Dealing with the Invulnerable.
Those of us on a spiritual path often come across others that trigger us. I call them teachers but it's like Jeopardy: the question is the answer. What are they showing us about ourselves? What are they showing us that is lacking, or that we can develop to a greater degree within ourselves?
Ivo and I keep saying this world is rife with opportunity for spiritual growth and we're not kidding.
So many of us want to condemn the narcissist, the sociopath, the arrogant egotists that seem to be on every corner on this earth. We don't like them.
Why don't we like them? Because they don't behave the way they do, we don't sync with them, they don't fit into our concept of how life should be, yes. But what are they showing us we're lacking in? Compassion. Think about it, if every time you were attacked by someone and you responded with love and compassion for them, you'd love narcissists, wouldn't you? It's because you're lacking in understanding and compassion for their plight that you dislike them and are unprepared to deal with them in a way that someone like Jesus or another master would have. The irony is, that once you deal with them in a compassionate way, you'll stop attracting them because you've learned the lesson.
I just realized that I don't know much about people who can't make themselves vulnerable, for whatever reason, although I used that persona for a long time. These we'll call “the Invulnerable” and they're part of the Power Over Others system. One thing I've realized about people who attack me is they do so because they're trying to manipulate the conversation to go one way: to focus on my flaws rather than theirs. It's a smoke screen, a type of gaslighting, really. I've noticed that people who are invulnerable will not focus upon themselves, and we all know people who don't or can't do that is because they're too afraid of what they'll find inside. They'd be aghast at how flawed they are. Which is nonsense of course, but they do fear that. That's what the Matrix teaches people – it wants you to feel invulnerable, empowered by the Matrix system and to attack others who don't comply with its dictates.
So they point the finger at you rather than admitting fault within themselves. I realized this yesterday when I wrote in a video, “If you're contacting me to tell me where I'm wrong rather than what you don't understand, you're starting off on the wrong foot.” That comparison right there told me that invulnerable people focus on others' perceived wrongs, not on their own.
I know that I was not ready to go this deeply into the subject of invulnerable behaviour because it would mean that I would have to accept and love my earth parents despite what they did to me. And that's the key word: “despite”, not “because of” or “for what they did to me.” That I have worked through and realized that it had a value in my life and I accept that. I'm not sadistic, I don't condone abusing anyone. For the longest time I could not even think of forgiving my parents because it felt like I was abandoning myself and making them right instead. That's not at all what I'm talking about here. I was raised by two people who also had hard lives and it showed in their characters. They were totally defended against everything, especially love, and so as children we ended up on the short end of that stick. I don't condone what they did, but I used it to learn and to heal so it did serve a purpose. I'm still learning to use what they did to heal – going even further. My compassion for a person who's a narcissist does not mean I don't have empathy for myself and for what I went through. I'm not throwing myself under the bus. Unity thinking is about compassion for all – yourself included.
I choose to call them the invulnerable now because that's a more compassionate way of seeing them than some of the other words I've used, particularly my favourite, being “asshole”. When you call them “the invulnerable” rather than a sociopath, psychopath, arrogant or a narcissist, it keeps the door open for compassion. It reminds you of your understanding they can't make themselves vulnerable because they're too afraid to. Calling them an asshole just shuts the door on any learning or personal growth that could come out of having an interaction with them. Sure, we get angry, but work on letting the anger go and become open to spiritual growth. The masters did it. It can be done.
This is what the narcissist can show you: That you can grow more spiritually. So do you stay in situations where you're being abused? I wouldn't. You can always reflect on the relationship from a safe place afterwards. Especially if there are children being abused, it's best not to continue the relationship.
The spiritual path is the path of self love. I can't figure out why so many have such an aversion to it, but too late, because this whole planet is on a collective one now.
I put up a video on assertive speech recently and I believe that is one way to keep yourself from getting triggered dealing with a narcissist, that and realizing that they are attacking you because they can't take being attacked or because they want to appear powerful when they're really not. Remembering these few things will help you to have compassion as they, yes, attack you and try to maul your character with their words.
Believe me, folks, I deal with this from more of you than you want to know. It's not pleasant.
I also believe that having gratitude helps in situations like this. It helps if you have a history of being a victim, and many of us do, to practice gratitude for everything. I now say thank you for so many things and this helps me keep a positive focus in life rather than the negative one of victimhood. Going about your interactions with others with a feeling of gratitude for whatever they bring up in your life is still a pretty remote idea on this planet, but I think one well worth looking at. Being grateful that someone attacked you sounds like you are a masochist, but in fact if you see it as an opportunity to grow spiritually then it's not.
Sarcastically before, I used to say I was thankful that person was gone and out of my life, but that's not true gratitude. They're only show you where you can have more compassion. I also thought about the bad circumstances that person would attract and secretly reveled in the fact that they would experience bad karma. This is retaliation, it's not compassion. You've got to see where your reaction is tainted with anger and let the anger go.
We have a lot of words in our language that are loaded with judgement. I'd say it's best to avoid them. Words like asshole, jerk, and other epithets, but also words like narcissist, attacker, sociopath... they're all loaded. Perhaps mentally deficient or mentally unstable or Mentally invulnerable, or just invulnerable are better. Until that gets used and takes on a lower frequency meaning as well.
We associate judgement with so many things because we are judgemental. When we judge, we put ourselves on a path of incurring bad karma and having to rebalance it; when we have compassion no bad karma is incurred.
You can argue, “Well, they started it! Why should I incur bad karma?!” Because you continued it, that's why. That's why when someone attacks me, I never attack them back nor do I argue with people.
All these things put you on a higher path. You have to learn to overcome your negative reaction to everything, that's the lesson negativity has to teach you.
More on this later. I'm going through a large growth spurt right now.
As I said, I'm on a learning curve right now, batting around ideas to see how they work for me. Take what you like and leave the rest. If it doesn't resonate with you, leave it. If it does, great.
Ivo and I have also discussed in upcoming videos, about having compassion for all, patience and understanding. Also with dealing with life from a position of humility rather than ego. These are the way to go, I believe.
I read the reactions to my posts, whenever I have time to. I see the way you guys react to what I and Ivo are saying.
I'm going to tell you this: You have two choices right now.
But first of all, understand that I have no reason to lie to you. In fact I have one very good reason, or in fact two very good reasons, to be as painstakingly honest as I possibly can be: 1. I get to vibrate at Ivo's level and be with him again, 2. I get to go home! I am one of the lightworkers tasked with reaching 5D before the rest of humanity on earth so I have to raise my vibe all by myself. There'll be no rapture for me.
That is what service to others is like: You serve others while you benefit from your work as well. Nobody goes without; that's God's plan and his graciousness. He/She doesn't work the way the system does on this planet.
Like I said, I have no reason to lie to you, in fact every reason to spread as much truth as I possibly can. I work at it night and day, seven days a week. I have done this work for years now, with Ivo teaching me and my guides intuiting where I need to get my answers and to look next. I get Soren of the Delta forces indicating where he wants me to do a base raid now and then. I work with them to become a part of their lives and the love they welcome me with leaves something to be desired in living here. These are amazing people. They are so pure and full of love, all of them. It takes a lot to try to accept living here in this negative environment when I realize that love and happiness is what awaits me with them. Believe me. It's not easy some days.
Your two choices are this: You can accept what I'm telling you as the truth, or you can resist what I'm telling you because it messes up your own belief system. Let me tell you another thing: Don't follow me if you don't want to change your mind. Because the life I live will open your eyes to the reality of earth and I don't even see it all yet.
You can embrace the new truth, or you can hang on to what you once knew as the truth. Don't challenge me by saying, “Well, I always believed that x, y and z was the truth.” Go ahead. Believe what you like. Will I answer you? No, I probably won't. Why not? Am I being rude? Maybe, but it's your spirit guides' job to answer your personal questions. Why do you think they put you on to me and Ivo in the first place? You didn't find us by accident.
Your guides will show you the truth. But the thing is about the truth, it's a funny thing. The truth needs to shake you up and maybe it will also bowl you over, but it often comes with its own double whammy that will sock you in the solar plexus if you don't want to listen. The truth will tear your life to bits and then start to rebuild it again. The truth will make your head spin.
Believe me, I've been out on a ledge for a long time. I'm waiting for others to join me. Why? To break the ledge off and fall? No. To support me and to make this ledge stronger.
Someone challenged me once on Ashtar's statement about blowing up the moon. Okay, I came up with something really original and of course the skeptics came out to criticize me for saying it. They also criticize me for not coming up with original information. You see the double bind for me, eh? If I listen to your criticism, I would be hog tied and bound, sweating up a storm trying to find something to please you all with. I won't. I just tell the truth. The problem critics have is their own problem, not mine. That's why I don't respond to critics. Deal with it yourself – it's your problem. And it's your guides' job to break down your resistance to the truth, not mine. Your criticism is your problem, not what I said, because your criticism is indicative of your resistance. If you got beyond being critical, of using that defense mechanism whenever your bubble is challenged, you would eventually learn how to sense energy and then you would be able to sense automatically whether something works for you or not. Being critical is being stuck in your intellect. Ivo would tell you that your criticism is the problem, nothing else. Your reaction to my message just brought up your problem again, this time hopefully you'll deal with it correctly.
Why would they blow up the moon? It's simple. Because it's a command center for a negative extraterrestrial race to control the earth. That and the fact that the tides are messing up with earth's natural cycles and that counts for women's as well. It serves no purpose. Besides we have at least one other one. This moon is an empty metal container – it's the death star in the Star Wars series. They're telling you, and they're calling it entertainment, as usual.
I understand that someone would have a problem with this, but my suggestion is to get prepared for change. They want to have the moon turn up in the sky every night like it always has. They don't want the sky to change, they don't want the earth to change, they don't want to change is what it boils down to. Well, too late. The moon won't be taken out tomorrow, it may take a while because it's serving a purpose for the Light forces now. They occupy it. So don't worry, it'll still be there tonight for you. But the reason you're protesting this is because you want to retain your normal, you don't want to change. You need to embrace change NOW because we're going to change. This evil on the planet cannot last with the earth moving to higher frequencies. It is utterly impossible. So change WILL happen. Teach yourself to embrace change. Begin to look for it and be happy when you find it. Don't be pessimistic about things that you see changing. They're the starts of better things to come.
You guys don't see the reasons behind why you protest or criticize what I tell you. I can. I'm a keen observer of life on this planet and I can often understand your motives before you do.
Now I get questioned about someone having negative guides. Yes. Obviously this person doesn't know anything about the benefit of what we call negativity – it makes for a wonderful learning tool because what would we overcome if there were no negative challenges to do so with? We'd live lazy, self indulgent lives with no purpose, and that's not a human. This particular case I was referring to was an exception – a very powerful being who took on another soul – a negative soul, or part of the devil, if you will, to allow the negative entity to see how positivity and love is done. There are all kinds of things I have learned that you don't know about yet, so I'm going to just say this: “It's best if you just observe and learn.” Understand your questioning the information I pass on is your resistance to expanding into your truth.
I can't think of how many times I've said, “Oh, I just can't believe that!” and in the end, maybe years later, it turns out to be true. Understanding something is a question of vibrational resonance. If you don't vibrate at a similar level, it will be perplexing to you or you might just outright reject the information.
The other thing is you guys sometimes comment about my dislike of manipulation and control. Why are you focused on what I like or don't like? The reason I put all these complaints into channeling format is so that you can learn what it is and how to deal with it. It's not at all about my preferences in life, what we're teaching you is how to deal with the Matrix and the people in it, who some of you so discompassionately call sheep.
Do you think I'm actually putting up all this personal information about myself for the sake of having a forum to complain on? No, there's method behind my madness. My life is typical to some of the lightworkers who have come here and the information I've learned about self empowerment, they can utilize to empower themselves at all.
If I wanted to bitch and complain, I'd just call my sister. The reason I do this is for a purpose – so you can learn.
But you can only understand my intention from your own perspective, and that may be more limited than mine. It does frustrate me, though, to know that my intention is not being understood but then of course only those of similar intention can understand what I'm doing. Or the ones who use it to benefit by. And good for you, because that's what it's for. I give freely of myself, it's not that I want my whole miserable life to be broadcast all over the internet, are you kidding me?
Besides, if you think it's just control and manipulation I have a problem with, you don't know me. There's lots more. Ivo and I are working to change these things within whoever listens to our messages. I have an innate ability to sniff out power over others types that's been honed through personal experience throughout my life. Even when young, I became aware of how people tend to behave as ego's in this world, and Ivo and I are trying to teach you to reach out to be more than that now. Because that's where earth is going. Big ego's won't make 5D. Neither will deflated ones. There's no matrix in 5D.
Suffice it to say that higher vibrationals have a problem on earth: being misunderstood. When you're misunderstood by your lower vibrational parents, your real needs don't get met, and in my family those were the needs of love and of being loved. We have to constantly keep forgiving those who don't understand us or our intentions, and to use our boundaries to keep feeling safe in this world otherwise we would retreat to some dark corner and shut our mouths. I have no intention of doing that.
That's why Ivo teaches that compassion, patience, gratefulness and forgiveness, among others, are their own reward and a salve that will heal the wounds of those hurting from having experienced the harsh side of life on planet earth. Raising your vibration and keeping it high is its own reward and frankly, I'm good for doing anything I can to be able to achieve this.
We have to keep healing our anger with self love. Learning this is a process that the last person who pissed us off is showing us what we need to do to further our healing.
I remember another critic who told me to stop talking about myself. Fine, let's talk about you, then. What?! No takers? That's why I talk about myself and what I've learned. I'm the only person who would volunteer to expose herself to this degree and suffer being misunderstood and criticized for it, that I know of anyway. Seriously, re-suffering your childhood abuse to bring the message of Unity to earth - that's what I'm doing. That is power. Forging through despite your unhealed wounds. That's the path of the Warrior.
I don't let critics stop me. Critics need to stop being critical, that's what they need to do. Then they'll discover the discarded parts of themselves they're defending themselves from seeing.
Ivo is commenting on my big heartedness. I know. I want a medal, Ivo. I like chocolates too. And flowers but don't cut them off the plant. Let them live. LOL
Our Attack Culture
Folks, really, we need to work at changing our minds....
We live in a world where exploitation, derision and small mindedness are played out as normal.
I don't indulge in any of these things because I realize they're not an indulgence - they're a way to keep yourself stuck - mired in the shit that we have all been subjected to here, while all the while our hearts know there is better to be had if only we create it.
I keep asking you not to send me messages, and now especially messages where the potential to ridicule others exists.
If every person doesn't make the effort to change what has been, it will continue to be what it was – a toxic society that does not respect the rights of people. Hopefully covid will change that now as people realize they have a common enemy and begin to side up with each other and support each other. I'm sure this isn't perfect, though, because there will still be egotistical infighting nonetheless.
We all want the earth to change, but there's no point waiting for everyone else to do it – start with yourself.
It has to stop with you. No matter what some troll wants to start with you, DO NOT ATTACK THEM BACK. Take the shot and transmute the negativity it brings up within you. This doesn't make you weak – it takes a strong person to manage their mind. Your mind is your tool that you direct as a consciousness and it's the powerhouse that creates all that you experience in life. If it's lax and tends to just snap back at anyone who tempts it then it's a weak mind. Strength is having the power to say, “No, I'm not going to lower myself to that level.” That is the only way to stop darkness from festering within you and to stop retaliation.
Do I love everything about our life here? Absolutely not! However I'm not here to make it worse. That would be misusing my God given powers and aligning me with darkness. For that reason, I stay away from people who still enact this toxicity. I want nothing to do with them.
Last night I watched a rock video that apparently I'd commented on before. Someone responded to my comment by calling me an idiot. Yes, just because you don't agree with me, that makes me an idiot, does it? Think about that. Think about it hard. It just means we have different opinions. Why do you have to attack, yes, attack, a person who might disagree with you? Are you that insecure and esteemless that you have to attack anyone who doesn't view life your way? You are so insecure that you'll take any opportunity to try to inflate your own sense of self worth by thinking others less than yourself?
What I find is that people who do that get caught in traps of their own creation. They are unable to leave the worthless self worth trap because they derive a dopamine hit whenever they see someone they can attack. So with that, I suggest that many on our planet are addicted to attacking others. Why would they stop something that makes them feel good? Well, simple, because it's a lie and the truth of who they really are is much more fantastic.
For those of us who feel deeply, you may have an unfortunate moment upon experiencing even being called an idiot by someone who just makes that flippant remark without caring about how you might take it, but that's the way it is here, not very pleasant at times. You are dealing with a person who not only doesn't care about you, they don't care about themselves either because believe me, if they call you an idiot once, they've called themselves that many more times. Or maybe they're a narcissist, the type of person who's very defended against their own inferior self image, but believe me, it's there.
What I feel this world is lacking is maturity. This is very immature behavior, as a matter of fact I see my neighbour's eldest son picking on his brother in the same way. Children behave this way and frankly it's high time the people on this planet grow up.
If you're always looking for someone to put down, you will never be able to see the good in life. How many pessimists do we try to help see the better side of life, and they just snort and say, “As if!” refusing to even budge from their toxic viewpoint?
If you're always looking for someone to attack, you will never be at peace yourself, will you? Because when you're on the attack, you're in a highly anxious state, not a peaceful one.
Exploitation is another one. People think that friends are there to do things for them. No, they're not. Making friends with someone is about liking who they are, not what they can do for you. But how can you even make friends on that basis when you are busy attacking others for being different from you? You can't! Thank you Ivo, I didn't even think of that. You can't be friends with anyone on the basis of caring and respect because you're too busy attacking everyone else in the world. Your friends, the people you use to get what you want, are there to fulfill your idea of what life should be, and when inevitably they let you down, you will attack them and you will feel annoyed again because of the “stupid” people in your life. So by default, those who attack tend to be exploitative or exploited as well.
I prefer to relate to Power Over Self people, and as for friends, I have the perfect friend already: Ivo.
Understand I don't want to be part of the power over others system anymore. You will all have to do this either now or in future, the more you change and gain in personal power. I suppose many of you will change along with the system as it changes, so you'll feel more comfortable than I do now as a self-empowered person. The more you gain in personal power now, you will find the more society will fight you. The temptation to fall back into old ways is always there in the form of mind control, but it's hardly tempting because I know it's a way of life that offers me nothing.
I'm not going to explain why you should stop these things. If you can't see the benefits behind your mind being a more peaceful place to exist, far be it for me to tell you. What's more, a peaceful mind creates a peaceful life that works for you. That's just the first benefit you'll derive from giving up these behaviors. There are far more, one of which is the self respect you've been looking for all your life. Your ego can't give that to you, it can only give you a cheap alternative: an addictive cover-up of your insecurities that looks like you respect yourself but you don't. It can't give you the power you seek, only your soul can. The self respect you feel through your soul lasts and has strength, the substitute your ego provides is temporary and is a poor defense against your shadow which constantly tells you you are flawed.
Leave the attack culture behind and join those who experience peace and love in their minds and in their lives.
You're either shaming and blaming, or you're living and forgiving.
What do you have to lose? You're afraid that if you do, you'll become a lamb, a target for others who are still in the Power Over Others system? No, you won't. You won't forget everything you learned, and frankly you'll be able to see right through others who are still living in the attack mindset. You'll be able to set boundaries and to be able to choose who you want to be friends with. Granted, I find there aren't as many people in this mindset as there are the attack culture, at least from my perspective, maybe you know more.
Wouldn't it be nice to have a conversation with someone knowing they're not going to pull a verbal knife out from behind their back and stab you in the heart? Wouldn't it be nice to have a conversation with someone where you can speak your mind, knowing they won't take it personally? Wouldn't it be nice being able to have a conversation with someone whose secure enough that they don't take everything you say as a judgment of their character? This is my relationship with Ivo. He's absolutely wonderful and I finally found who I was looking for! I'm only starting to enjoy this for the first time in my 60 years on earth. All the people I knew before were people who were attackers, people whose self esteem was so bad they had to fight everyone around them. They couldn't let others be the way they were – they had to try to change them through intimidation. That's what this really is, isn't it? Intimidation of others so that you don't feel intimidated. It's a “Dog Eat Dog” mindset.
Wouldn't it be nice being able to speak your mind without fear of hurting other people? Wouldn't it be nice to have a conversation without feeling you're walking on eggshells and it's only a matter of time before someone objects to what you've said and pulls out their verbal knife to take off a piece of you? To enact retribution because you said something they didn't like?
Obviously I don't walk on eggshells. I speak my mind whether people like it or not. I don't change my message because someone might not like me for saying it. I think this world needs to change, and you're listening.
What you've learned is all baloney. Live and let live.
On Facebook, I have a policy that if the first I see of you is the laughing face, you're cut off. I'll block you. I personally hate the laughing face because it's so misused. I go on other people's posts and I see notifications coming up that someone commented on my comment, and I just delete them. I'm not interested in seeing whether someone agrees with what I've said or if they're attacking me. I said my piece, it was to the poster and not the people following them. So you see the potential for triangulation here, don't you? Yes, social media is set up to allow for triangulation. The poster is seen as either the perpetrator or the victim, and the commenters are either the rescuer of the poster, or new perpetrators. When I comment, I comment to the poster, nobody else. So I don't care what others have to say about my comment. As you can see by last night's rock 'n' roll comment, commenting just starts shit. Someone told the guy who told me I was an idiot that they were an idiot. Really people, stop triangulating. I don't need to be rescued: I've already rescued myself just like we all have to do now.
That's why comments are turned off on my videos: I'm talking to each of you and since most of you don't know each other, then it's me talking to you and you can make of it what you will. If I were to put comments on, the trolls would be there calling me an idiot and those of you who still are on the victim triangle would either be siding with me or siding with the troll. That's how this is all created, folks. All this drama.
Someone in my past told me that having two cats is okay, it's when you have three that they start siding up with each other. Apparently humans aren't that different. That's why you have to take back control of your mind and stop playing ego games.
Awareness is key. All you have to do when you feel that urge to attack someone is say, “No! I'm not going to do this.” Hit the off button on your computer or shut down your phone if you need to until you gain control of yourself again. Let your feelings of wanting revenge pass.
If you're looking to make friends, ask yourself what you see in them. Is it who they are or what they do or what they can do for you that makes them so appealing? Do you respect them? What do you want from them? If all they did was converse with you, would that be enough? Are you wanting them to help you or to fix you?
I feel people who laugh at JB are missing the point: He is teaching us a great lesson in self empowerment. Those who laugh at the Deep State players, those who laugh at the CCP, those who sit there and make nasty remarks about these things, what's underneath your laughter? What are you really feeling? It's fear, I'll bet. I personally don't love Trudeau and I would love to see him booted out of politics and frankly arrested for being the murderer and pedo that he is, never mind for selling out Canada to the CCP... and it's not easy some days to want to attack him but what he's showing me is that I can still be that way too. And when you want to attack someone else, that means they control you. You don't have control over yourself. This whole DS Globalist agenda is a lesson in personal power for everyone on this planet. Use it as such. It has a lot to teach you.
If you've listened to this video and think I'm an idiot for writing it, I feel sorry for you because it's you that's missing out. If you're learning as we are all learning now, my hat goes off to you.
I Love You, Now Change
I was just messaged on facebook by a man who said he's read all of our books, he finished the message by saying “I love you!” but his comment was, “I wish you would be more positive.”
Oh really? You think being a 14th dimensional living on 3D earth with narcissists like you is easy? You think there's no cause for me to suffer from PTSD, depression and anxiety when I was raised by two people like you?
How many times have we gotten this message from people, folks? This is the Power Over Others system at work: I love you, now change. Means I don't love you the way you are. I withhold approval of you until you become what I want.
Personally, I don't really give a damn what you think of me, Gray.
You think being a 14th dimensional in a third dimensional world is easy? Or even living in a third dimensional body? I came here to love people but what I got was people like you. In my family, no less.
This is conditional love. I'm sure glad Ivo is my twin flame and not you.
The reason the books were written was for the warriors who came through the negative polarity, like I did. They need to hear Ivo's unconditionally loving voice just as much as I need to. They need to know there is the love they seek out there. They need to know what passes for love on this planet is anything but that at times. They needed to hear the truth, that real love does exist.
What a head eff! Telling me you love me but telling me you want me to be different. Where do you get off dictating to other people how they have to be?! Did God just die and leave you in charge? Talk about nerve! Who would have that kind of gall to say something like this to a total stranger? A narcissist would!
Folks, how many people do you know who withhold approval of you because you're not perfect for them? But of course, they believe themselves to be superior because they believe that they have the right to tell others to change, especially for their own sakes.
One good thing I've learned doing my anxiety course is that when people become defensive, it's because they're in fight mode. Watching my reactions to triggers like this ever since I started that course has been telling. I was wanting a relaxing evening off, but no, instead I have to deal with a trigger and a load of pain coming up. (half hour later, it's already over!)
The other thing I've learned is when I react in shock like I did at reading what he'd written, my fight or flight response is triggered off. And I'm a fighter. I don't run from anybody.
Conditional lovers only like the good parts of their partner. How many of you have had partners who have carped and nagged at you to be different? While they kept carping and nagging at you? Isn't that a bit ironic?
There is so many things wrong about this that keep coming up. Telling a total stranger to be different, to change? I have to admit, that's a first for me. I have only had one other person who told me to change. So I told them not to carry my messages on their website if they don't like me. But he still insisted that I be different because apparently I don't suit him. Well, that's too bad, eh?!
Folks, pain makes you stronger. The more you release it like I am now, the stronger you become. In the morning I won't care. I blocked the guy anyway. If that's all he has to say, “I loved your books but you don't suit me at all,” I don't care. He doesn't suit me at all either.
This is the other thing: You become less dependent on others' opinion of you the more self actuated you become. I've put out books that aren't big sellers at all. Do you think I care? Some people are reading them and those are the people who benefit from the books. If it's ten people, then it's ten people I've helped and it was worth the effort to write the books just for those few people!
I just remember that the dark ones hate me because I help so many people. So it sends the Smiths to take pot shots at me. And the only thing that those shots do is strengthen me. I feel the old pain being released and that only leaves me more available to the people who need me.
Athena told me this morning when I got up, “When you make friends with yourself, you stop having enemies.” I don't call anyone an enemy. I call them a lesson and I use situations like these to learn. And I said, “TO LEARN,” folks, not to adjust to 3D life – to learn how to vibrate higher. There's a difference.
If you were living with someone like that, what would adjusting to their commands look like? “I hate when you do that!” means you can't be yourself anymore. You can't express yourself anymore. Adjusting to someone who doesn't want to know all of you makes you either a fake, or predisposes you to addictions to deal with emotions they don't want to know about, or makes you a role player. All of these things disconnect you from your source. Sometimes your negative reactions to other people are valid forms of information that you should be respecting rather than trying to suppress.
Do you know my mother used to sneer at me like I was a suck when I said things that were sweet and caring? I learned to stop it. My father was actually more appreciative of my sweet girly side than my mother was. She used to call me a sucker when I did nice things for people. She was so afraid of being taken advantage of that she wouldn't give, even to her own kids. Wow!
Sometimes the biggest angels can come with messages like this because they are the ones who help you to release old pain. In the same vein, the dark ones have provided to so many people the stuff that an ascension could be made of, if they only weren't so simultaneously mind controlled.
Eventually those angels go away because you don't need them anymore to release old stuff.
Nobody has the right to tell you to change. Nobody. Only you do. There are a lot of people playing God in the power over others system.
Keep that in mind, folks! The dark ones want you to think you're wrong, bad, screwed up, whatever, but it's their system that is.
LIghtworker, Light Warrior, Wayshower