn't comfortable for me either. And the friendships started to take on an “us against the world” mentality. That wasn't what I wanted.
I was pretty as a teenager, tall, leggy blond with blue eyes and a huge smile, so that seemed to open doors for me where my personality was lacking. I was labelled “shy” and “too sensitive”.
Everywhere I've gone throughout my life I've tried to unite people. My soul wants to do that. And I'm met with behaviours that are in my face, sometimes nasty, and contrary to the way my soul thinks. I've walked alone through my life, understanding that all these separationists I would either have to accept the way they are or leave them behind. Nobody understands here how to unite with others. It's not that hard. But they can't do it.
So I've walked my entire life among people, feeling alone. You too?
I always thought that it was me and the problem was that I was abused. But now I understand there's more. I have learned to forgive my earth parents. They had no self control and no power to change themselves, well, my father tried to later on in life and he did change to some degree.
It's easy. All you have to do is do it. That's as easily as I can express it. I go to my neighbours' next door and I give them things. Their kids think I'm great because I give them money. I don't do it to butter them up, I do it because they like it. It makes them happy. I like giving things to people and I can hardly stop it. I give them donuts, and they cook meals for me and I cook meals for them. I know they may even be talking about me behind my back, and probably not even nicely, but I still go over there. Why? Because I NEED to be nice to someone. I need to be loving to somebody, despite the way he particularly has treated me. Does their behaviour bother me? Yes, it does. But I don't let it stop me from being me. I have set limits with him and that is I won't be around him when he's drinking, and I prefer to be with them when she's there as well. I do what I have to do.
I believe this is what it takes to embody your soul on this planet. Setting strict limits so you don't experience more trauma, but doing what you want to do because it makes you happy. And overlooking some things.
I have to be nice to people who may not even be nice to me. I have to be nice to people who might be taking advantage of my niceness. I have to be kind to people who might think I'm weird. I have to do it because I have to do it. That's unity consciousness. Despite what he's put me through, despite the fact he blew up at me one day and threatened to call the cops on me, I don't hold it against him. I have to be that way with someone, and that's what I realize I've done all my life: I've kept trying to be able to be myself.
Maybe you can relate to this.
By the way, I believe that people who are spiritual respect their partners. They don't claim to be spiritual and get some side hustles going. I wouldn't fool around on Ivo, even though he's only a disembodied voice to me right now, at least during the daytime. He's definitely more at night. LOL There's no way. He means everything to me, no man on earth can match him.
People act shitty, nasty, you get attacked, you just keep on being nice to them. There may be some who are just too threatening, well, you leave them out of it. I won't be traumatized again and some days I'm too sick to tolerate even minor annoyances. You just keep trying. You might get whacked in the head again and wonder, “What the hell was I thinking?!” You try to set boundaries. You try to protect yourself but you leave yourself in a vulnerable position with people BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO BE YOU. That's the core reason you do it. Because that's who you are and your need to express that is strong.
I know there are people in this community who have issues with me. One guy is really aversive to me. Really bad. But I have to just keep on doing what I'm doing. I have to keep getting the message out. I have to keep making myself vulnerable. Like I said recently, continuing to be a channel for these messages because it's what my soul wants me to do, making myself vulnerable in spite of the constant attacks I get, which frankly, hurt. Why do they hurt me? Because of the division they cause between me and them. Humanity is supposed to be unified and loving each other. Far cry from that on this rock!
Some days I give in to it and I withdraw but I'm back at it again, doing this in any way I can think of. Creating unity in a divisive world.
I have been diagnosed as having many forms of anxiety: social anxiety as well as agoraphobia. I still do this work because that's my soul doing it, if it were up to my ego I'd shut the door and say “nobody home!” I don't. My soul is leading the show and she is of unity consciousness. At one point, I went to see a healer who said that I had managed to divert the stream of energy from my crown around my throat chakra so that it was getting little energy! He could see that the stream of energy stuck out from my neck and then reconnected to my heart! I had managed to do that by forcing my throat chakra to close all my life and cutting myself off from my voice. Clearly, I've healed and this work helps me to keep it open.
When people stop talking ego and start talking soul, everything changes. They find their real power.
When they stop being predatory and start being more caring, everything changes.
When they stop being nasty, people will start loving them more. Unity and connection will occur.
I've come here to do that, and I feel that this work is part of that, as well as my future work.
I understand how horrifying it can be to feel all alone in a world as a little girl who keeps experiencing constant trauma. There is no one to run to to soothe you because they're all the same. The family dog becomes your best friend. She gets you.
They don't understand you. They tell you there's something wrong with you.
I was one of those kids who loved my teachers. They seemed so sweet and nice, so caring. Except for one or two of them, I'd have made any of them my mother. I desperately wanted someone I could connect to with love. I had to wait 55 years to find him.
I hope I'm the voice for you lonely souls who have a vision for this planet. You're not alone.
It's finally done, folks. I've finished the paperback version of the Ashtar book and it's on Amazon now.
Other news: I'm believing that the demise of the deep state is close at hand and that the QFS, which is already operating on earth, will be made mainstream very soon. So many of the pundits are not allowed to say anything. Watch Charlie Ward. He keeps his mouth shut for the duration of an entire show, and he's a guy who has a lot to say. He's been asked not to spill the beans, folks. He can't say anything. But I believe that is the message he's departing to us, the very fact that he can't say anything because there's so much going on.
I found this video on the Djinn, which, basically are the dark forces that are haunting and taunting us in this world. The speaker speaks of dark eyed adults, and I've seen one, my neighbour in the old house. I stood in my power, just snorting an “as if” as I walked by her, and no harm was done. I've seen several dark shadow people in my last apartment, and I was never scared of them but some were pretty creepy. I have yet to put up the picture of the male figure I saw walking into my bedroom while I was taking a bath one night as well as several black oozy looking blobs that seemed to hang from the ceiling on my photo page on our website. There was also the funny looking bird's nest thing I saw in a state in between sleep and awakeness one night, that I had the galactics help me with.
Always remember: if you have such an encounter, call on Archangel Michael and his angels and they'll help you deal with these demonics. The Light forces are looking to remove them all from earth.
The speaker makes a good point and that is the point that I'm constantly making in our videos: You have the right to be a sovereign, one-souled entity with no attachments or other violations of your body and your energy. I discuss how to deal with them on a person-to-person basis, but we have to deal with them on an unseen level as well.
The speaker says the best defenses against these demonics is:
The more you insist on this sovereignty, and respect others' as well – the less these dark entities can mess with you. That's why all the lessons on empowerment. And yes, it is daily work. Every day you work on increasing your power and your right to self determination – your sovereignty. If you find doing your psycho-spiritual work conflicts with going to your job, then you understand why the Matrix wants you to work for a living. If you didn't have to work for a living, then doing your psycho-spiritual work would be the priority for us, and when the St Germain funds are issued and you don't have to work anymore, guess what? Yeah!
We are taking this planet back for our children, and our children's children. So we have to be the example for them, and we have to put these monsters in their place. The only way is through self empowerment at physical and non-physical levels. Waiting to be saved by the system or whatever, is only leaving yourself open and vulnerable to attack by other people acting as Matrix minions and by these Djinn demonics themselves. They are living among us, folks! I've seen them, I've experienced them and they have to be stopped at the personal level.
On that note, today's video then...
People try you all the time. They test your boundaries.
One time I took my friend, who was a drummer, to pick up some artwork at my sister's house. Not even knowing this guy at all, my sister cracked a drummer joke, which of course really hurt his feelings and annoyed him. That's what I mean.
If this is how people treat you the first time they meet you, do you want them around?
People will test your boundaries. This was a big test of my friend's boundaries and I spoke to my sister about it as well. That was not on. No respect for him or for me.
I don't tend to bring my friends around to my sister's because she has a habit of pulling my skeletons out of the closet as well. When I was younger I confided in the wrong person, not realizing she'd use it against me.
If someone starts a conversation with you that makes you feel uneasy, if they crack jokes about sex or if you're the only woman in a group of men and the conversation starts putting women down, you're onto someone really toxic and you don't need to be around them. Also, if a man is in a group of women and they start male bashing, it's time to walk, guys. These aren't women you want to know.
If you say, “No, stop this!” and they don't respect that. They're testing your boundaries and how much you will stand up for yourself.
I'd rather be called a b**** then become the brunt of toxic people's jokes every time I see them.
That was the old paradigm: Women were either b's or ho's. I got treated like a ho where I used to work because I wasn't a b. These aren't people you want to either work with or know personally, but for ten years I did both. Being an emotional eater, I became a full bulimic during that time period and when I left my job, it stopped.
If you're in a no-win situation like this with people you know, ghost them now. Otherwise you'll be in a situation where either you have to ignore them all, which is virtually impossible, or you'll literally be fighting for your sense of self worth. If you've let people who are this toxic get near you, you need to work on your boundaries pronto.
These are power relationships. Power over others relationships. The only way someone can feed good is by making someone else feel bad. It is sick and toxic. Unfortunately this is practiced all over this world.
Relationships are built on the way someone makes you feel. If they make you feel bad, you're going to break it off. If they make you feel good, especially if they make you feel love, you'll continue the relationship. Manipulators play on this as well, only they're not being honest in their treatment of you, they're being manipulative.
People Will Try to Punish You for Not Being Like Them
I'm reminded of an email I got by a manipulative woman who denied she was manipulative and then continued on in a two page document to tell me how flawed I was because I wasn't doing my lightwork like she was. She spent the time comparing herself to me and for the entirety of the email, she found herself to be so virtuous and me so awful by comparison because I was not giving freely from the heart like she was. No, I never give anything to anyone, these videos I do for the sheer joy of making myself vulnerable to the entire world, one I've learned that people can be very mean, nasty and rotten in. Nope, I'm not giving at all. Not a bit. I'm just an ogre.
It only goes against everything I've learned about this world for me to do this work. But I do it anyway, knowing there are people who are suffering out there like I did, and I do this for the sake of helping them and to help the collective frequency of humans on earth. But, hey, nope, I'm an ogre. Fine, think what you like lady, because you will.
People who believe in punishment, and that is a lot of us, are a problem. Because if you don't do as they want, they will punish you for it. Punishment could be anything from a hefty sigh and a walk away, to retaliation, and that's really confusing because you don't ever know what it was that you said or did to deserve being attacked that way.
People silently take what it is you did that they feel is so offensive, and then wait until they can get you back. That's really childish, to be honest. But people aren't assertive and they are often out of touch with many emotions. They also don't like to be vulnerable and say, “What you just said was hurtful to me.” No, they'd rather hurt you back. Do you want people like that around you? I sure don't.
People Should Stop Believing in Attacking Others
You're just keeping these demonics alive, folks! Let's face facts. The reason you do this is because you believe you're that bad otherwise you wouldn't do it. A lot of people hurt others out of their own pain. If they hadn't been so hurt, they wouldn't hurt others in turn.
But none of this would be happening without these demonic beings prompting us to.
The key thing to remember here, folks, is that we don't have a problem with each other, really. If these dark entities and demonics weren't here running the show and using us to create loosh, our relationships with each other would be a lot different. Life on earth would be a lot different and the general vibration here would be a lot higher. It's them that are keeping us down. Stop feeding them. Starve them.
They're being taken off this world now, those posing as physical beings and those who are not. Dark portals are being closed.
What you can do is do an exercise that I do every day. I can't see the demonics hanging around my depressed alcoholic neighbour, but I imagine that I can and when I go to send him white light, which basically is an attack on them, I just see how many “my imagination” determines to be around him and keep shooting. I stop when I feel that I've gotten them all, when I feel like “that's enough”. I also white light the three buildings around me including the one I live in. Every day I take a different person and send their demonics white light energy. I live in a pretty toxic area, unfortunately, and it gets me down. People around here don't even plant flower gardens, it's so bad. This is one way I can fight back.
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Toxic Ego Games
Telling others to change to gain your approval
Superior/inferior position in the transaction
You're used as a tool to inflate others' egos
Energy vampirism is often at the root of it
Can be used to manipulate you if you allow it
These are not win/win situations. They're win/lose. There's always a winner and a loser, just like in politics. It's a competitive system, not a system of cooperation.
The difference between the ego based system and a system of cooperation lies with one thing: the heart. When the heart is open, even partially, a whole new way of life opens up to the human. Imagine a world based on loving others, giving to others, cooperating with others, instead of the self serving world of greedy acquisition of more money and things that we're living in now.
What are ego games? You want a great example? Go into a bar and listen in on the conversations, especially about an hour before last call when people are at their most inebriated and desperate to get laid. The thing you have to note about alcohol is it helps you dispense with inhibitions. With inhibitions, you often find your integrity, so when you're tanked up, your integrity disappears. Another word for inhibitions: boundaries. When you drink, you lower your boundaries and there's a reason you put them there in the first place. Don't lower them. I found this explanation on Google:
“The effects of alcohol are balanced between its suppressive effects on sexual physiology, which will decrease sexual activity, and its suppression of psychological inhibitions, which may increase the desire for sex.”
As I said, when inhibitions go, so does integrity. All bets are off as the person tries to find a partner for the night. That's when manipulation starts. Believe me, I used to go to bars until I was thirty and heard every kind of come on possible, even that one of saving the guy fifty dollars for a prostitute. This is where flattery is used as a tactic, because obviously someone trying to become physically intimate with you isn't going to put you down. Or are they?
That's the other point about ego games: there are times that they call for building someone up and other times they call for putting someone down. None of it has anything to do with honesty or respect, really, it has to do with what you're trying to trick them into giving or doing for you. And it has to do with the hidden belief you have that you're either asking for something you don't deserve, or that you don't believe you're good enough in general.
When is it appropriate, for lack of a better word, to build someone up? When you want something from them. When is it appropriate to cut someone down? When they want something from you.
That's right. The abusive parent will cut their kids down to shreds whenever they come to, god forbid, get their emotional needs met through the parent. With my parents it was never with my father and once in a while with my mother. I used to go to my sister and my friends for help. I had a girlfriend who was like a young mommy so she helped me a lot.
When someone is trying to build you up, or flatter you, it's because they decide that by trying to manipulate your self opinion into helping you to feel good, that they can obligate you to give them something back in return. When flattery doesn't work, they will often resort to trying to create guilt in order to make you feel bad for not giving them what they want. “Oh! Seriously?! After we've spent this whole night together getting to know each other, now you're going to go home alone?! Wow! I just wasted the whole night.” “Yep, you sure did. Nice knowing you.” The other thing if you're out drinking, buy your own drinks. That way you won't owe them anything. Seriously, there are people who believe as soon as they spring for a meal or a drink that you owe them sexual favours. No, you don't.
They don't make your rules, folks! You make your own rules. I don't care about what's commonly done, or the usual way it's supposed to happen. Cut a new path based on honesty.
Be careful of the exaggerators too. People who claim that spending a night talking with a stranger is “getting to know you,” clearly don't bother taking time talking to people and understanding relationships intimately.
There was one of my mother's: “If you don't lose weight, I'll never be seen in public with you again!” Hey! I can do you one better, mom. How about you lose 150 pounds – me! And I did ghost my own mother, by the way. I'd had enough of this garbage for one lifetime. Call them on their insults. Call them on their bluffs.
But don't insult them back. You're only letting yourself sink to their level. Understand they have to insult you because they feel that badly about themselves.
My mother also used to have this great ego game. Whenever someone came to the house, she'd take my face apart, piece by piece, telling people whose mouth I had, whose hair I had, where I got my ears from, etc etc. This was my mother saying, “Everything you are you are because of either me or your father. You have us to thank for everything that you are. You're not a person in your own right, you're just a composite of us.” Her ego extension. Once she was taking my face apart to a neighbour, and when she mentioned, “She has her father's eyes,” I responded with, “So what's he using then?” which got a laugh and managed to deflect the awkwardness of the whole thing.
Everything I did, apparently, was attributable to something they had done earlier in their life. I wonder what both of them would think about my becoming a channeler who channels aliens from all over the universe and who uses them as examples of who not to be?
Then there's social media. People fight and argue on it all the time over who's right. Obviously you both think you're right, so why bother fighting? The other thing is when you give up your need to be right, you become open to the Truth. It's your need to be right all the time that keeps you from soul contact because why look more deeply into something when your ego already has the answer? Of course, this is also because the Matrix prompts people to do this. Your ego defends you from knowing your soul, folks, every time you think you're right without questioning if there's more you can learn.
Telling others to change to gain your approval
This is positioning themself as one up. No soul has the right to tell anyone else to change, or to conform to their expectations of them. This is an absolute violation of others' free will and universal law. The person who tells you to change is doing it because they refuse to, or they're trying to disguise the fact they don't know how.
People who flatter to have their way with you
Beware of anyone who approaches you with flattery, rather than coming across to you as equals and as someone who is genuinely interested in getting to know you. They have an agenda, and this agenda probably is a short term one, not a long term one. Nothing says, “I don't really want to know you,” like the person who insists they already do, or who starts flattering you from the outset because this flattery is a form of manipulation in order to get you to conform to their expectations. They are telling you how they expect you to behave and what kind of response they want from you, and that they probably won't tolerate anything outside of that. These are people with an agenda. Someone who wants to know you well will take their time to get to know you.
Beware of people who flirt, for this very reason.
Superior/inferior position in the transaction
Like I said in the last video, be careful where you're positioned in the transaction.
If someone is hitting on you, you are beneath them. That's why they figure they can treat you like dirt. Regardless of what they tell you, what they think of you, they are being condescending.
They are trying to trick you out of your greater good, at least for one night.
A boss has worked all these years to be able to have inferior staff. They figure because they pay you, they are flying above you. I knew so many employees who stole from the company and had felt perfectly justified.
You're used as a tool to inflate others' egos
My father used to do this when we had to go out on art outings as children. He would act like a great stand-up loving, caring dad while I sat there and fumed that he never treated us this nicely when we were at home. We, in turn, had to act like sweet, innocent, perfect children and I resented it. I was the most blond, almost white haired when I was young, so I seemed to look the picture of perfect innocence or something, and that was always played up whenever we went out. I was Goldilocks or something, the little dutch girl.
One time, I must've been about six or seven, and we were coming back from the Buffalo Zoo. We had to cross the border and the customs officer asked if we had anything to declare, did we purchase anything when we were at the zoo? My father said no and was just about to get clearance to leave when I piped up that he had in fact bought the little stuffed toy hippo he had sitting on the front dashboard of the car.
The customs officer looked very pleased as he glanced into the back seat to see who this honest kid was that had turned her father in for lying to an officer of the law.
Looking back, my father should have been worried about me. The officer said something to my father about kids making his job easier, laughing, and my father did admit that he had spent three dollars on this hippo, and we were allowed to go. My father should've seen I wasn't keen on his lying way of life even back then. I hated living a lie. Hated it.
Later on when I was 30, I spilled the entire can of beans to my father's ex-boss and family friend and his wife. This man went to confront my parents as well. What transpired between them, I never found out, but I hope he was sweating. I let my father know he didn't get away with anything.
Yeah, I was always the rebel. A rebel for truth.
You lose status with yourself in order to link up with someone else
I remember when I was dating, which I more or less gave up at 30 years old, I would go from feeling like a person in my own right one week, to feeling like I was an extension of the man I was dating the next. Suddenly I was going to sports games, construction sites, hanging out at the bar he worked at, and more at his request, and yes, you want to get to know where the man you're dating hangs out, what he does, etc etc. but does he take as much interest in your life? Or does he expect you to become part of his only? Are you giving up your life to date someone?
I remember Glenn, who complained of being dragged to craft shows all the time.
This person wants to take you places, show you to their friends and go out on the town with you and it's all for the show. Not to say every relationship is like that, but watch how you feel when it's happening. Do you find yourself losing self esteem when you start dating someone, or when you're spending time with a new friend, even. Be careful. Listen to your inner voice.
I was always more for being alone with the man I was dating, but this is dangerous when you're with someone who's only trying to get lucky, not trying to build intimacy. Having to go out on the town all the time to see this person, to me, was counter intuitive to my desire to really get to know him. So I spent a lot of time drinking coffee in coffee shops as a compromise.
Playing on your fears
Again, the vacuum cleaner salesman and the enlarged dust mite picture.
False flags also fall into this category: A false incident is created, which is then broadcast all over the media with ramifications for the public in the headlines (fear porn). Then the government provides the solution, which in fact is part of their agenda. They are reverse engineering the problem, so to speak.
Playing on your sense of obligation/guilt
People will play on your sense of obligation in order to make you feel guilty for not doing as they please or for saying no to them. Just keep saying no.
Dealing with guilty feelings was one of the first things I had to do because that was the way my mother had manipulated me into doing anything. That was really my first order of business.
I remember one time going into the coffee shop and feeling guilty for ordering a coffee at the price of a couple dollars when my mother had tried once to get me to have coffee at her place by criticizing me for buying coffee out, spending so much money on it, for “a couple beans of coffee and some hot water.” Of course, my preference for having coffee at Tim Horton's, at least on that particular day, was that I didn't have to spend it drinking it with a criticizing nag. My mother never realized how she chased her kids away. She wanted nothing more than for us to be with her but she didn't realize how intolerable she was.
Shooting down someone for spending a couple bucks on a couple beans and some hot water and insinuating they're wasteful and a spendthrift (and she isn't of course) is trying to make someone feel guilty for many things, but also for not ascribing to your way of thinking, which is another thing my mother wanted. She wanted me to be like her. For me, she was the last person I wanted to be like. “You're not like me when you do this so that makes you bad!” Which for me, actually would've been a plus, not a minus. Some controlling parents actually feel that you're obligated to be like them. No, you're not.
What the young adult child ends up with is a toxic sense of self worth because they don't want to be like their mother, who they can't stand, but to be themself means they're bad and their mother hates them. This toxic shame and guilt was the first thing I had to plow through. Sometimes this shame of “being bad” gets acted out in terms of smoking, sex, drunken binges and drug addiction. In my case, my mother never drank so at least I could say I was different from her in that respect. She didn't eat meat either, so whenever I was annoyed with her, I'd eat steak or hamburgers just to bother her. What you have to remember is that you're rebelling against your mother by trying to be unlike her, but in the end you're only hurting yourself and you're still not being who you were meant to be. I've also gone through a process of having to admit I have similarities to my parents, and learning to accept them, such as my art talent. I had to go through many 12 step programs to come to terms with all of this, and to work through a lot of anger.
I'm telling you this in case you're the same, and these videos about toxic ego games and how to be unmanipulatible are about warning you so you don't fall into the traps someone who's gone through what I did, would fall for. Yes, this system is draconian, to say the least. It can be a living hell for some. I read a good book on this, if you're interested, by Susan Forward, called “Emotional Blackmail,” and “Toxic Parents,” by Susan Forward as well. It really helped knowing I wasn't the only one on earth who had experienced this, because for some reason, you always think that.
Another time at work, I didn't do as this one guy wanted and his retort was, “What's wrong with you?! Didn't you get your fill last night?!” That was before sexual harassment laws came in, unfortunately because I could've hung him out to dry for that one.
For some reason, some people think that women shouldn't have sex. Or at least if they do, they shouldn't enjoy it.
Some people are so controlling, they will stop at nothing to demean anyone who behaves differently. Don't let yourself become their victim.
Saying something to get a rise out of you
This is a pure control agenda and the energy vampire is saying, “Look what I can make you do! You're totally under my control.”
One time on fb in a lightworker group, a troll was trying to get into an argument with one woman. I read their exchange and it was hilarious because the troll was saying things that to many people would have been inflammatory, yet this woman's response was more like, “Are you talking to me?” She seemed totally unaware of what he was trying to do, consequently he couldn't get a rise out of her. I laughed over that one. It was great.
That's what we need to do with the media: basically ignore it and its stupidity. That's what we need to do with anything or anyone that's trying to control us. Just ignore it. That way you keep your energy for yourself and they don't get the hit they're looking for.
Playing on your shame
Fat shaming. You know, you have a visible sign that you're falling short of the Matrix agenda of conformity: you're overweight. And there are nasty people who will make fun of you because of it. The irony is, often they too, are overweight. I can think of two instances I was fat shamed by overweight people.
I can think of that old kids' retort when I was in school: “I know you are, but what am I?” I'd never ask a person who's attacking you what you are, but perhaps a good, “Mind your own business!” would suffice. Or just walking away and realizing this person is projecting their own self hatred on you. For me, I find I have to respond because otherwise it's like I've just sucked up the insult. I always feel like asserting myself back to the taunter. I'll have to look at that.
The reason people don't mind their own business, by the way, is because of the Matrix and the fact it encourages codependency. You don't know who you are unless others define you. It's that external orientation, again. In the same token, you get to tell others what their business is. Look at mask wearing: there's a perfect example.
I just talked about the sense of toxic shame I had having been raised by my earth parents. I believe that the Matrix will pick up on it and send its minions to you to keep trying to trigger that shame, or fear, or sense of guilt, whatever it is, to keep you down. And the Light allows it in order that you can learn how to use it to ascend. I crawled out of the dark hole I was in years ago and now am wise to a lot of this stuff. I don't fall for it anymore.
Yes, a good point. Never make a conversation with an aggressor about you in any way. If they say, “You are so fat!” don't respond with, “Do you think I am? Well I don't care!” because “Do you think I am,” is just inviting more insults. Remember, to them, your opinion means nothing so they don't even hear the, “I don't care” part. Making a toxic conversation about you is like waving a red flag in front of a bull.
Sneaky people who play on your fear of not making a fuss
I had problems with this for a long time. I was too afraid not to “be nice.” I was afraid of making a fuss at work, and because of this, everyone knew they could get away with murder, and they did.
On the other hand, another lady I worked with punched a guy and put him down half a flight of stairs when he pinched her butt one day. That story got around. People took note and left her alone. She made a fuss.
I was at Speaker's Corner with my niece years ago, and had noticed that this one guy kept sidling up really close to my backside. Every time I moved, there he was again, inching his way up to the back of me. At first I didn't believe it because it was so strange, but eventually, instead of not making a fuss, I turned around and yelled at the top of my lungs, “Get the eff outta here!” He left and never came back.
Make a fuss. Create a scene. It could save you from worse.
They Play You Because They Know You'll Blame Yourself
Don't fall for this one, folks, and don't take responsibility for what others do to you. Yes, we attract our lessons, but other people are responsible for their own behaviour.
Nothing people do is because of you. It's all because of them.
People who say, “You made me do this,” are wrong. Nobody makes anyone do anything.
If you're into telling people, “Oh, I'm sorry. I'm so useless!” they'll capitalize on that and blame you for everything they feel like projecting. Never put yourself down in front of others. Never. And stop saying you're sorry for everything.
I once had an engineer boss who would hand write all his memo's for me to type. What he started to do was to blame me for mistakes he'd made and I knew it. There was no way I could have made the mistakes because I didn't really understand the context in which they were written. One day I started to photocopy his handwritten work. I waited until he did it again, and it didn't take long. So I got my photocopy and went in to discuss it with him. He was red faced and embarassed but he never did it again.
You're not responsible for others' mistakes. It's not up to you to support their ego's.
Gaslighting is defined as a systemic way of deceiving someone that makes them doubt their reality. The Matrix is all over that one.
This example of my engineer boss falls into that classification. I was sure I couldn't make that mistake, but he kept blaming it on me.
Anyone who tells you you did something and you're sure you didn't, don't listen to them.
Anyone who tells you the sky is pink and you know it's blue, they're gaslighting you.
If people tell you ETs don't exist and you've seen them, listen to yourself, not them.
You Feel Sorry For Them So You Give In
Don't do it. Either you walk away knowing they're offering you a raw deal, or you get the life lesson. Your choice.
I made that mistake with a homeless man in Toronto who I lived with for three years. A bi-polar crack addicted alcoholic, I found out – yes, after he was living in my house. I was hoping he'd help pay the rent. He had told me he would. Maybe one month he might have but most of the time he was taking my money, and the rent money, to use. I knew eventually we wouldn't be able to pay the rent and I'd leave him.
He had plans to beat me up before then so I took an earlier departure.
The only thing he had on me was I felt sorry for him. There are ways to have compassion for others and even to help them, that do not get you personally involved. Food banks, and there are some charities where people aren't skimming off the funds. Find them and help them out.
Often the person who feels sorry for someone is a rescuer. Don't be a rescuer. Yes, there are victims out there but often they're victims of their own way of thinking. That's why we have to do the work and get our ego's in line with our soul's vision for them.
I've met people in the so-called spiritual community who use these tactics on others, including myself. What do they think is the path of ascension? Reading books? Meditating every day? Of course the path of ascension is what Jesus calls “Your daily bread,” which doesn't refer to a baked product – it refers to the problems and challenges you encounter every day and learning to overcome them. Your daily bread was the stuff your parents projected onto you as a child that you now have to transcend, otherwise suffer through life. That's one example: there are more examples of challenges of course and some of them can be pretty nasty. I find it incredible how many unconscious people consider themselves to be highly spiritual. If you're still unconscious, you haven't looked hard enough at yourself. And I mean really hard, taking a good honest look at yourself, stopping with the name calling and facing what you're done to yourself and others. Those of us who were born in hell have every motivation to do so: it's do it or suffer even more at the hands of your ego. We have nothing to lose. Not everyone is in that predicament. Watch what happens now that JB is in power. You're going to see America go through some pretty hefty self searching. JB is the abusive parent you never wanted to have.
If you've had any of these things done to you, particularly by people you considered close to you, you may be like me: dealing with a load of anger and frustration that nobody on this planet does anything the way you know is the right way to do it and that you're definitely on the wrong planet. Out of self protection, you may become avoidant. With the Matrix's constant attacks, you know that everyone that approaches you will be used as a minion usually sooner more than later, and you even avoid contact with other people in order that they won't be manipulated into attacking you. But then I'm being groomed to live in a community of extraterrestrials. I was born here to teach people how to transcend the system that has them trapped. I don't believe that that's everyone's job. Some people stay in it and are awake enough to be able to be of some service, but don't completely transcend the system. My job was to transcend the system, and I had a lot of incentive to do so. It never worked for me at all from the get go because I was that aware even back then.
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