Marrying Your Handler and What That Looks Like
Me: Some of you have messaged us asking about your relationships and whether you should continue with them or not.
Our general comment about relationships is no matter what you're experiencing right now, especially if your relationship seems to be a carbon copy of your parents' relationship, you're in this relationship to learn. This may be your twin flame or it may not. I believe many of you call them “karmic relationships” rather than soul relationships.
The first thing to establishing a relationship is to see if this person is willing to look at them self. If they're not, there's no point in being in the relationship because this person will automatically begin to scapegoat you or the kids. Why? Because unless a person looks at them self, which, by the way connects them to soul, so big hint for those of you who want soul contact, they will be looking for others to blame. This is called “projection” - they see their faults in others and they hate them because they hate them in themselves. The person you want is the one who sees their faults and works on relieving themselves of them, the person who takes responsibility for themselves and for what they create. The Matrix's divide and conquer agenda has men on the one side and women on the other. So here you are trying to create intimacy with someone who may be manipulated into blaming you because you're the opposite sex. Is that what you want? The ones who don't take personal responsibility and who blame are far easier for the Matrix to manipulate than those who do take responsibility for themselves simply because they exercise far less personal power.
There's nothing worse than making a tennis game or a ping pong match of a relationship. “Ball's in your court. What are you going to fire at me now?” Having to defend yourself against someone who professes to love you gets pretty old pretty fast. It did for me, anyway.
If you leave your partner and never learn anything that person had to teach you about yourself, then you'll not only attract the same kind of person afterwards but you may manifest a worse version of that person. If this person is a smoldering nagging type, then the next one may be a screeching nag that tells everyone what an idiot they think you are and enjoys publicly humiliating you. The universe will up the ante until you start to listen. Keep ignoring its lessons and you'll attract a harder lesson. That's universal law.
There also seems to be a perception that a twin flame is the haven you seek from relationships. If your twin flame is an ET, then you are fortunate because, like Ivo, your twin flame cannot hate, be critical, be unloving, get angry and tear a strip off of you... these are draconian behaviours and the reason we're capable of them is because we're humanoids and we live in the lower dimensions. And we have been taught that this is normal human behaviour. It isn't. If your ET twin flame is 5D or above, these people have learned not to do these things, and that's the lesson we're about to go through as well – how utterly useless these behaviours are and how they do nothing at all for us as individuals or a collective.
The haven you seek from relationships is your relationship with yourself. Work on that and you will attract a better partner and if that's your twin flame, then it's your twin flame. It all starts with you because this is your dog and pony show. This is your life. This is you, the writer, the director, the actor, the camera man, in your own movie. Do you want a love story or do you want Jurassic Park?
All planets live according to universal law, except this one where the Matrix has taught us to create negative energy and bad personal karma by twisting universal law into its negative opposite through field reversals. The Matrix is negative polarity to the umpteenth degree and it utilizes our naivete to its advantage. We live in direct opposition to universal law in the Matrix. Unless we wake up, change and become more conscious.
For those of us who the Matrix has attempted to provide with handlers, the reason for this is because we either came in with a high level of awareness, or the Matrix was aware of what we had come here to do and it tried to suppress us through using personal oppression techniques. The Matrix was aware of our purpose here before we ever were! It knew when we were born – many of us did not!
One of these techniques is providing you with the partner from Hell. Many of us of higher dimensional light were provided with partners who smiled on the outside while they waited on the inside for some form of commitment from us. They waited to see if we believed all the bull they were shoveling out, they waited to see if they could manipulate us, they waited to see if they could control us. They tried to confuse us, because the more off balance we were about their behaviour, the longer it would take for us before we left them. Some of us never did. All the while, they increased their power over us, slowly, bit by bit, until their power became absolute. Then they began to abuse us because they knew we would be surprised and wouldn't resist or we had let them take that place in our lives, because we trusted their authority over us.
These Power Over Others players often were narcissists because we were empaths. They took our belief in the goodness of others and used it to hook us into relationships where they could ultimately take advantage of us.
Did you know that, although everyone looks human, that forty percent of the people on this planet are humanoids of the Matrix's creation? Ivo and I have channeled on this. It has to do with the soul – that's another disadvantage of looking at people at physical level – you need to see who their soul is and what frequency it vibrates at.
One thing I will tell you I have seen across the board: Lightworkers and starseeds can be pretty naive!! I used to be. Our extraterrestrial or ultradimensional behaviour tends to make us very unaware of what's up on this planet, and we tend to get thrown into the soup head first. Many of us, especially ones who have come up through the negative polarity, have had to swim for our lives. We have had to learn as we go, and we have made many mistakes and often suspected our judgment was out to lunch, as we were being taken advantage of. We also came to believe there was something wrong with us because we tended to attract these partners who were so, well, just plain bad!!
Relationships on earth are not what they seem to be. Not at all. Those sweet love songs we listen to, speaking of love at first sight and the delicious surrender of one's soul to the partnership.... yeah, some people might have that. But for the lightworker and often the light warrior, love is a battle we have to learn how to win.
There's a war on for this planet and your love life is part of it. It's power over others versus power over self, and the power over others players will find someone who is here to awaken others and try to squelch their soul.
Remember one thing: The Matrix hates you. You came here to bust it, and it will do everything it can to oppress you. It will ruin your relationships, make sure you stay broke, it will keep you addicted, it will make sure you can't earn any money.... the higher in frequency you rise, the more of a threat you are to it and the harder it will try to keep you down.
There are Targeted Individuals who take the brunt of this on earth. My friend Stephanie Sarten can help you if you are one. She's on Facebook and she has a page on our website with a link. She went through absolute hell in her life because she's a powerful Blue Ray One. And she married her handler.
I believe the handler will come across as being competent because they put you down so badly. You believe their insults and slurs, you believe their lies and their b.s., you truly believe they are more able to deal with life than you are. They give you an inferiority complex and keep you wondering what's wrong with you, and believing that you need them in your life. You don't.
I guess my advantage was my father had already done, that. Both my parents, really. So I wasn't having anymore of it when I started dating. I kept kicking all these guys to the curb until I finally stopped dating. Every time I got into a relationship, I felt like half a person. I felt more whole on my own, so I stopped dating.
The Matrix found other ways to get at me. It kept me broke. I went into twelve step groups to deal with my financial situation, and I almost ended up on the street for not being able to pay the bills.
When I finally let a man into my life, he turned into the my worst nightmare. Eventually, instead of thinking less of myself, I began to realize how much love I had for myself and that I needed to leave this guy. So I did. He was a great teacher.
If you're with your handler, then you're with someone the Matrix has matched you up with to keep you from ascending. Only you can know whether you're with one or not. But remember 40 percent of the people on this planet have reptilian, draconian, or demonic souls right now. Forty percent.
Any lightworker should make themselves familiar with narcissistic behaviour because that is what you want to avoid. If you see it, don't waste your time: run and don't look back.
Getting Involved With Addicts
Again, as I do your channelings, I see many of you ask questions about your current life. And that's not even in respect to past lives or anything like that. Often you will admit that your life is dysfunctional but so far I haven't seen any that have admitted to having drinking or drug problems. That's because addicts think what they're using is the solution, not the problem. They have it on backwards. They don't understand there are better ways of fixing life's problems instead of fixing your moods. You can only fix a mood for so long before it comes back due to alcoholism. A problem you can fix and have it leave forever.
It is not Implant Communications' prerogative to get involved in your dysfunctional lives. Maybe my other videos stated that clearly, but if not, let me say it here. I certainly am NOT interested in hearing a play-by-play dialogue of how your life is sinking into desperation.
I will state one thing outright: The power over others system is a codependent system. Because we have to relate to another person in order to determine where our power is at. Am I more powerful than him or is he more powerful than I am? The power over self system is a system where you increase your own power and it has nothing to do with finding ways to control or manipulate others. And it has nothing to do with the way you relate to your twin flame or ideal partner. It's not a power game between you two.
Alcoholism and drug addiction do. Very much so.
If you are with someone who is in the power over others thinking, you are with a person who may be predisposed to being an alcoholic or drug addict.
This is not good for you because the alcoholic or drug addict, the shopping addict or the food addict, the workaholic or whatever they're addicted to, does two things: They avoid emotions and intimacy and they spend money on their addictions – your money! Everything that people are addicted to costs money. And so they are always on the lookout for a sugar mama or a high earning man in order to pay for their habit. This is often WHY people who are addicted seek relationships with others: so they can get to their money. I was with someone like this for 3 years. And he took every cent I had. He still ended up dead on the street a few years later of an overdose.
We could not afford to pay the rent and we had to live off of food banks to be able to eat, because he drank and used crack and smoked. The addict DOES NOT CARE about anything else – they only care about getting their next fix. They will let you take a fall, it doesn't matter to them. But they will act like your best friend as long as you put out the dosh. The minute you shut your wallet, they will either beat you for money or find someone else. That is the harsh reality of addiction. As long as you provide cash for this person you will have a friend for life, but you will not have a life. There will be no comfort in wheeling your bundle buggy to the salvation army for hand outs, nor pride in standing in line at the church so you can get a $25 voucher for the grocery store. Your worn out shoes, ripped clothes and inability to pay the rent will leave you wondering why you bother with this person, and the black eyes and 911 calls don't really soothe your soul either. I've been there. I've done all that. It ended in 2012 and by 2015 he was dead.
Alcoholics and drug addicts are always cooking up excuses to fight, argue and get mad. Then they can justify their habit because they believe their habit relieves their pain. In actuality, their habit causes their craziness.
Addicts want your money. And if you think, “Well, I don't have very much money. What could (s)he find so attractive about me?” It doesn't matter. You have more than they do. And they can manipulate you out of it. That's what makes you attractive.
The addict will always believe that they have their priorities straight because many addicts believe themselves to be normal and the rest of the world is flawed. I used to think like this until I got into the 12 steps.
The addict is often a victim and ironically they fear the rest of the world while the rest of the world is cautious, if not outright in fear of them. Their aggressive nature is often barely concealed.
To try to reel you in, an alcoholic or drug addict will often tell you how much their life sucks, but they will never tell you that they're using. They will protect that fact because this is the reason they're alive: to get their next fix. The alcoholic or drug addict will do everything they can to make you feel sorry for them. Do you really want to be with someone you pity? Is this what you consider a relationship? I did at one time. It was because I felt sorry for myself and I, too, was addicted.
I strongly suspect that many women become involved with addicted men because then they have someone to blame. These people are in the power over others system and they have learned to blame and to complain instead of to look at themselves, and being with an addict fulfills that need to find someone to blame and to bitch about – in other words, they got married with the intention of finding someone they could scapegoat. My mother did it. The twelve steps teaches the addict and the codependent to stop scapegoating and to look at themselves.
The alcoholic/drug addict will protect their supply no matter what. And they require people around them to buy their stuff for them. They will have parents they can use to get their fix through or money to buy their fix, or girlfriends, friends who are probably fed up of them – they will use anyone they can. People keep giving them money because it's easier than saying, “No.” This is enabling.
Addicts are very moody. They go through mood swings and then need to get a fix. This is because the brain is out of equilibrium and they're suffering from hormone imbalances – they have low blood sugar. I have seen alcoholics quit booze only to eat donuts, cookies and sugary coffees – then they gain even more weight.
The one thing that the alcoholic/drug addict will do is smile to your face so you don't see what's coming, then your life will sink downhill because they're tapping you for every red cent you own. I went through that for 3 years. I won't do it again.
The other thing addicts are good at is making excuses. They will do everything they possibly can to stay addicted. It doesn't make sense to someone who can see more clearly than they can, but for some reason they seem to think of booze and drugs as the only thing that can help them through their miserable lives. Is this what you want?
Do you want to be involved with this? Everyone knows someone with addiction problems. If you don't, you've probably been living in a monastery or under a rock. Addiction is more common than hangnails but it's a lot more painful to live with.
I have one recommendation with anyone considering a relationship with an alcoholic or drug addict: Don't!
You have to look at what it is within yourself that would make you consider ruining your life like this. Why would that be appealing to you? If you suspect someone is an addict that you're dating, think twice about continuing. It can get very bad, very very bad.
There are 12 step groups for enablers as well: Al-Anon and Nar-Anon are adult groups for people married to or involved in in any way with addicts. Of course, for the addict the only way to go is Alcoholics Anonymous and for the drug addict Narcotics Anonymous.
There are people who come into the group and find anything they can that they don't like about it, like they don't like the reference to God in the group, usually called a higher power. Yes, but living out of homeless shelters and living hand to mouth on the street, getting rolled for your watch or your cell phone while you're passed out drunk, and living a life of desperation seem better to you than talking about God? Do they? Then you haven't hit bottom yet. God help you when you do. I only hope your bottom isn't death because it is for some. My friend NEVER HIT BOTTOM. He died before he did. His bottom was death. If skid row or a coffin look better to you than talking about God, I'm sure your higher self can provide the opportunity for you.
I knew at that time that if I stayed with him, I could keep him alive and he'd still be alive now. I left him because I knew he was going to beat me so it was either he died or I die so I had to make that awful decision. This is the sort of situation you could end up in when you get involved with an alcoholic and/or drug addict. I had to choose to live but in doing that I knew he would die, and I did know that. Is this what you want?
For those of you who love people with problems of this kind of insanity, I have one question for you: Why? Why do you need this level of dysfunction in your life?
If you are drinking and can't stop, or doing drugs, these are the real problems. Not your family, not your wife or husband who doesn't seem to care, not your low income, not anything. They are the first problem that must be resolved and the only way to do that is to stop. And it can be done. It has been done by many, many people using the twelve steps.
Many rock stars, movie stars, tv stars, and just ordinary everyday people who tried to escape or enhance their lives with booze and drugs are now clean and sober. And thinking like a normal person again.
Don't think that polluting your body with that level of poison is going to keep you thinking straight, because it's not. Many addicts suffer from anxiety and depression and use to relieve these problems. We call it “self-medicating.”
The 12 steps restores you to sanity. The way to restore you to sanity is to admit you have a problem. If you can't, you will still have a problem.
I endorse the 12 steps for any addiction problem. Codependents Anonymous is where I learned many of the principles I needed in order to allow my higher self to be embodied here on 4D earth. I learned to work boundaries and to stop getting walked all over. I left the power over others system and I haven't looked back.
If you are dating, check your prospect out first to see if they are using. So many people use these days, it's an epidemic. There are many articles on alcoholism and drug addiction. One of the main ways to tell is if the person is always dragging you to places where either they can get high or drink. If you're always in bars with them and you never were before, that's a sign something's wrong. If you suggest an event that's dry and they fight you not to go, or refuse to attend with you, something's wrong.
If they have “friends” that come by but never stay long, check that out. These days many dealers just do phone call deliveries. Watch on Friday nights to see what your neighbours are up to. In my neighbourhood cars always pull up. She's sitting in the front seat, while he goes to the door of the apartment of the users. There are two apartments in my old building where it's happening right now. I just sit on my porch and say, “drug delivery.”
If they seem secretive, be careful. There are many things you need to look for. Lying is another one. If you confront them, they'll lie. Addicts always lie and that has to do with protecting their supply.
It's not worth it. It's really not worth it. Are they nice people? Yes, often times they are. But they're screwed up and they need help. You will only get caught up in a terrible situation with them. When you involve children, it's even worse.
Not worth it. Not worth it. Not worth it.
LIghtworker, Light Warrior, Wayshower